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MARRIAGE
SWEETBITS

Faith Jackie
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DEDICATION

This is dedicated to Mr and Mrs

Justice Forchie, My mom and
dad(Adelaide and Esborn), My
hubby Charles and my blessed kids.
To all my Spiritual Fathers and the
blessed ministers of the Gospel.”

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CONTENT
Page
The need to look attractive 4
Knowing and understanding
your partner 5
Having the lens of righteousness 8
Being appreciative 9
Being supportive 11
Settling differences peacefully 12
Understand love 13
Effective communication
through social media 15
You are the competition 16
Giving him/her breathing space 18
Making sex enjoyable 19
Steadfastnes 20
Staying younger and healthy 21
Looking good 22
Don’t deny him sex 23
Qualities of a virtuous woman 24

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THE NEED TO LOOK

ATTRACTIVE

1 Dear Married Lady, Pete

Edochie once said, “Holy wives
don’t just speak in tongues. They
cook super meals, they raise Godly
kids, wear hot dresses (for their
husbands), they have mind-blowing
sex & still make Heaven.” The fact
that you are a wife does not mean
you should look like you carry the
whole world, looking so beaten and
distasteful.
Get hot, be beautiful and decently
trendy. Give your husband the best

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of your hottest looks when you are

alone, being generous with enticing,
sultry looks, making him want you,
and imprinting you on his mind
wherever he is.

KNOWING AND
UNDERSTANDING YOUR
PARTNER

2 Dear Married Lady, forget

about changing your husband.
Just be an upgraded version of you
with more value and sweetness.
Make an effort to understand your
husband; why does he do what

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he does, has it got anything to do

with his childhood, for instance,
how best can you be his strength
without being a chief nagger. I once
had a friend who was so boiling in
anger and bitterness and initially
I just did not understand why she
could just pour words of hatred at
the slightest provocation until I got
closer and got to know the hurt
within is from earlier rejections
and childhood pains. I decided to
correct her in love; by showing her
what to do, instead of just telling
her what to do, I showed her what
to do by being an example. Anytime
she was angry and spoke bitter

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words, I deliberately spoke kind

words to her and let her know I was
speaking those words in objection
to her words. I did that consistently
and I began to see changes. I
continued with rewarding her with
a complement anytime she spoke
politely to other people, letting her
know the benefits of that, however
encouraged her to be her blunt
self. I always made her aware of
how sweetly annoying she sounds.
Although we all need the hard
truth, it has to come politely.

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HAVING THE LENS OF

RIGHTEOUSNESS

3 Dear Married Lady, look at

your Husband with the lens of
righteousness in Christ Jesus. He
may do a few things wrong, do
not focus on the wrong but rather
focus on the Christ in him. In
other words, focus on his positives
and not the negatives. Do this in
wisdom! Whenever God looks at
us, He sees the beauty of Christ
in us, the Righteousness of Christ,
notwithstanding what we do as
believers. In like manner the more
you focus on the positives of your

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husband and keep reminding him

of how sweet those positives are the
more, he believes he is indeed those
positives and continue to live it. In
all that, do it in wisdom, if he is
abusive, do not wait until you lose
your life!

BEING APPRECIATIVE

4 Dear Married Lady, familiarity

makes us take things for granted: our
family and especially our husbands.
We get so used to their ways of doing
things and we can almost predict
thier next move, thus there is little

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or no excitement in the relationship,

this is a relationship killer. There
is a tendency to feel he is obliged
to giving in the relationship, thus,
taking for granted things he does,
like buying gifts, taking the kids out,
helping in the kitchen, paying for
your fees, etc. There is the need for
a conscious effort to be appreciative
of even the little things, this boosts
his ego and gives him the will to
even do more. Replace nagging
with appreciation!

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BEING SUPPORTIVE

5 Dear Married Lady, be your

husband’s Number One Fan.
Support him in all his interests.
Ensure you decree greatness in all
his endeavours. Don’t allow other
ladies to do this for you. Be the first
and best at this. Be his support,
when everybody has turned their
back on him be there for him. Cheer
him up when he is doing well,
encourage him when he feels like
giving up. Give him your advice or
suggestions in a respectful way but
if it’s not taken, and per chance he
fails, avoid the temptation to say, “I

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told you...”. Let him know even if

this has failed, he could still go for
another option. Give him the best
of nurturing and loving, cuddle him
like a baby, put him on your breast
and whisper endearing words to
him, that he is still your champion
and your love.

SETTLING DIFFERENCES
PEACEFULLY

6 Dear Married Lady, As Christ

is Love so you are.
As Christ is forgiving, so you should
be. Do not punish your Husband

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with tight jeans. When there is a

quarrel or he forgets his part of a
duty, punish him sweetly; an oil
massage, an evening bath, where
he has to bath you thoroughly,
anything sweetly creative, that
will enhance the bond other than
creating tension that will take his
focus off you. You are not a fool!
You care for your marriage.

UNDERSTAND LOVE

7 Dear Married Lady, love is

relative. Different people have
different perceptions about love.

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Find out what love means to your

partner and give it. Don’t assume a
common definition of love. What
is love to you may not be for him;
portray the love he yearns. Ask him
what he really appreciates from you
and what he will rather do if that was
the only thing you do for him. That
will help to hit hard on his language
of love other than expending so
much energy on something that
means little or nothing to him.

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EFFECTIVE
COMMUNICATION
THROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA

8 Dear Married Lady, in this

age where technology is supposed
to break homes, use this same
technology to build your home.
Text your husband some hot
messages as a shadow of the things
awaiting him at home. Use the
various social media platform when
you are away from each other. Let
him know how you yearn for him,
giving him surprise sweet pictures
but please be careful you do not
send nude pictures lest it falls in the

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wrong hands.

YOU ARE THE

COMPETITION

9 Dear Married Lady, don’t

focus on the competition outside
the home and get bitter. You may
not be the only lady who loves your
husband. As tempting as it may
be, refuse to give that competiton
another thought and focus on
how to be the best you can be. Pay
particular attention to your looks,
enjoy your passion, do not look
like you are dying and needy when

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he comes back. Let him know you

are happy, having the best of your
life and still loving him, now that
is intriguing and he would not
want to loose the bubbly loving,
confident, successful you. He will
rather do anything to avoid a needy,
nagging, weepy, old looking wife
who cant live without him, such an
irony, right! focus on your Husband
and give him the best of treatment
always; especially when you think
he doesn’t deserve it.

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GIVING HIM
BREATHING SPACE

10 Dear Married Lady, don’t

imprison your husband. When it
gets to the point where he needs space
grant it to him. There is freedom
in true love. Over protective love
is false and destructive. Do not be
afraid to give him space. Even your
ability to give him space without
checking to know where he is every
five minutes, speaks confidence and
that is what real men want. Use
those periods to better yourself.
Get the most sexiest look. Be your
sweetest self when he returns home.

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You are always the winner.

MAKING SEX ENJOYABLE

11 Don’t be shy to initiate

lovemaking. Learn all there is in
giving pleasure to him. Twerk for him
if it so excites him. Act out sweet sex
scenes during your lovemaking, use
sex accessories; feathers, oil, toffees,
chocolate etc. if you both agree to
that. Wearing sexy lingeries does
not mean you are spoilt or demon
possessed. Take special sultry baths
together, rubbing yourself against
him, giving him hot shower, blow

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job, etc. Join in the creativity, make

your marriage fun. Afterwards blow
in tongues together!

STEADFASTNES

12 Dear Married Lady,

Challenges may come in your
marriage. Instead of letting it tatter
you, you decide to make the best,
look your best, love your best in the
face of challenges. When faced with
challenges like infedilty, you can
decide to make the most out of it,
like getting to know how different
he was being treated and learning

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from that to spice up your marriage.

You have the ability to control your
response to your challenges. Guess
what, the Christ in you is the best.
So you can’t be any less.

STAYING YOUNGER AND

HEALTHY

13 Dear Married Lady, the

fact that you have four kids does
not mean let your body look 50
years older. You can start small.
Discipline yourself. Check your
weight. Don’t eat junk foods. Take
brisk walks! Exercise your body

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and be healthy and in shape. Take

very good care of your health, with
regular checkups. Maintain good
hygiene and a healthy lifestyle.

LOOKING GOOD

14 Dear Married Lady,

christianity is not the end of descent
hot fashion. Christianity is not
tagged with ‘old ladyship’. The fact
that you wear a long gown does not
mean you are holy. You can be in
trendy dresses and look so decently
sexy. Choose your clothes tastefully,
and get your make up on naturally

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if you are the makeup type, if not

treat your skin well and keep your
natural look regularly. Be neat.
Look presentable. Let the young
ladies check you up for the latest
descent trend!

DON’T DENY HIM SEX

15 Dear Married Lady, even

when you are tired, be sensitive
to your man’s sex needs. You can
do all things through Christ who
strengthens you. Don’t lazy yourself
in front of him. It’s a bad signal.
Be in readiness to satisfy him at all

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times. Don’t give him reasons to

look elsewhere.

QUALITIES OF A VIRTUOUS
WOMAN

16 A woman of Grace who

can find? She has a heart of gold.
Gives her best even in the worst.
She loves like no other even at the
most undeserving times.
She is love. She is forgiving. She is
supportive. She is prayerful. She is
full of wisdom. She is your dream
lover. She mothers in the word. She
is as Jesus is, so precious. She is loyal

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and strongly soaked in the word.

She rightly fits everywhere.

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