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Helping Clients
Determine
Their Values
Unfortunately, often, our clients are in positions where they’ve lost touch with their values. Or maybe they’ve never been
guided to really explore what they value. And without values, each crossroad we reach in life has no signposts or mark-
ings. Our decisions about which way to turn are based mostly on seeking pleasure and avoiding pain. But your clients,
like all of us, will inevitably experience pain, setbacks, and losses in life—and when this happens, they’ll need to know
what they value in life to navigate this.
What’s more, in the end, life is about more than just pleasure and pain; it’s about doing what matters most and being the
person you want to be, at each moment of choice you encounter in life. Guiding your client to identify their core values
will help them, in each moment of choice, to see and take the wise path.
In this resource, you’ll find various worksheets you can use to help clients identify their values, with special attention to
values that pertain to self-growth and to service to others; turn their values into actions; and measure how close or far from
their values their daily choices are taking them, so they can ensure they’re consistently taking actions that are in line with
their values. The material in this resource is drawn from The New Happiness, by McKay and Wood (New Harbinger 2019).
The resources are suitable to print out and give to clients, supplementing and complementing your in-session work.
And for more on how to develop inner peace and well-being even in the face of real pain and loss, see The New Happiness:
Practices for Spiritual Growth and Living with Intention.
Review the list below and circle your top ten values.
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Service values, on the other hand, focus on your relationship to other people and the world at large; they are about giving
to, caring for, and supporting things outside yourself. Domains include family, social relationships, community, nature
and the environment, people in need, animals, and public policy.
On the two Values Assessment Worksheets that follow (one for self-growth and one for service), place a checkmark next to
the domains that are important to you, and write a key value that guides and influences your behavior. If you’re having
difficulty finding a value for a particular domain, go back to your Values Clarification Worksheet to get ideas.
Once you’ve identified a guiding value for each important domain, you’ll move to the right side of the Values Assessment
Worksheets to turn those values into actions. This is the important part. Values by themselves won’t make an impact on
your life unless you act on them. So, you’ll need to set an intention.
An intention is something you’re committed to doing—a specific action, at a particular time and place, that moves you
in a valued direction. An intention is essentially a specific goal for enacting a particular value. Intentions aren’t wishes
or hopes; they are concrete plans, chosen behaviors that implement the values you care about. So, make sure you write
down a values-based intention for every important domain on the Values Assessment Worksheets.
Note that your intentions will change over time, as you accomplish some of them and as new ones emerge. But at any
point, your intentions will be a blueprint for actions that will help you grow and make yourself a life that’s meaningful
to you, vibrant, and rewarding, and not just about avoiding pain.
Record your value under each important Record one specific thing you can do to turn your value into action.
domain. Include all the details. (When? Where? What? Who? etc.)
EXAMPLE I’m going to call this afternoon to make an appointment with my MD to get a long-
overdue physical within the next 2 weeks. I’m also going to speak with my wife at
1. Personal Self-care and Health dinner about going for a walk every night after we eat to help drop some of the extra
weight I’m carrying around.
Important to you?
Important to you?
Key Value:
2. Spirituality
Important to you?
Key Value:
3. Creativity
Important to you?
Key Value:
Important to you?
Key Value:
Important to you?
Key Value:
Important to you?
Key Value:
Important to you?
Key Value:
8. Other:
Important to you?
Key Value:
Right now, choose your two most crucial self-growth values and intentions, and your two most important service values
and intentions. Then, print out seven copies of the Values Compass Assessment that follows. You’re going to use this
worksheet to track each of these four intentions every day to see how close or far from your intentions your daily choices
take you.
You’ll see there are four compasses on the worksheet, each with “V,” for “Values,” at the top, where you’d usually see
north on a compass. Write down one of your four most important values/intentions above each compass. Then, at the
end of each day, you’ll evaluate how close or far your actions took you from each intention by drawing a radial line from
the center point of the compass to the outer edge, as in the examples below.
Observing how your behavior aligns with your key life values is an important step toward growth.
That said, if you find that on a particular day, your behavior just didn’t align with your values in quite the way you want
it to, don’t be daunted. Recognize what you were able to do, have compassion for what you may not have been able to
do, and commit to keeping going tomorrow. Remember, values aren’t goals that you can and can’t achieve; they’re direc-
tions to which you can always choose to commit.
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Matthew McKay, PhD, is a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. He has authored and coauthored numer-
ous books, including The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook, The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, Self-
Esteem, Thoughts and Feelings, When Anger Hurts, and ACT on Life Not on Anger. McKay received his PhD in clinical
psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology, and specializes in the cognitive behavioral treatment
of anxiety and depression.
Jeffrey C. Wood, PsyD, lives and works in Las Vegas, NV. He specializes in brief therapy treatments for depression,
anxiety, and trauma. He also provides coaching for spiritual development, communication skills development, and life
skills. Wood is coauthor of The New Happiness, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook, and The Dialectical Behavior
Therapy Diary.
© 2021 Matthew McKay and Jeffrey C. Wood / New Harbinger Publications. First published September 2021