SELF-MANAGE Soundarya.

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School of Humanities & Social Sciences

MENT Jain (Deemed-to-be) University

Self-management is an important component of Emotional Intelligence (EI). It refers
to the ability to recognize and effectively manage one's own emotions and behaviors
in a positive and constructive manner.

Self-management plays a crucial role in personal and professional success as it

enables individuals to navigate challenging situations, make proper decisions, and
maintain healthy relationships.

It is the ability to manage one’s actions, thoughts, and feelings in flexible ways to get
the desired results.

self-regulation contributes to a sense of well-being, a sense of self-efficacy or

confidence, and a sense of connectedness to others.
SOME KEY ASPECTS OF
SELF-MANAGEMENT IN EI
Emotional Awareness
Emotional Regulation
Stress Management
Adaptability to dynamic environments
Impulse Control
Goal Setting and Achievement
Time Management
Self-Motivation
Resilience
Conflict Resolution
When people are unable to control their emotions, their responses may be disruptive
or inappropriate to situations

In the words of Goleman,

AMYGDALA
HIJACK
EMOTIONAL OUTBURSTS
Emotional outbursts, also known as emotional eruptions or meltdowns, refer to
instances when a person loses control over their emotions and expresses them in an
intense and often unregulated manner. These outbursts can manifest as anger,
frustration, sadness, or other strong emotions. They can occur for various reasons
and in different contexts, including personal relationships, work settings, or social
situations. Emotional outbursts can have both short-term and long-term
consequences, so it's important to understand and manage them effectively.
Emotional outburst could be
Temporary- exhaustion, low blood sugar, lack of sleep
Constant- neurological conditions, borderline personality disorder, neuroticism
trait, past history of stroke, schizophrenia, alcoholism
CHARACTERISTICS OF
EMOTIONAL OUTBURST
Sudden irritability
Fits of crying or laughter/ overwhelming feelings
Feeling angry for no reason
Anger outbursts
Feeling afraid to express emotions
Use of drugs to hide or numb emotions
Difficulty in understanding why they feel they do
 COMPETENCIES OF
SELF-MANAGEMENT

•SELF
•Balancing Emotions
•Adaptability
•Optimism
• Achievement Orientation
•Achievement Orientation
•Set Challenging goals
•Calculated risk
•Standard of excellence

•Optimism
•See positivity in people, context & events
•persistence in pursuing goals
•see the opportunity
•Positive thoughts leads to position emotions, loyalty, motivation

•Adaptability
•Flexibility in handling change
•Juggling multiple demands
•Adapting to new situations with new ideas or innovative approaches

•Balance Emotions
•keep disruptive emotions and impulses in check
•Maintain effectiveness under stressful, or hostile, conditions
HOW TO IMPROVE
SELF-MANAGEMENT
Time management
Being optimistic
Adaptability
Self-motivation
Focus on work
Reflect on your strength
Learn to overlook few things/people
Learn to say no
Stress management
SELF-AWAR
ENESS
•Self-awareness is one of the component of Emotional Intelligence (EI), often considered as the foundation upon

which other aspects of EI are built. EI, encompasses a set of skills and abilities that enable individuals to

recognize, understand, manage, and effectively use emotions in themselves and others. Self-awareness is the first

step in this process and involves being in tune with one's own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, and overall

emotional state.

•Emotional self-awareness is the ability to understand your own emotions and their effects on your performance.

•You know what you are feeling and why – and how it helps or hurts what you are trying to do.

•You sense how others see you, and so align your self-image with a larger reality.

•You have an accurate sense of your strengths and limitations, which gives you a realistic self-confidence.

•It also gives you clarity on your values and sense of purpose, so you can be more decisive when you set a course of

action. As a leader, you can be candid and authentic, speaking with conviction about your vision
TYPES OF SELF-AWARENESS
INTERNAL and EXTERNAL
WHEN DO WE LACK
SELF-AWARENESS
•Defensiveness
•Being controlling
•Acting like a bully
•Responding instead of reacting when you get mad
•Passive-aggressiveness
•Making overly large claims or promises
•Making excuses, pointing fingers, and blaming others
 TECHNIQUES TO BUILD
SELF-AWARENESS
•Pay attention to what bothers you
•Identify your emotional kryptonite
•Draw your avatar
•Draw your timeline
•LABEL YOUR EMOTIONS
•Identify your cognitive distortions
COMPONENTS OF
SELF-AWARENESS
• Recognizing Emotions
• Understanding Emotions
• Self-Reflection
• Accepting Strengths and Weaknesses
• Values and Beliefs
• Goal Setting
• Managing Stress
• Social Awareness
• Emotional Regulation
• Decision-Making
SELF-REGULATION AND
SELF-MOTIVATION IN EI
Self-regulation and self-motivation are another two important components of
emotional intelligence (EI) that play a crucial role in personal and professional
growth and success. These competencies involve the ability to manage one's
emotions and maintain the drive to achieve goals and overcome obstacles.
The meaning of self-motivated is derived from passion and an underlying desire to
achieve something
Surviving in a competitive world
Achieving personal goals
Doing well in a professional setting
Types of Self-Motivation
Intrinsic motivation
Extrinsic motivation
 Self-regulation self-motivation
Emotional Control Intrinsic Motivation
Impulse Control Persistence
Adaptability Goal Setting
Conflict Resolution Optimism
Stress Management Initiative
Resilience
EMPATHY
The origin of the word empathy dates back to the 1880s, when German psychologist
Theodore Lipps coined the term “einfuhlung” (literally, “in-feeling”) to describe the
emotional appreciation of another’s feelings.

Empathy has further been described as the process of understanding a person’s

subjective experience by vicariously sharing that experience while maintaining an
observant stance.

According to Keen (2007) Empathy means to recognize others’ feelings, the causes
of these feelings, and to be able to participate in the emotional experience of an
individual without becoming part of it.
 EMPATHY
Sympathy Empathy on the other
Sympathy is an emotional hand, is a skill learned or APATHY
reaction, immediate and an attitude of life, which complete indifference
uncontrolled, which can be used to try to and/or a complete
inundates when one come into contact with lack of response to
person imagines himself someone, to one's surroundings.
in the position someone communicate and
else is. understand others’
experiences or feelings
IMPORTANCE OF EMPATHY
Conflict
resolution
Realization
that we are
Builds trust
not
machines
Develops
Reduce
healthy
stress
relations

Makes person
Foundation less aggressive
of morality and less
depressive
WAYS TO IMPROVE
EMPATHY
Improve listening skills
Use empathetic language
Don’t be judgmental
Be curious about others
Challenge and change your prejudices
Avoid labelling people
Look for commonalities
SOCIAL SKILLS
skills encompass the ability to understand and navigate social situations, build and
maintain positive relationships, communicate effectively, and work collaboratively
with others. Developing strong social skills can greatly enhance personal and
professional success by facilitating better interactions and connections with people.
Social skills are the skills we use to communicate and interact with each other, both
verbally and non-verbally, through gestures, body language and our personal
appearance.