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THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE
CONCEPT OF LOVE
A Dissertation Presented
By
JOHN J. FALKOWSKI
DOCTOR OF PHILOSOPIIY
August 1975
Psychology
John J. Falkowski 1975
11
THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE
CONCEPT OF LOVE
A Dissertation
By
JOHN J. FALKOWSKI
y
ames Ave rill, Mi-iiaber
August 197 !3
111
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
her constant support and love throughout the entire four years of my
and 10 females in each of ten different age groups. The age groups
ers, 20-25, 30-35, 40-45, 50-55, and 60-65 year olds. Subjects in
the youngest three age groups were interviewed, while subjects in the
plete .
into various aspects of the concept of love as: the meaning of love,
loving, the objects of love, and the reasons for loving. The other
these categories and both age and sex. In addition,, the relationship
Age and sex differences were also evaluated with respect to subjects
ratings of items on the 2 non-open-ended questions.
tion appear to reflect the progression of the individual from the pre-
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
ABSTRACT
V
LIST OF TABLES
INTRODUCTION ^ ^
Historical Perspective 3
Cross-Cultural Perspective 4
Adult Questionnaire 14
Pilot Studies , 15
Children's Interview 26
me:thod 29
Subjects 29
Procedure , 30
RESULTS 35
Analysis of Questions , , 38
DISCUSSION I'O
yii
Structural Components of the Concept of Love
(Questions 3, 4, 5, 6, and 7)
PvEFERENCES
183
APPENDIX A ADLXT QUESTIOMAIRE ;L86
viii
LIST OF TABLES
TABLE
Page
ix
TABLE
Page
12 Phi Correlation Coefficients Between
Categories of
Question 1 (What Love Means) For Subjects
in
the Preschool to 11th Grade Age
Groups 61
X
TABLE
Page
23 Items Most Frequently Listed as Loved at Each Age
on Question 3A
xi
TABLE
Page
34 Mean Influence Rating in Question 9 of Friends
as a Function of Age
xii
LIST OF FIGURES
FIGURE
Page
1 Mean Rating of Statement B (Everyone
Loves
Someone), Question 8 as a Function of
Age
Ill
Mean Rating of Statement D (Love But Not
Like), Question 8 as a Function of
Age
114
3 Mean Influence Rating in Question 9 of
Television as a Function of Age
120
4 Mean Influence Rating in Question 9 of
Friends as a Function of Age
X23
13 of Results of Question
Suiraiarj'' 6
(What Do W}ien Love) 165
xiii
INTRODUCTION
topics dealing with love in books, popular music, mass media, relip^ion
etc. illustrates the importance that the concept of love plays in eve-
United States and other western, industrialized nations, love has been
their children, individuals choose and divorce their mates, and people
make out their wills. Religions have extolled love as being the pro-
per way to lead one's life and to reach redemotlonc Poets and philo-
sophers have warned of the pitfalls of love as well as praised its vir
tues. Advertisers have employed the word love in selling every imagin
has com.e under the close scrutiny of a vast number of individuals. O-^
the "non-scientific" level, as mentioned above, love has been
discussed
by lyricists, novelists, etc. for thousands
of years. References and
treatises on love can be found in both the Bible
and the writings of
phasized the authors* ideas concerning the nature of human love and
flect the liter's own experiences with love as well as his or her re-
Historical Perspective
verson (1970), have traced the roots of what has been referred to a-
ed that the concept of romantic love had its roots in the lyrical works
because they were more a part of the thoughts and actions of members of
of marriage
rise of rationalism. For the next three hundred years, romantic love
apparently served a social-maintenance function by preserving the tra-
system. These reformers argued that love, and not wealth, lineage, or
status, was the only appropriate prerequisite for marriage. The im-
Cross-Cultural Perspectives
Goode, 1959) have examined the function that love serves in non-west-
area was done by Goode (1959), who reviewed the findings on love as a
that in the United States and other western countries, marriage with-
out love is considered wrong. In China and Japan, however, only re-
s^ct h'i^M^en spouses is requirel for marriage.
In contrast to toth
ties. They have found in general that love, although not entirely
ab-
sociological studies and treatises on love have been done. Goode (1959)
these couples from the devisive pressures that relatives might exert.
including Albert (1973) and Casler (1971), have viewed love negatively,
divorces and stunted growth or. the part of the individuals involved.
Contrary to this position, Biegel (1951)
and Greenfield (1965) have
which they recalled "falling in love" for the first time. He found
that most women had had only one lover at a time, that the median
age
study in Poland, recorded thp age of the first love (romantic) and how
romanticism scores and number of novels read. Dion & Dion (1973) found
that females expressed more romantic concepts of love than
males. Knox
the study of love than the researchers above. Swensen (1961, 1970)
uate college students and inquired of them what they did when they
1 ove
cence and the early adult years; that is, on romantic love. Virtually
no studies have been done with older adults or children. One excep-
tion is a study by Knox (.197 k., , who examined the romantic-conjugal ele-
persons married less than five years, and those married over twenty
and those n.arried more than five years being m.CGt romantic. Aside
ment by the child with little awareness of the process on the part of
and parents and siblings. Ine next stage is one of reciprocal friend-
romantic love. Bloom then proposed eleven other stages in adult love
which describe how the individual changes in response to the aging pro-
10
siveness toward the parent, while the parent's mode of experience would
cussed two types of love for non-human objects. The first of these is
and loved objects," as love of the sea, love of the mountains, etc.
cial scientists and the common man for hundreds of years. The histor-
11
this kind could have been undertaken. The first approach would have
eral reasons for not adopting this approach. First, this approach
ska (1948), however, have both indicated that even with adults there
lem with a traditional approach to the problem was that it was espe-
13
others
for example, what does love mean to you, how do you feel when you love
someone, and what do you do when you love someone. It was hoped that
yield the most information about the development of love across the
life cycle, and would outline areas that might be considered in future
14
investigations.
Pilot Studies
ter transcribed.
The second pilot study was done with a group of college aged
stu-
signed to explore the differences between liking and loving and to de-
als' conceptions of love. These two piluL aLudies were used in the
For the present study, an interview format was used with children
in Che younger age groups (i.e., preschool, second and fifth graders),
and the questionnaire format was used with older age groups (eighth
15
Adult Questionnaire
drawn from and modified from the eighteen questions in the pilot study.
nine questions was that subjects in the pilot study reported the ques-
average subject took over one hour in answering the pilot question-
naire; and because of this length, questions at the end tended to re-
ceive mucii less consideration by the subject than questions at the be-
from the 18 of tne pilot study for several reasons: repetitiveness with
tion of love with age. With these requirements in mind, a brief des-
cription of each of the questions and pilot data relating
to it follows.
17
tions
distinctions were made. One distinction was that living things are
with loving being more intense than liking. Others saw loving grow-
person or thing which is only liked. The present study was designed
both love and like and their relationship to you (e.g. Joe — friend,
Sally — cousin, music, mother). In column B list those persons or
things that you love but don't like, if you make that distinction. In
colunm C list some of the people or
things that you like but don't
gated.
these numbers noted. It was hypothesized that these changes would re-
hypothesis of this type came from the pilot data of the youngest group
loved, while older children began listing teachers and school friends
lationships. That is, do people love only those who love them in
re-
turn? This same question may also be asked with respect to liking.
that everyone they loved also loved them in return, decreased from
prising that they believed that everyone they loved also loved them.
tions, considered the possibility that everyone they loved did not
crease with age after adolescence. This increase might reflect the
subjects' personal needs, as making them happy when they were sad,
etc.
this question. For example, the differences in the reasons given for
something?
them.
loving; that is, what people do when they love som.eone or something.
termined.
Question 8; Mark off how much you agree or disagree with the follow-
ing statements. 1 2 3 A 5 6 7 8 9 10
strongly strongly
disagree agree
sible to love someone but not like them. E. We know how to love the
the pilot data. Still another reason for asking this question was
love them too. In this way, ideas of people concerning love, in this
case mutuality, could be compared with their "love lives" or "love be-
inquiry into certain areas of love that for reasons of economy could
rating scale:
0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
Of no moderately extremely
influence influential influential
sic: R. others
effort was made to be all inclusive with respect to these item.s; how-
ever, space was provided for other factors that may have affected the
25
page with space provided at the bottom of the page for subjects* com-
ments about the appropriateness of the question, its form, etc. Final-
were: do you have any general comments about this questionnaire or the
you, which the least interesting, do you have any suggestions for pos-
.
26
Children's Interview
Question 3. I'd like you to give me the names of the persons or things
tion 3 as loved were inquired about as to their love for the subject.
Question 5a. Is there anyone or anything that you like but don't love?
Question 5b. Is there anyone or anything that you love but don't like?
Question 6. You said you love . Why do you love ? You said
As with the adult questionnaire, reasons for loving two of the per-
one love somebody? C. If you love som.e one, does that person love
you
too? D. Can you love som.eone but not like them?
E. Can little babies
love?
for the same reason given in question 6. Part C was intended to in-
Question 9. Where did you find out about love? Who told you about
love?
tionnaire, which was precluded by the oral format of the interview with
METHOD
Subjects
ton, Massachusetts. Most of these students were the sons and daughters
of lower middle class working people. The 20-25 year olds were under-
Procedure
ing received parental permission and given their own approval. Inter-
tionned male subjects . This was done because experience in the pilot
the interview.
cues. Perhaps the most difficult situation which arose was one in
which the child responded to a question with "1 don't know." This re-
this situation v.as handled by Lgain explaining to the child that there
32
child's responses were avoided. Most responses by the child were fol-
enjoyable for trie child, and virtually all of them were smiling or at
the classroom..
procedure than the interview format described above. All subjects re-
ceived the same questionnaire which had as its first page an instruc-
mity among individual participants. Subjects in the 30-35 year old age
those with the 20-25 year olds. In addition to this, a number of sub-
hood centers. Subjects in the correct age range filled out the ques-
tionnaire and deposited it in boxes left at the center. With all sub-
jects in the 20-25 year old age group and older, two dollars was paid
This two dollar incentive was most successful in obtaining 20-25 and
30-35 year olds. Older subjects, 40-45 years old and older, were usu-
ally in better financial condition and the monetary reward meant little
34
RESULTS
Preliminary Considerations
both sexes in each age group were selected and judges attempted to clas-
36
person on a question x^rhich asked for what the reasons for loving a per-
ignored (by consensus also), and the marking became easier and more
consistent
The other, more difficult problem, was the one in which a subject
first gave a response which was very generalized and then did not get
the love, or doing som»e thing for the person loved. Each of these three
37
ing a particular response was small, adjacent age groups were combined
Analysis of Questions
something?
which included responses as "you tell them you love them," "express it
to please or make a person happy, including "you are nice to the per-
son," "make them something," and "give them something they want." Cate-
gory 4 was to interact or keep them company, and this category included
39
involved responses as, "I get excited when I see them," "we enjoy each
to be open, and included, "I'm honest with them," "I'm open," and
"I'm
gory 11 was to do' nothing in particular and to just feel love. This
category involved responses as, "it automatically shows up," "do what
adult years.
verbal expressions of love, and age, X^(l) = 19.94, p< .018. The pro-
the fifth grade and reaching a peak in the eighth grade. There was a
slight decrease in the use of the category after the eleventh grade.
the early years was identical to that found in category 1, and is ex-
There was a highly significant relationship between age and the oc-
2
currence of category 5 responses (give-share self), X = 33.20, p<.0001,
The proportion of subjects who used this category at each age can be
maximum was reached among 30-35 year olds. After this, there was a
Table 1
^^^^P P^e 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .00 .00 .05 .35 .30 .25 .10 .15 .20 .20
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .05 .60 .55 .40 .35 .35 .45 .55 .40 .50
43
havior
joyment from. In general, few subjects (about 5%) employed this cate-
Table 2
^^°^P 2nd 5th 8th nth 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .25 .20 .05 .50 .35 .20 .30 .30 .45 .30
2
X (9) = 14.47, n. s. pre to 8th: X^(3) = 11.20, p< .01
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .00 .00 .00 .05 .25 .35 .45 .30 .15 .30
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .00 .00 .10 .20 .25 .45 .20 .20 .30 .25
of love occur at every age except among eighth graders, eleventh graders.
46
Table 3
^^°"P P^'= 2nd 5th 8th nth 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-05
Proportion .05 .15 .35 .30 .45 .35 .40 .35 .20 .20
~
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Age Group (pre, 2nd) (5th, 8th) (11th, 20-25) (30-35,40-45) (50-55,60-65)
Table 4
other, and a subject who did not give a response in one category, prob-
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love, for example, "it makes you feel good," "it's an essential
part
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"love is a good friend," and "re choose people who balance our defi-
tains the proportion of subjects at each age who gave this type
of re-
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54
27.91, p< .001. The proportion of subjects involved at each age are
the younger age groups. It appeared among the eighth graders for the
the 30-35 year olds. There was then a slight decrease in the number
of subjects giving this response after this age; however, this de-
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Table 8
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Table 9
^^°"P 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .00 .00 .00 .10 .00 .40 .20 .20 .25 .20
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .00 .00 .00 .15 .35 .35 .40 .20 .20 .15
age groups, 20-25 and 30-35 year olds. Before these ages, category 7
responses were virtually absent and after the 30-35 year olds,
there
p< .014. These proportions are also listed in Table 10. There was a
p< .0001. As can be seen from Table 10, a large number of the pre-
disappeared by the second grade, and every subject from the fifth grade
58
Table 10
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .00 .15 .10 .35 .50 .40 .30 .20 .30 .25
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .45 .05 .00 .00 .00 .00 .00 .00 .00 .00
defining love at this early age. At every age, it appears that the
most preferred method of defining love was
to discuss what kinds of
ond and fifth grades. After the fifth grade, love as a mutual or re-
jects in the younger (preschool to eleventh grade) and older age groups
Table 11
preschoolers
2nd graders
9. Don't Know ( A5)^
1. Content ( .55)
5. Objects of Love (.25)
2. Compares to Liking (.20)
1. Content of Love (.25)
8. Mutuality ( .15)
5. Objects of Love (.15)
5th graders
8th graders
1. Content of Love (.90)
Content ot Love (i.UU)
2. Compares to Liking (.25)
Mutuality (.35)
8. Mutuality ( .10) A, Effects of Love ( .15)
5. Objects of Love ( .15)
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pilot work suggesting that few children of this age could understand
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Table 15
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Proportion .30 .15 .05 .00 .00 .00 .00 .00 .00
Table 16
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7. Qualitative Diff. (.20) 8. Don't Know, No Diff. (.15)
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things that you love but don't like, if you make that
distinction. In
column C, list some of the people or things that you like but
don't
that various categories of responses to the question were not drawn up.
tion were checked off from an initial list of people and things. This
eleventh graders do not have children was bound to affect the results
lar to this one are noted in the results below. In the discussion be-
low, the use of the word "loved" refers to its sense in column A, that
contains the pr-oportion of subjects at each age who listed one or more
75
due to the death of the parent. These issues are addressed more fully
sibling as loved and age. This number remained fairly high (50%-60%)
until after the 30-35 year old age group, after which
there was a
cantly more often than males (71% vs. 45%, overall). In addition, this
overall sex difference was reflected at each age group. With the ex-
ception of the 20-25 year olds, females listed siblings as loved more
these nxombers with age. As can be seen from Table 20, there was a
from the preschool years to the eighth grade. After this age, there
within the 30-35 year old age group, X^(3) = 18.21, p< .0001. Follot^-
ing this age, there was then an increase (betxs'een 40-45 and 60-65 years)
in the number of respondents who reported love for various other rela-
The data with respect to the number of subjects listing a same sex
77
Table 20
Parents
^^°"P 2nd 5th 8th nth 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .95 1.0 1.0 1.0 .85 .85 .70 .50 .30 .25
Other Relatives
^^°"P 2nd 5th 8th nth 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .10 .55 .45 .80 .40 .35 .15 .35 .55 .55
second grade. There was an increase in reported love for a same sex
reported loving a same sex friend much more often than men.
between age and the number of subjects reporting that they loved an
2
opposite sex friend, X (9) = 60.95, p< .0001. Table 21 contains the
stated that they loved a friend of the opposite sex from preschool to
second grade. However, after the second grade and continuing through
.
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Table 21
Proportion of Subjects at Each
Age an. of Each Se.
Listing a Sa.e S..
Friend as Loved and 'Proportion
at Each Age Listing an
Opposite Sex
Friend as Loved on Question
3A
Proportion .40 .05 .15 .40 .2 0 .70 .30 .35 .15 .15
Sex
. Males Females
Proportion ,21 .36
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .25 .00 .20 .60 .50 .80 .25 .35 .05 .00
sex friends argue against this inference. This data appears to suggest
ber of subjects who listed an "other person" as loved and age. Overall,
son category.
lationship between age and the number of subjects who reported loving
second and fifth graders, the dij.ference among ages in these numbers
.
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findings with respect to age mentioned above. In the first five age
the 20's, and then by spouses and children in later years. Finally, in
the 40's and 50's, other relatives, nephews, nieces and grandchildren
82
Table 22
^^^^P 2nd 5th 8th nth 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .05 .15 .20 .15 .55 .05 .10 .00 .15 .15
Things
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .10 .50 .15 .25 .50 .65 .50 .40 .40 .25
Activities
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .00 .20 .25 .30 .10 .35 .40 .25 .25 .20
Table 23
on Question 3A
preschoolers
— o ^
<^nd graders
parents (95)
^^^^^^
siblings (65)
siblings (.60)
same sex friend (.40)
things (.50)
5th graders
~ — a,., ,
oth graders
parents (1.00) n.rPnt-.<. (i .0^
siblings (60)
^ther reiati;es (.80)
animals (.50)
siblings (.75)
or thing as loved.
84
p < .003. Excluding second graders, there were few subjects in the
were no changes with respect to age from the eleventh grade on. In-
terestingly, there was a near even split, with about 507o of subjects at
all ages listing someone in colujiin B and about 50% not listing someone.
85
not liked, X^(8) = 15.16, p< .057. If the two second graders mention-
this relationship becomes a significant one, X^C 8) = 19. J7, p< .02.
one or both parents as loved but not liked increased until the 30-35
year old age group. The docrease in the AO-45 year old and older groups
Table 24
Proportion of Subjects at Each A^e
Listing Someone or Something
as
Loved But Not LiKed on Question
3B, and Proportion of
Subjects at Each
Age Listing Parents as Loved
But Not Liked on Question
3B
Use of Column B
Proportion .35 .10 .15 .55 .60 .50 .55 .60 .45
Parents
^^""P 2nd 5th 8th nth 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .10 .10 .10 .10 .30 .40 .20 .15 .05
and 30-35 year old age groups. In general, this opposite sex friend
ject reported liking but not loving a parent, and only 4 subjects re-
ported liking but not loving a brother or sister. Not a single spouse
88
friends as liked, X^Cs) = 33.43, p< .0001 and X^CS) = 30.64, p< .0002,
respectively. In general, most of the subjects reporting
these friends
in column C were in the age groups from the
eighth grade to 40-45 years.
the above findings are greatly attenuated. The groups which were high-
than others.
this question, the items listed in category 3 were divided into three
that the components of love for people, animals and things might
in-
for each subject, the people, animals, and things listed in each column
ed as loved (people, column A), also returned the love, then the sub-
listed in column A, for example, was not reported as loving the sub-
90
they loved, loved them in return. The number of subjects who main-
above, 70%, reported that the animals they loved also loved
them.
10% overall) at any age maintained that things which they loved, also
loved them.
Table 25
Activities
^^^^P 2nd 5th 8th nth 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Other People
Age Group 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion .10 .05 .10 .50 .20 .45 .30 .60 .55
Reciprocal Responses-People
Age Group pre 2nd 5th 8th 11th 20-25 30-35 40-45 50-55 60-65
Proportion 1.0 .85 .80 .65 .60 .80 .70 .55 .60 .75
2 J
X (9) = 15.92, p< .075 (n.s.) pre to 8th: X (3) = 8.66, p< .05
each case, a parent, usually the mother, and a thing were selected.
This choice was dictated by the feeling that the contrast between these
that the reason a person (animal or thing) was loved was because of the
93
which had been shared by the subject and the person loved. Examples
of this category included, "because of all the things we've done to-
gether," "we've grown together," and "we spend alot of time together."
goals, interests, etc., between the subject and the person loved. Ex-
present and future interests," "I identify with him," and "we are very
and sacrifices of the person loved as the reason for loving him or her.
94
loving a person because of who they were, and included responses as,
they are part of me," and "because she is my mother." Finally, cate-
gory 12 consisted of responses which stated that the reason for loving
a person was based on the person's love for the subject. Examples of
category 12 responses were: "because they feel the same as me," "she
changes in the reasons people gave for loving. For example, enough
subjects tended not to give this as a reason for loving their parents,
in the 20-25 and 30-35 year old age group reported loving their parents
or 6.
category and age, X^(l) - 27.86, p< .001. Not until the eighth grade,
subjects who said they loved their parents because of non-physical at-
cause they loved the subject. Few subjects gave any responses in these
remaining categories.
On category 13, only 8 subjects out of 105 reported that they loved
their parents but didn't know why. This number was too small for sta-
Table 26
Age Group , ^ .
(pre to 5th) (8th to 60-65)
Proportion .00 .39
99
older were considered. The eighth and eleventh grade subjects were
ferences betTveen these age groups and the use of any of the
categories.
jects in the eighth grade to 30-35 years old listed good feelings from
ents in the older age groups. The categories used by the greatest num-
loved.
and older. The use of two of the categories of question 5 changed sig-
tion of subjects who gave category 6 responses, that they loved a same
101
jects were divided into two age groups for statistical purposes,
pre-
school to the fifth grade, and the eighth grade to 60-65 years old.
between older and younger subjects. The category used by the greatest
physical attributes.
Table 27
Proportion of Subjects at Each
Age Giving Responses in
Category 3
With Opposite Sex Friend
(Spouse) and Categories 6 and
8 With
Same Sex Friend on Question
5 (Why Love)
column A of question 3 and tell what you do when you love them.
Table 28
Parents
Sibling
1. Care, Concern, Help (.70)''"
I. Care, Concern, Help (.44)
2. Understanding, Accept. (.17) II. Who They Are ( .38)
7. Loyalty, Dependability (.17)
A. Positive Effect (.15)
Children Animals
Positive Affect (.35) 8. Non-Physical Attributes (.37)
Non-Physical Attributes (.37) 11.
11 . Who They Are
Are (.30)
9. Physical Attributes (.22)
Things -Activities
3. Positive Affect (.53)
8. Non-Physical Attributes (.28)
few subjects at each age remained who did select and discuss what
they
replied yes or no. For example, statement B was asked as, "Do you
waking, conscious states or whether they believed that love was an en-
.
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Table 29
Parents
Sibling
3. Do Things To Please (.60)''- A. Interact-Keep Company (.46)
1 Physical Expressions (.33)
3. Do Things To Please (.38)
Other Relatives
Animals
4. Interact-Keep Company (.65) 1. Physical Expressions (.21)
3. Do Things To Please (.58)
1. Physical Expressions (.29)
asleep.
Figure 1 so that the age trends might be more visible. Among eighth
and eleventh graders, there was fairly strong agreement with this state-
ment. However, this agreement decreased sharply among 20-25 year olds
109
moderately strong disagreement (3.25) with it. Among the other four
age groups, mean ratings varied from 4.3 to
5.45. In general, among
though not very strong, with this statement. The findings of the other
Table 30
Mean Rating of Statement B (Everyone Loves
Someone), Question 8
as a Function of Age and
Sex
Sex Rating
Males 6.62
Females 8.29
among the younger age groups, the percentage of subjects who agreed
with
the statement did show some decrease, from 94% among preschoolers
to
Table 31
separately.
of their knowledge about love was recorded. This data was then ana-
,.
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on their concept of love. These 4 children were from the youngest age
p< .0008. These numbers are also listed in Table 32. School teachers
exerted the greatest influence among second graders.
Only about 10% of the subjecLs in these youngest three age groups at-
Parents
Age Group
preschoolers 2nd graders 5th graders
Proportion ,25 •55 .60
Teachers
Factor A was movies and plays. There were no age or sex differ-
a significant age effect, F(6, 126) = 2.A5, p< .05. Table 33 contains
the mean ratings at each of the seven ages. These means are also graph-
F (6,126) = 3.21, _p < .01. The means for each age are listed in Table
Table 34
11th graders 6. 20
Malef
8th graders
6.90 7 70
11th graders
7.90 6.30
20-25 year olds
5.00 7.60
30-35 year olds
4.90 3.40
40-45 year olds
4.90 5.10
50-55 year olds
3.10 3.30
60-65 year olds
3.70 1 .20
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P< .05. Table 37 and Figure 7 contain these means. The effect at-
tributed to siblings was greatest among
eighth and eleventh graders,
20-25, 50-55 and 60-65 year olds. In addition to this age difterence,
jects, F (1,126) = 3.47, p< .06. The overall mean rating of males
(L) changed with age or sex. Books were rated higher (3.8) overall
3.09, p< .01. Subjects in the middle three age groups rated it moder-
ately influential, while subjects in the younger and older four groups
rated it less strongly. The means on this item for each age can be
Table 36
Group Rating
Sex Rating
Males 4.61
Females 5.40
Table 38
of Age
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(3.63, overall). The means for each age can be found in Table 39 and
Figure 9.
list and rate other factors not contained in the above list. Some of
Age Group
R^tim
8th graders 4.10
Table 40
8th graders
11th graders
Parents (7.1)^
Boyfriend/Girlfriend (7.05) Boyfriend/Girlfriend (7.1)
Personal Experiences (6.65)
Personal Experiences (6.8)
Parents (6.25)
Friends (6.0)
Friends (6.2)
Siblings (5.7)
Observations & Reflec. (5.45)
Observations & Reflec. (5.65)
Siblings (5.25)
Husbands /Wives /Lovers (5.60)
Religion (4.45) Poetry-Musical Lyrics (5.0)
Religion (4.8)
Music (4.1)
Husbands /Wives/Lovers (4.7)
20-25 year olds 30-35 year olds
Personal Experiences (7.7)
Personal Experiences (7.25)
Observations Reflec. (6.45)
Husbands/Wives/Lovers (6.95)
Parents (6.35)
Observations & Reflec. (6.00)
Boyfriend/Girlfriend (6.30) Parents (5.5)
Husbands /Wives /Lovers (5.85)
Friends (4.65)
Friends (5.65)
Books (4.5)
Siblings (5.4)
Boyfriend/Girlfriend (4.15)
Animals (4.0)
which they loaded most heavily. Ratings of husbands, wives and "lov-
Question 10. Having answered the previous questions, do you have any-
you?
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Table Al
Factors
E F G H I
F. religion
.07 .19" .26
G . husbands/wives/
.21""' '-.16
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H. animals ,26
I . school
J .brother/sister
K.mag., newspapers
L .books
M.observ. 5, reflec
0. personal exper.
r. parents
Q. music
3
Table 41
(continued)
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IN
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. L . .37"""-.18" .38"""
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Table 42
Table 43
Factor 1
Factor 2
Parents ( .58) 1 m •
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Siblings (.58) (-75)
T^^""
Foetry, Musical Lyrics
Religion (.45) (.77)
Animals ( .34)
Factor 3
Factor 4
Movies, Plays ( .73)
Personal Experiences (.60)
Magazines, Newspapers (.72)
books ( 71) Observations & Reflec. on Ex-
.
Factor 5
Factor 6
school
School (.68)
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Teachers ( .64)
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DISCUSSION
In order to gain a
fuller understanding ^iig of
or the
cne da^.
data npresented in
the previous section,
two different
it^ienu possihlP
possible o • •
cosnitive o. p„el, an
experlenUal one-it has
elements of .oth.
If this is indeed the
case, then perhaps the
title of the pre-
sent paper, the development
of the concept of love,
is a .isnomer.
Ihis is not the case,
however, because of the
way in which the data
were collected. It is not a .isnomer
primarily because all of the
data
were gathered through the
self-reports of subjects In
interviews and
on the questionnaires.
No measurements or
observations were made in
either an experimental or
naturalistic setting, m this sense, the
experiences as well as the
thoughts of subjects on love
were processed
in a cognitive or conceptual
mode, for example, U subjects stated
that they loved their mothers,
they indeed were relating
something of
their experience of love.
However, at the same time, this
reference
for love Of mother related
something about the domain of
individuals
loved in the concept of love.
In this respect, all of the data
col-
lected here demonstrate something with respect to peoples'
reports of
the concept of love, while at
the same time, indirectly
relates infor-
mation about the actual experiences
of love.
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mechanism is not surprising since very often adults use the two words,
In addition to this
development, data suggest
that there is an
increasing differentiation in
the concept of the
concrete operational
Child with respect to the
reciprocal aspects of love.
Data fro. ques-
tion 8 (statements about love),
in which fewer children
at each age
from the preschool years to
the fifth grade maintained
that if they
loved the person, that person
also loved them, indicates
an increasing
realisation on the part of nhild.en
that or.her people have a diffe.en^
an increased Integration
of experiences with
cognitive processes.
With adolescence, there is a newly acquired set of
Intellectual opera-
tions, yet little direct
experience in the application
of these opera-
tions. However, by 20-25
years of age, people have
had an opportunity
to experience and the ti^e
to reflect upon issues
relating to different
types Of love, the effects of
love, and the development
of their own
concept of love.
changes in the concept of love. Agreement with three of the five state-
ments on question 8 changed with age. Older subjects (40-45 and older)
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now presented.
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listing a friend of the same sex as loved. The decrease after 40-45
the increased
t-v,
accumulation of amounts
of
contact With these other
relatives, are all prohahl,
responsible ..r
.hese increases in listing
other relatives as loved
in the elementary
scbool years. The number
of subjects listing
another relative decreased
after the eighth grade
until 30-35 years of age.
This decrease was
probably due to the increased
estrangement of adolescents
and young
adults from other relatives.
Among adolescents, this
estrangement is
Often self-i.posed. with the
adolescent rejecting any
contact with
aunts, uncles, etc. in a
spirit of rebellion and in
assertion of inde-
pendence. Among 20-25 and
30-35 year olds, this lack
of love for other
relatives may involve nore
pragmatic considerations as a
loss of con-
tact with these relatives
because of living away at
college, traveling
to a new job location, and
preoccupation with a new" family.
With the
50-55 and 60-65 year olds, the number
of subjects listing other rela-
tives rose Sharply. Given that
most of these other relatives
were
grandchildren, this age finding is
not surprising.
was the one listed as loved but not liked. These years correspond to
the period of time when parental values, ideas, and ways of living aie
162
laugh at
the suggestion that the two
unacquainte. persons coul. love each
other.
Therefore, the data here suggest that
the reciprocal component of love
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Q-stiorW, The data fro. question 6 offers so.e support for the the-
oretical formulations of Orlinsky
(1972) which were n^ntioned in the
than older parents. Given that older parents usually have less
con-
tact with their children and considering
that the differences in life
love increased m this same period. These two facts together suggest
every age. The high laLing of parents at even 60-65 years, when few
174
in many areas of
psychology (e.g., personality development,
sex role
typing, etc.) that the
influence of parents on
development is a sub-
stantial and enduring one.
The fact that personal
experiences were
rated highest in four of the
seven age groups and second
or third high-
est In the remaining three
groups indicates that a general
principle in
development in this area might
be that the greatest
influence on the
development of the concept of love
derives from one's o™ personal
ex-
periences.
love
ly age.
sex differences found here were very small. Therefore, at least with
177
is studied.
ple interacting. One picture might contain two people embracing while
the other might picture two people fighting. The child would then be
love. In this way early disc. Iminations of the concept of love might
type of study would aid in tracing the roots of the concept of love
S uminary
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love
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APPENDIX A
ADULT QUESTIONNAIRE
187
INSTRUCTIONS
BIOGRAPHICAL DATA
Age
Commenc:
2. For you is there a distinction between liking
and lovin
If yes, what is the distinction?
Comment:
191
s,Er
A (love + likp^
i-..e; T, /n
B Uove but don't like)
Comments:
192
Comments:
193
Comments:
194
Comments:
:
195
7. Select
quest onl
question iL't^riT °"
J and tell what you do when
""^ ^™ 11"^^ ^I'-n * of
you love them.
Coimiients
196
10
f^°^siy
disagree
^-gly
^g^^/
B, Everyone loves someone or "
something,
1 - 3 4 5 6 7 ^ q 10
strongly
disagree agree
1 2 3 4 5 6 10
strongly strongly
disagree agree
^23 4 56789 10
disagree agree
^23
strongly
4 56739 10
strongly
disagree agree
Comments:
197
0 1 2 3 4 ~6
5 7 8
,
moderately extremely
influence infl upnti
Lnriuentiai •
^-i •
influential
Factor t '-t •
Influence Rati ng
A. movies, plays
'
B. television ^
'
C . friends "
D. boyfriend, girlfriend ~~
E . teachers
F. religion
I . school
J. brothers/sisters
K. magazines, newspapers
L . books . . .
0. personal experiences ,
P. parents
Q . music ,
R. others
Comments:
198
Conmients:
199
Thank you
APPENDIX B
INTERVIEW QUESTIONS
201
^^^^
Item listed m ^
. ^^^^ ^^^^^^ for each
response to question 5)
9. Do you love when you are asleep? (one person selected from
those listed in question 3)
Quesnon
Category 1. Physical
^^^^ ^^^^ ^^^^ _
expressions of love.
Acceptable Responses
Una cceptable Response .g
1. kiss, hug, etc
i. express your feelings Cc ?^
2. express o -y
it physically o . ^
2. demonstrate it in words
^ , ^
state (c.2)
3. my feelings by touch
4. show it (through action)
show my feelings
204
205
Acceptable Responses
Unacceptable Respons e
Category 6., continued
3. think of their needs
be more aware of their needs
3. support them (c.7)
Accepcable Response;
Unacceptable Responses
Category 7., continued
1 . be open
1. do what they want (c.lO)
you just open up
2 . be hone s t
have them trust me
3. treat them the way I feel
4. unburdened by any phoniness
207
Acceptable Responses
Unacceptable Response
Category 10., continued
2. it automatically shows up
SAMPLE RESPONSES—QUESTION 1
.
209
Accepr.ablt; Res po ns e s
Unacceptable Responses
Category 4., continued
1. I love my sister
1. it's a relationship between
I love God
two people (c,8)
2. someone you can rely on in
2. it's when you love someone
time of need
alot (c.2)
someone who takes time to lis-
ten and help you
3. love is our children
someone who is close to you as
a brother, sister, mother
or father
4. you love people
you love animals as well as
people
Acceptable Respor?;f!.<;
Unacceptable Responses
Category 7. How love develops
213
Acceptable Re s ponse
Unacce Pt ab leRo g ponse
Category 1, Quantatative
differences.
214
Acceptable Responses
Un acceptable Re.qpnr^_coo
Category 4. Love transcends
situations and time,
like does not.
1. love means you always
love
them, like means you 1. loving is deeper than
some- liking
times do and sometimes V C •1
don»t
2. liking depends more 2. you always want to be
on how you with the
get along person (c.l)
—
Acceptable Res non<.Pc
Unacceptable Responses
1. she understands me
1. we support each other (c.l)
he is thoughtful and consider-
ate of me 2. he is a thoughtful person
(c.
2. can be myself with him 3. always there when I need her
she puts up with alot (c.7)
218
A_cceptable Resnnnc;pc
Unacceptable Rp<;pnno e
Category 4., continued
219
Acceptable Responses
Unacceptable Responses
Category 7., continued
1 . super-smart
1. cares for me (c.l)
enthusiastic, goal oriented
2. has a good personality
2. thoughtful and considerate of
me (c.2)
selfless, concerned, clarify-
ing, accepting (to people
in general)
Unacceptable Responses