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Jonathan: Welcome to my lesson on neurotic annihilation how to avoid the crazy before it
latches to your leg from skipthedate.com. One of the things that as men we are
all afraid of is really investing our time, our energy, our resources, our emotions,
just everything that we put into a relationship and time we spend with a woman
into someone who turned out to be crazy or has some dramatic emotional flaw
or something that actually make our lives worse.

The last thing I want you to do is go through my course, meet a stunning younger
woman who turned out to be a real negative and a drain to your life, that’s not
something you want. I can tell you some girls really reveal certain things about
their personalities very quickly. I definitely had all of these experiences in the
past, before I developed my system for testing for neuroticism. I developed the
system because I kept running into girls that had major problems.

I dated one girl who got so drank after like knowing me for two or three days
that she threw up all over my bed. I have a picture of the spaghetti and
everything everywhere because it blew my mind, I took a picture. I said, “Who
does this when the guy she’s known for one day?” She kept saying, “Oh I don’t
need a drink all the time.” The next day she had a beer with breakfast. It was
very difficult actually.

I remember trying to drive her home and get her out of my car and she went
crazy. She wouldn’t get out of the car, she was like leaning out with her head on
the driveway saying, “If you're going to leave, you have to kill me,” all those
horrible things we’re so afraid of. I've developed a system to ensure that it never
happens to me again, learn from my mistakes, learn from my past so that you
don’t have to learn the hard way and make the same mistakes. There are ways
very quickly right after you meet a girl, to figure out and determine if she’s
neurotic or she has emotional problems.

So what is neuroticism? It is the number one predictor of relationships success or

failure. The more neurotic a girl is, the more likely relationship is to fail. Think
about all those stupid girl games that some women just play and they're so
stressful, they're annoying and unnecessary. All the different things that women
do that you don’t understand why they do it, like making scenes in public,
locking themselves in the bathroom, screaming in public, doing crazy things,
throwing yourself against the wall smashing it when she is upset.

All the things that we don’t do because we are even keeled, it’s how she reacts
under different kinds of stress that predicts and tells you her level of
neuroticism. Does she do crazy things and turn on you or does she handle it with
maturity and grace? That’s what we really want to determine. Because one of

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 the worst things to be is in a relationship with a girl and realize that she will
never let you break up with her because she starts saying crazy things like, “If
you break up with me, I’ll kill myself,” or “I’ll set your house on fire.” All these
horrible crazy things we want to find that out before we get trapped into one of
those relationships.

So first thing we need to understand is difference between traits and habits. This
is very very important because this helps us understand why neuroticism is so
dangerous. Now traits are things that we can’t usually change. They're things
that are really embedded in our personality.

For example, let’s say you're someone who’s always early for meetings. That’s a
sign that you're very conscientious and you care about other people’s time that
you put a priority and respect to other people and conscientiousness is a major
trait for you, and it’s very hard to change that. How hard would it be for you to
date and be with a woman who’s always late? Now she will never say that it’s
because it’s a lack of conscientiousness and I know lots of guys like this too.

I've dated women who are always two hours late no matter what, so I learnt to
just tell her be there two hours early and she would actually be there. You start
playing games with these people and it’s not a lack of conscientiousness, it’s
simply that their priority and their traits are in another direction. They don’t
really focus on how other people think, they're always caught up in their own
thing. That’s two traits that really go against each other.

It would be very hard for two people that have these two opposite ends of the
spectrum of conscientiousness to be together. Those are very hard to change.
Have you ever dated a woman who is always late and you try to teach her to be
someone who is always on time? Usually what happens is you end up becoming,
she is a little less late, but you're no longer on time. You average the time she
shows but she is always 30 minutes late and you're always on time. By the time
you're together for a while, you're always 15 minutes late, something like that.

Another important trait and what we are really going to dig into with
neuroticism is how does she respond to stress. People who respond to stress
with anger, that’s a trait. It is possible to change traits, but you're talking about
things that are very very difficult, very challenging, usually involving some type of
professional, that’s why people have to go to like a psychiatrist or psychologist
for anger management. Because they respond to stress with anger and it takes
an external force and a really tense amount of therapy to modify a trait.

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 Now habits are things like boxers or briefs. I remember when I was in eighth
grade, I always wore white fronts, you know those little tiny white underwear
and I figured I’d wear for the rest of my life. I was a briefs guy I guess you could
say. I got all these pressure from my family, I don’t know why, this is one of
those weird experiences, my sister was just up my ass to switch to boxers. It took
me a few months and I was very uncomfortable but I just got tired of being made
fun of in my house and being told that children wear briefs and men wear boxers
or whatever. Actually now I wear boxer briefs, you know those half and between
ones. It’s a habit because you can’t change it with just a little bit of time
investment.

Here is another habit that I've done a lot of testing with myself. People always
sleep with their feet towards the door. I got really interested in this in college.
Me and my roommates’ switched directions and we started sleeping with our
heads towards the door. It took a little bit of a time to get used to because you
wake up and you roll off the wrong side of the bed and you roll into the wall.
After a while you get used to it. It’s the same thing some people put their pants
on before their socks, some people put socks on first. You can switch that
because it’s a habit, it’s not deeply engrained in your personality, it’s just
something you're used to doing. Now we want to realize that bad traits are a big
deal, bad habits are as important. We want to focus on the traits to determine.

How does she deal with stress? Here’s some really important situations and we
want to see how she reacts to them. A really easy stress test is how does she
react to traffic. How she reacts in traffic will reveal a lot about her true
personality. Is she one of those people that always target the car in front of her?

I remember I knew this girl, oh gosh 15 years ago. We went on a road trip
together, it was in my car. When it was her turn to drive, she would always be
within five feet of the car in front of us going 90 or 100 miles an hour. I was
terrified. Her response to stress was super dangerous in a real way and I
eventually had to do all the driving, twice of a travelling I thought I had to
because she was such a dangerous driver and responded to stress in a really
dangerous way. That tells you a lot about her personality.

I can tell you right now that the rest of her personality, the way she lived her
lifestyle, turned out to be extremely dangerous and she was extremely neurotic.
This is a really big give away. How do people respond to traffic? Some people,
they just turn on the radio or they relax or they don’t get that upset. They figure
out something else to do, they adapt. I'm not that great at traffic, I'm not going
to pretend that I am, so I avoid traffic and I do everything I can to avoid those

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 situations. That’s why I found a career where I don’t have to drive to and from
work, I can work from home.

Here’s a really big one, how does she deal with changes and plans? In life, our
plans change all the time. If she overacts every time, that’s so much stress for
you and her. Imagine you guys plan a trip for a weekend, right? Then you have
an emergency at work and you have to work over the weekend. Is she going to
punish you? How much does that suck? You already have to work over the
weekend, your boss is like if you don’t come on Saturday and Sunday, don’t
come in Monday. You're like, man this is the worst, you're losing your trip. You
were going to spend your weekend banging that really hot girl on a great
vacation.

Now you can’t go on your trip and then she’s mad at you saying you put work
before her and you don’t care about her and you only care about work, all those
things, right? You just say, “No, I'm already upset. I'm not happy that I'm working
this weekend, that's not my dream.” Think about that scenario. You want to
avoid that, how she deals with changes of plans. How does she deal when things,
plans fall through completely don’t go her way?

Changes of plans can be, okay, we are going to go to the beach, we are going to
the mountains. Or hey, someone else is coming with us. Instead of just the two
of us, there’s another couple. Cancellations is like, “Hey, we are not going to the
trip at all anymore.” How does she react? You guys think you're going to a
restaurant, it turns out they lost your reservation. That’s a classic example. How
does she deal with negative looks and remarks? This is really interesting because
you definitely, we've all seen this. I've seen girls and guys, what happens when
someone gives them a look they don’t like, or say something negative about her.

I can give you a great example because I'm thinking about this girl, one of my
friend’s girlfriend is like this, we were in a bar. The first time I met her and we
were in one of those bars where everyone is like really artistic. All the guys have
these artistic moustaches, and everyone is really like skinny, there are no like
muscle men there, nobody big. Usually everyone in the bar is bigger than me in
most places I go. We are in this like arty bar in DC and she starts yelling at some
guy for sitting in her chair. I was with her and I didn’t even know it was her chair.
She just decided that she wanted this chair and started a huge fight because she
felt the guy had given her a negative look.

The girl actually got into three different fights in the course of like two or three
hours in what I thought was a really classy bar and was very bored. She
demonstrated a lot of really negative traits. Now I avoid my friend because I

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 don’t want to be around this girl, I don’t want to be around that level of
neuroticism. There's people that react way all the time. If she says things like,
“Did you see the way that guy looked at me?” As soon as I hear that, I know I
want to run to the hills because I know that’s a sign of neuroticism.

How does she deal with financial stress? In life we have ups and downs, I
certainly do. I'm in a career where I always have to write new books and create
new products and really I'm completely in control of my destiny. So I have good
months and bad months, high months and slow months. Some months I can take
my girl on a vacation and some months I really just have to focus on my business.
I don’t spend half as much free time whenever I have a book due with my
publisher.

For example, this project, right? I'm really working hard, put a lot of time into
putting together the perfect slides, putting together everything to make this
training as good as possible. I'm working really really hard right now; I don’t have
a huge amount of free time. If I'm with a girl and I'm like, “Hey, we don’t have as
much money right now, I'm working twice as hard,” if I'm with someone who is
neurotic, that’s going to be a horrible experience for me. Rather than being
supportive of me, she's going to be hassling me and make it harder for me to do
my job, make it harder for me to be happy. I don’t want to be with someone who
does that and you shouldn’t either.

Also you want to see if she’s negative or judgmental under any kind of stress.
That’s what we are looking for, because it’s the predict of relationship failure. All
these things can happen on your first day. If you pick her up, you can make sure
that you get caught up on some traffic and see what she does. Then you can
change the plans and say, “Oh we are going to go to this restaurant but it turns
out they lost our reservation,” and see how she reacts to that.

Obviously I don’t want to know if you want to pay somebody to give her a
negative look, that's a little too much. You can see how she reacts to little
situations. How does she react if the waiter gets her order wrong? All these
things kind of happen. How does she actually treat the waiter? This will give you
signs because how she deals with stress is a sign of neuroticism and it’s so
important. Here’s the biggest mistake we all make in dating; you need to pay
attention to the small things, they will get bigger over time not smaller.

We have this classic tendency to ignore red flags or different signs of things that
we don’t like on a first date because we are caught up in the emotion, the
chemistry or in this case usually it’s her looks. This is your first model, this is your
first playboy bunny, of course you're going to ignore some of these things. It’s

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 really important to remember no matter how hot a girl is, there is always some
guy out there that got tired of her and you could end up being that guy. You
want to find a girl that’s hot and has a great personality. Pay attention to these
small things, pay attention to these warning signs.

Here’s a really easy way to test and see how she sees life is by listening to her
stories. Does she blame other people for the bad things in her life? If you ask her
for stories about work and it makes it sound like her boss is horrible and she is
the victim, here is what you do. Ask her about her last job. If she has stories
about two different bosses and the same kind of vibe, if everyone at work is out
to get her, if everybody at work is working together to make sure she doesn’t
succeed or hold her back. If her stories about her family are the same way, or
stories about her exes’ she is always the victim, these things tell you that she has
a pattern.

Just by asking a few stories about her life, you can really find out these things. A
lot of times because when people don’t realize you're paying attention to a
deeper level, you can just say, “What do you do when you get caught in traffic?
How would you feel if this happen?” Or “How would you feel if that happen?”
you can as a couple set the questions mix it into the night and you can find out
really what you want to know.

If someone has had 10 bad exes in a row or 10 bad break ups in a row, it’s
probably not the other person. That’s what you can tell. When it’s a pattern, you
look for the one thing that’s consistent. You want to look for manipulative
behavior because a lot of girls will implement the nuclear option. This when they
use sex as a weapon. Some women, especially women who have high levels of
neuroticism will use sex to try and control their man. She will say things like, “Do
this for me or I won’t do that for you.” “If you don’t clean the garage, I'm not
going to have sex with you this weekend.” Things like that and that’s a horrible
situation.

Suddenly you're a sexual slave and everything about this training and everything
about this course, is to make sure this doesn’t happen to you because you can
easily find and meet a new girl in just a matter of a few days and a few emails.
You don’t need to be caught up in that manipulative behavior.

The last thing I want to give as kind of a bonus, is talking about attachment
styles. Attachment styles are simply how you grew up in relation to your parents
or whoever your caregivers were, whoever raised you as a child. There are really
three main attachments styles and these are built in traits. Now attachment
styles, neuroticism you pretty much can’t change. Whatever your deep core

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 personality is when it comes to neuroticism, that’s a deep trait. Attachment
styles can change with a lot of work, but again the best thing is to find someone
who has an attachment style that matches to you. That gives you the best odd of
things; we are going to need to be on the same level. The three main styles are
secure, avoidant and anxious.

Secure is really you had a loving mother, you had a loving father, they were there
for you, they connected with you, you have good feelings about your family, you
felt really safe at home. When you are in a relationship, you have that same
feeling of safety and security. Avoidant is the kind of kid who has absentee
parents. They didn’t come to their sports games; they weren't really there when
they got home from school. They got used to not having their parents there
when they needed them.

Mommy wasn’t there when she needed them. They got used to saying … instead
of saying they're upset, they go, “I don’t care? Who cares? Mom wasn’t there,
who cares, don’t need them.” When she has that personality, then she starts
playing games like, she would be wild and crazy with you and then she will stop
replying the text. She will do lots of crying and drama and then she will be close
and committed. It’s all because she’s really scared of the relationship. There’s a
lot of push pull, there's a lot of emotional drama in this type of relationship
because there is a lack of security.

The third style is anxious, mom wasn’t always there, so when mom was, she
clinged to mom’s skirt. When she was on the playground, she wouldn’t play with
the other kids unless she was sure she could see mom, things like that. This is a
person who is nervous about life, it’s really tough to get close to her and she
puts up barriers because she doesn’t want to be abandoned again. She reacts to
abandonment rather with avoidance, with anxiety or a little bit more fear and
she wants reassurances all the time. She will constantly need reassurance. This is
the girl who will end up texting you 10 or 20 times a day or to send you text to
see if you guys have broken up, things like that.

With attachment styles, again you're just going to find out the same information
when you start asking stories about your family. What was it like growing up
where you grew up? What are your parents like? Are your parents still together?
Tell me some stories about your childhood? What was it like growing up? What
are your parents like? How do you feel about your parents? They will pretty
much tell you quite quickly which of these three categories they fall in. You
should also think which of these three are you in. You want to find someone who
is on the same page as you because then you will connect. If you're avoidant,

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 date an avoidant, if you're anxious, date an anxious and you will see that it’s a
really good fit.

These are the kind of things you want to think about, traits and habits, testing for
neuroticism, paying attention to her stories, how she reacts to stress and looking
at and making sure you have synched up attachments styles. Those are the
things that are really important and that’s what's going to help you avoid all of
the neuroticism. This is neurotic and annihilation from skiptodate.com; how to
avoid the crazy before it latches onto your leg.

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