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By:Dina DiGregorio Karlon, M.A.

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Sexuality is something that connects all humans throughout the lifespan. We, as parents, want to see our children
as forever young and protect them. For many parents it is extremely difficult to consider our children as sexual
beings. Add the complexity of having a child with a developmental disability, and it appears even more challenging;
yet ironically, it is even more important. Here are some reasons why:
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People with developmental disabilities are not children. While many people believe that children with
disabilities are childlike and dependent on others, their humanity and independence should be respected. They
have desires and needs similar to others. They deserve to have access to information which will help the make
good choices and have healthy relationships.
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Sexual education should be taught according to one’s biological age, not cognitive age. Most children with
disabilities experience physical changes (i.e., puberty) at the same time as their neurotypical peers. Therefore,
sexuality education should be given to them at similar times as peers, but the delivery needs to be the different –
one which allows them to access the information.

Sexual education is a protective factor. Educating people with disabilities about sexuality is a protective factor for
them, because it provides the knowledge they need to protect themselves against sexual crimes, unprotected sex,
unwanted pregnancies and unhealthy relationships. Information is power.

Understanding sexuality will not encourage your children to have sex. Giving individuals with developmental
disabilities sexuality education will not put the idea to embark on sexual explorations in their heads. Giving them
access to sexuality education gives them information and ultimately the power to make educated choices about
their bodies.

People with disabilities are significantly more likely to be a victim of a sexual or violent crime than their
non-disabled peers. Understanding consent and sexual advocacy empowers people to protect themselves from
being the predator or the prey by learning about concepts, such as, “my body, my choice” and “no means no.”

Much of the general population learns about sexuality and relationships from friends. This means that some
of the information they receive about sexuality is not always accurate. People with disabilities may not have as
many friendships as their peers without disabilities. Those with developmental disabilities tend to be more isolated,
so they do not have the opportunity to learn from friends. Often, they learn about sexuality information from parents
and television. Another concern is the ease with which the internet provides sexual information. Access to
pornography and posting pictures can be confusing to a person with a disability who doesn’t understand the legal,
privacy and employment implications, putting them at even greater risk. So, as parents, it’s very important to give
accurate information or seek out professionals who can work with your child.

Sexuality education does not teach sexual values. Parents are the ones who should be teaching their children
with and without disabilities about their values around sex. Sexuality education focuses on teaching accurate
information in a format that students can access and understand. It is then incumbent upon those students to
develop their own values.

Because of the nature of some disabilities, picking up on social cues is challenging. So much of relationships
is understanding verbal and non-verbal social cues, so many people with disabilities can struggle with identifying
healthy relationships. It makes it easier for others to take advantage of them, instead of enjoying a relationship with
both partners on equal footing. Therefore, it is important to teach social skills as part of sexuality education.

There are common universal values:

1. It is important to respect others by treating them well and listening to them.

2. It is important to get consent from a partner before being sexual with them.
3. Relationships should be equal and positive without violence or abuse.
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NESCA has personnel trained to provide sexuality education training to parents and to teens and young adults with
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About the Author:

Dina DiGregorio Karlon, M.A., is a seasoned counselor who has worked

as both a school counselor and vocational rehabilitation
counselor, guiding and coaching students and adults through transitions
toward independence in both college and the working world. With
NESCA, she offers transition assessment services in Londonderry, New
Hampshire as well as transition planning consultation and coaching to
students and families throughout New England.

To book Transition Services at NESCA or an evaluation with one of

our expert neuropsychologists, complete NESCA’s online intake
form. To book Transition Services in N.H., ask for Dina Karlon.

Neuropsychology & Education Services for Children & Adolescents (NESCA) is a pediatric neuropsychology
practice and integrative treatment center with offices in Newton and Plainville, Massachusetts, and Londonderry,
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