Eye Contact During Sex

Whether you’re talking, flirting, kissing or having sex, eye

contact is one of the most intimate things you can do with your
partner that breeds ultimate closeness. You know what they
say, eyes are the windows to the soul and they are able to
express things even before you ever say them. Learning to
embrace eye contact will help you and your partner become
better communicators. A lot of people have a difficult time
making eye contact, especially during intimate moments. It can
often feel a lot easier to look away or let your eyes wander
around the room, or do anything but look your partner right in
the eye.

In an age of social media and technological communication where a

lot of our interactions don’t happen in person, it can seem harder
than ever before to embrace eye contact. But, it’s important to work
on making eye contact with your partner even if it feels
uncomfortable at first. Making eye contact helps establish intimacy
and promote trust, which are key facets of any healthy relationship.
If you are intimidated by eye contact, you can focus on making eye
contact while talking, then incorporating eye contact into more
innately intimate things like kissing and sex. There is a lot of
psychology that suggests that eye contact is really important for
establishing and maintaining closeness in your relationships.
Here are a few ways that eye embracing eye contact can improve
your relationship

Eye contact is a super important form of visual

communication that indicates honesty and openness.
Even if you are telling the truth, people are more likely
to think that you are lying or being shady if you avoid
eye contact with them. Being able to make eye contact
is an important life skill in general, but it’s also very
important in your romantic relationships. Making eye
contact will make you seem more trustworthy and
sincere to your partner, which will encourage more
open and honest communication between the two of
you. Studies also show that maintaining eye contact in
a conversation encourages the other person to be more
honest as well.
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In addition to increasing overall honesty, research shows that making
eye contact also makes you seem more warm, personable and
likeable. All of these things will inspire better conversation with your
partner, which will improve your communication and overall
relationship. It’s important to distinguish intentional lack of eye
contact from eye contact avoidance. An intentional lack of eye contact
might indicate dishonesty, or nervousness and can be a red flag in
your relationship. Unintentional lack of eye contact is not purposeful,
and rather than indicating untrustworthiness, can just indicate that
the person is less aware of their use of eye contact, or is caught off
guard by your use of eye contact. It can be important to discuss a lack
of eye contact with your partner so that you can troubleshoot and
help them feel comfortable enough to engage in prolonged eye
contact.

Eye contact is not only important when you are talking, but it’s also
important when you are listening. Making eye contact with your
partner when you are listening to them is super important, because it
shows that they have your undivided attention. If your partner is
trying to communicate something but you’re on your phone, watching
TV or zoning out, they may feel as if you are not listening to them,
which can cause them to feel unheard or unseen in the relationship.
Whether your partner is talking about their day, the weather, or
something more important, they deserve your attention, and you can
show them they have your attention by making eye contact with them
and being an active listener.

Flirting is an important (and super fun) part of every relationship. And

eye contact can play a huge part in your flirtation. I mean what’s
sexier than a flirty glance from across the room, holding eye contact a
second longer than usual or a quick little up/down look. Using your
eyes can add a whole new dimension to your flirting, which can
increase both the playfulness and the sexual intrigue in your
relationship. If you and your partner are not used to prolonged eye
contact, you can start off with this type of playful eye contact.
Flirtatious eye contact doesn’t require the deep intimacy of other
types of prolonged eye contact, but it can help you become more
comfortable with eye contact in general, so that you can eventually
work your way up to prolonged gazing (see below
Intense or prolonged eye contact helps people feel seen and can
make them feel confident and even aroused. Not only can eye
contact heat things up, but it can also make sex more intimate. Eye
contact can replace verbal communication in the bedroom (though
verbal communication is also very important!), and you can use it to
indicate to your partner what feels good. Maintaining eye contact
while having sex also increases feelings of vulnerability, which may
sound like a bad thing at first, but is actually 100% positive.
Increased vulnerability leads to more bonding, which increases
feelings of trust and connectedness and can lead you to being more
in sync with your partner. And like we noted above, eye contact can
trigger the release of the pleasure hormone, dopamine, which can
make your sex not only more intimate, but more pleasurable and
exciting as well. It can be difficult to incorporate eye contact during
sex if it’s not something you’re used to, and it can even be surprising
to your partner if you just start starring into their eyes. It can be
helpful to talk about increasing eye contact during sex beforehand,
or working up to holding eye contact for longer and longer during
sex. Short spells of intimate eye contact can be a good starting
place. Like anything, this can take a little practice, but the payoff is
worth it!