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2. Body Posture
a. Be comfortable, he relaxed, lean forward slightly.
b. Be aware of personal distance.
c. Avoid distracting gestures or fidgeting.
3. Facial Expressions
a. Don’t be a brick wall!
b. Display appropriate empathy.
2. Silence
Silence in counselling gives the client control of the content, pace and objectives.This
includes the counsellor listening to silences as well as words, sitting with them and
recognising that the silences may facilitate the counselling process.
3. Simple reinforcers
These are sounds or phrases that encourage the client to speak e.g.” um-hmm”.
4. Invitation/Tack:
This is a very useful tool. It may be used when a counsellor deems it important to explore
details. Thus, he may say “Can you tell me more about that?”
5. Restatement:
This is the occasional verbatim repeating of some brief statement by the client. It may serve
to convey to the client that the counsellor is attending to them.
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significance of the details and experiences that have recently been related by tying them
together in a way they may not have seen.
Questions in counselling are classed as a basic skill. The counsellor uses open questions to
clarify his or her understanding of what the client is feeling.
Open questions are best asked when listening as they allow the speaker to recount their story
in their own words and will provide you with the information you need to give the
appropriate advice. Open questions also keep the speaker talking, as it is important they speak
more than you. For example:
“How do you feel about ____________?” is an open question and encourages a much longer
answer than “Are you happy with ________?”, which would prompt a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer
and halt the conversation.
Other examples of open questions are:
What made you come here today?
What do you think caused the situation?
Closed questions can be used to stop the conversation if the speaker is going off at a tangent.
8. Focusing
Focusing in counselling involves making decisions about what issues the client wants to deal
with.The client may have mentioned a range of issues and problems and focusing allows the
counsellor and client together to clear away some of the less important surrounding material
and concentrate on the central issues of concern.
9. Building Rapport
Building rapport with clients in counselling is important, whatever model of counselling the
counsellor is working with.Rapport means a sense of having a connection with the person.
10. Summarising
Summaries in counselling are longer paraphrases. They condense or crystallise the essence of
what the client is saying and feeling.The summary 'sums up' the main themes that are
emerging.
The counsellor draws together sequentially several discussion topics that have been covered.
This is normally done towards the end of the interview. This lead provides clients with
insight and a grasp of the connections of the parts of their problem which they may have
missed.
11. Immediacy
Using immediacy means that the therapist reveals how they themselves are feeling in
response to the client.According to Feltham and Dryden (1993: 88), immediacy is ‘the key
skill of focusing attention on the here and now relationship of counsellor and client with
helpful timing, in order to challenge defensiveness and/or heighten awareness.
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1. Identify the feelings
a. Ask feelings questions “How do you feel about that?” “How do you feel?” “What feelings
does that bring up in you?”
b. Paraphrase spoken feelings “So you are feeling ____, is that right?” “Sounds like you are
really_____." “You must feel pretty _____."
14. Approval: Approval is a strong reinforcement of something reported by the client. If the
client recounts having taken a new and desirable action, the counselor should strengthen the
likelihood that the new action will be permanent.
15. Confrontation: There are times when the client needs to be aware of the contradictions
that he is making. The counselor confronts the client with this contradiction, so as to cause
the client to become aware of and the deal with them resolutely if possible and painfully if
need be.