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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Quarter 1- Module 1:

Knowing and Understanding


Oneself during Middle and Late Adolescence

Department of Education ● Republic of the Philippines


Personal Development– Grade 12
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Quarter 1– Module 1: Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and 12
Late Adolescence
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Table of Contents
What This Module is About .....................................................................................
What I Need to Know .............................................................................................. 1
How to Learn from this Module .............................................................................. 1
Icons of this Module ............................................................................................... 2
What I Know .......................................................................................................... 3
Lesson 1: Knowing yourself can make you accept your strengths and
limitations and dealing with others better
Whats In ............................................................................................ 5
What’s New: Self Concept Inventory ................................................. 6
Actvitity 2: Self-Awareness ........................................... 7
Activity 3: Strength Exploration .................................... 8
What Is It: .......................................................................................... 11
What’s More: Johari Exercise ........................................................... 13
Lesson 2: Sharing your unique characteristics, habits and experiences
Activity 5: Who I Am ............................................................................................... 16
What Is It: 10 Things that Make You Unique ................................... 17
What I Can Do: … ........................................................................... 20
Summary/What I Have Learned ........................................................................... 20
Additional Activities .............................................................................................. 21
Assessment: (Post-Test) ...................................................................................... 24
Key to Answers .................................................................................................... 26
References ........................................................................................................... 27
Welcome to
PERSONAL
DEVELOPMENT
MODULE 1
Knowing and
Understanding Oneself
during Middle and Late
Adolescence

To the Student of Personal Development:

Welcome to this course, PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT, or


PERDEV for short. This is a very interesting course, and can
become the most personally rewarding for you, because the
subject matter for this course is YOU!

As a new senior high school student, you have now entered a


new educational level, as well as a new psychological and social
level, called the middle and late adolescence. You may feel that
you are no longer the rapidly growing and awkward teenager, but
you also feel you are not quite ready to call yourself a mature
adult either.

Personal development is the process of improving yourself. But


you can only improve yourself if you know who you are. How well
you know yourself? Developing oneself opens you to new
discoveries and new growth. The journey may be long but it’s
worth taking. Taking your tiny steps to start building your life now
determines a brighter future ahead of you.

This course shall make you take a deeper look at yourself and
analyze your developmental changes, your skills and traits which
can help you meet the various tasks that you must undertake at
this point in your life. It shall provide you with some techniques to
meet stress and other mental health issues with one’s strengths
and coping powers. The course shall also give you the chance to
analyze your relationships with your family, friends and
significant others. Finally, the PERDEV course shall help you
take stock of where you are in your career development and how
to get to where you want to be.
What I need to know

This module contains some activities that can guide you in understanding yourself in
paving the way to self-acceptance and better relationship with others.

As we embark on a journey called life, knowing our strengths and weaknesses are
the best ticket to enjoy the ride. Embracing our unique self builds a strong foundation
of becoming a better daughter or a better son, a better friend or even a better citizen.
It may not happen overnight. It’s a process. The adventure starts when you discover
your unique characteristics, habits and experiences. The moment you share it to
others life begins to unfold.

After going through this module, you are expected to:

1. Explain that knowing yourself can make you accept your strengths and
limitations and dealing with others better;
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2. Share your unique characteristics, habits and experiences; and


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How to learn this module

To attain the goals of this module, please do the following;

1. Take your time to read and understand the concepts in this module.
2. Follow the instruction carefully in every given task.
3. Answers all the given test and exercise
4. Work on the activities in this module and in every performance task given.
5. Take the Post-Test after you are done with all the lessons and activities in the
module
6. Familiarize yourselves with the given terms.
7. Meet with your teacher. Ask him/her about any difficulty or confusion you have
encountered in this module.
8. Finally, prepare and gather all your outputs and submit them to your teacher.
9. Please write all your answers of the tests, activities, exercises, and others on
your separate activity notebook.

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ICONS OF THIS MODULE

ICON LABEL IN THE MODULE DETAILS

What I Need to Know This part contains learning


objectives that are set for you to
Learning Objectives learn as you go along the module

What I Know? This is an assessment as to your


level of knowledge to the subject
Pre-Assessment matter at hand, meant specifically
to gauge prior related knowledge
What’s In? This part connects the current
lesson with the previous lesson by
Review Activity going over points that were taught
or learned previously
What’s New This part introduces the new
lesson through various activities
Motivational Activity like story, an activity, a poem, a
song, or a situation
What is it This a brief discussion of the
lesson as a way to deepen your
Lesson Proper discovery and understanding of the
concept
What’s More These are follow-up activities that
are intended for you to practice
Performance Task further in order to master the
competencies
What I Have Learned Activities designed to process what
you have learned from the lesson
Generalization

What I Can Do? These are tasks that are designed


to showcase your skills and
Application knowledge gained and applied into
real life concerns and situations
Assessment This part evaluate your level of
mastery in achieving the learners
Post-Assessment objectives

Additional Activities Thus are activities in any form that


can increase the strength of the
Enrichment response and tends to induce
repetitions of actions/learning

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What I know
PRE-ASSESSMENT

As an initial activity, you will be assessed on your prior knowledge about finding the
answers to the research questions. This is to find out what are the things you need to
learn more about the subject matter.

Multiple Choice: Encircle the letter of the best answer

1. Which of the following refers to your awareness of yourself?


A. Actual self C. Self-Concept
B. Ideal self D. Self-Image

2. Which statement pertains to Self-knowledge?


A. It is the self that you aspire to be.
B. It is the self that you actually see.
C. It is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how others
react to you.
D. It is an idealized image that we developed over time, based on what we
have learned and experienced.

3. It is the one that you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a
mentor or some other worldly figure.
A. Actual self C. Self-Concept
B. Ideal self D. Self-Image

4. It is the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, or in some
cases, born to have.
A. Actual self C. Self-Concept
B. Ideal self D. Self-Image

5. It is the union of elements, namely: body, thoughts, feelings or emotions, and


sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person.
A. Habit C. Self-Concept
B. Self D. Self-Image

6. It is a simple and useful tool for understanding and training self-awareness,


personal development, improving communications, interpersonal relationships,
group dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships.
A. Johari Window C. Self-Concept
B. Self Assessment D. Self-Image

7. In Johari Window, it is the quadrant where others know about you and you
know too.
A. Blind Self C. Open Self
B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self

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8. There are often parts of our selves that are too private to share with others
wherein we hide these away and refuse to discuss them with other people or
even expose them in any way.
A. Blind Self C. Open Self
B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self

9. This is part of yourself where What others know about you, but you don’t.
A. Blind Self C. Open Self
B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self

10. This is part of yourself that others don’t know about you and you don’t either
A. Blind Self C. Open Self
B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self

11. It is shaped from a variety of factors like beliefs, thoughts, expressions,


associations and external influence
A. Aspirations C. Belief
B. Attitude D. Moral

12. Which of the following statement showed is most likely not a good habit?
A. Adventure Maniac C. Computer geeks
B. Chain smokers D. Early riser

13. It is a dynamic concept and you tend to imbibe things, which you learn out of
your daily experiences.
A. Appearance C. Personality
B. Hobbies D. Self-Concept

14. It is the first thing that people would visualize when they think of you.

A. Appearance C. Habits
B. Attitude D. Signature Style

15. Which of the following does NOT describe a NAÏVE persona?

A. They talk little about themselves and may spend a significant amount of
time ensconced in their own private world.
B. They know relatively little about themselves, they may be of lower
intelligence, not being able to relate either to themselves or to others
C. They are so comfortable with themselves they are not ashamed or
troubled with the notion of other people seeing themselves as they really
are.
D. They hide little about themselves and are typically considered as
harmless by others, who either treat them in kind, and perhaps
patronizing ways (that go unnoticed) or take unkind advantage of their
naivety

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Lesson Knowing yourself can make you accept your strengths and

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limitations and dealing with others better
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What’s In

Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self
or your actual self?

SELF is the union of elements, namely: Body, thoughts, feelings or emotions, and
sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person. Your ideal self is
the self that you aspire to be. It is an idealized version of yourself created of what you
have learned from your life experiences, the demands of society, and what you
admire in your role model. Your actual self, however, is the one that you actually see.
It is your presentation of the attributes that you believe you actually possess, or that
you believe others believe you possess. It is the self that has characteristics that you
were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.

The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self-
concept refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these
two selves. In other worlds, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as
separate from others, and second, it encompasses al the behaviors evaluated on the
actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self.

The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social


interactions that provide insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who
we actually are. It is how we think, how we feel, look, and act. The actual self can be
seen by others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view us,
the actual self is our self-image.

The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that
we have developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The
ideal self could include components of what our parents have taught us, what we
admire in others, what our society promotes, and what we think is in our best
interest.

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SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY
ACTIVITY 1
What’s New

Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the following self-
concept inventory in your journal. Give yourself a rating using the scale:
0 = very weak; 1 = weak; 2 = somewhat weak or somewhat at strong;
3 = strong; 4 = very strong
___1. I have strong sex appeal.
___2. I am proud of my physical figure.
___3. I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome.
___4. I exude with charm and poise.
___5. I am easy to get along with.
___6. I can adjust to different people and different situations.
___7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with me.
___8. I am lovable and easy to love.
___9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction.
___10. I am intelligent.
___11. I have special talents and abilities.
___12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments.
___13. I can be trusted in any transaction.
___14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilty feeling.
___15. I have integrity and good reputation.
___16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth emulating.
___17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.
___18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to accept what I say.
___19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty.
___20. I am a good listener.
___21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with trouble.
___22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions.
___23. I feel and act with confidence.
___24. I am a mature person
Scoring: Copy this table in your journal. Write your score opposite each number and get the
subtotal.
Physical Human Intelligence Character Communications Maturity
appeal Relations 9. ______ 13. ______ 17. ______ 21. _____
1. ______ 5. ______ 10. ______ 14. ______ 18. ______ 22. _____
2. ______ 6. ______ 11. ______ 15. ______ 19. ______ 23. _____
3. ______ 7. ______ 12. ______ 16. ______ 20. _______ 24. _____
4. _______ 8. _______ Subtotal:__ Subtotal:__ Subtotal:___ Subtotal:_
Subtotal:__ Subtotal:__

How do you perceive yourself?


Look at the results of your self-concept inventory and answer the following
questions.
1. In what areas do you consider yourself strong (with score 14-16 or somewhat
weak (score of 10-13) and very weak (below 10).
2. Are there qualities you consider as your weakness but other people consider
as your strength? What are these? Check with a partner.

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SELF-AWARENESS
ACTIVITY 2

What are three of your greatest What two things that seems harder for
strengths? you than other learners your age?
1. _____________________________ 1. _____________________________
2. _____________________________ 2. _____________________________
3. _____________________________

List three of your current successes


(big or small): Why was I
1. _____________________________ become
2. _____________________________
successful?
3. _____________________________

List two things you did recently that you


What could I could have done better:
have done 1. _____________________________
differently? 2. _____________________________

Who do you turn for help with things that


are hard for you?
How do thinking and
learning differences
Do you think struggling with things makes me stronger?
makes you a stronger person?
(YES____ / NO_____ )

Source:https://bit.ly/3d0q

Are you open to talking with friends


about what you’re strong at and what
How can I describe my you struggle with? (YES____ /
unique way of learning to NO_____ )
friends and teachers? Are
Are you open to asking teachers for
there any adult who can
help with things that are hard for you?
help me thin this through?
(YES____ / NO_____ )

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STRENGTH EXPLORATION
ACTIVITY 3

Research in positive psychology has shown us that people who know their
strengths and use them frequently tend to feel happier, have better self-
esteem, and are more likely to accomplish their goals. However, many people
have a hard time identifying their strengths. They see them as ordinary, even
when they are not. Strengths are natural capabilities and skills that each
person has. When a person uses their strengths, they tend to feel energized,
and they report higher levels of self-esteem, well-being, and other desirable
outcomes.

Asking about strengths.

Although many people have a hard time identifying their strengths, asking direct
questions is a good place to begin.

• What are you good at?


• What do you enjoy doing?
• In what areas of your life have you been most successful?
• What sort of activities fill you with energy?
• What traits do you admire in other people?

None of these prompts ask directly about strengths, but their answers will often
provide clues.
Watching for strengths.
Body language, tone, emotion, and behavior are excellent clues for spotting
strengths.

Signs of Strengths
• Being drawn to things that allow for use of the strength.
• Desiring to use the strength and feeling drained if not using it.
• Prioritizing tasks that require use of the strength.
• Desire to learn new information related to the strength.
• Sense of energy and engagement when using the strength.
• Having success when using the strength.

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STRENGTH EXPLORATION
ACTIVITY 3

Those who know their strengths and use them frequently tend to have more success
in several areas. They feel happier, have better self-esteem, and are more likely to
accomplish their goals.

To use strengths effectively, it’s important to have a clear idea of what they are, and
how they can be used. Some of your greatest strengths might be easy to recognize,
while others go unnoticed because they feel ordinary to you (even if they aren’t).

In this worksheet you will identify your strengths and ways in which you are
already using them. Additionally, you will explore new ways to use your
strengths to your advantage.

Circle your strength from the choices below, or add your own at the bottom

Wisdom Artistic Ability Curiosity Leadership

Empathy Honesty Open Mindedness Persistence

Enthusiasm Kindness Love Social Awareness

Fairness Bravey Cooperation Forgiveness

Modesty Common Sense Self-Control Patience

Gratitude Love of Learning Humor Spirituality

Ambition Creativity Confidence Intelligence

Athleticism Discipline Assertiveness Logic

Optimism Independence Flexibility Adventurousness

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STRENGTH EXPLORATION
ACTIVITY 4

Relationship
Romantic relationships, friendship, and family

List the strengths you possess that help you in your relationship

Describe a specific time your strengths were able to help you in a relationship

Describe two new ways you could use your strengths in relationships

https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/strengths-based-therapy

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What is It

JOHARI WINDOW

Self Awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths,


weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self Awareness allows you
to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses
to them in the moment.

Johari window is a simple and useful tool for understanding and training self-
awareness, personal development, improving communications, interpersonal
relationships, group dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships.

It is a technique to improve self-awareness within an individual. It helps undertanding


your relationship with yourself and others. It is a method used for self-discovery. It
allows people to identify their strengths, weaknesses, and blind spots.

It is a diagram showing four different selves and how the awareness or otherwise of
these aspects of our self by others and ourselves leads to four categories (The public
self, the private self, the blind self and the undiscovered self)

Increased self-disclosure generally leads to greater self-awareness. The concept of


self-disclosure refers to the sharing of information about oneself with others either
consciously or unconsciously

The Johari Windows is made of four regions or quadrants:

Open Self – What others know about you and you know too.

This is the Public Self- the part of ourselves that we are happy to share with others
and discuss openly. Thus you and I both see and can talk openly about this “me” and
gain a common view of who I am in this element.

Blind Self – What others know about you, but you don’t.

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We often assume that the public and private selves are all that we are.
However, the views that others have of us may be different from those we have of
ourselves. For example a person who considers themselves as intelligent may be
viewed as arrogant and socially ignorant by others. 10 Our blind self may remain
blind because others will not discuss this part of us for a range of reasons.
Perhaps they realize that we would be unable to accept what they see. Perhaps
they have tried to discuss this and we have been so blind that we assume their
views are invalid. They may also withhold this information as it gives them power
over us.

Hidden Self – What others don’t know about you, but you do. It’s your secrets.

The Private Self- There are often parts of our selves that are too private to share with
others. We hide these away and refuse to discuss them with other people or even
expose them in any way. Private elements may be embarrassing or shameful in
some way. They may also be feared or avoided being discussed for reasons of
vulnerability. Between the public and private selves, there are partly private, partly
public aspects of our selves that we are prepared to share only with trusted others.

Unknown Self – What others don’t know about you and you don’t either.

The Undiscovered Self- Finally, the fourth self is one which neither we nor other
people see. This undiscovered self may include both good and bad things that may
remain forever undiscovered or may one day be discovered, entering the private,
blind or maybe even public selves. Between the Blind and Undiscovered Selves, are
partly hidden selves that only some people see. Psychologists and those who are
more empathetic, for example, may well see more than the average person.

Self-Awareness and Self-Disclosure

Showing people who you are requires self-awareness and self-


disclosure. The Johari Window is effectively a lens on your own self-awareness as
well as a lens on self-disclosure. You can think of your self-awareness and self-
disclosure as slider bars and the Johari Window can help you figure out where your
slider bars are at.

Key Scenarios for the Johari Window

You can use the Johari Window to help you with the following scenarios:
Understanding how you communicate with yourself and others.

Understanding how you present yourself to yourself and others.

Understanding how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you.

Understanding actions vs. motivations.

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JOHARI WINDOW EXERCISE

What’s More

ACTIVITY 5

In this exercise you need to be with a group or with your peers. The purpose is to for
you to know more about yourself. Assume positive intentions when selecting
adjectives. Approach this exercise with an open mind. Multiple peers to fill your
Johari window is suggested.

Table of Adjectives

Able Accepting Adaptable Bold Brave Calm


Caring Cheerful Clever Complex Confident Dependable
Dignified Energetic Extroverted Friendly Giving Happy
Helpful Idealistic Independent Ingenious Introverted Kind
Knowledgeable Logical Loving Mature Modest
Nervous Observant Organized Patient Powerful Proud
Quiet Reflective Relaxed Religious Responsive Searching
Self-assertive Self-Conscious Sentimental Shy
Silly Spontaneous Sympathetic Tense Warm
Wise Witty

The key steps are:

1. You are given a list of 55 adjectives


2. You pick 5 or 6 that you think describes your personality
3. Peers are given the same list and they each pick 5 or 6 adjectives that they think
describe you.
4. You arrange the adjectives on the Johari Window based on awareness.
Here’s the summary of how to place the adjectives

Open Self Hidden Self Blind Self Unknown Self


(Arena) (Façade) (Blind Spot)
Adjectives you and Adjectives selected Adjectives selected Adjectives not
your peers selected by you only by your peers only selected by anybody

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Reducing Your Blind Spots and Increasing the Open Area

The more you know about yourself and the more other people know about you, the
more you can communicate on the same wavelength. By asking for feedback you
can simultaneously reduce your Blind Spot while increasing the amount and quality
of information you can share in the Open Self.

Source: http://sourcesofinsight.com/know-and-share-yourself-enough/

Four personas

Associated with the Johari Window, we can define four different personas, based on
the largest 'self' or based on the number of adjectives in the previous activity.

1. The Open Persona

Someone with an open persona is both very self-aware (with a small blind self) and
is quite happy to expose their self to others (a small private self). The Open person is
usually the most 'together' and relaxed of the personas. They are so comfortable with
themselves they are not ashamed or troubled with the notion of other people seeing
themselves as they really are. With a small Blind Self, they make fewer social errors
and cause less embarrassment. They are also in a more powerful position in
negotiations, where they have fewer weaknesses to be exploited. Becoming an Open
Persona usually takes people much time and effort, unless they were blessed with a
wonderful childhood and grew up well-adjusted from the beginning. It can require
courage to accept others’ honest views and also to share your deeper self and
explore the depths of the undiscovered self. The weaker side of the Open Persona is
where they understand and share themselves, but do not understand others. They
may thus dump embarrassing information from their Private Selves onto others who
are not ready to accept it.

2. The Naive Persona

The Naive Persona has a large Blind Self that others can see. They are thus may
make significant social gaffes and not even realize what they have done or how
others see them. They hide little about themselves and are typically considered as
harmless by others, who either treat them in kind, and perhaps patronizing ways (that
go unnoticed) or take unkind advantage of their naivety. The Naive Persona may
also be somewhat of a bull in a china shop, for example using aggression without
realizing the damage that it does, and can thus be disliked or feared. They may also
wear their heart on their sleeves and lack the emotional intelligence to see how
others see them.

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3. The Secret Persona

When a person has a large Private Self, they may appear distant and secretive to
others.They talk little about themselves and may spend a significant amount of time
ensconced in their own private world. In conversations they say little and, as a result,
may not pay a great deal of attention to others. Having a smaller Blind Self (often
because they give little away), the Secret Persona may well be aware of their
introverted tendencies, but are seldom troubled about this. Where they are troubled,
their introversion is often as a result of personal traumas that have led them to retreat
from the world.

3. The Mysterious Persona

Sometimes people are a mystery to themselves as well as to other people. They act
in strange ways and do not notice it. They may be very solitary, yet not introverted.
As the Mysterious Persona knows relatively little about themselves, they may be of
lower intelligence, not being able to relate either to themselves or to others. They
may also just prefer to live in the moment, taking each day as it comes and not
seeking self-awareness. Some forms of esoteric self-developments seek to rid
oneself of concerns about the self in order to achieve a higher state of being. They
may deliberately enter states of nonthinking and revel in such intuitive paradoxes as
knowing through not knowing.

Source: https://www.aspira.org/sites/default/files/U_III_M_1_SA.pdf

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Lesson Share your unique characteristics, habits and
2 experiences; and
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WHO AM I?
ACTIVITY 5

About Me:
The purpose of this exercise is to encourage you to start thinking about what makes
you the unique person that you are

Complete the following:

My favorite food

My favorite place

An important person in my life

My favorite possession

A group I belong to

My favorite pastime

A dream for the future

Something I dislike

Something I’m good at

I was really happy when

Something that my friends like about me

I’m proud of

My family was happy when I

Something that make me unique is

Source: https://bit.ly/3cWa5r5 and TherapistAid.com

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What is It

10 THINGS THAT MAKE YOU UNIQUE

1. You are known for your signature Style:

Everybody carries their signature style wherever they go. Signature style
would be the first thing that people would visualize when they think of you. People
can be funny, boring, dizzy, entertaining, enthusiastic, curious, sweet, kinky,
adventurous, threatening or serene. This signature style may be prevalent in the first
meet or may be understood by a person who meets you, in course of time. But once
they know what your style is, they will always associate you or see you as a person
possessing these predefined virtues. So it is basically your signature style that finds
you an eternal space in memories of other people. It makes you special. It makes
you “YOU”.

2. Your past experiences:

Rightly said, what you are today is out of what happened to you yesterday.
Everybody has had his/her set of sweet and sour experiences in past. Your
personality emerges out of what you go through and learn out of these experiences.
A person who has seen only positives may be an optimist where has one who has
suffered hardships and trustbreaks is more cautious in approach. Personality is a
dynamic concept and you tend to imbibe things which you learn out of your daily
experiences. So all the significant or not so significant things that happen with us
gradually mould our character and make us different from everyone else.

3. Ethics and Morals Instilled in You:

Perhaps the most important part of you, on basis of which you stand as an
individual today is your ethical substance. Ethics and morals are instilled within a kid
from childhood, and these depend upon the background of the family as well as the
location and society where the kid is brought up. However the extent of internalizing
social norms is purely individualistic. Also, what is particularly important from an
individual point of view is your unique interpretation and acceptance/unacceptance of
social order. You will be known for your morals as they will reflect in every decision
you take throughout your life.

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4. Attitude:

People have some habitual attitude of their own, which may be positive and
negative. Some may win over obstacles with the right attitude while some may even
have an attitude problem. Attitude is the way in which we implement our ethics or
principles. Attitude is shaped from a variety of factors like beliefs, thoughts,
expressions, associations and external influence. Your attitude is purely yours,
uniquely yours. Attitude makes you and attitude ruins you. What you need to
understand is that people will perceive you in illumination of your attitude, both
towards them and towards life.

5. Your appearance says a lot about you:

Next on our list is your appearance. By this I do not necessarily mean your
body and features. Every one biologically is different, owing their look to their genes.
But apart from the natural differences, you also carry your unique style in your looks.
You are known for your appearance in terms of your hair cut, dressing sense, your
accessories, your makeup and your confidence. For example, consider how uniquely
Vidya Balan and Frieda Pinto carry their styles. One is known for her beautiful South
Indian sarees while the other for her extravagant gowns. The best example if we are
talking about looks and uniqueness would be Lady Gaga. She makes her unique
style statement everytime she is out. So, your appearance plays an important part in
building your individuality.

6. Your way of communication:

Communication is the real essence of this social world. People see you in the
light of what and how you have communicated with them. Communication involves
everything – your accent, your language, your expressions, your signs, your texts,
your writings – everything. Some people can communicate at once and some need
time to come out of inertia. But the way you speak or express your things is the
quintessence of your personality. Communication makes great orators or bloggers
and imparts them their unique style. Communication is what makes great actors too.

7. Your habits or hobbies:

It is very usual in daily worldly affairs to get known for your habits or hobbies.
Chain smokers, early risers, computer geeks, drinkers, adventure maniacs, book
worms etc are some of the phrases which are used to describe people on the basis
of their habits and hobbies. Your interests are reflected in the habits you build or the
hobbies you cultivate, and such unique interests make you unique. You can be a
person known for your fashion statements, or you can be a person known to have
large number of pets. It all depends on what interests you, and it varies from person
to person. Habits make you. Hobbies complete you.

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8. Your relationships:

Yes, your relationships speak a lot about you. Your conduct in any relationship
makes you different. You will be known for how you behave with others, specially the
opposite sex. There are people who do not even care for parents, and on the other
hand, there are also people who are generous towards acquaintances. Some people
are very polite and friendly towards others, while scornful people exist too. So your
ways in dealing with people around you are absolutely different and unique. That
makes you special, loved or hated.

9. Your aspirations and goals:

Almost every person on earth has a goal, or a vision, or atleast a hope to


achieve something. Their dreams may be big or small, for short run or long run, for
themselves or their family, but their dreams exist. You too might be cultivating an
ambition within the bounds of your eyes. You may be an aspiring doctor, actor,
engineer, economist, sociologist, historian, or chartered accountant or any other
thing for that matter, but these aspirations are part of your unique identity. Every day,
we may set big or small goals for ourselves. You, then, may be able to complete
them or may not be. But these goals make us what we are. They make you realize
your caliber along with shaping your future.

10. Your beliefs and culture:

What do you believe about this world? What do you think of the tiniest and the
hugest of things on earth? How much are you drawn towards the mysteries of life?
Most importantly, what do you believe about yourself? Different people may answer
these questions differently. Perhaps you won’t have the same beliefs as your dad or
as your son. These beliefs are what make you a different person. Also, your
approach towards god, evil and spirituality imparts individuality to you. Nextly, what is
your culture? Do you follow your culture like every other person in your society? How
ethnic are you? Or maybe, how conservative or liberal are you-all of it reflects in your
decisions and makes you different from all others

Source: https://listontap.com/10-things-make-unique/

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What I can Do

SHARING YOUR UNIQUE


ACTIVITY 6 CHARACTERISTICS HABITS AND
EXPERIENCE

JOURNAL WRITING

You are you, and no one else. You are unique. You are special. Believe it or not,
every person is different from the other in one or more ways, and so are you. Its time
for you to reflect on what makes you unique.

1. What is your own signature style:


2. What Share past experiences:
3. What are Ethics and Morals Instilled in You:
4. What are the attitudes you find likeable in you?
5. What type of appearance says a lot about you?
6. What are your ways of communication?
7. What are your habits or hobbies?
8. How do you deal with your relationships with your peers?
9. What are your aspirations and goals?
10. What are your beliefs and culture?

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What I Have Learned

GENERALIZATION

Fill in the blank. Use the word inside the box.

Self Johari Window Open Self Blind Self

Hidden Self Unknown Self Ideal Self Actual Self

Self-Concept Self Knowledge Strength

Signature style Communication Attitude Self Awareness

__________ 1. The union of elements, namely: Body, thoughts, feelings or


emotions, and sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person
___________2. a simple and useful tool for understanding and training self-awareness,
personal development, improving communications, interpersonal relationships, group
dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships.
__________ 3. What others know about you and you know too.
__________ 4. What others know about you, but you don’t.
__________ 5. What others don’t know about you, but you do. It’s your secrets.
__________ 6. What others don’t know about you and you don’t either
__________ 7. The self that you aspire to be.
__________ 8. The self that you actually see.
__________ 9. It refers to your awareness of yourself
__________ 10 It is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how
others react to you.
__________ 11. Things we can do well
__________ 12. The first thing that people would visualize when they think of you
__________ 13. The real essence of this social world
__________ 14. It is shaped from a variety of factors like beliefs, thoughts,
expressions, associations and external influence.
__________ 15. It is having a clear perception of your personality, including
strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions.

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Additional Activities

MY SYMBOL
ACTIVITY 7

Think of a symbol that you think represents you. This could be anything- an animal,
object or another representation that you think defines and describes you

Draw it here

List some of the qualities or characteristics that the symbol represents for you.

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COLLAGE ME
ACTIVITY 8

Another great way to get you working visually as you develop your self-concept is to
create collages. Use old magazines and catalogues for this activity. You may use a
large piece of paper to work with. You should cut out pictures that tyou associate
withyour identity; these might be things you love, pictures that represent your
strengths, or images representing things you are working on. Share their collages
with their classmates.

SELF PORTRAIT IN ACTION


ACTIVITY 9

Using a small mirror, you draw yourself. You may use black or colored pencils, but
any medium could be used. The picture does not have to be exact, but it should be
representative of you. These portraits also go into the journals. An optional variation
is to divide the shape for the face down the center lengthwise. Half the face can be a
depiction of how you see yourself, and the other how he thinks others see you. This
is accompanied by a journal entry that describes how you sees yourself versus how
you thinks others see you.

These activities are just the tip of the iceberg. There are many other activities
through can help you build a positive self-concept. These types of activities hopefully
give the strength to withstand the pressures of the pack; hopefully enable you to
resist that pull to metamorphoses into who you’re not.

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Assessment

Multiple Choice: Encircle the letter of the best answer

1. It is shaped from a variety of factors like beliefs, thoughts, expressions,


associations and external influence
A. Aspirations C. Belief
B. Attitude D. Moral

2. Which of the following statement showed is most likely not a good habit?
A. Adventure Maniac C. Computer geeks
B. Chain smokers D. Early riser

3. It is a dynamic concept and you tend to imbibe things, which you learn out of
your daily experiences.
A. Appearance C. Personality
B. Hobbies D. Self-Concept

4 . It is the first thing that people would visualize when they think of you.

A. Appearance C. Habits
B. Attitude D. Signature Style

5. Which of the following does NOT describe a NAÏVE persona?

A. They talk little about themselves and may spend a significant amount of
time ensconced in their own private world.
B. They know relatively little about themselves, they may be of lower
intelligence, not being able to relate either to themselves or to others
C. They are so comfortable with themselves they are not ashamed or
troubled with the notion of other people seeing themselves as they really
are.
D. They hide little about themselves and are typically considered as
harmless by others, who either treat them in kind, and perhaps
patronizing ways (that go unnoticed) or take unkind advantage of their
naivety

6. It is a simple and useful tool for understanding and training self-awareness,


personal development, improving communications, interpersonal relationships,
group dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships.
A. Johari Window C. Self-Concept
B. Self Assessment D. Self-Image

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7. In Johari Window, it is the quadrant where others know about you and you
know too.
A. Blind Self C. Open Self
C. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self

8. There are often parts of our selves that are too private to share with others
wherein we hide these away and refuse to discuss them with other people or
even expose them in any way.
A. Blind Self C. Open Self
B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self

9. This is part of yourself where What others know about you, but you don’t.
A. Blind Self C. Open Self
B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self

10. This is part of yourself that others don’t know about you and you don’t either
A. Blind Self C. Open Self
B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self

11. Which of the following refers to your awareness of yourself?


A. Actual self C. Self-Concept
B. Ideal self D. Self-Image

12. Which statement pertains to Self-knowledge?


A. It is the self that you aspire to be.
B. It is the self that you actually see.
C. It is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how others
react to you.
D. It is an idealized image that we developed over time, based on what we
have learned and experienced.

13. It is the one that you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a
mentor or some other worldly figure.
A. Actual self C. Self-Concept
B. Ideal self D. Self-Image

14. It is the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, or in some
cases, born to have.
A. Actual self C. Self-Concept
B. Ideal self D. Self-Image

15. It is the union of elements, namely: body, thoughts, feelings or emotions, and
sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person.
A. Habit C. Self-Concept
B. Self D. Self-Image

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