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BARBARA BAIRD
ISSN 1833-4512 © 2007 Author and Gay & Lesbian Issues and Psychology Interest Group of the Australian Psychological Society
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marriages, I used Judith Butler’s (1991) clever both the mainstream and then the gay and
deconstruction of the hegemonic binary lesbian press (Mitchell, 2002). While the demand
relationship between heterosexuality and for the legal recognition of ‘same sex
homosexuality, where heterosexuality is the relationships’ at the state level had been the key
original and homosexuality is the copy, to make issue for lesbian and gay politics in Australia
two other points. First, that we should not see since the mid 1990s, (and has been largely
marriages between women as simply mimicry or successful), the demand to legalise gay
appropriation of the heterosexual form. It is not marriage, a separate matter of federal
that they are something else entirely, nor that jurisdiction, was not prominent in this period.
they are not in some ways influenced by the Gay marriage leap-frogged to the front of the
forms of (legal) heterosexual marriage but, to political agenda only when, in the lead-up to the
borrow from Butler, they are not determined by 2004 federal election, the incumbent Coalition
them (pp. 313-4). Further, we must reject the government, with support from the Labor party,
superior value given to heterosexual marriage explicitly legislated against it.4 The government
forms. was responding to legal action initiated by a
small number of lesbian and gay couples who
With respect to my claiming of a long history of had married legally in Canada and were seeking
female-female marriages (and I assume of male- legal status for their overseas marriages in
male marriage) it is, however, notable that Australia. It was also recognising an issue with
lesbian and gay couples are almost entirely potentially divisive election value. Kerryn and
absent in the history of the post-Stonewall gay Jackie’s marriage was not the first to feature
and lesbian rights movements in Australia. In prominently in the Australian media, although it
the historical accounts of the gay and lesbian did establish a new standard for the
movements (e.g., Willett, 2000) couples hardly normalisation of lesbian (and gay) marriages. In
figure at all and it was not until the early-mid the three years since the Australian government
1990s that the legal recognition of lesbian and insisted that marriage was between a man and a
gay relationships became part of the political women Sir Elton John has married his male
agenda of the various lesbian and gay activist partner of many years in the UK (in December
groups. While the emergence of the Gay 2005) and received the usual media attention
Liberation movement ushered in an un- that comes to celebrities of his stature; the US
precedented visibility for homosexuality, and the television series Queer As Folk, which screens in
‘reverse discourse’ of homosexuality (Foucault, Australia, has featured two marriages involving
1990) took on a new cultural confidence as well lead characters in its last two series which
as a new style of political resistance, couples screened in 2004 and 2005; and, locally, the
have not been at the forefront of the marriage of Adelaide gay activist Ian Purcell to
representation of the movement, in its own his long-time partner Stephen Leahy in Canada
materials or in its representation in popular in July 2006 featured prominently in the
media. I have argued (Baird, 2005, p. 256) that, Adelaide press on their return (Wheatley, 2006).
at least in the early days of gay and lesbian Gay marriage is now a political issue on which
movements in Australia, homosexual mainstream politicians comment as a matter of
partnerships were too shameful for the more course (e.g., Anon.).
conservative liberal reform organisations of the
movement and too respectable for the gay I have found a brief article by Canadian scholar
liberation and radical lesbian groups. Mariana Valverde (2006) extraordinarily helpful
in understanding the normalisation of gay and
Gay Marriage and ‘the Respectable lesbian couples and the recent prominence of
Same-Sex Couple’ gay marriage as a political issue. While my 2005
article placed contemporary gay and lesbian
The article that I wrote three years ago pivoted couples in a historically continuous tradition,
on the national publicity achieved by prominent Valverde takes the opposite approach. She
media medico Kerryn Phelps and teacher Jackie announces a discontinuity, indeed a new entity
Stricker when they married in 1997. Their in the history of sexuality. Both following and
marriage was celebrated first by a liberal rabbi in superceding Michel Foucault’s (1990) ground-
New York and then later confirmed at a lavish
wedding party in Sydney, making headlines in 4
A brief but comprehensive overview of state and
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can be found in HREOC 2007.
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breaking work in the history of sexuality, she have sex with men’. She claims that AIDS
claims that there is a new object (and so experts are disinterested in these men’s
subject) emerging out of the space previously identities. They are, through a public health
filled only by ‘homosexuality’. She recalls a framework, concerned only with their
passage from a 1987 book by another French behaviours. The centrepiece of her argument is
philosopher, Jean Baudrillard, which while that we are witnessing a post homosexual era is
admiring Foucault, predicted that the ‘sexuality’ the ‘respectable same-sex couple’. She observes
that he so brilliantly identified for us was already that this couple is not understood with reference
then ‘in the process of disappearing’ (Baudrillard to truths about their inner selves. Nor are they
quoted in Valverde, p. 156). For Valverde the understood, interestingly, with reference to sex.
demise of ‘sexuality’ is signalled by the They are not ‘two homosexuals added together’
‘respectable same-sex couple’. (p. 156). They are something quite new.
A brief rehearsal of her argument is needed for It is relevant to note that Valverde writes from
my purposes here. Valverde (2006) starts with Canada, where gay and lesbian marriage was
the now widely-accepted Foucauldian account legalised nationally in 2005 and where gay and
that asserts that ‘homosexuality’ (and indeed lesbian couples come from all around the world
‘sexuality’) is a historically recent invention. It to marry. She is thus also in close proximity to
has only been since the middle of the nineteenth the USA where gay marriage has achieved
century that sexual acts between men (the prominence as a political issue in the 2000s and
standard case) or between women have where several state or municipal jurisdictions
signified a deep-seated truth about those who have legalised gay marriage – although only in
participate in them. Before that time the acts Massachusetts has the legislation which enables
were significant, primarily as sin, and might legal marriage for lesbian and gay couples
attract punishment, but they did not reveal an remained. She makes her argument about the
essential truth about those who did them. arrival of the ‘respectable same-sex couple’
Valverde writes that ‘sexuality – in the West but through consideration of legal rulings concerning
not in the East – came to be regarded as that lesbian and gay couples in Canada’s Supreme
which is most secret and therefore most Court and media representations and her own
authentic about “the self”, the key, in other observations of gay and lesbian wedding
words, to personal identity’ (p. 155). The era, up couples. What she finds is gay and lesbian
to the 1970s at least, where “the homosexual” couples defined not as ‘homosexuals’, those
was probably the most successful of all deviant deviants identified through their sexual practices
identities’ (p. 156) was characterised by and understood to be essentially different to
attempts to identify and classify this person, those who occupy the unmarked category of the
through a variety of disciplinary gazes, medicine normal. Rather she finds ‘respectable same sex
and the psy disciplines prominent among them. couples’ defined through financial concerns,
An early effect of the Gay Liberation movements consumption and wedding plans.
that appeared in many Western countries in the
early 1970s was the growth of identity based Nobody cares about their sexuality – including,
politics where gay men and lesbians themselves apparently, the parties involved. The nonsexual
fortified this discourse of ‘the homosexual’, transactions that make up the everyday fabric of
coupledom are what the [legal and media] texts
embracing this identity with pride rather than
find worth recounting. In the Star [Canada’s
being tormented and shamed by it. largest circulation daily] one finds that the
narrative of the happy Toronto couple is wholly
Valverde (2006) identifies three historically made up of florists’ bills and plane tickets for
recent phenomena that challenge this identity relatives. The narrative of the divorcing couple of
based model of sexuality in general, and ‘the the M and H Supreme Court decision, for its part,
homosexual’ in particular. First, she refers to the is made up of joint tenancy agreements and bank
refusal of identity categories by those, often loan documents (2006, p. 162).
homosexually active individuals, who choose the
amorphous and fluid label ‘queer’ over identity Valverde does not mention ‘love’ among the
labels that tend to narrow or specify (like ‘gay’ defining features of the ‘respectable same sex
or ‘lesbian’). Second, she points to the invention couple’. In my observations ‘love’ is apparent in
in AIDS discourse of the category ‘men who many popular representations of lesbian and gay
weddings and marriages, and in the demands
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for legal gay marriage. The website for Valverde’s analysis, but catching hold of her
Australian Marriage Equality, the national group dramatic and prescient vision of an entirely new
focused solely on the legalisation of gay object/subject of history, and the shift in
marriage, begins ‘For many Australians marriage historical eras it announces, seems to me to
is a profoundly meaningful way to demonstrate promise more explanatory power than Seidman
love and commitment.’ (Australian Marriage et al’s relatively more measured identification of
Equality). Carl and Andrew, the two men who trends.
star in ‘Just Married’, the Australian
documentary made in response to the Australian Valverde’s (2006) argument explains why
federal government’s move against gay marriage couples have been so absent, as publicly
in 2004 (Jones, 2005), repeatedly profess their identified activist subjects and as objects of
love for each other, and members of both men’s political debate, in Australian gay and lesbian
biological families repeatedly testify to this love. activism until the last ten years, and in popular
References to sex are muted. Love has culture representations until even more recently.
historically been opposed to sex in discourses of In a discursive field dominated by ‘the
sexuality, with heterosexuality signifying the homosexual’, the couple in all its banality was
former and homosexuality the latter. Love thus not the point. Sex was. And it was sex, whether
helps to broaden the distance between ‘the sinful, or pathological, or the site of difference
homosexual’ and ‘respectable same sex couples’ and pride, that was the site of identity
even further. Damien Riggs (2006) argues that construction. But sex is not the ground for the
the invocation of ‘love’ plays a similar role in construction of the ‘respectable same sex
campaigns for the rights of gay and lesbian couple’. Valverde’s argument also explains what
parents. It does so, however, by aligning them I have always regarded as the curious adoption,
with ‘the forms of national love that are by lawmakers, politicians, and gay and lesbian
currently sanctioned, which are founded upon activists themselves, of the term ‘same sex
both the disavowal of Indigenous sovereignty couple’. The replacement of ‘homosexual’ or
and the construction of other groups of people ‘lesbian’ and ‘gay’ with ‘same sex’ effects in this
as enemies of the nation’ (p. 82). context what Valverde refers to as the
‘desexualisation of gay rights’ (p. 161). This shift
Valverde’s (2006) argument – cheeky as it is – is not only turns away from sexuality in
highly appealing. It is not inconsistent with other categorising these relationships, but arguably
accounts of historical change in the lives of gay also from gender as it positions lesbian and gay
and lesbian people in the post-Stonewall, post relationships through an (essentialist) discourse
second wave feminism, era. Sociologist Steven of sex, an observation which requires more
Seidman and his colleagues (1999), for example, thought than I have space for here. Valverde’s
have argued that ‘the closet’, the hinge that argument also explains why, in Australia, the
divides “a private life where homosexuality can public face of gay marriage campaigns is more
be expressed and a public life where one passes often than not couples in their twenties and
as heterosexual” (p. 19), is declining in social thirties. Those who have grown up in the wake
significance in the USA. Their research, based in of the social changes initiated by feminism and
interviews conducted in the mid 1990s, finds lesbian and gay activism but often with no
that many gay and lesbian individuals have cultural memory of the sexual past and its
subjectively ‘normalized’ and socially ‘routinized’ politics are most likely to locate themselves in a
their homosexuality. They locate the closet, and field marked by the ‘respectable same sex
the practice of coming out, as emblematic of a couple’.
pre-Stonewall period, where secrecy-disclosure
and private-public were binaries that created the Her argument is speculative. It is also clearly
heightened self-consciousness of the political. Valverde (2006) makes little attempt to
homosexual. As these binary structures and the hide her derision of the wedding couples. She
discourse of sexuality that produces them break notes that the middle class soon-to-be-married
down in contemporary social and cultural life (if male couple who feature in the Toronto Star’s
not yet fully in social policy and the law) 2004 Pride Day special section are obsessed
individuals are less likely to locate their with “the color scheme, the food, the
homosexuality as the central element of their entertainment, and the guest list” and describes
identities. This account is not inconsistent with this as “a feminist nightmare” (p. 159 ). I can
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only agree. (I can, however, also appreciate the comparative ease with which the legislation was
politics and aesthetics of their camp hysteria). passed was in part an effect of the discourse of
Her implied opposition is to their consumerism, ‘the new Tasmania’. This term refers to an
their respectability and their foreshortened alleged economic and social rejuvenation in
political horizon. Tasmania and functions as a branding of the
state which allows and demands progressive
The Conditions for the New liberal signs of Tasmania’s desirability in a global
economy. ‘The new Tasmania’ makes legible gay
Economics is one place to start to explain the tourism, gay home ownership, gay rights, gay
conditions of this historical shift, and indeed investment and, since 2003, the legal
economics has been identified elsewhere as the recognition of lesbian and gay couples. While
primary site of sexual citizenship for gay men the reform would not have happened without
and, secondarily, lesbians (Evans, 1993). In her the energies of gay and lesbian activists, it also
contemporary Marxist critique of ‘white falls firmly into the phenomenon that Arnaldo
weddings’ in the USA published in 1999, Chrys Cruz-Malavé and Martin Manalansan Jr (2002)
Ingraham identifies what she brilliantly describe as a rather sinister mode of
describes as ‘the wedding-industrial complex’. globalization: “the appropriation and deployment
This multibillion dollar transnational wedding of queer subjectivities, cultures and political
industry includes “the sale of a diverse range of agendas for the legitimation of hegemonic
products, many of which are produced outside institutions presently in discursive crisis” (p. 5).
the US” (p. 28). The industrial complex in turn This mode is also at work in the recent
relies on what she calls the “wedding-ideological announcement by Telstra, Australia’s leading
complex” (p. 82). Ingraham observes the ways telco, of an overhaul of staff policies to remove
that race and class structure both the industrial all discrimination against lesbian and gay
and ideological complexes. White middle class employees. A critical account characterises
women are those with most power to consume Telstra’s twenty-first century neo-liberal work
wedding products (p. 31) and “the icon of the culture by “the setting of ever-increasing
beautiful white bride” works to persuade us all performance targets and rigorous monitoring of
that “what counts as beautiful and marriageable individuals’ time and movements” (McDermott,
is white” (p. 97). Her main argument, however, 2007, n.p.). Those employees in gay and lesbian
locates the wedding as a lynchpin of the relationships who work under these conditions
dominance of the institution of heterosexuality. will, however, no longer be denied the same
Ingraham notes debates among gay and lesbian entitlements as their heterosexual counterparts
communities about the value of fighting for the (Karvelas 2007). Whether as consumers or
right to legal marriage but, writing just before employees, investors, tourists or home owners,
the turn of the century, she does not seem gay and lesbian couples have a place in global
prepared for the gusto with which North neo-liberal futures.
American gay and lesbian communities have
embraced the institution of marriage and the It is not my argument that new historical
practice of weddings. Nor does she anticipate objects/subjects are simply the creation of the
the degree to which the wedding industrial and unstoppable forces of consumerism and
ideological complexes have begun to embrace capitalism or the neo-liberal re-ordering of all
gay and lesbian communities, even if evidenced kinds of citizenship. And, of course, neither ‘gay’
only in advertisements in the gay and lesbian and ‘global’ nor ‘gay’ and ‘capitalism’ are
press, including for the services of registered necessarily opposing terms. In a searing critique
civil celebrants. of global trends geographer Heidi Nast (2002)
argues that “certain EuroWhite-identified gay
But consumption and a place within the wedding men – relatively youthful, of some means, and
industrial and ideological complexes are not the typically childless – are well positioned to take
only way that mainstream institutions and advantage of key avenues of exploitation and
ideologies might provide the conditions for the profiteering in postindustrial world orders” (p.
‘respectable same sex couple’. In an article that 890). She writes of “the coming political and
discusses the place of the socially progressive economic age of gay white men” (p. 899). But
relationship reform enacted in Tasmania in 2003 even without the political power of wealthy
(Baird, 2006) I have argued that the white gay men the ‘respectable same sex couple’
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is a product of the desires and actions of not playful parody”, she writes. “It is quite possible,
only those lesbian and gay activists and their given the mixed feelings gays and lesbians have
supporters who fight for relationship law reform about marriage, that the wearers were not
but all those lesbian and gay couples who live themselves very clear about their intentions” (p.
through the increasingly available subject 158). The arrival of ‘the respectable same sex
position that this term describes. In the socially couple’ that she locates in these possibly
conservative climate that has dominated semiotically confused lesbians contrasts,
Australia for at least the last decade it is no however, with a queer cultural production
wonder that respectability is an attractive performed ten years earlier in the Sydney Gay
position to inhabit for all those who have the and Lesbian Mardi Gras. In 1994 a group of
economic and cultural capital to do so. women participated in the parade dressed as
brides. They were clearly not embodying, nor
Of course Mariana Valverde’s (2006) account of were they seeking, respectability or legal
the emergence of ‘the respectable same sex legitimation. Their costumes consisted of white
couple’ is a broad brush account. It identifies a bra tops and white tulle mid-length skirts; some
new object/subject that is not yet fully formed, carried riding crops, some wore white top hats.
and certainly not yet fully welcomed around the They were not organised in couples. Sarah
world. At the moment it is only South Africa, Zetlein’s discussion (1995) of the brides claims
Canada, Spain, Netherlands, Belgium and the US them for a playful queer politics. The Mardi Gras
state of Massachusetts that offer equal marriage bride, she claims, “incorporates a self-conscious
rights to same sex couples (Australian Marriage awareness of the law’s legitimising and
Equality). While I have a sense that legal same illegitimising effects, and plays them
sex marriage is inevitable in Australia, it is accordingly” (p. 56). Jump back to the present
currently not supported by either major political where brides, and grooms, feature in Adelaide’s
party in this country and is actively opposed by 2007 Feast festival, the theme for which is ‘love’.
the organised and influential Christian Right The festival this year includes ‘Loved Up – the
(Maddox, 2005). Concomitantly, the discourse Wedding of the Year’ (Feast, p. 6) where ‘many
of sexuality that Foucault claims emerged in the couples [will] publicly declare their love and
middle of the nineteenth century is still apparent commitment for each other’ in a public park and
in many sectors of contemporary society. then celebrate indoors with ‘queered-up’
Institutional discrimination, harassment and traditional wedding practices. Feast 2007 also
homophobia-related violence, the more subtle hosts the launch of ‘Gay and Lesbian
and omnipresent signs of heteronormativity and Celebrations’, Australia’s first online same-sex
the marginalised subjectivities that these celebrations directory which will include “trends
practices generate, are all still with us. It is and tips from South Australia’s industry experts”
likely that even the most successfully and guide consumers to “local gay friendly
respectable same-sex couples still negotiate the suppliers” (see
closet in some aspects of their lives. But ‘the www.gayandlesbiancelebrations.com.au).
sexual self-management practices’ that are the
hallmark of the formation of ‘the homosexual’ The State
are these days, according to Seidman et al
(1999), “more situation-specific than patterning So where does this account of a transitional
of a whole way of life” (p. 11). It is also the case moment in the history of sexuality (which may
that respectable same sex couples are not un- be the demise of ‘sexuality’) leave me with
marked by the queer politics and aesthetics that respect to the political campaigns for legal gay
Valverde (2006) claims are co-emergent with marriage? My reluctance to support these
‘the respectable same sex couple’. campaigns stems primarily from their turn
towards the state. Judith Butler’s essay on gay
Valverde (2006) herself captures the historically marriage (2004; see also Brandzel, 2005) lays
transitional nature of lesbian wedding couples in out many of my concerns. She cautions that
San Francisco when she comments on the pinning one’s hopes on recognition by the state
number of lesbian brides dressed in conventional means being defined by the terms already set by
white wedding dresses. “It was very difficult to the state. Further, such inclusion involves the
tell whether the wedding dresses were being creation of new lines of division, separating the
worn in straight-up imitation of marriage or in legitimate and the about-to-be legitimate from
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