THE EMOTIONAL SELF

JULIANA MIKAELA M. GINEZ

MIDTERMS REVIEWER | UNDERSTANDING THE SELF | FIRST YEAR, FIRST SEM
PROF. MARIE CAR A. EGASANI – OMAGAP
NOVEMBER 2022

OUTLINE II. 3 MODELS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

I. Emotions
II. 3 Models of Emotional Intelligence A. MAYER, SALOVEY, AND CARUSO
a. Mayer, Salovey & Caruso
ABILITY MODEL
b. Goleman
c. Bar-on - This model upholds emotions as vital information
III. Adolescence sources that enable a person to make good use of
IV. Emotional regulation the social environment.
V. LOVE: Emotion or Drive? - An individual’s ability to process emotional
VI. Studies about Love information varies from one person to another and
certain adaptive behaviors manifest themselves in
I. EMOTIONS this ability.
- An important aspect of understanding the self is THE FOUR-BRANCH MODEL
acknowledging the presence of emotions. 1. EMOTIONAL PERCEPTION AND EXPRESSION
EMOTIONS - Nonverbal reception and facial expressions
- Serve as a driving force in how one acts and 2. EMOTIONAL FACILITATION (SOUND JUDGMENT)
behaves. - The capacity of the emotions to guide the
- It plays a part in making decisions, embracing cognitive system and promote thinking and
certain lifestyles, and relating to others. help direct thinking toward matters that are
- emotions SHOULD NOT rule over one’s rationality truly important.
and become the sole basis of decisions. 3. EMOTIONAL UNDERSTANDING AND ANALYSIS
- We are all expected to have the capacity to manage - Emotions convey its own pattern of possible
our emotions. Why? It is because they are messages, and actions associated with those
considered the lower level responses occurring in messages. This coupled with the capacity to
the brain, which create biochemical reactions in the reason about those meanings.
body, and consequently cause changes one’s 4. REFLECTIVE EMOTIONAL REGULATION
physical state. - A person may want to remain open to
- A biological experience and response. emotional signals so long as they are not too
- Physiological painful, and block out those that are
FEELINGS overwhelming
- The mental portrayal of what is going on in your
body when you have an emotion. B. GOLEMAN
- Subjective experiences. THE EMOTIONAL COMPETENCIES MODEL
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EQ) - portrays emotional intelligence as a combination of
- One’s ability to understand emotion and for them to a variety of skills and competencies that
contribute in how one perceives his/her strengthen managerial performance
environment. a. SELF-AWARENESS
- It includes our capacity to regulate our emotions - The ability to understand ones emotions
and be aware which one is helpful for emotional and and recognizing their impact
intellectual growth. b. SELF-MANAGEMENT
- A requirement for one’s overall well-being and, - Being able to adapt to changing
hence can translate to effective functioning in all circumstances by controlling ones
aspects of one’s life. emotions.
- Has a positive impact in various settings such as: c. SOCIAL AWARENESS
1. Our thinking abilities - Being able to understand sense other
2. Social competence people emotions and reacting to them
3. Workplace while understanding the social networks.
4. Our daily life.

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JULIANA MIKAELA M. GINEZ
MIDTERMS REVIEWER | UNDERSTANDING THE SELF | FIRST YEAR, FIRST SEM
PROF. MARIE CAR A. EGASANI – OMAGAP
NOVEMBER 2022

d. RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT 2. Suppression

- Being able to inspire, develop and - Involves denial and masking of facial
influence others in a conflict management expressions to hide one’s current
set-up. emotional state.
Individuals have the following characteristics when they
C. BAR-ON have reached emotional maturity and efficacy:
1. SELF-CONTROL
MODEL OF EMOTIONAL-SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE
2. TRUSTWORTHINESS
- Emotional-social intelligence is a cross-section of
3. CONSCIENTIOUSNESS
interrelated emotional and social competencies,
4. ADAPTABILITY
skills and facilitators that determine how well we
5. INNOVATION
understand and express ourselves, understand
6. EMPATHY
others and relate with them, and cope with daily
HOW DO WE DEVELOP EMOTIONAL REGULATION?
demands, challenges and pressures
- It can be learned primarily through observational
a. Self-perception
and social referencing particularly through the
b. Self-expression
family.
c. Interpersonal
- School can also play a crucial role in a person’s
-Relates to our ability to be aware of others’
emotional regulation. Thus, it is important that
feelings, concerns and needs, and to be able
students engage in learning opportunities.
to establish and maintain cooperative,
TIPS:
constructive and mutually satisfying
1. Smile to make yourself feel good.
relationships.
2. Smile to make others feel good.
d. Decision-making
3. Get up and move
e. Stress management
4. Check in with your body
- Relates to emotional management and
5. Physically remove the tension
controlling our ability to deal with emotions so
6. Breathe
that they work for us and not against us.
7. Talk to someone
8. Disengage and re-engage emotions
III. ADOLESCENCE 9. Label your emotions
ADOLESCENCE 10. Label your emotions for others
- Considered a turbulent time of development due to
all the changes that they go through.
V. LOVE: EMOTION OR DRIVE
- This is why emotional growth is a crucial point.
- A study revealed that a brain activity was recorded
- In order to establish emotional efficacy and
when people look at photos of people they love.
maturity, emotional regulation must be learned.
- The parts of the brain that was activated were
closely associated with anticipation of reward.
IV. EMOTIONAL REGULATION - The same system involved in pleasure and
EMOTIONAL REGULATION addiction which serves as the dopamine in the
- An attempt to influence emotion and can be applied brain.
in interacting with the self and others.
- Takes two (2) forms: VI. STUDIES ABOUT LOVE
1. Cognitive reappraisal
1. HELEN FISHER
- Involves the evaluation of the situation
- Concluded that love can be considered as a
prior to making personal, subjective
strong motivation- an addictive craving to be
valuations about it.
with the person you love.

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THE EMOTIONAL SELF
JULIANA MIKAELA M. GINEZ
MIDTERMS REVIEWER | UNDERSTANDING THE SELF | FIRST YEAR, FIRST SEM
PROF. MARIE CAR A. EGASANI – OMAGAP
NOVEMBER 2022

PHASES OF ROMANTIC LOVE 1. LIKING

HORMONES - Characterizes true friendships, in which a
AND NEURAL person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a
STAGE CHARACTERISTICS
PATHWAY closeness with another but not intense passion
INVOLVED
or long-term commitment.
- Androgen 2. INFATUATION
Intense craving for
LUST - Estrogen
sexual contact - "Love at First Sight."
- Pheromones
- Infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
Infatuation. High dopamine
3. EMPTY LOVE
Energy and attention and or
ATTRACTION - In cultures in which arranged marriages are
is focused on one epinephrine
particular person Low serotonin common, relationships often begin as empty
Long term bond Oxytocin love.
ATTACHMENT 4. ROMANTIC LOVE
between partners Vasopressin
- Bonded emotionally (as in liking) and
2. JOHN LEE physically through passionate arousal.
- Love Styles 5. COMPATIONATE LOVE
I. EROS - Often found in marriages in which the passion
- Based on strong sexual & emotional has gone out of the relationship.
component; quick to fall in & out of love. - Generally a personal relation you build with
II. AGAPE somebody you share your life with, but with no
- Altruistic & selfless love; doesn’t expect sexual or physical desire.
something in return. 6. FATUOUS LOVE
III. STORGE - A whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a
- Love-related friendship; slow and gradual commitment is motivated largely by passion,
process without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
IV. LUDUS 7. CONSUMMATE LOVE
- Fun; don’t value commitment or intimacy; no - The complete form of love
jealousy. - The ideal relationship toward which many
V. MANIA people strive but which apparently few achieve
- Intense feeling that can lead to obsessive & - Consummate love may not be permanent. For
possessive love. example, if passion is lost over time, it may
VI. PRAGMA change into companionate love.
- Practical & business-like love; based on what
is appropriate.

3. ROBER STERNBERG
- Triangular theory of Love