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Joyce El Bittar
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January, 2024
In a rapidly evolving societal landscape, discussions around parenting have expanded beyond
traditional norms. The article, "What You Need to Know About Gender-Neutral Parenting,"
into the principles and practices of gender-neutral parenting. Nathalie is the senior editor of
lifecycle content at The Bump, where she develops ideas, reports, writes and edits content about
pregnancy and new parenting. She is passionate about providing informative, nonjudgmental
service journalism for people who are navigating pregnancy or those topsy-turvy first months and
years. Her own pregnancy and parenting journey—one with many unexpected twists and turns—has
inspired her to want to help others find advice and solutions that work for them, so they can feel
supported along the way. Natalie earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in international affairs with a
minor in journalism from George Washington University and a Master of Arts in interactive
journalism from American University, both in Washington, DC. She has covered everything from
weddings to politics for publications including The Knot and Refinery29. Her reporting at
Refinery29 took her to the halls of Congress to cover issues that are important to new parents.
Between covering what parents care about and becoming one herself, parenting journalism was the
logical next step. She joined The Bump in 2023 and is excited to draw on her expertise and
experience to develop content that helps all types of parents feel seen and heard (Thebump, 2023).
not only the theoretical aspects of gender-neutral parenting but also provides practical tips and
solutions for navigating the challenges that may arise, including external pressures, implicit biases,
and the importance of community support. It also advocates for creating an environment that
supports children in exploring their identities without conforming to societal expectations tied to
gender.
With a focus on celebrating diversity, the article encourages parents to rethink traditional
approaches to child-rearing, valuing each child's unique interests and expressions. By providing
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insights into fostering empathy, creating gender-inclusive spaces, and navigating familial and
societal expectations, the article aims to guide parents on an ongoing journey towards embracing
The article suggests using neutral colors when decorating the nursery, avoiding gendered
themes. This approach challenges the conventional idea of associating specific colors with genders.
It recommends using gender-neutral language, including pronouns like "they/them" until the child
expresses a preference, proposing that this practice acknowledges and respects diverse gender
identities.
Additionally, Parents are advised to provide a variety of toys and activities without adhering
to traditional gender stereotypes. This includes letting children explore interests in dolls, trucks,
The article also encourages parents not to choose clothing based on traditional gender
categories ("boy" or "girl"). It suggests exploring gender-neutral baby clothes brands and allowing
Parents are urged to expose their children to diverse stories, media, and role models, including
those representing people of all genders engaging in various activities. The article suggests
They are also advised to let their children express their feelings, play in various ways, and
compliments with non-gendered additions. For example, countering "strong like daddy" with "and
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While the idea of gender-neutral parenting aims to foster inclusivity and break away from
traditional gender norms, or so as it may seem to people, I cannot but have my own disagreement
toward this idea as it may inadvertently ignore the significance of acknowledging and respecting
inherent biological and psychological differences between genders. This opposing perspective
posits that a nuanced understanding of gender roles can be beneficial in providing children with a
well-rounded and comprehensive worldview, allowing them to navigate the complexities of society
more effectively.
Moreover, research in developmental psychology has consistently demonstrated that there are
inherent dissimilarities in how boys and girls may approach social interactions, learning, and
emotional expression (Lippa, 2010; Hyde, 2014). Ignoring these differences in the pursuit of gender
neutrality may hinder a child's ability to understand and navigate their own identity in a way that
fully acknowledges and embraces their unique attributes. Failing to recognize these distinctions
gender roles in socialization. An exclusive focus on neutralizing gender distinctions could lead to a
lack of guidance for children in understanding societal expectations and norms. According to
sociocultural theorists, gender roles play a vital role in shaping individuals' identities and behaviors
within a given society (Bussey & Bandura, 1999; Martin, Ruble, & Szkrybalo, 2002). By embracing
a more nuanced understanding of gender roles, children can be better equipped to navigate social
Critics argue that children raised in a gender-neutral environment might experience identity
confusion as they navigate a world that often operates with clear gender distinctions. The concern is
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that, without a traditional framework, children may struggle to understand their own identity in
Children raised in a gender-neutral environment might face external pressures from a society
that is not universally accepting or understanding of this approach. This could lead to feelings of
isolation or difficulty in integrating with peers who may be raised in more traditional settings.
There may be resistance from cultural or religious communities that strongly adhere to
traditional gender roles. Families practicing neutral gender parenting might face challenges in
maintaining cultural continuity or integrating within communities where such practices deviate
Critics also argue that neutral gender parenting might not provide children with sufficient role
models to understand and navigate gender-specific challenges. Exposure to diverse role models can
play a crucial role in helping children form a well-rounded perspective on the complexities of
gender dynamics.
Despite good intentions, there could be unintended consequences of neutral gender parenting
that emerge over time. These might include unforeseen psychological, social, or emotional
challenges that children may face as they grow and enter different phases of life.
Moreover, the religious opinion on gender assignment to parents varies across different faiths
and denominations. Generally, religious perspectives on gender assignment to parents are rooted in
traditional beliefs and cultural values. Many religious doctrines emphasize distinct gender roles and
From a religious standpoint, the refusal or rejection of gender assignment to parents aligns
with preserving sacred traditions, maintaining cultural continuity, and fostering a sense of identity
and belonging within the faith community. This perspective contends that adhering to established
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gender roles is not only a reflection of religious teachings but also contributes to the transmission of
moral values.
In various religions, the emphasis on specific gender roles is seen as essential for creating a
harmonious and morally grounded society. The resistance to neutral gender parenting within a
religious framework is often grounded in the belief that these gender roles are divinely ordained and
For example, within certain Christian denominations, there may be a focus on biblical
teachings that outline distinct roles for men and women within the family. Similarly, in other faiths,
such as Islam or Judaism, there are specific guidelines and expectations regarding the roles of
maintaining traditional gender roles and opposes the idea of neutral gender parenting. This
alignment with religious teachings is considered crucial for upholding moral values, preserving
cultural continuity, and fostering a sense of identity within the religious community.
with the traditional beliefs and cultural values embedded in various faiths. Many religious doctrines
emphasize specific gender roles and norms, considering them essential elements of moral and
spiritual guidance. Within a religious framework, the refusal of gender-neutral parenting is regarded
as a way to preserve sacred traditions, maintain cultural continuity, and nurture a sense of identity
and belonging within the religious community. This perspective asserts that adhering to established
gender roles not only mirrors religious teachings but also plays a role in transmitting moral values,
offering children a structure for comprehending their roles within the divine order as dictated by
their faith.
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References:
1. Lippa, R. A. (2010). Gender differences in personality and interests: When, where, and why?
2. Hyde, J. S. (2014). Gender similarities and differences. Annual Review of Psychology, 65, 373–
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3. Diamond, M. (2002). Sex and gender are different: Sexual identity and gender identity are
4. Bussey, K., & Bandura, A. (1999). Social cognitive theory of gender development and
5. Martin, C. L., Ruble, D. N., & Szkrybalo, J. (2002). Cognitive theories of early gender
6. https://www.thebump.com/author/natalie-gontcharova
7. https://www.thebump.com/a/gender-neutral-parenting