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Abstract
This study aims to explore the influence of parental communication styles on the quality of
relationships between children and parents, with reference to Family Communication Theory.
This theoretical approach provides a basis for understanding how patterns of communication
within a family can form the dynamics of parent-child relationships. Research methods involve
collecting data through qualitative methods with in-depth interview strategies to understand
parents' communication style and quality of family relationships. Research results show that
positive and open communication styles tend to strengthen the quality of child-parent
relationships, while ineffective communication can hinder them. The implications of these
findings provide insight into the importance of communication's role in building healthy family
relationships and provide the basis for the development of interventions to improve
communication quality in family contexts.
1. Introduction
Communication is the delivery and reception of messages or news between two or more people,
so that the message in question can be understood. Communication is also what happens when
given to a behavior. When someone notices our behavior and gives meaning, communication has
occurred, regardless of whether or not we realize it and do it or not. When considered, it should
be realized that it is impossible for us to not behave, because each behavior has potential for
communication.
Parents and children are one bond in the soul, No one can separate it. The bond in the form of an
emotional relationship between a child and his or her parents is reflected in behavior, including
in differences in religious beliefs even between parents and children, so a child is required to
respect the parent at any time. And Allah enjoineth mankind to serve Him, and to do good unto
both parents.
The role of parents in the family is critical to the child's physical development, intelligence,
attitude, behavior and physical development. Child development in the family depends on the
role of both parents in guiding, loving, loving and caring for their children to grow up. A
newborn child is like a white paper with no ink. This is where parents play a role in directing
children to have better abilities.
An ideal family is a family that provides a climate that supports optimal child growth. This can
happen if parents play a role and function in parenting, provide support, affection, and instill
positive values so that the child can grow and develop into a positive person.
Family communication is an important factor in determining the child's poor health. If a parent
instills a good attitude toward a child, such as honest, noble, humble, courageous, then the child
will feel that he or she is precious, so that it will foster good behavior and behavior within the
child.
In this case, one thing parents should remember, that communication problems are a matter of
habit. It means that communication must be maintained continuously since the children are still
in their mother's womb until they grow up. Usually parents are unaware of communication with
their children, actually in children growing up, Because at that time parents were on the rise in
their career and parents' attention was heavily seized by their busy work and social activities and
the parents were fully entrusted because they would mature themselves.
The process of change in children is usually not parental aware, but is strongly felt by children.
By the time parents realized the shortcomings, things were already bad to save. Parents should
always be vigilant and try not to forget their communication with children, however busy they
are. Smooth and healthy communication within a family is the hope of every member of the
family, as individuals with other individuals are attached, interconnected and in need of each
other. Therefore, smooth and harmonious communication within the family is desirable for every
member of the family to continue well and intensively. Good communication in a family is
inseparable from the role of both parents, as both are examples of their children to live a safe and
prosperous life.
Family communication theories are coherent accounts of family communication processes and
family relationships that provide explanations for phenomena of interests, which frequently are
the relationships or communication behaviors themselves or their outcomes for family members.
As such, family communication theories are central to any investigation of family
communication processes and of outcomes that might be affected by them. Family
communication theories stem from a number of different academic disciplines and are based on a
wide range of methodologies, ranging from critical to scientific. As a result, there is substantial
disagreement about the very nature of theory, the role theory plays in research, and the
appropriate methods for studying family communication. This entry provides an overview of the
theoretical approaches that are most frequently found in family communication research and
introduces a few of the more influential theories in some detail.
Thus, most theories of family communication originated outside the communication discipline
and often share the particular assumptions and biases of the disciplines from which they
originated. Even among those theories used in family communication research that originated
from within the communication discipline, a majority was not developed explicitly with family
communication in mind, but rather in regard to interpersonal communication more generally or
in regard to specific communication processes that happen to also take place in the family
context, such as self-disclosure or uncertainty reduction. As a consequence, family
communication theories vary widely in the basic assumptions they make about what is important
for family communication, what explains communication behaviors, and what effects
communication has on other variables.
2. Research Methods
This study used a qualitative method using a descriptive approach. Qualitative descriptive
methods are research methods aimed at describing social phenomena in a medium and
comprehensively using qualitative data. In this study, qualitative data were collected using in-
depth interviews. Interviews are data collection techniques directly conducted in direct dialogue
with intentionally selected participants to collect data and obtain accurate information in the
study. The study was conducted by interviewing five teenagers aged 19 – 21 who were children
with family involvement.
The study participants consisted of one male and four females from different family
backgrounds. The interview study used Whatsapp's media, which is chat with every session,
which is 40 minutes. Interviews are conducted using good and correct Indonesian language, and
respect the ethics and rights of participants. The interview was recorded and transcribed for data
analysis purposes.
3. Results and Discussion
Communication between parents and children is sometimes good and sometimes bad, but in this
discussion we will discuss more about how the role of communication in the family. By
interviewing sources, by asking several questions that will be discussed further in this chapter,
the following questions and answers from sources.
How would you describe your parents' communication style in your family and to what
extent do you believe it affects the quality of the relationship between you and your
parents?
In the answer I got from the participants was the openness of parent-child communication, by
creating effective communication where it would promise communication between parents and
children who have tremendous contributions to positive behavior development opportunities.
Clearly, the goal of good communication between parents and children is to create a warm
climate of friendship, making the child feel comfortable to parents.
Do you feel any particular communication that can affect positive or negative situations in
parent - child relationships?
The answer I got from the participants was a sense of positive and negative attitude at certain
circumstances in family communication. Open or parallel communication of course the child will
feel valued, loved and cared for by his parents. As parents, they will know how to understand
and recognize and foster children's behavior so that they will become a generation that will
decide the future course of the nation and the mutual understanding between the two. Of course,
by accepting and accrue and swinging them with communication can lead to the development of
children's behavior to be positive, of course. It's quite different what happens to closed or
unequal communication within a family. This will cause the child to become closed, afraid,
unappreciated, lack of attention from his parents, and communication will not be a positive
learning process for both.
How does your communication experience with your parents affect your perception of
family relationships and the emotional support you feel?
In the answer to the emotional attachment felt by the child and the parent is important, in a
family, especially between parents and children, it is a tremendous contribution to both, because
the presence of effective and efficient communication that is carried out continuously can create
intimacy, openness, and openness. The more attention between the two and the parents is more
likely to know each other's emotional feelings.
Do you feel that there are certain aspects of parental communication that need to be
improved to improve the quality of family relationships?
Could you give us an example of a particular situation or event that you think reflects the
influence of parents' communication style on the quality of your relationship with them?
In the answers given by the participants that parent-child relationships can be optimized by
improving communication between the two. This is because communication will encourage
interaction, closeness, and influence the child's view of parents (Aryani, 2015). In the end,
parents need to have skills to communicate effectively to the child so that parents and children
have quality relationships, and parents can easily instill values to the child.
Family communication theory in this discussion is that communication between parents and
children has a very important role in the quality of family relationships.
a. Parents' Understanding:
1) Parents hold the role of the head of a family and the first personal formation in a
child's life.
2) Parents' personality, attitude, and way of life affect children's education indirectly
3) Parents are responsible for developing the overall child's existence, including physical
and psychic needs.
b. Communication understanding
1) Communication is the process of transmitting messages or information between
individuals
2) In communication, the similarity of meaning about a matter is essential for a
relationship to be communicative
3) Parent-child communication involves sending and receiving messages so that
messages can be understood
c. Parent - Child Communication Style
1) Authoritarian style of communication: Parents are in complete control, but can hinder
the child's openness.
2) Democratic communication style: Parents listen to children's opinions, build good
relationships, and appreciate children's opinions.
3) Permissive communication style: Parents lack supervision, The child may be out of
control.
4) Strong communication style: Parents are in control, but still pay attention to their
opinions
d. Effect of Communication Style on Relationship Quality:
1) Positive and open communication between parents and children builds trust and
affects cognitive, emotional, social, and social aspects. and a child's language
2) The diversity in communication styles between families determines the relationship
between parents and children
3) Parents' attitudes (affection, dominance, ambition, interest) affect relationships with
children
4. Conclusion
The journal discusses family communication theory, it examines how communication
occurs within the family so that the relationships and behaviors of communication
between family members are central to the overall family dynamics. Therefore,
communication between parents and children has a crucial role in individual
development. Effective communication styles also affect better understanding, happiness,
and relationships. Therefore, parents who show a positive attitude (honest, noble, humble,
brave) form a positive perception in the child. Effective communication between the
child and the parent creates a harmonious relationship so that it can also affect a good
family environment for positive child development. Children feel valued and valued
when parents display good care and communication.
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