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N.Hidayah
Pendidikan Luar Sekolah, Universitas Negeri Surabaya (nuzulul.20004@mhs.unesa.ac.id)
G.D. Lestari
Pendidikan Luar Sekolah, Universitas Negeri Surabaya (gunartilestari@unesa.ac.id)
I.K.A.J. Artha
Pendidikan Luar Sekolah, Universitas Negeri Surabaya (ketutatmadja@unesa.ac.id)
ABSTRACT: The purpose of this study is to provide a study of the communication patterns of
parents and children in social emotional formation, especially for early childhood. The method
used in this research is a literature study, which begins with problem identification to analysis
and discussion. As for the results of this study which from various communication patterns,
good and effective communication patterns are communication patterns that contain good val-
ues, children are able to empathize and sympathize, children have honesty, children have high
consistency, and open interactive communication between children and parents.
The role of early childhood education in determining child development and preparing chil -
dren to be ready to enter the world of higher education. Early childhood education is basic edu-
cation that is held with an emphasis on the growth and development of children (Mursid, 2015).
Early childhood education aims to lay the foundation for the development of behavior, knowl -
edge, skills and creativity so that children can develop their potential.
According to Mansur in (Wardhani, 2004) revealed that early childhood between the ages of
0-6 years where children are in a very unique process of change and development. It is said to
be unique where children have growth and development (fine motor coordination and gross mo-
toric), intelligence (thinking power, creativity and religion) and special language and communi-
cation according to the level of growth and development of children.
It is concluded that children are said to be early childhood if the age range is 0-6 years, each
child is said to be unique because children have intelligence, social and emotional, growth and
development, as well as language and communication. Each child's uniqueness in the process of
development and growth has its own level, so every parent must be able to understand the
condition of their child. So that parents can easily educate children according to their
intelligence, desires, or talents and interests.
Child development is an integral part of a scientific paradigm by assuming that the world
view is positivist. Child development has a long tradition in early childhood education, and is
largely based on the field of psychology, particularly developmental psychology and the
interdisciplinary field of children in biology (Soto, 2002). One aspect of early childhood
development, namely social and emotional
Socio-emotional is the behavior and feelings of an individual who relates to other people.
Social-emotional in early childhood is a change in behavior that is accompanied by a pervasive
feeling about early childhood relating to other people. Emotion is an effective experience that
accompanies general inner adjustment and mental and physiological states within the individual,
and also shows an open behavior in him (Baharudin, 2010). The Center for Social-Emotional
Foundations for Early Learning (CSEFEL) reveals that social-emotional is the development of
children at the capacity from birth to the age of 5 years, to form close relationships between
children and adults and peers. Children's social emotions include experiencing, organizing, and
expressing according to the culture and the way the environment is in learning (Ashdown et al.,
2012).
The family is the main and first education for children, because the child's stimulus is first
obtained in the family and also in the child's family spending time. People who know have the
responsibility to pass on good values to their children, values in children can be inherited
through family education. The important role of parents in determining the direction and
personality of the child to be formed. In the pedagogic context, parents are not justified in
letting parents guide and supervise the growth and development of children. Guidance is given
in a clear direction and directs children to the straight path. Education in the family should
provide a basis for children in education and the process of socializing in social life (Hasan,
2009).
In family education, communication between parents and children is no less important,
communication becomes a bridging medium in a relationship between family members.
Without communication, family life will be perfect, so talk, dialogue, and exchange ideas (Dja-
marah, 2004). The quality of communication provided will affect the child's social and
emotional. Good and harmonious family relationships are the main keys in good
communication. The communication needed is interactive communication, in which father,
mother and child are involved in pleasant communication and avoid communication that is
dominant or dominant. Parent-child communication should also be encouraging, caring, and
appreciative. However, there are some parents who use violence in disciplining their children,
forbidding under the pretext of protecting, and also calculating in giving affection under the
pretext of making children independent. The large number of children causes children to be
haunted by fear, lack of confidence and a sense of anxiety. Experience and learning are needed
by children to develop social behavior so that they are well received by the community.
Experience can teach others lessons, and can increase friendship and responsibility for their
actions.
Communication is a process of delivering information to other people, in delivering
information it involves the activity and creativity of those who deliver and who will receive
messages or information and it can be said that communication is the creation of an idea or idea
that aims to be conveyed to informants (Irawan, 2000). Gode quoted by (Wiryanto, 2004)
reveals that the meaning of communication is "it's a process that makes common to or several
what the monopoly of one or some".
Communication patterns are models that have components and are connected to each other in
the form of symbols, have meaning and also have the aim of conveying messages or
information to change individual behavior and the messages or information conveyed can be
easily understood. Communication patterns conveyed by both adults to children and children to
their peers have different patterns or models of communication. The socially oriented parental
communication pattern will significantly affect the child's role as an influencer in making
decisions. Concept-oriented communication patterns will have a positive effect on the role of
children as influencers (Budiman & Tomi, 2016).
Family communication patterns affect the mental development and mindset of children, either
directly or indirectly. Families will function optimally if open communication patterns, mutual
acceptance, support, security, comfort and spiritual life are maintained ((Nurlita & Setyahajoe,
2014).
Several experts express various points of view on family education. According to Mansur,
family education is a process of giving positive values to children's growth and development as
further education (Mansur, 2005). Meanwhile, Abdullah argues that family education is all the
efforts made by the family in terms of habituation and improvisation with the aim of helping the
child's personal development (Abdullah, 2003). So family education is education carried out by
families to provide positive values as the foundation for further child education, family
education in the form of habituation and improvisation with the aim of helping children's
personal development.
The process of parent education in the family has several educational activities, including
physical or physical education of children, intellectual education of children, religious moral
education, social education and emotional education of children. Parents in interacting with
children must be able to display positive behavior patterns, because the behavior patterns of
parents will affect the stimulus for the child himself. One of the processes of parental education
for children is emotional education, because emotions will determine the child's personality for
the future (Yasin, 2008).
Based on the results of an interview with the principal of RA Baitul Muttaqiem on March 9,
2021, the majority of student guardians have different professions, including: civil servants,
teachers, housewives, traders. Thus the role of parents in the family is very important for
children who will affect the lives of children to adulthood. Establishing good communication
between parents and children by looking at the various conditions and backgrounds of parents is
quite difficult, as well as forming a good social emotional child requires a short time, but it
takes a long process and time. Thus, education in the family really needs patience and
sensitivity, especially how parents communicate well which can trigger children's social
emotional development.
RESEARCH METHOD
The method used in this research is a literature study method. The data collected by this
method comes from journals, books and other sources. Literature study is research conducted by
collecting sources through books, papers related to the objectives and problems in research
(Wasriah, 2009). The literature study approach can provide knowledge of the communication
model of parents and children in the social emotional formation of early childhood. Thus the
social emotional development of children is development that involves people who are around
the child, namely parents, family, peers, teachers, and the community, who play a role in the
social emotional development of children by means of children who learn and understand which
behaviors are good and bad. which is not good.
CLOSING
Conclusion
Social and emotional formation in early childhood can be done by maintaining good
relationships and communication between parents and children. Communicative patterns of
parents and children consist of permissive communication patterns, authorative communication
patterns, laissez-faire communication patterns, fathernalistic communication patterns, self-
melting communication patterns, pioneering style communication patterns, manipulation
communication patterns, communication patterns so that they are slow to survive, patterns
selfless communication, selfless communication pattern, militaristic communication pattern.
Each of these communication patterns has its own advantages and disadvantages.
Parents should pay attention to the communication patterns provided. The communication
pattern that is applied will affect the psychological and personality development of a child.
Based on the discussion and explanation above, parents can use effective communication
patterns in forming a good social emotional child.
The results of the study revealed that the family's awareness and understanding of the
importance of communication and the magnitude of its influence on children's social emotional
development is still relatively low. This can be seen from the number of families who do not
know the relationship between family communication and social emotional development and
families, especially parents, still consider it unimportant. Many of us find that parents pay more
attention to their child's cognitive abilities than their emotional abilities. As well as families who
do not have commitments or rules in communicating within the family and concern for anal
social emotional development, so that communication that occurs in the family is only
considered as routine without any meaning for children's social emotional development.
The application of good and positive communication patterns in the family that affects the
social emotional development of children when using communication patterns that have a
culture. Which is where a good communication pattern is characterized by the existence of rules
and freedom, so that the child will pay attention to every behavior and action and also the child
will know the consequences. An atmosphere that is created in a free, responsible manner,
accustomed to living independently, the ability to follow the rules and regulations in society will
also have a good influence on the social emotional development of children
In order to achieve good communication in improving the socio-emotional development of
early childhood, it is necessary to socialize from an early age to families. The socialization
process will be good if it is supported by religious, cultural factors, and also in accordance with
the times. So that children will know good and bad values, sympathy, empathy, selfishness,
honesty, cooperation, consistency, these things will grow in an atmosphere of democratic,
interactive and open communication between parents and children.
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