Proper

social
Etiquette
 WHAT IS ETIQUETTE?

 As a literal translation , etiquette simply means a collection

of little reminders to help people understand how to behave in
various situations…

 Etiquette ensures that people know what society in general

expects; it provides standard rules for appropriate behavior .

 The purpose of etiquette isn't to put on a show for the benefit

of others with appearances and facades .

 Etiquette involves an attitude of respect and concern toward

others to ensure that everyone feels valued and comfortable.
 WHY IS ETIQUETTE IMPORTANT?

 If someone lacks an understanding of basic etiquette, he

might feel uncomfortable in social situations.
 With this discomfort, he might experience embarrassment or timidity
that puts him at a disadvantage.

 With a solid foundation in etiquette and manners, a person

can feel strong and confident, even in new or unfamiliar
situations.

 When a person has strong social skills and understands how

to treat others respectfully and politely, he can navigate
virtually anything.
NAME SOME SITUATIONS WHERE PROPER
ETIQUETTE CAN BE BENEFICIAL
 During meals
 At parties or social events
 While having a conversation with a teacher
 When meeting a new girlfriends parents
 During an interview
 Moving to a new neighborhood
 Starting a new job
 Many, many, more…

 Proper etiquette is impor tant in several social situations;

the following slides will cover some basics that can be
valuable in various circumstances.
 TRADITIONALLY, HOW SHOULD MEN AND
WOMEN TAKE THEIR SEATS IN A
RESTAURANT OR AT A DINNER PART Y?

 A -Men remain standing until women are seated.

 B-Women and men take turns one by one; first a woman sits,
then a man.

 C-Everyone stands and waits for the host to be seated. Then,

all sit.
 A-MEN REMAIN STANDING UNTIL WOMEN
ARE SEATED.

 "Traditionally, men remain standing until women are

seated.
 This is an especially nice gesture when guests are of
different generations, such as grandsons showing
courtesy and respect to their grandmothers.
 Men assist women with their chairs unless the waiter
or host does."
 AT MEALS,
WHEN SHOULD YOU START EATING?

 A-As soon as you are served.

 B-When the people on either side of you have been

served.

 C-After everyone is served.

 C-AFTER EVERYONE IS SERVED.

 "Wait until everyone is served before starting to eat

in a private home or restaurant.

 For family meals, the mother starts first. Guests

should wait for the hosts. No one should leave the
table until everyone is finished."
AT THE END OF THE MEAL, WHAT SHOULD
YOU DO WITH YOUR KNIFE AND FORK TO
SIGNAL THAT YOU HAVE FINISHED EATING?

 A-Lay the knife and fork across your plate with the
handles at four o'clock.

 B-Place your utensils next to each other, on the

tablecloth, above your plate.

 C-Position your utensils on your plate so that the

knife and fork form an "X".
A-LAY THE KNIFE AND FORK ACROSS YOUR
PLATE WITH THE HANDLES AT FOUR
O'CLOCK.

Lay the knife and fork across your plate with

the handles at four o'clock (think of a clock
face) to signal that you have finished eating.
WHEN IS IT ACCEPTABLE TO PUT YOUR
ELBOWS ON THE TABLE?

A-Only between courses.

B-While you are eating.

C-Never.
 A-ONLY BETWEEN COURSES.

Never say never. Contrary to popular belief,

elbows on the table is acceptable between
courses or after everyone has finished eating,
but never during the meal.
 POSTURE AT THE TABLE

 Proper posture at the table is very important .

 To show that you're alert and engaged, don't slouch.

 Make sure to sit up straight, with your arms held near your
body. Never hang your elbows heavily on the table when at a
formal dinner.
 DURING THE MEAL YOU NEED TO VISIT THE
RESTROOM. WHAT DO YOU DO?

 A - Announce to everyone, "I've gotta go to the toilet."

 B-Say, "Excuse me for a moment, I'll be right back."

 C-Say nothing -- just leave.

 D-Sit quietly and suf fer until the meal is over.

 B-SAY, "EXCUSE ME FOR A MOMENT, I'LL BE
RIGHT BACK."

Publicly announcing bodily functions is crass.

If you gotta go, you gotta go -- just leave with

the minimum amount of fuss.

A quiet "Excuse me for a moment, I'll be right

back" is sufficient.
 BEING ON TIME

 True or False?
 It is important to be on time for school, work, meetings, events, and
other social occasions.

The obvious answer is True- being late consistently makes you

unreliable… says you clearly do not respect other people’s time, only
yours.

But…
When it comes to dinner parties or social gatherings at someone's
home, it is common to arrive 5-10 minutes late to be sure the
host has had time to get everything set up.
 HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO FORM A
FIRST IMPRESSION?
 It takes 30 seconds for a person meeting you for the first time
to form impressions about you, your character, and abilities.

 Always be prepared to look and sound your best:

 You’re always “onstage”

 Good grooming is essential

 Smile and make eye contact

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

 GOOD GROOMING
AND PERSONAL HYGIENE
 Job opportunities, relationship possibilities, invitations to
social events, and your mental health and self -esteem are all
inextricably linked to how you present yourself to the world.

 Grooming is simply one of those things that there is no excuse

not to take time and ef fort with.

Name some basic components of being well

groomed and discuss their importance.
 Hair, teeth, skin, nails, body odor, clothes, shoes, etc…
WHEN BEING INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE
SHOULD YOU:
 Stand up or remain seated?
 Stand up

 Look them in the eye?

 Always, good eye contact shows confidence and focus.

 Give a high five, a fist bump, or a firm handshake?

 A firm handshake
 A firm handshake conveys confidence, assurance, interest
and respect
PAIR-UP
AND PRACTICE A PROPER HANDSHAKE
 Make sure your handshake is
firm, not a dead fish grip.
However, you don’t want to crush
the other per son’s hand.

 Make sure you don’t have food or

grease on your hands. You want
the per son to remember you, not
what you ate.

 If your hands are sweaty, give

them a quick nonchalant wipe on
your pants.

 When you of fer your hand, look

the per son in the eye and smile.