2.

Enhancing Resilience

 Resilience is your capacity to recover from an unpleasant

experience. Resilient individuals can bounce back or return to their
original condition after a life-changing experience such as an
illness, death of a loved one, or an accident. Here are some
techniques on how to enhance resilience:
1. Establish Connections

 Having a good relationship with your family, friends, and peers may
help you overcome challenges. Asking help and support from them
are important, especially if you feel confused and you need
enlightenment. Also, being connected with civic groups such as a
choir in your church or a school organization may enhance.
2. Accept the reality that nothing is
permanent in this world
 Change is not easy. You must accept that change is part of
growing up. At times, you have to leave a part of you to develop
and reach your goals.
3. Love and take care of yourself

 If you will not care for yourself and do not love who you are, what
do you think will happen to you? As a teenager, you are very much
capable of taking care of yourself.
4. Be more optimistic

 You have to trust yourself that you can solve whatever problems
you have.
5. Strengthen your problem-solving
abilities
 Your capacity to solve problems is a positive sign of recovering from
unpleasant. Hence, to further enhance your capacity to work out
on whatever problems you have, always remember that the
following are essential: (a) set realistic goals, (b) identify and list all
possible solutions to your problems, (c) explore the consequences of
suggested solutions (d) prioritize the solution, and (e) implement
solutions.
3. Developing Self-regulation

 Self-regulation is your capacity to control and monitor your own

behavior. It involves setting goals and standards and delaying
gratification of needs. Here are some examples: you opt to let go of
attending parties to focus on your studies, you do not use any social
media during examination week, and you do not play games on
your cellular phone to focus on deadlines at school. These things
are not easy to do. At times, when we try to resist impulse, the more
we are tempted to do so.
 According to Bandura (1997, 2000), self-efficacy is developed
through mastery of experiences, vicarious experiences, persuasion,
or encouragement and interpretation of emotional arousal.
4. Enhancing Social Skills

 People are social beings. As such, we need to enhance our social

skills, or our ability to relate more effectively with others. Good social
skills may help you convey your ideas well so that others may
understand your point of view. Harrington (2013) identified ways on
how to promote positive relationships with others.
1. Promote good feelings through
positive reciprocity

 We feel good when are appreciated. The same feelings are also
experienced by others when you affirm and appreciate their good
qualities.
2. Show empathy

 Empathy is your ability to put yourself in the shoes of others.

Empathy is communicated by your capacity to truly listen not only
to the words spoken but even to the feelings of other people.
3. Clarify boundaries and set people
limitations
 Your ability to say “no” in a non-aggressive manner is one way of
defining your limits. Being assertive may help you to express what
you want and at the same time accept the ideas of others, even
though there are times when it is difficult to say “no”.
4. Learn to negotiate

 Social skills require your ability to express your opinions through

negotiation. Being able to negotiate or “bargain” is one way of
resolving different points of views without losing or sacrificing your
own ideas.
5. Express gratitude

 When you are thankful or appreciative, it does not only boost

positive feelings, but it also allows you to articulate the positive
actions of others.
6. Practice forgiveness

 Aside from its psychological benefits, forgiveness can even keep

you from lingering on negative emotions about people. Being more
forgiving helps you look at the other side of your experience and
“let go” of unnecessary worries that are not good for your well-
being.
7. Learn to help others

 When you extend yourself to others, others will also be willing to help
you out. When you share what you can and extend your talent or
skill, you became selfless.
8.Accept help from others

 Of equal importance to helping others is your capacity to accept

help when needed. Accepting your limitations or vulnerabilities is an
indication that you are open for growth.