Courtship,

Dating, and
SIRPHOL M. FABABAER
Lecturer
Marriage

FAMILY
It helps us in improving our
personality. It also helps us in
shaping our life. It teaches us the
value of integrity, love and
honesty and provides us with
tools necessary for success. -a
place where you can be yourself.
-most people don’t realize the
importance of family, they prefer
to spend most of their time with
their friends.
Love and Infatuation are
both intense emotions that
one feels for another
person.
INFATUATION OR CRUSH is the state of being
completely carried away by unreasoning passion
or love; addictive love. -admiration for someone
while not recognizing that person’s flaws LOVE
can be described as a feeling of intense affection
for another person - is deep affection for
someone
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 Admiration for someone
that may include the desire
to get to know that person
better. CRUSHES usually
last for only a short time,
few weeks or maybe a few
ATTRACTION months.

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 the period in a couple's
relationship which
precedes their engagement
and marriage or it is an
establishment of an agreed
relationship of a more
COURTSHIP enduring kind.

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 •Allows people to ‘win’ the
affection of those to
whom they are attracted
•Most societies have
‘rituals’ - men have to
prove their ability to
COURTSHIP being able to provide and
women be the ‘alluring’
and nurturing
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 • ILOCOS - tapat, ("to be in front of the
woman’s house” similar to harana)
• TAGALOG REGIONS- balagtasan
(singing a romantic song)
• LUZON - Rooster courtship (rooster is
Different traditional assigned to be the "negotiator",
practices of courtship in wherein the male chicken is left to stay
the Philippines in the home of the courted to crow
every single morning for the admired
lady's family.)

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 • BULACAN – naninilong ( means
serenading from the basement. )
• KALINGA - ebgan Ifugaos - ca-i-sing
Tingguians - pangis -where a man and a
woman are separated into "houses“,
Different traditional for the males is called Ato, for females
practices of courtship in is known as the olog or agamang man
the Philippines visits the woman’s house to sing
romantic songs and the woman reply
to these songs
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 • BATANGAS - traditional eve of the
wedding procession, bring the cooking
ingredients for the celebration to the
bride’s home
• PANGASINAN - taga-amo, which
Different traditional means "tamer", a form of love potions
practices of courtship in or charms which can be rubbed to the
the Philippines skin of the admired. There is also the
use of palabas, meaning show or
drama wherein the man pretends to
commit suicide.

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 • APAYAO - mahal-alay (allows a man
and a woman to sleep together during
the night)
• PALAWAN – pasaguli (the use of love
riddles ) pabalic / pabalik is done to
Different traditional settle the price in a form of dowry that
practices of courtship in will be received by the women from
the Philippines the courting man.
• CEBUANOS – balak (write love letters
that are sent through a trusted friend
or relative of the woman)

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 • LEYTE - pangagador paninilbihan (suitor
accomplishes household and farm chores
for the family of the woman - subok (a
trial or test period for the serving suitor.)
• BICOL - it is called pamianan.
• TAUSUGS OF MINDANAO - Palabas,
Different traditional sarakahan tupul, or magpasumbahi (A
practices of courtship in suitor would threaten to stab his heart
while in front of the courted woman’s
the Philippines father)
• BAGOBOS - sends a knife or a spear as a
gift to the home of the courted woman for
inspection. Accepting the weapon is
equivalent to accepting the man’s
romantic intention and advances.

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 • Pre-arranged marriages and betrothals
are common to Muslims. It involves
discussions regarding the price and the
form of the dowry.
• The Tausug people proclaims that a
Different traditional wedding, a celebration or
practices of courtship in announcement known as the pangalay.
the Philippines It is officiated by an Imam.
• Readings from the Quran is a part of
the ceremony, as well as the placement
of the groom's fingerprint over the
bride's forehead.

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 .

Courtship Practices at the Age of

Different traditional Technology - A suitor can court a woman
through the use of cellphones. - A man
practices of courtship in can court a woman through Facebook,
the Philippines Twitter, Skype or other social networking
sites.

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"Ligawan Noon at Ngayon - Ano ang
Pagkakaiba?"

NOON...
Kahoy ay sinisibak
Tubig ay iniigib
Mabangong bulaklak
ang handog sa babaeng iniibig.
NGAYON...
Cellphone ang nasa kamay
o sa harap ng computer,
naglamay
Nagkasagutan na ang dalawa
"In a relationship" na ang status
nila.
"Ligawan Noon at Ngayon - Ano ang
Pagkakaiba?"

NOON...
Matagal-tagal ding sinuyo
ang dalagang iniirog
Nagpakipot pa nang husto
Bago ibigay, matamis na "OO".
NGAYON...
Isang text lang ang katapat
o tweet na kakilig-kilig
mahal na raw ang isa't-isa
Kaya naman, "M.U." na sila.
"Ligawan Noon at Ngayon - Ano ang
Pagkakaiba?"

NOON... NGAYON...
Harana ang paraan Naglalagi na ang babae
ng binata sa panliligaw sa bahay ng lalake
lumilikha pa ng awit Nakakulong pa sa kwarto
upang dilag ay mabingwit. at nakagawa na ng milagro.
"Ligawan Noon at Ngayon - Ano ang
Pagkakaiba?"

NOON...
Mahaba at makapal ang damit
sakong ay di man lang masilip
Kainip-inip ang unang halik
"No touch"... wala munang
pagtatalik.
NGAYON...
Dibdib at binti ay nakalantad na
balewala lang kahit makitaan pa
Busog na busog ang mga mata
Kaya madaling magsawa ang mga
binata.
"Ligawan Noon at Ngayon - Ano ang
Pagkakaiba?"

NOON...
Sa bukid namamasyal
may kasamang "chaperon" pa
nga
o kaya'y sa park ang tagpuan
para lang kumain at
magkwentuhan.
NGAYON...
Sa mall ang "meeting place" nila
Maglaro sa "arcade" o manood
ng sine
and iba'y nagde-DATE sa park
sa damuhan, sa batuhan... PDA
kahit saan.
"Ligawan Noon at Ngayon - Ano ang
Pagkakaiba?"

NOON...
Liham ng busilak na pag-ibig
Tula ng tunay na pagmamahal
Awit ng pusong handang
maghintay
Kahit ialay ang sariling buhay.
NGAYON...
Makabago na ang kababaihan
Naaangkin agad kanilang
kagandahan
Bihira na ang seryosong ligawan
Bibihira na rin ang relasyong
pangmatagalan.
 Types of dating:
DATING 1.Standard date – involves two people
Dating actually comes from the
arranging of a time and date of
meeting. 2.Double date – two couples go on a
• a form of courtship consisting of
social activities done by two people, date at the same time and place
as partner in an intimate
relationship or as a spouse.
• it refers to the act of meeting and
engaging in some mutually agreed
3.Group date – where any number of
upon social activity, together, as a couples can enjoy a date
couple

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Importance of DATING
• It forms affection and respect.
• It strengthens the relationship.
• It gives quality time to each other.
• It leads one to observe the other person’s
character. •

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 Importance of DATING
• Provides an opportunity for one to know his/her
strengths and weaknesses in dealing with the
opposite sex.
• It allows you to get to know the person you are
in a relationship with, while having a good time.

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Going a period wherein the
relationship between
Steady two people remains
strong and well.

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Engagement
a period of agreement entered
between two people in love for
them to be able to know each other
and their families well enough to
be sure that they are ready and are
suited for life-long companionship

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MARRIAGE
Lifelong partnership of a man and a woman,
two unique individuals, who understand,
respect, care, and love each other - a special
contract of permanent union between a man
and a woman entered into in accordance with
law for the establishment of conjugal and
family life

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Factors Necessary to 1. Maturity
Consider in choosing 2. Physical Maturity
a lifetime partner to 3. Fidelity
work out for
4. Economic Readiness
Successful Married
Life
5. Commitment
6. Character
7. Love
8. 8. God-fearing
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 RECIPE / • Love
• Understanding / Respect • Care
INGREDIENT • Loyalty
• A Shared Philosophy
S OF A • Cooperation
• Growth
SUCCESSFUL • Involvement
• Sharing and Giving
MARRIAGE • Communication

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