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Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Is the ability to understand, use
and manage our emotions.
-It helps us build strong
relationship, makes good decision,
and deal with difficult situations.
-EQ is part of being people smart.
Geneva has been standing in line for over two
hours to buy a concert ticket. The rule is, one
person, one ticket. Her feet are killing her and
she knows she is in trouble with her mom, who
expected her home by now. But there are only
five people left in front of her and she is sure
she will get a ticket. Out of nowhere, two girls
from school walk up, make a big deal about
meeting up with their friend who just happens to
be standing in front of Geneva, and take places
in line in front of her.
Processing Questions:
1. What do you think Geneva
should do?
2. How will Geneva feel? How will
the two girls feel?
3. What is the worst possible
outcome?
TYPES OF RESPONSES
Passive response: Behaving passively means not expressing your own needs and
feelings, or expressing them so weakly that they will not be addressed.
If Geneva behaves passively, by standing in line and not saying anything, she
will probably feel angry with the girls and herself. If the ticket office runs out of
tickets before she gets to the head of the line, she will be furious and might
blow up at the girls after it's too late to change the situation.
1. FAMILY
2. FRIENDS
3. PARTNERSHIPS
WHY PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPS ARE
IMPORTANT
1. LIVE LONGER
2. DEAL WITH STRESS
3. BE HEALTHIER
ISOLATION IN ONE’S LIFE WILL
SOMETIMES LEAD TO:
1. DEPRESSION
2. DECREASED IMMUNE FUNCTION
3. HIGHER BLOOD PRESSURE
25 MOST COMMON
RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
1. AFFAIRS/INFEDELITY/CHEATING
2. SEXUAL ISSUES
3. CORE VALUES AND BELIEFS
4. LIFE STAGES
5. TRAUMATIC EVENTS
6. STRESS
Work Related Stress
Illness
Mental Health
Financial
Problems of Children
Infertility
7. BOREDOM
8. JEALOUSY
9. ‘BLENDED’ FAMILY ISSUES
10. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
11. KNOWING YOU SHOULD
NOT HAVE GOT MARRIED IN
THE FIRST PLACE
12. LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY
13. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
14. ADDICTIONS
15. RELIANCE ON SOCIAL MEDIA
16. LACK OF SUPPORT
17. MANIPULATION
18. LACK OF COMMUNICATION
19. ONE-SIDED LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY FOR
CHORES AND TASK
20. PERCEIVED LACK OF CONCERN, CARE AND
CONSIDERATION/ATTENTIVENESS
21. PERSONAL DISAPPOINTMENTS
22. DEPRESSION
23. DIFFERENCES IN OPINION ON HOW TO DEAL
WITH CHILDREN
24. UNSUPPORTED PARTNER DURING
PREGNANCY.
THREE STAGES OF FALLING IN
LOVE
1. LUST
2. ATTRACTION
3. ATTACHMENT
THEORIES THAT RESULT TO ATTRACTION
1. Transference Effect
- A person is being attracted by
someone that reminds us a person from
the past who has affected our sense of
self and our behaviour. Past relationships
can therefore affect our current
interactions with people.
2. Propinquity Effect
- We develop a sense of familiarity with
people who live close to us, work with us,
or go to school with us, which leads us to
liking them more. People we are familiar
will make us feel safe and secure.
Because we can predict their behavior,
we find people who we are familiar with
more likeable than others.
3. Similarity
- We often like people who we have
similarities with, such as social class
background, religious beliefs, age, and
education. Communicating with people
we have similarities with also facilitates
communication because we can easily
empathize and understand where they
are coming from.
4. Reciprocity
- We like people who like us
back. The more we are liked by
someone we equally like, the
more we behave in ways that
promote mutual feelings of liking.
5. Physical Attractiveness
- major factor in liking someone.
- average facial features, higher
cheekbones, thinner jaws, larger eyes.
- less attractive individuals may
compensate by offering other qualities
like wealth and status to attract a
potential mate but relationships built on
this exchange do not last long.
6. Personality Characteristics and Traits
- People get attracted to empathetic
persons, who exude warmth and sympathy,
optimistic and maintain positive views,
socially competent persons, good
communicators and enjoy good
conversations.
- Happy and cheerful disposition, outgoing,
sexually warm and responsive.
6. Personality Characteristics and Traits
- People get attracted to emphatitic
persons, who exude warmth and sympathy,
optimistic and maintain positive views,
socially competent persons, good
communicators and enjoy good
conversations.
- Happy and cheerful disposition, outgoing,
sexually warm and responsive.
TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND
CREATING LONG-LASTING,
AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS