YOUTH MINISTRY

ON
GUIDANCE and COUNSELING
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in counseling. He does the forgiving and
healing, but He uses counsellors to take off
the binding grave clothes so that people can be
freed from the shackle of damaged emotions.
What a privilege to be used of God to free
people!
WHAT YOUTH IS

 Someone who belongs to these age

bracket, i.e., 13-38 (i.e., early
adolescence up to early adulthood).

 Someone who is single, not

committed to a lifetime partnership
with opposite sex.

 Someone who belongs from a period

of sexual maturity to a period of
exploration and stabilization.
WHAT GUIDANCE
ISIs defined as a help given
by someone to another
in making choices and
adjustment and
in solving problems.

Is a process of helping individuals

to understand themselves
and their world.
 WHAT GUIDANCE IS

Generally, guidance is defined

as an action to show concern in assisting others.

It is considered as a helping profession, whose aim

is to provide maximum human growth and
development and self-direction for all learners.
 WHAT COUNSELING IS

 A set of techniques, skills and attitudes

 To help people manage their own problems
 Using their available resources.
 PURPOSE: TOTAL PERSONAL GROWTH

 The assumption is that

individuals who understand
themselves and their world will
become more effective, more
productive and happier human
beings.

 They can manage their lives and

become more purposeful about what
they want to do.
 GOAL OF COUNSELING

 Helping people manage their own problems using

their own available resources.

 The focus is not problem management but

more in providing help by exploring opportunities for
growth.

 The task of the counselor is not to provide solutions to

the problems at hand, but to enable the counselee
discover options and answers by harnessing
one’s energies and available resources.
 COUNSELING SKILLS
1. LISTENING - is the most important skill in
counseling. It is the process of hearing the
other person. This involves not only noting
the things that they say but also a whole
range of other aspects of communication.

2. Three Aspects of Listening

a. Linguistic
b. Paralinguistic
c. Non-Verbal
 THREE KINDS OF LISTENING

a. Linguistic – refers to actual words that the

client uses, to the phrases they choose and to
the metaphors they use to convey what they
are feeling.

b. Paralinguistic – refers to all those aspects of

speech that are not words, themselves. Thus,
timing, volume, pitch, accent are all
paralinguistic's aspects of communication.
 Three kinds of listening

c. Non- Verbal – refers to the “body language”

expressions through the use of the body.
Thus facial expression, use of gestures, body
position and movement, proximity to the
counselor, touch in relation to the counselor, all
offer clues about the client’s internal status
beyond the words they use and can be
"listened” to by the attentive counselor.
2. GIVING INFORMATION
 How much information is given during
a counseling session will depend on the
nature of the counseling relationship.

 It is fairly to say that it is more possible

to give information about concrete
issues than it is about personal issues.
 3. MAKING SUGGESTIONS
 Is one way of making counselee choose the best possible
way or options.
 This is opposite to advice giving where in most people
slip easily into it.
 The problem of advice giving are many and include the
following pitfalls:
 Making suggestions

 People rarely take advice unless they feel that it is the

“right "advice, in which case they will usually have
thought of it themselves.

 Some people can become dependent on the advice of

others. To begin to accept other people’s advice is a
seductive process. Once a person does the thinking for
you. It is easy to become dependent.

 People may not like you for offering advice that does
not turn out right; every time you offer people advice,
you rob them of the chance to figure out for
themselves. In other words, advice giving can inhibit
learning.
4. DRAWING OUT
 Some of the most useful counseling interventions
are those that involve helping the counselee to
verbalize what he/she is thinking and feeling.

 If counseling is a form of “talking cure”, then

letting the client speak is one of the most
important aspects of it.
 5. CHALLENGING

 Sometimes it is helpful to challenge what the

counselee is saying, although challenging and
confrontation are not always associated with
counseling .
 There are times when they are appropriate

For example:
 When the counselee states something that is clearly not the
case (e.g., there is no one in the house that I can talk to at all).

 When the counselee continues to self-denigrate (e.g., I’ve

never been any good at anything. I’ve always been a failure”)
6. SUPPORTIVE
 The whole of the counseling process is an
act of support. He should aim at
befriending the counselee. Thus all
counseling interventions are made in
spirit of encouragement and care.

 The counselor as it were , a “fellow traveller”

and not a person who is somehow equipped for
life than the counselee. In this sense too, the
counselor should retain humility.
 PERSONAL QUALITIES OF A COUNSELOR

1. Warmth
inherent interest in other people.
2. Genuineness
the absence of any pretence.
3. Unconditional positive regard - respect.
4. Empathy
the ability to put oneself into the situation of another.
 Personal Qualities of a Counselor

4. Concreteness
the ability to get to listen to what the other
person is saying.
5. Sense of humour
gentle use of sense of humour.
6. Self-awareness
charity begins at home.
FOUR BASIC STEPS IN COUNSELING
1. Focus on feelings first.
2. Listen and assess with eyes and ears.
3. Reflect back what you hear and what you
see as significant
4. Ask about :
a.) what is missing (feeling or thought)
b.) what is behind what your eye can see ( e.g.,
teary eyes, tense body, jitter)
 SOME DONT’S IN COUNSELING
1. Don’t’ moralize
2. Don’t constantly compare the
counselee experiences with your own.
3. Don’t offer advice on personal and
emotional issues.
4. Don’t tell the counselees they don’t
feel a certain way (e.g., of course you are
not).
 EFFECTIVE LISTENING BEHAVIOUR IN
COUNSELING
 Sitting squarely in relation to the
client
 Maintaining an open position with
arms and legs uncrossed.
 Leaning slightly towards the client.
 Maintaining comfortable eye contact.
 Keeping a relaxed position
 WHAT TO DO IF THINGS GO WRONG
 Don’t panic.
 Continue to listen to the counselee.
 Suggest that someone else be brought into the
relationship.
 Ensure that you know where the counselee is
going after the counseling interview.
 If you are worried, telephone for help.
 Always keep a list of the telephone numbers of
other helping agencies.
WHEN TO REFER ON
 When the client talks on suicide.
 When the client is obviously mentally ill.
 When the practical issues under discussion are the ones
that you know little about (e.g., technical or legal issues).
 When you feel out of your depth and unable to help any
further.
 ETHICS IN COUNSELING

1. Maintain confidentiality
2. Recognize limitations
3. Avoid irrelevant details
4. Treat client as you would be treated
5. Non-judgmental attitude
6. Affirming client’s self determination
STAGES OF ADOLESCENT COUNSELING

Stage 1. ESTABLiSHING RAPPORT

AIM: Gain the trust of the adolescent
Stage 2: IDENTIFYING & CLARIFYING
THE PROBLEM
AIM: 2.1 Gain an understanding of what the
adolescent is concerned.
2.2 Help the adolescent identify and
understand his/her problem
2.3 Make the adolescent feel you
understand his/her problem.
STAGES 3: GOAL SETTING
 Aim : Help adolescent identify a
realistic and achievable goal.
STAGE 4: CONSTRUCTING PLAN OF
ACTION
 Aim : Develop the steps to be taken to
accomplish goal
STAGE 5: MONITORING AND EVALUATING
ADOLESCENT TOWARD CHANGE
Aim: 1.) Motivate adolescent to pursue
to plan of action
2.) Monitor effectiveness of plan of action
3.) After plan of action if necessary
STAGE 6: ENDING THE PROCESS
 Aim : Make terminations of process a
positive experience for adolescent.
THE LORD
OF CREATION
 That
in
all
things
God
may be
glorified