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Session 5
Peer Pressure
The Concern and its Resolution
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Continuous happiness from feelings from others?
(like attention from others – family, friends, etc.)
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Concern How we go about it
We want to be accepted by others 1. Copying (नक़ल) – we give in to
peer pressure
– We copy their do’s and don’ts
We think that we will be accepted (appearance, language, lifestyle,
when we are like them or better etc.)
than them – in how we look, how – We let the other decide for us
we dress, how we talk, what we (though we may or may not be
eat, what we drink, etc. comfortable with their choice)
– We keep accepting wrong notions
(based on preconditioning), because
So, there is a pressure to be like we don’t have the practice, self-
them or better – in appearance, confidence of verifying things
(notions) on our own right !
clothes, language and expression
(e.g. English), etc.
2. Arbitrariness (मनमानी) – we rebel
This is part of the peer pressure (विद्रोह)
– We do our own things, do whatever
Even the other is in the same state we like
Asking for being accepted by you! – We reject the other
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Resolution – Explore if This is What you Really Want
There is a third option: Verify on your own right:
3. Right Understanding (सही Language is only a means of
समझ) communication (what is
Verifying things on your own right: communicated is more important
than language, expression)
•On the basis of your natural
acceptance and Speaking in a particular language
ensures your respect?
•On the basis of validating by
Continuously, with all?
living accordingly
(experiential validation) Clothes are for the protection of
the Body
If our sense of belongingness is on Can you get respect by wearing a
the basis of understanding (human certain type of clothes?
being…), then it is permanent and Continuous, from all?
with all Rather. wearing exclusive clothes
(we feel comfortable with all) may lead to jealousy
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Human Being = Co-existence of Self(I) and Body
Human being is a co-existence of If we assume that happiness may
Self (I) and Body be ensured by favourable
feeling from others, we try to
get these feelings from them
Need of the Self (I) is happiness by way of:
• which is fulfilled by Right 1. Being ahead of others - (in
Understanding & Right terms of appearance, clothes,
Feelings (like feeling of language & expression-
respect) English, money etc)
Need of the Body is physical 2. Seeking alikeness -
facility belongingness with a specific
• which is fulfilled by Physio- group (because others are
chemical things (like food) doing it/ having it, so should I)
Both needs have to be fulfilled
separately These two become the major
Today, we seem to be neglecting sources of peer pressure
the need of the Self 5
What is Naturally Acceptable to You? What is the Solution?
Copying – adopting Arbitrariness Right Understanding
Living Living Living
on the basis of others on the basis of on the basis of
(some do’s & don’ts) one’s own natural acceptance
likes-dislikes
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Questions
Assuming Human Being = Body Focus on Physical Facility
? RIGHT UNDERSTANDING
(le>)
in the self
For animals:
? RELATIONSHIP 1
PHYSICAL FACILITY necessary & largely
(laca/k) adequate
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o
t ,r i with it y?
human et m ion
g frowith For human beings:
g m u at rest
t? of nature
n
in tio fro tin being to s s i n necessary but not
y
r n s
T te g co n ing nes sen po adequate
y i n
at elin rs ( Tr pp ing tio )
fe he ha eas fac ity?
ot pl atis inu
UNHAPPINESS (s ont DEPRIVATION
C
Making others Unhappy Exploiting and
Depriving others
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Explore if This is What you Really Want
1 RIGHT UNDERSTANDING
(le>)
in the self
2 3
RELATIONSHIP
ng t
l i PHYSICAL FACILITY
fe ri(glaca/k)
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h o e c
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- Respect
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m h y
p a d in
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with
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th o n pr fe per ity
(c to os tinu
MUTUAL HAPPINESS pr on MUTUAL PROSPERITY
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Peer Pressure in the New Environment
When students join college, they are mostly on their own, without
parental oversight and have to fit in with the new environment
They may be comfortable with their mother-tongue, but students
who talk in English are given more attention
They may be used to speaking without expletives, but senior
students freely use abusive language
Similarly with clothes, hairstyles and so many things…
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