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Understanding Relationship
– Trust
Harmony in the Family
1. Relationship is – between one self (I1) and the other self (I2)
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in relationship – of one
self (I1) for the other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings)
4. Their fulfillment and evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl 6- Reverence J)k
2- Respect lEeku 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse
5- Guidance okRlY;
Are these feelings Naturally Acceptable to You?
When you live with these feelings, does it lead to your happiness?
When you express these feelings to the other, does it lead to the
happiness of the other?
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Trust (fo”okl)
Trust = to be assured (vk”oLr gksuk)
= to have the clarity that the other wants to make me
happy & prosperous
= nwljk esjs lq[k] le`f) ds vFkZ esa gS] ,slk Li’V gksuk
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Trust (fo”okl)
Verify on the basis of your natural Verify on the basis of your
acceptance competence
1a. I want to make myself happy √ 1b. I am able to make myself
always happy ?
2a. I want to make the other happy √ 2b. I am able to make the others
always happy ?
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself happy √ 3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy?
4a. The other wants to make me 4b. The other is able to make me
happy ?
always happy ??
If you have trust on intention of the other and if the other is lacking
competence, will you:
a) Try to improve his competence
b) Get irritated
c) Get angry
d) Have a feeling of opposition
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Harmony in Family
Understanding Relationship
– Respect
Harmony in the Family
1. Relationship is – between the self (I) and the other self (I)
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in relationship – of one
self (I) for the other self (I)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 feelings)
4. Their fulfillment and evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION 6- Reverence J)k
2- Respect lEeku VALUE 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
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Respect (lEeku)
Respect = Right Evaluation
lE;d~ ekiuk
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Over evaluation – to evaluate for more than what it is
vf/kewY;u vf/kd vkaadyu djuk
Under evaluation – to evaluate for less than what it is Disrespect
voewY;u de vkaadyu djuk vieku
Otherwise evaluation – to evaluate for other than what it is
vewY;u vU;Fkk vkaadyu djuk
Differentiation = Disrespect
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Differentiation Respect
I evaluate on the basis of body, I evaluate on the basis of Self (I)
physical facilities or belief (pre 1. We have the same purpose
conditioning). I compare with 2. We have the same program
others 3. We have the same potential
(difference is only in competence)
I am different from the other The other is like me
We are competitors We are complementary
I make effort to accentuate the if I have more understanding than
difference, to manipulate, exploit the other
the other 1. I interact with responsibly with the
other, knowing that he/she may
react, have uncertain conduct
2. facilitate understanding in the other
once the other is assured in relationship
(and not before that)
If the other has more
understanding than me
I become ready to understand from the other
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Sum Up
Respect is Right Evaluation
Respect on the basis of Self(I) – The other is like me. We are complementary to
each other. The only difference is in our level of understanding (how much of
the potential has been converted to competence)
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Justice (U;k;)
1. Relationship is – between the self (I) and the other self (I)
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in relationship – of one self (I)
for the other self (I)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 feelings)
4. Their fulfillment and evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION 6- Reverence J)k
2- Respect lEeku VALUE 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
Justice = Recognition, Fulfillment & Evaluation of Human-Human Relationship,
leading to Mutual Happiness
Understanding Relationship
– Justice
Harmony in the Family
1. Relationship is – between the self (I) and the other self (I)
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in relationship – of one
self (I) for the other self (I)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 feelings)
4. Their fulfillment and evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl 6- Reverence J)k
7- Glory xkSjo
FOUNDATION
2- Respect lEeku VALUE
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
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Affection (Lusg)
The feeling of being related to the other
(acceptance of the other as one’s relative)
nwljs dks laca/kh ds :i esa Lohdkjus dk HkkoA
One naturally feels related to the other when one has the feelings of
Trust and Respect in oneself for the other
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Care (eerk) Guidance (okRlY;)
Feeling of responsibility toward the Feeling of responsibility toward
body of my relative the self(I) of my relative
Excellence ¼Js’Brk½
at all 4 levels
Understanding Harmony &
1. In the Self, as an Individual
Living in Harmony 2. In Family
3. In Society
4. In Nature/Existence
Worship ¼iwtk½
Effort made to achieve the excellence. Js’Brk ds fy, fd;k x;k iz;klA
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Glory ¼xkSjo½ Gratitude ¼d`rKrk½
Feeling for those who have Feeling for those who have
worked for excellence worked for my excellence
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Excellence (Js"Brk) To Be Special
The other is like me – we are Not other – me
(fo'ks"krk)
complementary I am different from the other
Helps the other to come to his level Stops the other to come to his level -
effort to accentuate the difference,
to dominate, manipulate, exploit
Operates on the basis of his Natural Operates on the basis of his
Acceptance (that is definite) – preconditioning (that changes) –
swatantra, self driven by clarity of driven by other on the basis of
human purpose reward / fear of punishment
Trust, respect... In relationship Conditional relationship, over-
evaluation of self & under-
evaluation of other
Is Prosperous – Rightly Utililises, Is Deprived – Hoards, Accumulates,
Shares, Nurtures Exploits
Absolute (definite completion point) Relative (no definite completion point)
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Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance if you want to be related
to:
X None The feeling of being related to none – in opposition to all
√ One The feeling of being related to one
The feeling of being related to many Affection
√ Many
√ Everyone The feeling of being related to all Love
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Love ¼izse½
Love ¼izse½ – The feeling of being related to all (Complete Value)
¾ gj ,d dks laca/kh ds :i esa Lohdkjus dk HkkoA
¾ iw.kZrk esa jfr & iw.kZrk esa jr gksuk & gj ,d ds lkFk laca/k
esa fufgr jl Hkkoksa dh vuqHkwfr djukA
It all starts with identifying that one is related to other human being
(Affection - Lusg) and it slowly expands to the feeling of being related
to all human beings (Love - izse) and then to all, each & every unit in
nature (human being as well as other units)
,d → vusd → gj ,d dks laca/kh ds :i esa Lohdkjuk
Human being has natural acceptance for living in relationship with all.
Understanding and living accordinly leads to Undivided Society
¼v[k.M lekt½
It starts from family and slowly expands to world family; without being
obstructed at any intermediate level
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Hamrony in Family
The Family is a Laboratory
1. To understand all 9 feelings, the fundamentals of relationship
2. To develop the competence to live in relationship
3. To practice living in relationship with all 9 feelings it in terms of fulfillment,
evaluation – ensuring mutual happiness in the family
Is the effort
to get these feelings from the other or
to ensure these feelings in oneself & to express them to the other?
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Harmony in Family – From Family to World Family (Undivided Society)
1. Relationship is – between the self (I) and the other self (I)
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in relationship – of one
self (I) for the other self (I)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 feelings)
4. Their fulfillment and evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl 6- Reverence J)k
7- Glory xkSjo
FOUNDATION
2- Respect lEeku VALUE
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
Justice = Recognition, Fulfillment & Evaluation of Human-Human
Relationship, leading to Mutual Happiness
Do we want to ensure Justice – from Family to World Family or to stop
somewhere in between?
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