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UNIT III
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Harmony in the Family
1. Relationship is – between one self (I 1) and other self (I2)
2. There are feelings in relationship – in one self (I 1) for other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings)
4. Their fulfilment, evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION VALUE 6- Reverence J)k
2- Respect lEeku 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
Are these feelings Naturally Acceptable to You?
When you live with these feelings, does it lead to your happiness?
When you express these feelings to the other, does it lead to the
happiness of the other?
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Trust (fo”okl)
Trust = to be assured (vk”oLr gksuk)
= to have the clarity that the other wants to make me
happy & prosperous
= nwljk esjs lq[k] le`f) ds vFkZ esa gS] ,slk Li’V
gksuk
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Evaluating Trust – Between 2 Individuals
Verify – on the basis of your Verify – on the basis of your
Natural Acceptance competence
1a. I want to make myself happy √ 1b. I am able to make myself
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always happy
2a. I want to make the other happy √ 2b. I am able to make the other
always happy ?
3a. The other wants to make √ 3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself happy
herself/himself always happy ?
4a. The other wants to make me 4b. The other is able to make me
happy ? ??
always happy
If the other makes a mistake even Even if I make the same mistake
once… 100 times…
– I doubt his intention, I don’t ask – I never doubt my intention
“why”, “how”… I jump to the
conclusion “he makes mistakes
intentionally”
– I condemn the other, reinforce – I reinforce “I am good”
“The other is bad”
– I get irritated, angry… have a – I make mistakes by accident
feeling of opposition…
– I conclude the other does not – I do not make effort to improve my
want to understand own competence
Even if the other makes the same When I make a mistake even
mistake 100 times… once…
– The other is like me, I am clear – I am clear about my intention
about his intention
– I know the mistake is due to lack – I know the mistake is due to lack
of competence, not a lack of of competence, not a lack of
intention intention
– If I have more competence, I help – I make effort to improve my own
the other to improve his competence (understanding,
competence feeling & skill)
– I know “he may have difficulty
understanding… and I may have
difficulty explaining…”
Trust on intention is the starting point for mutual development
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How many persons do you have trust on intention
– continuous, unconditional (never having a feeling of opposition,
getting irritated or angry)
– in case the other is lacking in competence, you have a feeling of
responsibility to improve his competence?
Understanding Relationship
– Respect
Evaluating Trust – Between 2 Individuals
Verify – on the basis of your Verify – on the basis of your
Natural Acceptance competence
1a. I want to make myself happy √ 1b. I am able to make myself
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always happy
2a. I want to make the other happy √ 2b. I am able to make the other
always happy ?
3a. The other wants to make √ 3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself happy
herself/himself always happy ?
4a. The other wants to make me 4b. The other is able to make me
happy ? ??
always happy
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION VALUE 6- Reverence J)k
2- Respect lEeku 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
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Respect (lEeku)
Respect = Right Evaluation
lE;d~ ekiuk
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Over evaluation – to evaluate for more than what it is
vf/kewY;u vf/kd vkaadyu djuk
Under evaluation – to evaluate for less than what it is Disrespect
voewY;u de vkaadyu djuk vieku
Otherwise evaluation – to evaluate for other than what it is
vewY;u vU;Fkk vkaadyu djuk
Wealth Post
/ku in
Differentiation = Disrespect
Not Naturally Acceptable… Opposition…
Movement…
Hksn ¾ vieku
lgt Lohdk;Z ugha gksrk--- fojks/k--- vkUnksyu---
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Respect: Right Evaluation – on the basis of the Self (I)
1. Purpose – Our purpose (Natural Acceptance) is similar
2. Program – Our program is similar
3. Potential – Our potential is similar
The Other is Similar to Me
4. Competence – On the basis of right evaluation of our mutual
competence, I recognise our complementarity:
If the other has more understanding, is more responsible than me
I am committed to understand from the other
If I have more understanding, I am more responsible than the other
1. I live with responsibility with the other, unconditionally,
unperturbed by the behaviour of the other
2. I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other (once
the other is assured in relationship, and not before that)
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Sum Up
Respect is Right Evaluation
Respect on the basis of Self(I) – The other is like me. We are complementary
to each other. The only difference is in our level of understanding (how much
of our desire, thought & expectation is on the basis of our Natural
Acceptance)
One naturally feels related to the other when one has the feelings of
Trust and Respect in oneself for the other
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Care (eerk) Guidance (okRlY;)
Feeling of responsibility toward the Feeling of responsibility toward
body of my relative the self(I) of my relative
Excellence ¼Js’Brk½
at all 4 levels
Understanding Harmony &
1. In the Self, as an Individual
Living in Harmony 2. In Family
3. In Society
4. In Nature/Existence
Worship ¼iwtk½
Effort made to achieve excellence. Js’Brk ds fy, fd;k x;k iz;klA
(inspiration from the revered)
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Excellence (Js"Brk) To Be Special
The other is like me – we are Not other – me
(fo'ks"krk)
complementary I am different from the other
Helps the other to come to his level Stops the other to come to his level -
effort to accentuate the difference, to
dominate, manipulate, exploit
Operates on the basis of his Natural Operates on the basis of his
Acceptance (that is definite) – preconditioning (that changes) –
swatantra, self driven by clarity of driven by other on the basis of
human purpose reward / fear of punishment
Trust, respect... In relationship Conditional relationship, over-
evaluation of self & under-evaluation
of other
Is Prosperous – Rightly Utililises, Is Deprived – Hoards, Accumulates,
Shares, Nurtures Exploits
Absolute (definite completion point) Relative (no definite completion point)
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Glory ¼xkSjo½ Gratitude ¼d`rKrk½
Feeling for those who have made Feeling for those who have made
effort for excellence effort for my excellence
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Feeling in Relationship
1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION VALUE 6- Reverence J)k
2- Respect lEeku 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
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Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance if you want to be related
to:
X None The feeling of being related to none – in opposition to all
√ One The feeling of being related to one
The feeling of being related to many Affection
√ Many
√ Everyone The feeling of being related to all Love
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Harmony in Family – Justice, From Family to World Family (Undivided Society)
1. Relationship is – between one self (I1) and other self (I2). To have this
clarity and acceptance in the self – continuously, unconditionally
2. There are feelings in relationship – in one self (I1) for other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings). Ensuring
these feelings in oneself – continuously, unconditionally
4. Their fulfilment, evaluation leads to mutual happiness. Expressing right
feelings, living with responsibility, unperturbed by the behaviour of the other
Feelings 1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION VALUE 6- Reverence J)k
in relationship: 2- Respect lEeku 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
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Harmony in the Society
Harmony in the Family
1. Relationship is – between one self (I 1) and other self (I2)
2. There are feelings in relationship – in one self (I 1) for other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings)
4. Their fulfilment, evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION VALUE 6- Reverence J)k
2- Respect lEeku 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
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Harmony in Society
We will explore:
1. Goal of Human Being Living in Society (Human Target)
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What is Desirable and Where are we today?
People living together, in a relationship of mutual fulfillment
(common goal)
Society
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Harmony in the Society (lekt esa O;oLFkk)
Human Target (ekuo y{;)
Right Understanding Prosperity Fearlessness Co-Existence
& Right Feelings (Trust)
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Current State – Have we understood our Goal?
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Harmony in the Society (lekt esa O;oLFkk)
Human Target (ekuo y{;)
Right Understanding Prosperity Fearlessness Co-Existence
& Right Feelings (Trust)
1 2 3 4
In Every Individual In Every Family In Society In Nature/
Existence
1 2 3 4
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Harmony in the Society (lekt esa O;oLFkk)
Human Target
Right Understanding Prosperity Fearlessness Co-Existence
& Right Feelings (Trust)
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In Every Individual In Every Family In Society In Nature/
Existence
1 2 3 4
1a. Education – To develop the right
understanding of the harmony at all levels of
Human Order ¼ekuoh; O;oLFkk ½
our living – from self to the entire existence
Five Dimensions ¼i¡kp vk;ke½ (individual, family, society, nature/existence)
1. Education – Sanskar 1
2. Health – Sanyam 1b. Sanskar – The commitment, preparation
and practice of living in harmony.
3. Production – Work
Preparation includes learning the skills and
4. Justice – Suraksha technology for living in harmony at all levels
5. Exchange – Storage – from self to the entire existence
(individual, family, society, nature/existence)
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Harmony in the Society (lekt esa O;oLFkk)
Human Target
Right Understanding Prosperity Fearlessness Co-Existence
& Right Feelings (Trust)
2 4
In Every Individual In Every Family In Society In Nature/
Existence
1 2 3 4
2b. Sanyam – Feeling of
Human Order ¼ekuoh; O;oLFkk responsibility
½ for Nurturing, Protection
and Right Utilization of the Body
Five Dimensions ¼i¡kp vk;ke½
1. Education – Sanskar
2a. Health (Swasthya) –
2. Health – Sanyam Body acts according to I
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3. Production – Work Parts of the body are in harmony
4. Justice – Suraksha (in order)
5. Exchange – Storage
Recognising What is Needed
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Program for Health (Swasthya)
Sanyam in the Self (I): Feeling of responsibility for Nurturing,
Protection and Right Utilization of the Body
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Mutually Enriching, Cyclic Process (Avartansheel Process)
1. Cyclic
2. Every Unit in the Process is Enriched
Plants
Soil, Water,
Air
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Mutually Enriching, Cyclic Process (Avartansheel Process)
1. Cyclic
2. Every Unit in the Process is Enriched
Plants
√? √?
√?
Human
Beings
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Harmony in the Society (lekt esa O;oLFkk)
Human Target
Right Understanding Prosperity Fearlessness Co-Existence
& Right Feelings (Trust)
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In Every Individual In Every Family In Society In Nature/
Existence
1 2 3 4
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Harmony in Family – Justice, From Family to World Family (Undivided Society)
1. Relationship is – between one self (I1) and other self (I2). To have this
clarity and acceptance in the self – continuously, unconditionally
2. There are feelings in relationship – in one self (I1) for other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings). Ensuring
these feelings in oneself – continuously, unconditionally
4. Their fulfilment, evaluation leads to mutual happiness. Expressing right
feelings, living with responsibility, unperturbed by the behaviour of the other
Feelings 1- Trust fo”okl FOUNDATION VALUE 6- Reverence J)k
in relationship: 2- Respect lEeku 7- Glory xkSjo
3- Affection Lusg 8- Gratitude —rKrk
4- Care eerk 9- Love izse COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance okRlY;
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Harmony in the Society (lekt esa O;oLFkk)
Human Target
Right Understanding Prosperity Fearlessness Co-Existence
& Right Feelings (Trust)
2 3
In Every Individual In Every Family In Society In Nature/
Existence
1 2 3 4
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Harmony in Society – Universal Human Order
Human Target (ekuo y{;)
Right Understanding Prosperity Fearlessness Co-Existence
& Right Feelings (Trust)
Ten Steps ¼nl lksiku½ – From Family Order to World Family Order
Family – Family cluster – Village – Village cluster ... Nation ... World Family
~101 ~102 ~1010
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Sum Up
A society is composed of families living together, in a relationship of mutual
fulfillment. They have a common goal, which is:
1. Right understanding & right feeling (happiness) in every individual
2. Prosperity in every family
3. Fearlessness (Trust) in society
4. Co-existence in nature/existence
The family is the basic unit in society, i.e. society is composed of family, group
of families, village family, group of village families, town family… and so on,
where every individual is responsible or self-disciplined and self motivated by
common values, participating in the larger order toward a common human
goal