HAPPINESS

COACHING
Winner Life Skills
DON’T WORRY,
BE HAPPY !
WHAT IS “HAPPINESS”?
 Can I ask each of you, what is YOUR definition of “Happiness”?

 Can you please take 15 minutes and write, scribble, doodle, draw, paint…
anything on this chart paper of ALL that makes you HAPPY !

 Let’s discuss a few of them…

 WHAT IS
“HAPPINESS”?
“HAPPINESS” IS ALWAYS THERE…NEVER A
CHOICE
“HAPPINESS” IN FACT IS THERE IN ALL CHOICES
YOU MAKE
SO THEN WHAT REALLY IS “HAPPINESS”?
 A feeling?

 An activity?

 An emotion?

 A state of mind?

 Something material?

 A habit?
“HAPPINESS”… A
HABIT?
“HAPPINESS”… A HABIT?
 The latest research on happiness gives us surprising answers.
 Once survival, safety and basic comforts are assured, external
circumstance doesn't affect our happiness level much.
 Our genes certainly contribute, but their affect can be made better
to increase our happiness points to a higher level.
 The largest determinant of our happiness turns out to be our
own mental, emotional, and physical habits, which create the
body chemistry that determines our happiness level.
“HAPPINESS”… A HABIT
 We all know that some of us tend to be more upbeat than others.
Part of this is inborn, just the fate of our genes that give us a
happier mood. But much of our mood is habit.
 It may seem odd to have happiness referred to as a habit. But it's
likely that by the time we're adults, we have settled into the habit
of often being happy, or the habit of being largely unhappy.

 As you are all children, it is time to understand that you can

choose to remain happy even when you grow up to be an adult.
 “HAPPINESS”… A HABIT
Happiness is closely linked to three kinds of habits:
1. How we think and feel about the world, and therefore perceive our
experiences.
How do YOU see the World?!

Then vs Now?!
 “HAPPINESS”… A HABIT
Happiness is closely linked to three kinds of habits:
2. Certain actions or habits, such as regular exercise, eating healthfully,
meditating, connecting with other people, even -- proven in study after
study -- regularly smiling and laughing!
 “HAPPINESS”… A HABIT
Happiness is closely linked to three kinds of habits:
3. Character traits such as self-control, industry (hard work), fairness,
caring about others, citizenship, wisdom, courage, leadership, and
honesty.
 In practice, these character traits are just habits; tendencies to act in certain ways
when confronted with certain kinds of situations. And certainly it makes sense that
the more we exhibit these traits, the better our lives work, the better we feel about
ourselves, and the more meaning we find in life -- so the happier we are.
“HAPPINESS”… A HABIT
1. HOW WE THINK AND FEEL ABOUT THE
WORLD, AND THEREFORE PERCEIVE OUR
EXPERIENCES.
2. CERTAIN ACTIONS OR HABITS, SUCH AS
REGULAR EXERCISE, EATING
HEALTHFULLY, MEDITATING, CONNECTING
WITH OTHER PEOPLE, REGULARLY
SMILING AND LAUGHING!
3. CHARACTER TRAITS SUCH AS SELF-
CONTROL, INDUSTRY, FAIRNESS, CARING
ABOUT OTHERS, CITIZENSHIP, WISDOM,
COURAGE, LEADERSHIP, AND HONESTY.
 MAKE “HAPPINESS” YOUR HABIT!
 Some of the habits that create happiness are visible, the ways Grandma
told us we ought to live: work hard, value relationships with other
people, keep our bodies healthy, manage our money responsibly,
contribute to our community.

 Others are more personal habits of self management that insulate us

from unhappiness and create joy in our lives, such as managing our
moods and cultivating optimism. But once we make such habits part of
our lives, they become automatic and serve a protective function.
 HOW DO WE
MAKE “HAPPINESS”
YOUR HABIT?
 HOW DO WE MAKE “HAPPINESS” YOUR
HABIT?
 We can develop these habits by adopting various processes such as the
following ten tips:

1. Learning constructive mental habits that create happiness.

 Managing our moods, positive self-talk, cultivating optimism,
celebrating life, practicing gratitude, and appreciating our connected-
ness to each other and the entire universe. Build these into your life
together so you model them regularly, talk about using them, and others
around you will copy you.
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2. Learning self-management routines that create happiness.
 Regular exercise, healthy eating, and meditation are all highly correlated
with happiness levels.
 But you may have your own, more personal strategies; for many people
music is an immediate mood lifter, for others a walk in nature always
works.
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3. Cultivate fun.
 The old saying that laughter is the best medicine turns out to be true.
The more we laugh, the happier we are! It actually changes our body
chemistry.
 And here’s a wonderful tool: smiling makes us happier, even when we
initially force it. The feedback from our facial muscles informs us that
we’re happy, and immediately improves our mood. Not to mention the
moods of those around us-- so that feedback loop uplifts everyone.
 Children smile 400 times a day and adults, only 15.
Smiling is the catalyst to having fun.
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4. Model positive self- talk.
 We all need a cheerleader to help us over life’s many hurdles. Who says we
can’t be our own? In fact, who better?
 Research shows that happy people give themselves ongoing reassurance,
acknowledgment, praise and pep talks. Talk to yourself like someone you love,
aloud so all can hear you.

 A short exercise: write down 5 things you wish to see in yourself. And write it as
“I am confident”, “I am loving school” etc
 Promise yourself only the best
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5. Find joy in everyday things.
 Studies show that people who notice the small miracles of daily life, and
allow themselves to be touched by them, are happier. Daily life overflows
with joyful occurrences: The show of the setting sun, no less astonishing
for its daily repetition. The warmth of connection with the man at the
newsstand who recognizes you and your child. The joy of finding a new
book by a favorite author at the library. A letter from Grandma. The first
crocuses of spring.
 As Albert Einstein said, "There are only two ways to live your life. One is
as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a
miracle."
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6. Prioritize relationships.
 Research shows that people who are happiest have more people in their
lives, and deeper relationships with those people.
 While relationships take work, they're worth it.

 Learn to build & manage a

support system
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7. Develop gratitude.
 "We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we
don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have." --
Frederick Keonig
 Many people think they can't be grateful until they're happy, meaning until they have
something to be grateful for. But look closely and you'll find that it's the opposite:
people are happy because they are grateful. People who describe themselves as
consciously cultivating gratefulness are rated as happier by those who know them, as
well as by themselves.
 Children don’t have a context for life, so they don’t know whether they are lucky or
unlucky, only that their friend Pappu has more expensive sneakers.
But there are many ways to help children learn to cultivate gratitude, which is the opp
osite of taking everything for granted.
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8. Accept all emotions.
 Life is full of joy, but even for the happiest person, life is also full of loss and pain, and
we have daily reasons to grieve, large and small. Acknowledging our sad feelings isn't
focusing on the negative, it's opening ourselves to the full range of being human.
Accepting those uncomfortable sad feelings actually deepens our ability to take joy in
our lives.
 So choosing to be happy doesn't mean repressing our feelings. It means acknowledging
and honoring all our feelings, and letting ourselves feel them. That allows us to move
through the feelings, so they start to dissolve.
 When “upset”, can you allow yourself to feel them, ...and once you do, the feelings
start to evaporate so you can move on. This is not a process that can be rushed, so give
yourself whatever time you need.
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9. Can happiness be bought?
 Your favourite toy, mobile phone, accessory, Iphone XS Max, burger,
pizza, Avenger’s EndGame T-shirt... endless list!

 Can it be got by sharing?

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10. Learn the joy of contribution.
 Research shows that the pride of contributing to the betterment of
society makes us happier.
 Find ways to make a positive difference in the world so you can enjoy and
learn from this experience.
 Helping old people lift their luggage or cross streets
 Helping street dogs and other animals and birds

 What do YOU think YOU can do?

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“HAPPINESS” AS
YOUR HABIT
Summing up
BE HAPPY!