BUILDING

STRUCTURE
FOR
HAPPY
MARRIAGES
One of Satan’s targets today is our
home. He knows that if he ruins a
family which is the basic unit of the
society, he will be successful in
ruining our churches and society as
a whole..
The solution
would be
learning the
basic structures
for building a
happy and
successful
relationships in
the family.
 The Most Important
Part of the Structure

What do you think is the most important

part of the building? Wherever you ask,
answers are exactly the same- “ The
Foundation.”
The Bible says that the only lasting
foundation which is strong enough to last is
our personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
St. Paul in his book (l Corinthians 3:11)
says: “For no one can lay
any foundation other than
the one already laid,
which is Jesus Christ.”
Tall buildings maybe
battered by strong
storms and typhoons,
its strength depends a
lot on the building’s
foundation.
 Jesus Christ is the strong
foundation of our lives. It cannot
be done only by going to church,
giving our tithes and donations
but our personal invitation to
come into our lives and have a
meaningful relationship with Him.
If your relationship with
Christ is wrong, you may also
have a wrong relationship with
each other as husband and wife.
 We can
conclude that
the bottom of
most marital
failures is the
violation of a
spiritual
connection
with the Lord.
 NEXT IN OUR BUILDING
COME 4 WALLS
FIRST WALL
– THE WALL OF COMMITMENT
Wedding Day -…. “to have and to hold,
for better or worse, for richer or for
poorer, in sickness ad in health, till
death do us part.”
But couples today think the
minister is saying, “Till DEBT do us
part!”
 Without true commitment,
you will be unable to make
your building of marriage
secure.
Second Wall
– THE WALL OF
COMMUNICATION
a. words- 7%
b. tone of voice- 38%
c. Body language- 55%
Active Listening is very
important!
Learn to practice the use of “I
Messages”
 Effective Communication
gives you the ability to express the
deep feelings and thoughts of your
heart, and it is a two-way process.
It is a mutual exchange of ideas,
thoughts, attitudes and feelings.
Communication precedes lasting
and mature love.
THIRD Wall
– THE WALL OF LOVE
Yes, Love is very
important! It is a
glue of human
relationship. You
cannot measure it nor
can you xray it. Love
means different
things to different
people.
Love is an
unconditional
commitment to an
imperfect
individual; to meet
the needs of that
person in a way
which will require
personal sacrifice.
4th Wall
- THE WALL OF FORGIVENESS
If you have ever built anything, you
will know that 3 walls are not
enough. Eventually the wind will
catch the 3 walls and blow them
over. The wall of forgiveness is the
one which keeps your house from
eventually being destroyed.
 The most difficult words in
any language are these, “I’m sorry;
forgive me!” Yet these 4 words and
the application of this concept
bring the healing balm of heaven to
restore broken relationships. The
person who says No, “I cannot
forgive” destroys the bridge.
EVERY HOUSE NEEDS A ROOF

Even though
you have a
foundation
and 4 walls,
the house is
not complete.
 EVERY HOUSE NEEDS A ROOF

It needs a roof. No roofing

material can be finer than the
grace of God as a loving
heavenly Father reaches down
with His strong hand and
covers you and every member
of your family with His care.
May our marriages
be truly anchored in
Jesus!