the word TRUE?

What comes to your mind when you hear the

word FALSE? What comes to your mind when
you hear
 A person is in her/his true self if
s/he has a sense of integrity and o
connected wholeness.
When the person has to comply with
external rules, such as being polite or
otherwise following social codes, then a
false self is used. The false self constantly
seeks to anticipate demand of others in
order to maintain the relationship.
Healthy false self
When the false self is functional both for the
person and for society then it is considered
healthy. The healthy false self feels that it is still
being true to the true self.

Unhealthy false self

A self that fits in but through a feeling of forced
compliance rather than loving adaptation is unhealthy.
When the false self wins debates against the true self, the
person finds that they are unable to be guided by their true
self and so has to adapt to the social situation rather than
assert its self.
CHARACTERISTICS:
 HOW TO LOVE AND DEVELOP
YOUR TRUE SELF
1. GOD LOVES YOU
• God created you in a very special way.
• He shaped you, fashioned you, and molded you.
• God designed every part of your being.
• You cannot love others if you don’t love your self
• You can’t be successful and happy if you don’t love
your self
2. ACCEPT YOUR SELF AS YOU ARE
• in life: The most stressful thing for you to do is to be
someone else. And the easiest thing to do in the
world? To be yourself.
• And there lies your greatest success.
• And your greatest happiness.
• When you become yourself, you discover that success
and happiness becomes almost effortless.
3. FORGIVE YOURSELF

• Don’t be imprisoned by your own

weaknesses or ugliness
4. NURTURE YOURSELF
• Be sensitive to your need
• Feel good about yourself
• Think of your blessings
• Read the Scriptures
• Enjoy yourself, pamper yourself
5. SET BOUNDARIES

• Avoid EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES

6. AFFIRM YOURSELF

• I am a great person
• I am beautiful
• I am loved by God

• THIS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

Assessment:1/2
Make 1 quotation for true self and 1 for false self

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Carl Roger’s Self-
Actualization
Theory
• As infants gradually develop a more complex experiential
field from widening social encounters, one part of their
experience becomes differentiated from the rest.
• This separate part, defined by the words I, me, and myself,
is the self or self-concept.

The Development of the Self in

Infancy
• Rogers believed people are motivated by an innate
tendency to actualize, maintain,
and enhance the self.
• Our environment depends on our perception of it,
which may not always coincide with reality.
• Your own opinion of what you consider to be the
acceptable behavior of college students will be
different by the time you
are 70.
• The formation of the self-concept involves distinguishing
what is directly and immediately a part of the self from the
people, objects, and events that are external to the self.
• The self concept is also our image of what we are, what
we should be, and what we would like
to be.
• All aspects of the self strive for consistency. (E.g.,
aggressive behavior)

The Development of the Self in

Childhood
REAL SELF VS. IDEAL SELF
• ➤ The real self is who we actually are.
• ➤ It is how we think, how we feel, look, and
act.
• ➤ It can be seen by others, but because we
have no way of truly knowing how others view
us, the real self becomes our self-image.
• The ideal self is how we want to be.
• ➤ It is an idealized image that we have
developed over time, based on what we have
learned and experienced.
• ➤ May include components of what our
parents have taught us, what we admire in
others, what our society promotes, and what
we think is in our best interest.
 REAL SELF IDEAL SELF PUBLIC
SELF
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Intelligent Friendly Peculiar sense
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IMPORTANCE OF ALIGNMENT
• ➤ If the way that I am (the real self) is aligned with the way
that I want to be (the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of
mental well-being or peace of mind.
• ➤ If the way that I am is not aligned with how I want to be, the
incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in mental
distress or anxiety.
• ➤ The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self
and real self, the greater the level of resulting distress.
 • As the self emerges, infants
develop a need for what Rogers
called positive regard.
• The need for positive regard is
universal and persistent. It includes
POSITIVE acceptance, love, and approval
REGARD from other people, most notably
from the mother during infancy.
• Because positive regard is crucial
to personality development, infant
behavior is guided by the amount
of affection and love bestowed.
 • If positive regard for the infant persists
despite the infant’s undesirable
behaviors, the condition is called
unconditional positive regard.
• By this, Rogers meant that the
mother’s love for the child is granted
POSITIVE freely and fully; it is not conditional or
REGARD dependent on the child’s behavior.
• An important aspect of the need for
positive regard is its reciprocal nature.
When people perceive themselves to
be satisfying someone else’s need for
positive regard, they in turn experience
satisfaction of that need themselves.
 • We come to evaluate
experiences, and accept or reject
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• This leads to incongruence
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between the self-concept and the

experiential world, the
environment as we perceive it.
 • Experiences that are incongruent or
incompatible with our self-concept
become threatening and are
manifested as anxiety.
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toward whom we feel

hatred, we are likely to develop anxiety.
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• Hating is not congruent with our image

of us as loving persons. To maintain
our self-concept, we must deny the
hatred.
 Awareness of all experience; open to positive as
well as negative feelings
 Freshness of appreciation for all experiences
 Trust in one’s own behavior and feelings
 Freedom of choice, without inhibitions
 Creativity and spontaneity
 Continual need to grow, to strive to maximize
one’s potential

Characteristics of a Fully
Functioning Persons