THE UBIAN SURVIVAL KIT:

THE SOCIAL SELF

SOC ORN2
SCHOOL YEAR 2023-2024
Connecting with
others
 OBJECTIVES

To help the UBians be familiar on how relationships are built;

To help the UBians enhance their social skills (even in the

midst of crisis);

To help the UBians establish and maintain harmonious

relationships (co-students, classmates, teachers, friends, family,
etc.)
 Revisiting my Social Skills

Social skills is considered as one of the most important

sets of abilities we need to have. It helps us meet and
relate well with people and progress further in our
endeavors and relationships. Though some people find it
natural to be comfortable around people, these set of
skills for some need to be learned, or enhanced.
 Revisiting my Social Skills
Here are some of the social skills
which are instrumental to one’s
self-confidence in dealing with
others.
A. Know how to build rapport

A close and harmonious relationship in which the

people or groups concerned understand each
other's feelings or ideas and communicate well. -
(Oxford Dictionary)

A good sense of understanding and trust –

(vocabulary.com)
 A. Know how to build rapport
Some tips on knowing how to build rapport
• Check your appearance- be comfortable with how
you look even when it is an online class

• Find common ground-find something that can be

shared

• Know the basics of communication-be culturally

aware, smile, relax, remember names, listen
carefully and attentively
 B. Listening: the art of connecting

• The active process of receiving and responding

to spoken (and sometimes unspoken)
messages.-(R. Nordquist)

• The act of concentrating on hearing something-

(Cambridge dictionary)

• Listening means paying attention not only to the story, but

how it is told, the use of language and voice, and how the
other person uses his or her body.-(skillsyouneed.com)
B. Listening: the art of connecting

“The most basic and powerful way to

connect to another person is to listen.
Just listen. Perhaps the most important
thing we ever give each other is our
attention.”

- Rachel Naomi Remen

 B. Listening: the art of connecting

Five key elements of

listening
Pay attention Provide feedback

Show that you are

Hold off judgement listening Respond
appropriately
 B. Listening: the art of connecting
Some tips for listening!!

Face the speaker, focus on what he/she is

saying, engage yourself, maintain eye contact,
minimize external distractions.

Remember that behind what the person is

saying, there is an underlying need
communicated.
B. Listening: the art of connecting

The average person remembers only about 25%

of what he or she hears, and some people
remember as little as 10%.

The problem is that while hearing is incredibly

easy, listening takes a REAL EFFORT.

(Amberg, Jay. The Study Skills Handbook.)

 C. Interest in other’s situation
A conversation with the interest of others increases
one’s comfort levels and makes them feel interesting.

D. Know when and how much to disclose

Talking about one’s self too much or too early is a major
turn-off; disclose personal facts as conversations and
relationships progress
Diversity and Me
(Promoting Multiculturalism)
 MEANING OF DIVERSITY

• Variety/mixture
• Based on individual acceptance and respect
• Understanding that individual are unique

• Respecting and recognizing that individuals are different

from each other
Elements of Diversity

SEX
Elements of Diversity

AGE
Elements of Diversity

SEXUAL ORIENTATION
Elements of Diversity

CULTURE
Elements of Diversity

ETHNICITY
Elements of Diversity

FAMILY BACKGROUND
Elements of Diversity

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
Elements of Diversity

ABILITIES
Elements of Diversity

PERSONALITIES
Elements of Diversity

RELIGIOUS BELIEF
Elements of Diversity

POLITICAL VIEWS
Key Concepts

Learn and Empathize

 Just some tips

Learn to analyze a situation from all angles; viewpoints differ

from each other

Always show respect and consideration for others,

even when you DISAGREE

Take responsibility for own actions

Show courtesy
 Remember!
Individual differences will often influence how individuals
communicate their thoughts, feelings and needs.
Conflict Resolution
 Conflict Resolution

What is it?

It is a way for two or more parties to find a peaceful solution to

a disagreement among them. The disagreement may be
personal, financial, political, or emotional.
 What are the benefits?

Increased understanding-going through the process of resolving

conflict expands people's awareness, and gives them an insight into
how they can achieve their goals without undermining others.
Better cohesion - when you resolve conflict effectively, team
members can develop stronger mutual respect, and a renewed faith
in their ability to work together.
Improved self-knowledge - Conflict pushes individuals to examine
their goals and expectations closely, helping them to understand the
things that are most important to them, sharpening their focus, and
enhancing their effectiveness.
 When it is needed?

It is appropriate for almost all kinds of disagreements.

 What are the steps in resolving conflicts?

Understand the conflict-define clearly your own position and interests

in the conflict, and to understand those of others.
Communicate with the other party- communicate directly with the
person/s concerned.
Brainstorm possible solutions- Look at all of the interests you have
listed, for you and for your opponents, and look for common
interests.
Choose the best resolution- Review your brainstorm ideas.
Highlight the best ideas
In conflict resolution, the best solution is the solution that is best for
both sides. Of course, that's not always possible to find, but you
should use all your resources to solve your conflict as smoothly as
you can.
 Resolving Conflicts

Remain calm. Recognize when you are becoming defensive or too

emotional.

Do not blame or accuse each other.

Focus on the issue at hand, not the way you are feeling toward each
other

Explore underlying issues

Accept that each other’s perspective is different, but not wrong.