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Life skill is defined as the ability to cope with stresses and challenges of daily life, especially skills
in communication and literacy, decision making, occupational requirement, problem solving,
time management and planning.
W.H.O has defined Life skills as "the abilities for adaptive and positive behaviour that enable
individuals to deal effectively with the demands and challenges of everyday life.
• Touch communication
➢ VERBAL COMMUNICATION:
1. Language:-
2. Content:-
- Focus of talk
3. Amount of speech:-
4. Ownership of speech:-
1. Volume:-
- Loudness or softness
- Messages should be disclosed at a level of audibility that is comfortable and easy for the
clients to hear.
2. Articulation:-
3. Pitch:-
4. Emphasis:-
- Emphasis should be given when responding to clients’ feelings and nuances and when
sharing feelings.
5. Rate:-
- Speaking very quickly, coaching trainees appear anxious and clients may have difficulty
understanding them.
- Coach can actually see and experience how the client communicates.
1. Facial expressions:-
- Provides vital clues, often unconsciously, revealing attitudes, moods and opinions.
- One has to be alert all the time in order not to miss these micro-momentary facial
expressions.
2. Gaze:-
3. Eye contact:-
- Eye contact is a more direct way than gaze of sending messages, be they of interest, anger or
sexual attraction.
Do’s:
Don’t’s:
- If you have trouble looking at someone’s eye, simply focus at something on his or her face.
4. Gesture:
- Physical movements that can frame or illustrate words coming before, during or after what is
being said.
• Avoid,
- Pointing at others.
- Conveying obscenities (indecency)with the fingers, hands and other body parts.
5. Posture:
- Turning one’s body towards the client is more encouraging than turning away from them.
- Whether the trainee leans forwards or backwards may indicate interest or disinterest.
- Sitting with arms and legs tightly crossed suggests being emotionally as well as literally
uptight.
6. Physical closeness:
7. Clothes:
They reveal
- Sex-role identity.
- Ethnicity
8. Grooming:
- creating rules
- creating perceptions
- creating self-talk
- creating visual images
- creating explanations
- creating expectations
- creating realistic goals
Rules are the ‘dos’ and ‘don’ts’ by which people lead their lives.
Influences from the past and present have helped to create and to sustain everyone’s rules:
for example, family, religion, gender, culture, race, peer group, age, exposure to the media
and so on.
Demanding Rules
Preferential Rules
• I’d prefer to be a highly competent trainee but I’m learning and am bound to make some
mistakes.
• I’d prefer to be liked but it’s also even more important to be true to myself.
Aaron Beck emphasizes propositional thinking, based on testing the reality of perceptions
about oneself, others and the environment.
This section focuses on how accurately one perceives oneself rather than on how accurately
one perceives others.
A principal skill of learning to perceive more accurately is being able to distinguish fact from
inference.
Self concept
The self-concept is one’s picture of oneself; what one thinks of as ‘I’ or ‘Me’. It consists of a
series of different perceptions of varying degrees of accuracy.
Areas of one’s self-concept: It include perceptions regarding Family of origin, current
relationships, body image, age, gender, sexual orientation, culture, race, social class, religious
beliefs, health, work, study activities, leisure pursuits, tastes and preferences, among others.
- How confident one is:- A person may accurately perceive their level of confidence or may
over- or underestimate it.
▪ Inner monologue,
▪ Inner dialogue,
▪ Inner speech,
▪ Self-verbalizing,
▪ Self-instructing
▪ Talking to oneself.
- In any relationship of more than one person, there are at least 3 conversations going on:
When experiencing any significant feeling or sensation, people are likely to think in pictures as
well as words. Those whose most highly valued representational system is visual tend to respond
to the world and organize it in terms of mental images (Lazarus, 1984, 2005).
As with self-talk, visual images can be alerting, calming, coaching and affirming. Often
appropriate self-talk can be combined with appropriate visual images.
Clients can accompany their affirming self-talk with affirming visual images. They can tell
themselves they can cope and can picture themselves performing competently in specific
situations. Many sports people, such as Tiger Woods, use affirming visual images to enhance
performance (Woods, 1997).
- Explanations of cause are the reasons that people give to themselves for what happens.
- These explanations can influence how they think about their past, present and future.
- explanations of cause influence how they feel, physically react and act
- . A client can strengthen or weaken their motivation to attain higher skills levels by how they
explain the causes of their successes and failures
- Humans seek to predict their futures so that they can influence and control them.
- For good or ill, people can create and influence their consequences, including their own and
others’ feelings, physical reactions, thoughts and communications.
Expectations about negative consequences :- Clients can make the mistake of inaccurately
expecting negative consequences by underestimating loss and by overestimating loss. Both entail
inaccurately estimating the ‘downside’ of their communication and actions.
Expectations about outcomes :- Outcome expectations involve predictions about the likely
consequences of one’s performance, for instance that if a client listens skillfully then she or he
will probably experience better home and work relationships.
- Reflecting values
- Insufficient realism
- Inadequate specificity
- Unclear time frames
8.Creating Realistic Decision-Making Skills
- Coaches and coaching trainees can build clients’ time management skills.
- Trainees may need to explain the value of timetabling and the negative consequences of
failure to timetable.
- Trainees may initially provide timetables but they should aim to get clients to be doing this
themselves.
- their own timetabling and time management skills so that they can gradually step back from
assisting them.
- Trainees should check with clients on their progress in adhering to timetabled activities and
find out about any difficulties experienced.
- Often non-adherence to timetabled activities shows that clients have one or more poor mind
skills, for instance perfectionist rules about achievement.
➢ SELF AWARENESS
- It is knowing one’s personal characteristics and actions of a person which affect other
persons and identifying its result by the person.
- Self-awareness helps a person to understand how people perceive him/her and allows
him/her to identify his/her personal qualities that he/she would like to change.
- To develop the skill of self-awareness one should understand himself/herself in many
domains of his/her.
- Personality
- Values
- Habits
- Personality :- Understanding of one’s personality can help him/her to find situation in
which he/she will thrive, and to avoid situations in which he/she will experience too
much stress.
- Habits :- Identifying one’s habit which help the person to interact effectively and
decrease the effectiveness.
- To improve performance
- To manage oneself
SELF AWARENESS is an ability to assess one’s personality, behaviors and skills, it should done
accurately.