PERSONAL

RELATIONSHIP
STATEMENTS ON RELATIONSHI
STATE WHETHER THESE STATEMENTS ARE
TRUE OR FALSE.
1.It is important to work on communicating our
feelings in relationship.
2.To love someone, we must love our self first.
3.Trying to understand where other people are
coming from rather than judging them helps us
build and maintain relationship.
4.Having a good relationship does not contribute
anything to us having a good health.
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5. When people listen deeply and let us
know that they recognize the feeling
behind our words, more likely than not,
our relationship is doing good.
6. In our relationships, it is vital that we
practice forgiveness when a loved one has
hurt us.
7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we
deal with stress.
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8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict
will more likely help us maintain good
relationships.
9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and
family help us maintain good relationship.
10. Significant differences in core values and
beliefs never create a problem in relationship.
11. We are happy in our relationship when our
loved one stay connected by spending time
with us and letting us know that they love us.
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12. Excessive reliance on social media can
be cause of tension in relationships.
13. Relationships are static; they are
unchangeable.
14. Being compassionate, forgiving and
grateful contribute to healthy relationship.
15. To fully enjoy and benefit from
relationships we need skills, information,
inspiration, practice, and social support.
Guide Questions
⚫ What kind of relationship do you have in
your family, friends, or partner (if there’s
any)?
⚫ What is your role in the relationship?
⚫ Are you satisfied with the type of
relationship that you have with them?
⚫ Do you believe that your relationship with
them can be improved?
⚫ In what ways can you help to improve
your relationship with them?
 WHAT IS RELATIONSHIP
⚫ a relation between people
⚫ A state of connectedness between
people (especially emotional
connection).
EXAMPLES
⚫ companionship,
⚫ affection,
⚫ intimacy,
⚫ attachment,
⚫ love,
⚫ friendship,
⚫ empathy,
⚫ social respect,
⚫ solidarity,
⚫ trust
 Three Kinds of Personal Relationship

⚫ FAMILY

⚫ FRIENDS

⚫ PARTNERSHIP
 Three Kinds of Personal Relationship

⚫ FAMILY
◦ Two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption and who live together as
household.
◦ Characteristics of a family: SUPPORT, MUTUAL
TRUST, REGULAR INTERACTIONS, SHARED
BELIEFS AND VALUES, SECURITY and
SENSE OF COMMUNITY.
 Three Kinds of Personal Relationship

⚫ FRIENDS
◦ A close tie between two people that is often built
upon mutual experiences, shared interest,
proximity, and emotional bonding.
Three Kinds of Personal Relationship
⚫ PARTNERSHIP
◦ Romantic partnership including marriage, are
close relationship formed between two people
that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and
romantic love.
 LOVE
⚫ Strong affection for another arising out of
kinship or personalities. (Maternal love
for a child)
⚫ Attraction based on sexual desire:
affection and tenderness felt by lovers
⚫ Affection based on admiration,
benevolence or common interest.
 TYPES OF INTIMACY
⚫ Physical intimacy
⚫ Physical intimacy is built around
touch and being physically close to
another person.
 TYPES OF INTIMACY
⚫ Emotional intimacy
⚫ Emotional intimacy is one of the most
critical forms of intimacy. Emotional
intimacy is all about sharing your honest
thoughts and feelings. Being able to share
who you are and your deepest desires
with another person brings you closer
together
TYPE OF INTIMACY
⚫ Intellectual intimacy
⚫ Intellectual intimacy is being comfortable
sharing your viewpoints and beliefs
without fear of judgment.
⚫ These could be political, value-oriented,
or philosophical.
TYPE OF INTIMACY
⚫ Spiritual intimacy
⚫ Spiritual intimacy doesn't necessarily
have to do with religion. It is about
sharing emotionally significant moments
with your partner that help bring you
closer together.
TYPE OF INTIMACY
⚫ Experiential intimacy
⚫ Experiential intimacy is just as it sounds.
⚫ Sharing experiences, inside jokes
together, and trying new things can create
a deep bond with another person.
 Three (3) components can produce eight
(8) types of love.
Types of Intimacy Passion Commitment Example
Love
Nonlove No No No
Liking Yes No No Friendships
Experiencing love at first sight or
Infatuation No Yes No being obsessed

with a person
Stagnant Relationships or
Empty Love No No Yes Arrange marriage
Relationships motivated by
Fatuous No Yes Yes passion
Relationships lacking passion
such as those between family
members or close friends
Companionate Yes No Yes
Being bonded emotionally and
Romantic Yes Yes No physically to another

person

Consummate Yes Yes Yes Complete love

My Family, Friends and Significant
Other’s Portrait
⚫ 1.Draw a rectangle on blank sheet of
paper. Connect three more rectangles as
shown below. Lists down the people you
have close connections with and who
considered family, friends, or partner.
You may draw or put pictures of them if
you want.
⚫ 2.In silence, think about your family – the
members, your friends, and significant other (if
there’s any), their current situations, and the
quality of your relationships with them. In a blank
sheet of paper, divide the paper into three and draw
or illustrate the portrait of your family, friends and
significant other (if there’s any). Remember that
there is no right or wrong illustration. Your
illustration/ drawing should reflect how you
perceive your family, friends and your partner (if
there’s any) and the relationship you have with
them right now.
⚫ How did you feel when you were creating the
portrait of your family? Friends? Partner (if
there’s any)?
⚫ How easy or difficult was it for you to come
up with the drawings/ illustration? What
made it easy? What made it difficult?
⚫ What new things did you realize or discover
about your family/ friends/ partner (if there’s
any) after making your drawing?
 Theories of love styles
⚫ PHILIA – Affectionate Love
⚫ It is a love that runs deep in true
friendship. Love without romantic
attraction and occurs between
friends or family members. It is
called brotherly love when both
people share the same values and
respect each other.
 Theories of love styles
⚫ PRAGMA – Enduring Love
⚫ It is a mature love that develops
over time. Commitment and efforts
are needed to reach “Pragma”.
⚫ Instead of “falling in love”, you
are “standing in love” with the
partner by your side.
 Theories of love styles
⚫ STORGE – Familiar love
⚫ It is naturally occurring love rooted in
parents and children, as well as best
friends. It’s an infinite love built upon
acceptance and deep emotional
connection. This love come easily and
immediately in parent and child
relationships. It flows between parents
and children or childhood friends.
 Theories of love styles
⚫ EROS – Romantic Love
⚫ It is a personal infatuation and
physical pleasure. It is a passionate
love displayed through physical
affection.
 Theories of love styles
⚫ LUDUS –Playful love
⚫ Flirting and beginning stages of
intimate love. It is a child-like and
flirtatious love found in the
beginning.
⚫ This type of love consists of
teasing, playful motives and
laughter between two people.
 Theories of love styles
⚫ MANIA –Obsessive Love
⚫ Obsessiveness or madness over a
love partner is mania. It leads to
unwanted jealousy or
possessiveness.
 Theories of love styles
⚫ PHILAUTIA –Self Love
⚫ It is having a healthy “self-
compassion” love towards one’s self.
⚫ It is when you recognize your self-
worth and don’t ignore your personal
needs. Self-love begins with
acknowledging your responsibility for
your well-being.
 Theories of love styles
⚫ AGAPE –Selfless Love
⚫ It is an empathetic attitude of love
for everyone and anyone. It is the
highest love to offer. It is given
without any expectations of
receiving anything in return. It is
considered as unconditional love.
Why Personal Relationship is Important?

⚫ Strong relationships contribute to a long,

healthy, and happy life.
⚫ Healthy relationship that could help:
◦ Live longer
◦ Deal with stress
◦ Be healthier
◦ Feel richer
Health consequences:
Depression
Decrease immune function
Higher blood pressure
25 Most Common Relationship Problems

⚫ Affairs/infidelity/cheating
⚫ Sexual Issues
⚫ Significant differences on core values and
beliefs
⚫ Life stages – outgrown or changed
⚫ Traumatic or Life Changing Event
⚫ Responses to prolonged Stress
⚫ Bored
⚫ Jealous Partner
25 Most Common Relationship Problems

⚫ Blinded by family issues

⚫ Domestic violence
⚫ Knowing you SHOULD HAVE NOT
MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE.
⚫ Lack of responsibility
⚫ Unrealistic Expectation
⚫ Addiction
⚫ Lack of support
⚫ Manipulation
25 Most Common Relationship Problems

⚫ Lack of communication
⚫ Lack of responsibility for chores and
tasks (one-sided/poor division)
⚫ Perceived lack of concern, care and
consideration/ attentiveness
⚫ Disappointments
⚫ Long term depression
25 Most Common Relationship Problems

⚫ Significant differences in opinions on

how to discipline/deal with the
children
⚫ Long term stress
⚫ Unsupportive partner during
pregnancy
⚫ Excessive reliance on social media
⚫IN A LONG COUPON BOND
⚫DRAW AN OBJECT THAT
PERTAINS YOUR PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR
FAMILY.
⚫Write a reflection on your
relationship why they are important
and how you tend to keep good
relationship strong and healthy.