Habit 3 – Put First Things

First
By: Sevanna, Selina, Avina & Kale
 Introduction
Our chapter was all about putting first things first. It is important to prioritize the
most important things because, if you save them for last it will be harder to
complete your tasks\goals. If you do the least important tasks\goals first, you will
be less motivated to do the more important tasks\goals. This chapter teaches us
about the Four Quadrants and how to shrink and grow the different Quadrants,
how to plan your week out so that you get more done, stepping out of your
comfort zone and facing your fears, keeping good relationships, and doing small
things to make yourself a better person.
 The First & Second Quadrant
Quadrant 1 – The Procrastinator
 Puts everything off until last minute (ex:
homework, studying for tests, chores)
 Addicted to urgency, likes to wait until last
minute for the thrill of an “emergency”
 Hard to learn & memorize things
Results of being in Quadrant 1
 Stress & anxiety, Burnout, Mediocre
performance
Quadrant 2 – The Prioritizer
 Knows what is important and what to do first
(ex: homework before going out)
 Usually on top of things & knows what the
outcome of decisions will be
 Always balanced & knows what to do
Results of being in Quadrant 2
 Control of your life, Balance, High
performance
 The Third & Fourth Quadrant
Quadrant 3 – The Yes Man
 Says yes to everything even if they don’t
want to do it
 Known for being a “pleaser”
 Prioritises other people's importance's over
their own
Results of being in Quadrant 3
 Reputation for being a “pleaser”, Lack of
discipline, Feeling like a doormat for others to
wipe their feet on
Quadrant 4 – The Slacker
 Very lazy and unorganized
 Doesn’t get much done
 Is great at wasting time
 Watches too much TV, plays too many video
games, & read comics
Results of being in quadrant 4
 Lack of responsibility, Guilt and flakiness
 Summary of the 4 Quadrants
In conclusion, Q2 is the best one to spend time in. For example, if you spend too
much time in Q1 you end up procrastinating more. If you spend time in Q3 and 4 you
will waste your time by doing unimportant things and you will self-indulge in yourself
too often. By staying in Q2, you can prioritize the tasks that are the most important
and you will be less stressed. To spend more time in Q2, you can, shrink Q1 by
procrastinating less, saying no to Q3 activities, and you can cut down on Q4, slacker
activities. In addition, having a planner, and planning weekly can help you stay
focused and helps you to stay in Q2. In summary, spending more time in Q2 can help
you to do more tasks more efficiently and, to stay more focused.
 How to Plan out Your Time
Organizing your Time Rocks Adapt Daily

 Big rocks are important and take up more  Adapt your week based on your ‘’rocks’’
time and small rocks (pebbles) take up less  Each week will be different, and planning
time
will also help
 Plan out time for big rocks first and plan out  Adapt to your weekly schedule
time for pebbles after
 You should put big rocks first then your
pebbles because they are less important, and
they take up less time
 Important Tips for Success
 The Other Half
 Learning to overcome peer pressure.
 The comfort zone and the courage zone, things we normally do/things we don’t like doing.
 Don’t Let Fears Make Your Decisions
 It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves. Don’t miss out on opportunities, always be
yourself and don’t let fear take over.
 Winning Means Rising Each Time You Fall
 Winners failed have before and takes time to work your way up. Ex: Abe Lincoln & Michael
Jordan.
 Staying True to Yourself
Be Strong Overcoming Peer Pressure
 Hard moments are conflicts between doing  To overcome peer pressure, you’ve got to care
the right thing and doing the easier thing more about what you think of you than what
your peers think of you
 Don’t sacrifice your future happiness for one
night of pleasure, a weekend of excitement,  Sometimes can be good (ex: friends pressure
or a thrilling moment of revenge you to study for an important upcoming
exam)
 The poet Robert Frost wrote, “Two roads
diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less
traveled by, And that has made all the
difference
 Common Ingredients For Success

PUTTING FIRST MANAGING TIME RESISTING PEER BEING STRONG

THINGS FIRST WISELY PRESSURE DURING TOUGH
TIMES
 The Relationship Bank Account (RBA)
The relationship bank account (RBA) represents the amount of trust and confidence you have
in relationships. RBA is very similar to an actual bank account because you can make deposits
and withdrawals. However, unlike a bank account there's no money involved, but instead you
can either improve your relationship or weaken it. For example, if you take time out of your
day to spend time with friends or family, you are making a deposit. If you often forget to
spend time with loved ones or don’t care, enough to be available for them, you are making a
withdrawal. If you want to better your relationships, take it one step at a time. Try your best to
show your loved ones that you care. Keep in mind that the smallest things you do can make a
big difference. In conclusion, you should try to make deposits in your RBA with the people
that you truly care about.
 Keeping Promises
Keeping small commitments and promises is vital to building trust. You must do what
you say you're going to do. If you tell your mom you're going to be home at 11:00 or
that will do the dishes tonight, then do it and make a deposit. Give out promises
sparingly, and then do everything you can to keep them. If you find you can't keep a
commitment for some reason, then let the other person know why. If your genuine and
try to keep promises, people will understand when something interferes.
 Listen & Say You're Sorry
Listen
 Don’t talk so much today, try to spend the day
listening
 Think of a family member you’ve never
really taken the time to listen to, like a little
sister, big brother, or grandpa, take the time to
listen to them
 Listening to people can heal wounds
Saying Sorry
 Before you go to bed tonight, write a simple
note of apology to someone you may have
offended
 In addition, apologies disarm people
 When you apologize, you take away their
desire to fight you
 Tips to be a better person
Small Acts of Kindness
 Do small acts of kindness for others (ex: a
hello, a kind note, a smile, a compliment)
 Buy a burger for a homeless person this week
 Write a thank-you note to someone you’ve
been wanting to thank for along time.
Be Loyal
 Pinpoint when and where it is most
difficult for you to refrain from gossip. Is
it with a certain friend, in the locker room,
during lunch?
 Come up with a plan of action to avoid it
 Try to go one whole day saying only positive
things about others.
 Set Clear Expectations
 Make sure to set clear expectations so there isn’t any miscommunication
 Some ways to set clear expectations are:
 Make them clear for yourself
 Decide where you need to set expectations
 Write your expectations down
 Have an agreement with others
 Think of a situation where the other people have different expectations. Put together a
plan for how to get on the same page
 Conclusion
In conclusion, this chapter taught us a lot about how to manage time wisely and how
to be a better person. We learned about the 4 Quadrants, and which one is the best one
to be in. The importance of making deposits into your RBA and spending time with
your friends\family. We think this chapter is very important because it teaches us good
life lessons and how to improve yourself. Sometimes it's hard to be a teen, especially
in this modern society, but you should keep in mind that almost every teen goes
through similar experiences, and we are all in this together. Thank you for listening to
our presentation and we hope you learned something new.