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EXPLORING SELF ESTEEM

Harnessing the Potential

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I AM

•Write five sentences beginning with

‘I Am’

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FOUR LIKELY TYPE OF ANSWERS

Existential

Personal
l
Social

Physical

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AS WE GROW ACROSS DIFFERENT STAGES

OF LIFE, OUR ORIENTATION OF LOOKING AT
OURSELVES EVOLVES
.
•We may look at ourselves in terms of our physical attributes,
•social roles and responsibilities we acquire
•psychological attributes we cherish about ourselves to …..
•even seeing ourselves as a part of the bigger universe and understanding a
higher meaning of our existence.
• however all of us are on a journey from being a physical entity to
understanding existential meaning of our lives

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VOICES WE MAY BE LISTENING TO

WHILE WE WERE GROWING UP

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– What did these

voices imply
Integrating Voices – Were these voices
enabling in any ways
– Did these voices
tell what to do to
make life better for
oneself

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SELF CONCEPT : COMPONENTS

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SELF CONCEPT

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Self Concept has three different layers:

Self Self Ideal

Image Esteem Self

The view one has How much value What one wishes
of oneself on places on to be really like
oneself
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SELF WORTH
• a unique being
• a sacred being
• worthy of being loved
• worthy of a life
• Quality of life
• worthy of opportunities
• worthy of experiences
• worthy of dignity

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SELF ESTEEM
1. It’s the amount of real self that one dares to show to people.

2. Is a screen or veil that hides what is threatening to reveal

3. A crust one forms around one’s real self in orders to survive in a social system or
relationships

4. Each individual is unique and different however differences are not always
affirmed or celebrated individuals develop consequently graded levels of self
esteem.
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SELF ESTEEM

• The more characteristics of one’s true self that are

not affirmed or on appearance are severely
punished and violated the greater the defensive
screen created by the self to protect oneself.

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RATE YOURSELF ON THE FOLLOWING BEHAVIORS

SCALE OF 1-10

• Shy 1…………………………………..10

• Timid 1……………………………………10

• Reserved 1………………………………… 10

• Quiet 1……………………………………10

• Attention Seeking 1……………………………10

• Clinging 1…………………………………10

• Aggressive 1……………………………………10

• Bullying 1……………………………………10
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SCALE OF 1-10

• Resistance to new challenges 1………………10

• Fearful of failure 1………………10

• Being upset by Mistake 1………………10

,

• Nervous of evaluation 1……………..10

• Perfectionism 1……………10

• Diligence 1………..……10

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ESTEEM 15

Two central dimensions of self esteem

■ Feeling of being lovable
■ Feeling of being capable

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DIMENSIONS OF SELF ESTEEM

Doubts his / her Doubts his / her
Lovability Capability
■Shy ■Resistance to new
■Timid challenges
■Reserved ■ Fearful of failure
■Quiet ■Easily upset by
■Attention Seeking mistakes
■Clinging ■Nervous of exams
■Aggressive ■Perfectionists
■Bullying ■Overly diligent
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SELF ESTEEM AND SELF PROTECTORS

⦿There is an inverse relationship between level of self

esteem and level of self protectors.
⦿Low self esteem will always be accompanied by high
self protective behaviour
⦿Self protective behaviors could be either over control
protections or under control protections.

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OVER CONTROL PROTECTORS

• Shy and withdrawn
• Unusually quiet
• Reluctant to take new challenges
• Clinging behaviours
• Difficulty in mixing with others
• Fearful and timid in new situation
• Easily upset when corrected
• Inclined to day dream
• Fearful of mistakes and failures
• Always trying to please people
• Complain of abdominal pain or nausea

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UNDER CONTROL PROTECTORS

• Aggressive
• Having regular temper tantrum
• Boastful
• Truant
• Uncooperative when requested to do things
• Continually asking if she is loved or wanted.
• Blaming of others for own mistakes
• Destructive of own or others belonging
• Careless

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Faces of self Esteem

•If self esteem could have three distinct faces what would it be like.
•Develop a poster use metaphors and visuals
•How these people may think , feel or be doing in their lives
– Low Self Esteem
– Middle Self Esteem
– High Self Esteem

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Face I
• Acts happy and successful, but is really terrified of failure
• Lives with the constant fear that she or he will be "found out."
• Needs continuous successes to maintain the mask of positive self-
esteem, which may lead to problems with perfectionism, procrastination,
competition, and burn-out.

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THREE FACES OF LOW SELF

ESTEEM
Face II
• Acts like the opinions or good will of others - especially people who are
important or powerful
• Lives with constant anger about not feeling "good enough."
• Continuously needs to prove that others' judgments and criticisms don't
hurt,
• may lead to problems like blaming others excessively, breaking rules or
laws, or fighting authority.

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THREE FACES OF LOW SELF

ESTEEM
• Face III
• Acts helpless and unable to cope with the world and waits for someone
to come to the rescue.
• Uses self-pity or indifference as a shield against fear of taking
responsibility for changing his or her life.
• Looks constantly to others for guidance, which can lead to such
problems as lacking assertiveness skills, under-achievement, and
excessive reliance on others in relationships.

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INDICATORS OF HIGH SELF ESTEEM

• is competent to deal with life's basic challenges (self-efficacy)

• Feels that one is deserving of success, love, and friendships, and the acceptance of
positive feelings—such as pride and joy—as "natural" and proper to one's existence.
• Is self-reflective and capable of independent thought; taking responsibility for and
authentically asserting one's thoughts, beliefs, values, and actions; pursuing
meaningful life goals;
• Can work harmoniously in a group takes people along
• adhere to moral values that are based on reason.

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• Only 5 – 10 percent of population

• Marginal protectors
• Loving
• Spontaneous
• Unique / different
• Individual
• Expansive
• Adventurous
• Creative
• Fearless
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MIDDLE SELF ESTEEM PEOPLE

• Work towards hiding some aspects of their behaviors

/inabilities
• Their protectors are a moderate in nature
• Uncertain
• Tentative
• Dependent
• Concerned about how other see them
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CONSEQUENCES OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM

⦿ can create anxiety, stress, loneliness and increased

likelihood for depression.
⦿ can cause problems with friendships and relationships.
⦿ can seriously impair academic and job performance.
⦿ can lead to underachievement and increased
vulnerability to drug and alcohol abuse.
⦿Worst of all, these negative consequences themselves reinforce
the negative self-image and can take a person into a downward
spiral of lower and lower self-esteem and increasingly non-
productive or even actively self-destructive behavior.

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 Work done by students Medium Self Esteem 29

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Low Self Esteem

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THREE STEPS TO BETTER SELF-ESTEEM

• you must first believe that you can change it.

• Change doesn't necessarily happen quickly or easily, but it can
happen.
• You are not powerless! Once you have accepted, or are at least
willing to entertain the possibility that you are not powerless,
there are three steps you can take to begin to change your self-
esteem:
• Step 1: Rebut (refute)the Inner Critic
• Step 2: Practice Self-Nurturing
• Step 3: Get Help from Others
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• Smile and laugh more

• Don't take yourself or life so seriously
• Realize that if you fail it is not the end of the world
• Walk everyday whenever you can (for exercise but
also your brain needs fresh air)
• Dream about new possibilities
• Reflect on your successes and believe in yourself
• Do things you love as often as possible
• Welcome new challenges and experiences

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• Do not watch, listen or read negative or evil things (especially violent,

depressive or insane things)
Try to avoid becoming obsessed with anything (moderation is self-
control)
• Try to find beauty in everything and put your focus on beautiful
things
• Enjoy some quiet time each day
• Try to help others
• Encourage and want others to succeed
• Be generous in everyway including financially
• Be honest to yourself and others

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• In the course we will try and

discover our rainbow of strengths
and of the children we work with
so that we all live to our fullest.

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ROUTE TO SUCCESS
• Finding the strengths
and nurturing them!!!!
• Work on the limitations
but bank on the
strengths!!!!!

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