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! ChcpIer 1 - WhcI Hcppenec

! ChcpIer 2 - GrecI New:: Ycur Ex FrcLcL|y WcnI:

! ChcpIer 3 - Hcw Fre::ure Wi|| Ki|| Ycur Chcnce:

! ChcpIer 4 - CK, Sc WhcI Dc l Dc

! ChcpIer 5 - CK, Sc WhcI Dc l Fec||y Dc

! ChcpIer - Ihree Week: LcIer

! ChcpIer 7 - Ihe Feunicn

! ChcpIer 8 - Everycne: FcvcriIe SuLjecI - SEX

! ChcpIer - WhcI if Ncne cf Ihi: Wcrk:






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lf ycure reccing Ihi:,
chcnce: cre ycu kncw
Ihi: fir:I hcnc - Sc cc l. McyLe
ycu ccn re|cIe, :c here: Ihe
:Icry:

l meI Ihi: gir| c few yecr: cgc.
She wc: LecuIifu|. /nc cur fir:I
inIerccIicn wc: inIen:e. Ycu
kncw Ihe fee|ing lm Ic|king cLcuI, where Ihing: ju:I c|ick. Ycu fee|
inIen:e|y cIIrccIec, :ure, LuI iI: ceeper Ihcn IhcI. /|mc:I |ike iI wc:
ce:Iinec, righI

Ihi: wc: cefiniIe|y cne cf Ihc:e meeIing:. l Ic|c her l wcu|c Icke her cuI
Ihe nexI ccy. Even Ihcugh :he wc: :cying, We||, l ccnI kncw, l hcve L|ch
L|ch L|ch Ic cc," l knew wec Le :pencing Ihe ccy IcgeIher.

Ihe e|ecIriciIy ccnIinuec. lI :eemec IhcI we were cppc:iIe energie:
crcwn irre:i:IiL|y Icwcrc ecch cIher. 8uI wiIh :uch pc::icn ccme: Ihe
cppc:iIe :ice c: we||. Ihere wc: crcmc cp|enIy cnc |ccc: cf emcIicnc|
Iurmci| fcr LcIh cf u:. Ihen :he mcvec Lcck Ic her hcmeIcwn. Cuch.

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8uI, Leing c mcn cf ceIermincIicn, l cecicec Ic fc||cw her. l cc||ec cnc
:eI iI up. lc ccme vi:iI her, win her cver wiIh my chcrm cnc cc:hing |cck:
cnc hcve her fc|| he|p|e::|y in |cve wiIh me. Shec reprccch her:e|f fcr
ever hcving IhcughI cf |ecving, cnc we wcu|c |ive hcppi|y ever cfIer.

ExcepI, iI cicnI exccI|y hcppen |ike IhcI.

ln:Iecc, Ihe weekenc wc: c ci:c:Ier. Hecp: cf fighIing, cnc l wc: fu|| cf
jec|cu:y, cnger cnc Lewi|cermenI. When l Lccrcec Ihe p|cne c|| IhcI
pc::icn l hcc fe|I LeIrcyec me.

l :cI cn IhcI p|cne cnc wcncerec if l ccu|c :iI Ihere fcr Ihe nexI 2 hcur:. l
mu:I hcve Leen c|ecr|y ci:Ire::ec Leccu:e Ihe cir|ine :Iewcrc {l Ihink he
fcnciec me) gcve me c ccmp|imenIcry LcII|e cf Jcck Dcnie|: Ic he|p
cc|m my nerve:. Ihcnk Gcc fcr IhcI LcII|e cf Jcckl

When l gcI Lcck hcme l wc: cverccme wiIh IhcI :cme emcIicn, LuI here
wc: Ihe kicker:

l cicnI even kncw whcI hcppenec. She Ic|c me c|| Ihe Ihing: l wcnIec Ic
hecr:

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WhcI Ihe he|| Hcw ccn c|| Ihc:e Ihing: Le Irue

Ycu ever geI Ihe fee|ing IhcI pecp|e cre Ie||ing ycu Ihing: IhcI crenI
exccI|y Irue ju:I Leccu:e Ihey ccnI hcve Ihe ccurcge Ic Ie|| Ihe IruIh
We||, IhcI: exccI|y hcw l fe|I.

Ihe mc:I cifficu|I Ihing wc: IhcI l ccu|cnI fix Ihe :iIucIicn: l ccu|cnI
re:c|ve iI - Leccu:e l cicnI kncw whcI lI wc:. Dce: IhcI :cunc fcmi|icr

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/fIer IhcI :iIucIicn l cecicec IhcI l never wcnIec Ic fee| IhcI wcy cgcin.
/nc, if ycu recc Ihi: Lcck c|| Ihe wcy Ihrcugh cnc cc whcI iI :cy:, ycu
wcnI ever hcve Ic fee| IhcI wcy eiIher.









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Fir:I, recc Ihi: Lcck c|| Ihe wcy Ihrcugh Ihe fir:I Iime. Icke 30 minuIe: cr :c,
cnc recc iI frcm frcnI Ic Lcck. / ccup|e grcunc ru|e::

! DcnI ci:mi:: cnyIhing Ihe fir:I Iime Ihrcugh. Nc mcIIer hcw :i||y,
irre|evcnI, cr cff-Lc:e Ihe icec: in Ihi: Lcck :cunc, ccnI ci:mi:: cny
cf Ihem Ihe fir:I Iime Ihrcugh. Ihi: wi|| c||cw ycu Ic receive ccvice
IhcI ycu wcu|c cIherwi:e Le c|c:ec cff Ic.

! Enjcy Ihi: Lcck. Here: whcI l mecn: Iry Ic imcgine IhcI ycu cre
reccing Ihi: Lcck cfIer ycu cnc ycur ex cre Lcck IcgeIher. ln fccI,
mcyLe ycu guy: cre reccing iI IcgeIher cnc |cughing cLcuI Ihe
fccI IhcI in :piIe cf Ihe Lreck up {cr Lreck up:) ycu cre IcgeIher
cnc hcppier Ihcn ever. Ihi: wi|| c||cw ycu Ic recc Ihe Lcck wiIh c
|iII|e |e:: Ien:icn cnc cnxieIy cnc ycu wi|| geI mcre cuI cf iI.






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! Ycu wi|| Le cL|e Ic uncer:Icnc whcI hcppenec wiIh ycur
re|cIicn:hip, cnc why iI fci|ec.

! Ycu wi|| regcin ycur :e|f-ccnficence, :en:e cf wcrIh cnc cirecIicn
IhcI ccn :cmeIime: Le |c:I in Ihe emcIicnc| Iurmci| cf c Lreckup.

! Ycu wi|| Le cL|e Ic cecice wheIher YCU wcnI Ihi: re|cIicn:hip
cgcin, in:Iecc cf hcping cnc Legging IhcI ycur ex wi|| hcve ycu
Lcck.

! lf ycu cecice IhcI ycu wcnI Ihem Lcck, ycu wi|| |ecrn hcw Ic wcc
Ihem Lcck inIc ycur crm:, Ihi: Iime mcre |cving|y - cnc Ic :Icy,
wiIhcuI Ihe in:ecuriIie: cnc fecr: IhcI were ncrmc| in ycur previcu:
re|cIicn:hip.

! Ycu wi|| even ci:ccver hcw Ic keep ycur re|cIicn:hip hec|Ihy,
viLrcnI cnc Ihe envy cf ycur frienc:. /fIer ccing Ihe Ihing: in Ihi:
Lcck, iI: cur cim IhcI ycu|| Le cL|e Ic :cy Ihi: cLcuI ycu cnc ycur
|cver:

.cnc Ihey |ivec hcppi|y ever cfIer.

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IhcI: whcI we c|| wcnI, i:nI iI

Cne mcre Ihing Lefcre we geI :IcrIec. Ihere cre c ccup|e exerci:e: Ic cc
in Ihi: Lcck. Ihe:e cre cL:c|uIe|y e::enIic|. lf ycu rec||y wcnI Ic fee| LeIIer,
Ic hcve ccnIrc| cf ycur re|cIicn:hip wiIh ycur ex {cnc cIher:) - Ihen cc
Ihem. Ycu wi|| Ihcnk me fcr iI. Ycu ccn even :enc me c Chri:Imc: ccrc,
un|e:: ycure Jewi:h. Ihen ycu ccn :enc me c ccnc|e. l wi|| cccepI eiIher,
LcIh cr cny cIher iIem ycu wi:h Ic prcvice.










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Uncer:Icncing i:
Ihe key Ic ccing
cnyIhing we||. /I :cme
pcinI in ycur |ife, ycu
crcc|ec c|| cver ycur:e|f
cnc cnycne crcunc ycu.
Ihen ycu |ecrnec IhcI Ihi:
wc:nI cccepIcL|e cr very
:ucve, :c ycu :Icppec. Cr
cI |ec:I l hcpe ycu cic. Ihe
:cme Ihing cpp|ie: Ic
re|cIicn:hip:. Ihe fir:I Ihing Ic cc when reccvering frcm c re|cIicn:hip i: Ic
figure cuI whcI hcppenec. /: Ihe c|c ucIe gce:, Ihc:e whc cc ncI
kncw hi:Icry cre cccmec Ic repecI iI."

Ihi: i: Ihe ue:Iicn IhcI mc:I pecp|e hcve Ihe hcrce:I Iime cn:wering.
/nc iI: ncI mcce cny ec:ier Ly c Lreckup IhcI: ccu:ec Ly crc:Iic
ccIicn: :uch c: infice|iIy. l mecn, ycu ccu|c :cy we Lrcke up Leccu:e he
checIec cn me," LuI IhcI :Ii|| cce:nI cn:wer Ihe ue:Iicn, cce: iI Why
cic he checI WhcI hcppenec Ic mcke him cc iI /I Ihe enc cf Ihi:
chcpIer ycu wi|| kncw Ihe cn:wer Ic IhcI.

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FememLer when ycu Iwc were IcIc||y inIc ecch cIher McyLe ycu cic
everyIhing IcgeIher: mcyLe ycu hcc in:ice jcke:, :pecic| 'ccIe :pcI:,
cnc fun ccIiviIie: IhcI were never c: fun wiIh cnycne e|:e. McyLe ycu
hcc minc-L|cwing :ex, pc::icncIe ki::e:, cnc mcyLe even :Ircnger: Ic|c
ycu hcw gccc ycu |cckec IcgeIher. Where cic IhcI gc

/nc Ihi: i: where we geI Ic Ihe gccc new:l lI cicnI 'gc cnywhere. lI: :Ii||
c pcrI cf Iheir memcry c: much c: iI i: ycur:.

{Cf ccur:e, if ycu never hcc cny gccc Iime: Ic rememLer, p|ec:e emci|
me fcr c prcmpI refunc. l hcve nc inIere:I in he|ping pecp|e Ic IcrIure
Ihem:e|ve: neec|e::|y.)

Fcr everycne IhcI i: :Ii|| reccing, here: Ihe cec|. Ycu :ee, whcI i: Irue,
Ihcugh hcrc Ic rememLer :cmeIime:, i: Ihi:: cI Ihe rccI cf Ihe i::ue cre
Iwc pecp|e whc cnce fe|I immen:e|y pc::icncIe fcr ecch cIher, Iheir
hecrI: :we||ec when :pencing Iime wiIh ecch cIher, LuI c|cng Ihe wcy,
:cmeIhing wenI c LiI cmi::. /nc never hcving Leen ccrrecIec, iI kepI
gcing cmi:: unIi| cne per:cn ccu|cnI :ee Ihe Ihing: IhcI criginc||y LrcughI
ycu IcgeIher - pcinfu| inceec, LuI Ihcnkfu||y, ncI finc|.

lI: Irue i:nI iI, IhcI :cmeIime: iI: ec:ier Ic geI mcc cI :cmecne, :Icre iI
up in:ice cnc Iry Ic cver|cck iI, Ihcn iI i: Ic ccnfrcnI Ihe :iIucIicn. WhcI
hcppen: nexI i: Iypicc|. Ihc:e |iII|e hurI: Lui|c up, cnc ncI hcving cn
cuI|eI, Ihey exp|cce inIc c Lreckup. Mc:I pecp|e ccnI |ike ccnfrcnIcIicn.
DcnI ycu finc IhcI Ic Le Irue l:nI iI ec:ier {cI |ec:I in Ihe :hcrI Ierm) Ic
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ncIice mc:I Iime:, righI

Ihe Lrecking pcinI ccme: when Ihc:e |iII|e hurI: cuIweigh Ihe gccc IhcI
ycu geI frcm Ihe re|cIicn:hip. Ihi: i: where iI geI: c |iII|e cifferenI fcr men
cnc wcmen.

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Ycu :ee, men |cve Ic Le pur:uer:. We |cve Ic Le ccnuercr:. /nc
we |cve Ic Le ccmirec cnc re:pecIec fcr whcI weve pur:uec cnc
ccnuerec. Ihi: i: why :cme men wi|| checI cn Iheir gir|frienc, Lcyfrienc cr
wife. Ycu :ee, we wcnI cI cur ccre Ic Le re:pecIec. /nc when Ihe per:cn
c guy i: wiIh cce:nI ccmmuniccIe IhcI we||, he i: ec:i|y :wcyec Ic finc
Ihi: :cIi:fccIicn e|:ewhere.

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/I Ihe Leginning cf Ihi: chcpIer l Ic|c ycu IhcI uncer:Icncing i: Ihe key. lf
ycur Lreckup wc: wiIh c guy, uncer:Icnc Ihi:: c mcn wcnI: Ic fee| |ike
Lecnicc: frcm Ihe mcvie 300. He wcnI: Ic pur:ue - cnc ccnuer, cnc
Ihen Le ccmirec fcr Ihe ccurcge cnc ccnficence iI Icck fcr him Ic win.
lI: Icc ecr|y Ic gc inIc hcw Ic cc Ihi:. /I Ihi: pcinI, :imp|y uncer:Icncing
Ihi: Ic Le Irue i: grecI.
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lf ycur inIere:I i: in wcmen, here: c :ecreI: wcmen LCVE Ic Le
|cvec. Ihey |cve Ic Le cccrec, chc:ec, ce:irec cnc wcnIec. Here i:
Ihe grecI ccmp|imenI cf Ihe :exe:. Men |cve Ic pur:ue cnc ccpIure,
wcmen |cve Ic Le pur:uec cnc ccpIurec.
/nc Ihe effecI cf neg|ecIing Ihi: Lc:ic inIimcIe ce:ire cf c wcmcn i:
ci:c:Ircu:. / jccec wcmcn i: ncI |cve|y Ic her:e|f cr Ic her mcIe. When c
wcmcn fee|: igncrec, pcrI cf her :hine c: c wcmcn i: |c:I. /nc her ccIicn:
:hcw iI. lI Leccme: ec:ier fcr her Ic Le cffencec, Ic ncg, cnc Ic Le
generc||y unenjcycL|e Ic Le wiIh. 8uI ycu :ee, :he i: fighIing Ic Le given
whcI :he ce:ire: mc:I - Ihe cccrcIicn cf Ihe cne :he cccre:.

WhcI cce: Ihi: mecn fcr ycu
lf ycu cre inIere:Iec in wcmen, uncer:Icnc Ihi:: c |cvec wcmcn Leccme:
mcre LecuIifu| every ccy. She i: mcre pc::icncIe, mcre Iru:IwcrIhy, cnc
mcre vu|nercL|e.

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! Mc:I wcmen ccn:icer Ihe mc:I cIIrccIive uc|iIy in c mcn Ic Le
ccnficence.
! Ihe mc:I repu|:ive /rrcgcnce
! Mc:I men ccn:icer Ihe mc:I cIIrccIive uc|iIy in c wcmcn Ic Le
vu|nercLi|iIy.
! Ihe mc:I repu|:ive Neecine::
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Ihe Ihing cLcuI Ihi: i: Ihe cifference LeIween Ihe:e uc|iIie: i: rczcr Ihin.
Ycu ccn Legin Ic :ee hcw |iII|e un:eII|ec hurI: cver Iime ccn :hifI c per:cn
frcm exhiLiIing Ihe ce:ircL|e uc|iIy Ic Ihe unce:ircL|e cne.
LeI: mcve cn Ic Ihe nexI chcpIer where lve gcI grecI new: fcr ycu.







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Cr cce: iI :cunc |ike Ihe Le:I new:
ycuve hecrc c|| week

EiIher wcy, in :Iucy cfIer :Iucy, iI: prcven
Ic Le Irue. /nc iI: ncI hcrc Ic
uncer:Icnc, i: iI

l mecn, ycu Iwc hcve c hi:Icry. Ycu hcve
in:ice jcke:, :pecic| ccIe :pcI:, grecI
memcrie: cf |cugh:, rccc Irip:, memcrie:
wiIh muIuc| frienc:. Ycu hcve, l hcpe,
grecI :exuc| ccmpcIiLi|iIy, :imi|cr mcrc|:
cnc cuI|cck: cn |ife. /nc, ycu were c|ecr|y
cIIrccIec Ic ecch cIher cI cne pcinI,
righI

Ycu ever ncIice IhcI :cme pecp|e crcer
Ihe :cme Ihing cver cnc cver cI c
re:IcurcnI l hcve c frienc ncmec Icy|cr, cn cIherwi:e grecI guy. He hc:
vcriec inIere:I:, cnc he: very :mcrI cnc :ucce::fu| in hi: ccreer. 8uI if l c:k
him, Hey mcn, |eI: hcve |unch. Ycu hcve c preference" He wi|| /LW/YS
:cy ChipcI|e." {ChipcI|e hcppen: Ic Le c LurriIc :hcp in Denver). Why
wcu|c he cc IhcI Dce: he hcve LurriIc ceficiency :yncrcme

Ycu ever ncIice IhcI when ycu were in :chcc|, even if ycur :ecI: werenI
c::ignec, ycu wcu|c Ienc Ic Icke Ihe :cme :ecI every ccy Ycu kncw
why We||, Ihi: :crI cf humcn Lehcvicr Ie||: u: why ycur ex wcnI: ycu Lcck
c: much c: ycu wcnI Ihem.

Ihe rec:cn i: Ihi:: we cre crecIure: cf hcLiI. We |cve Ihe rcuIine. We |cve
kncwing whcI Ic expecI, even if whcI we Iecch cur:e|ve: Ic expecI i: Ihe
unexpecIec. /re Ihere excepIicn: Sure. 8uI Ihe:e excepIicn: prcve Ihe
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ru|e. /nc chcnce: cre IhcI ycur ex i: c ncrmc| per:cn IhcI |cve: whcI :he
kncw: c: much c: ycu cc.

ln ccciIicn Ic Ihe p|ec:ure cnc ccmfcrI we geI frcm rcuIine, Ihere i:
cncIher i::ue IhcI ycu hcve cn ycur :ice.

Ycu cnc ycur ex hcve {pre:umcL|y) ccne Ihe hcrc wcrk cf geIIing Ic
kncw ecch cIher. Ycuve gcIIen pc:I c|| Ihe weirc phc:e: cf Ihe iniIic|
pcrI cf c re|cIicn:hip. /|| cf Ihe hecvy |ifIing, :c Ic :peck, hc: Leen ccne.
Ycu LcIh kncw whcI Ihe cIher |ike:, cnc hcw Ic ccccmmcccIe iI.

lI ju:I mcke: :en:e, cce:nI iI Even if iI: hcrc Ic cgree wiIh Leccu:e ycu
Ihink ycur :iIucIicn i: uniue, Ihi: fccI i: Irue. Fecp|e |ike rcuIine. Fecp|e
|ike Ihe fcmi|icr. /nc whcI Ihi: mecn: i: Ihi::

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FememLer Ihe grcunc ru|e: we cgreec Ic lI mighI :cunc ricicu|cu:. 8uI
Lefcre ycu ci:mi:: iI, give iI c chcnce. Ycu ju:I mighI finc IhcI Ihe Ihing
ycu wcnI Ic Le Irue rec||y i: Irue.

Sc if IhcI: Ihe cc:e, why crenI ycu Iwc geIIing Lcck IcgeIher

LeI: |cck cI Ihe nexI chcpIer Ic finc cuI.


















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Ycu kncw Ihe
|cck. Ycu ccn fee|
ycur:e|f cringe c: ycu
:ee IhcI guy :Icncing
Ihere, geIIing reccy Ic
give ycu Ihe hcrc :e||.
Ycu kncw IhcI in ju:I c
minuIe he: gcnnc gc
cn cnc cn cLcuI hcw
grecI Ihe new mircc|e
cure fcr ycur |ife i: cnc
hcw ycu ccnncI pc::iL|y
|ive wiIhcuI iI. Hcw cce:
iI fee| c: ycu imcgine
IhcI

Gccc l cicnI Ihink :c.

Ycu :ee, we ccnI |ike Leing pre::urec, cc we l rememLer when l hcc c
jcL :e||ing ccr repcir :ervice: Ic cec|er:hip:. lI wc: my jcL Ic gc Ic vcricu:
ccr cec|er:hip: cnc :e|| Ihem cn hiring my ccmpcny Ic cc Ihe
reccnciIicning wcrk, ycu kncw, Icking cuI cenI:, fixing :crcIche:, cnc
repciring Iecr: in Ihe inIericr.

We||, l hcc nc icec whcI l wc: Ic|king cLcuI, LuI l hcc p|enIy cf
ecgerne::. IhcI ecgerne:: gcI me c |cI cf Scrry, lm Lu:y" re:pcn:e:. NcI
uiIe Ihe re:u|I l hcc hcpec fcr.

lI wc:nI unIi| c frienc Icck me c:ice cnc :cic, Hey mcn, ycu mighI wcnI
Ic |ighIen up cn Ihe inIen:iIy." Ihen l :IcrIec Ic geI iI. Ihe pecp|e l wc:
cc||ing cn ccu|c hecr my ce:percIicn cnc even Ihcugh Ihey mighI ncI
hcve Leen cL|e Ic crIicu|cIe iI, iI mcce Ihem nervcu: cnc fee| IhcI l
wc:nI Iru:IwcrIhy. Ycu mcy Le :eeing Ihe pcrc||e|.
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/: ycu Legin Ic :ee Ihe effecI cf pre::ure, ycu ccn uncer:Icnc whcI
repecIec IexIing, cc||ing, :Ic|king, emci|ing, fcceLccking, eIc wi|| cc.
WhcI effecI wcu|c IhcI hcve cn ycu

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A#7 5)-)-()5 ,/", ", &#) 8&+#, %&' ,.& .)5) +#0",'",)7 .+,/ )"4/
&,/)5> /"88% "#7 +# 1&:);

8uI ncw ycure hurI, cngry, cnc wcnI Ihe cIher per:cn Ic kncw iI, righI
Ycu c|:c wcnI Ihem Ic kncw IhcI in :piIe cf IhcI, ycu :Ii|| ccre cLcuI Ihem,
mcyLe even |cve Ihem. 8uI whcI: Ihe effecI cf cccing IhcI much weighI
Ic cn c|reccy :inking :hip Ycu gue::ec iI - Ihe :hip: :ink: fc:Ier Ihcn
Lecncrcc Di Ccpric: |cve in Ihe IiIcnic.

Ncw ycure Leginning Ic uncer:Icnc mcre cf whcI hc: Leen hcppening.
/nc, ycure Leginning Ic uncer:Icnc hcw ycur ccIicn: he|p cr hincer ycur
chcnce: cf geIIing Lcck IcgeIher wiIh ycur ex.

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Dc ycu wcnI Ic venI ycur fee|ing:, Ie|| Ihe cIher per:cn Ic :crew cff, cnc
ju:I geI iI cff ycur che:I lf :c, cc :c uncer:Icncing Ihe effecI. Ihe effecI
wi|| Le mcre ci:Icnce, mcre Lrckenne::, |e:: |cve.

lf hcwever ycu wcnI Ic mcke Ihing: wcrk LeIween ycu Iwc, ycu wi|| hcve
Ic cc :cmeIhing e|:e wiIh Ihc:e emcIicn: :c ycu ccn ccI in c wcy Ic wcc
Ihem Lcck. Ycu wi|| hcve Ic ccnIrc| ycur emcIicn: {lm giving :cme Iip: cn
hcw Ic cc Ihi: in Ihe nexI chcpIer) cnc ccI in c wcy IhcI wi|| re|ieve
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ln Ihe |c:I chcpIer l Ic|c ycu l wcu|c give ycu :cme ccvice cn
wcy: Ic he|p ccnIrc| Ihe fury cf emcIicn: {gui|I, cnger, cnxieIy,
cepre::icn) IhcI ycu mcy Le fee|ing.

Hcve ycu ever ncIicec IhcI
whenever ycu :IcrI
:cmeIhing new iI :eem: c
|cI hcrcer Ihcn iI rec||y i:
Fcr excmp|e, Ihe fir:I Iime l
wenI :ncwLccrcing l hcc c
IerriL|e gc cI iI. /: c mcIIer
cf fccI, l encec up in Ihe
hc:piIc| wiIh c Lrcken
Lcck. Yike:l

Ncw IhcI lm c|mc:I Ihe Le:I :ncwLccrcer in Ihe wcr|c {in my hecc
cnywcy) l |cck Lcck cn my :IcrI cnc Ihink hcw Lig c cec| l mcce cf iI. lI
:eem: :c much :imp|er ncw - cnc iI rec||y i:. WhcI: Ihe cifference
LeIween Ihen cnc ncw

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Here: whcI were gcing Ic cc - lm gcing Ic guice ycu Ihrcugh c
meciIcIicn. Ihi: i: :imp|y gcing Ic Le c meciIcIicn Ic re|cx ycu, cnc :eII|e
ycur cnxieIy, c||cw ycu Ic |cck cI Ihe :iIucIicn wiIh mcre cLjecIiviIy cnc
cpIimi:m.

Fir:I, ju:I geI ccmfcrIcL|e. Ncw, recc Ihrcugh Ihe exerci:e. GeI Ihe icec cf
whcI Ic cc, Ihen puI iI inIc prccIice. Ju:I Iry Ic cc iI fcr 5 minuIe:. /nc
Ihen :ee hcw ycu fee|.

Ckcy, :IcrI Ic LrecIhe ceep|y Ihrcugh ycur nc:e. CcunI Ic 5 c: ycu inhc|e,
Ihen exhc|e Ihrcugh ycur nc:e c: ycu ccunI Ic 5. Dc Ihi: 3 Iime:. 8recIhe
in. 8recIhe cuI.

Ncw, c|c:ing ycur eye:, :cy Ihe wcrc CM" c: ycu LrecIhe in.
CM" c: ycu LrecIhe cuI. Fee| ycur che:I ri:e cnc fc||, fee| ycur:e|f
Leccming mcre re|cxec. /||cw Ihe fee|ing: Ic ccme cnc gc wiIh ecch
LrecIh.
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Ncw IhcI ycuve ccne Ihi:, ycu wi|| fee| c LiI mcre re|cxec. lf Ihi: wc: ycur
fir:I Iime prccIicing c meciIcIicn, Ihe re:u|I mcy ncI Le crc:Iic. lI: Ihe
:cme c: cnyIhing e|:e. Ycu prcLcL|y werenI c prc cI reccing Ihe fir:I
Iime ycu Iriec iI eiIher. 8uI if ycu cc prccIice iI cci|y, ycu wi|| ncIice c
:ignificcnI cifference.

SIcrI ycur ccy wiIh Ihi: mecicIicn. Icke Ihe:e 5 minuIe: Ic ceciccIe Ic
ycur:e|f. Ihe re:ecrch :hcw: cver cnc cver IhcI regu|cr mecicIicn hc:
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innumercL|e LenefiI:. Ihe cne we cre fccu:ing cn i: re|cxcIicn. 8eccu:e
ycu ccnI Le cnxicu: cnc re|cxec cI Ihe :cme Iime, righI

+,# B#/- -,3BS -5 85 3( -,3(:

/fIer ycu hcve :penI ycur 5 minuIe: in meciIcIicn, cpen ycur eye:, cnc
:cy - l LCVE YCU, Michce| Gri:wc|c." Cf ccur:e, ycu|| u:e ycur ncme,
in:Iecc cf mine. lf ycu cc |cve me {|ike if ycure my mcm), fee| free Ic u:e
my ncme c|:c. 8uI ycur ncme i: mc:I impcrIcnI. Here: why:

Fe:ecrch :hcw: cver cnc cver IhcI Ie||ing ycur:e|f IhcI ycu |cve ycu hc:
pcwerfu| LenefiI:. NcI ju:I Ic hype ycu up cnc mcke ycu fee| LeIIer, LuI
ccIuc| neurc|cgicc| {Lrcin) LenefiI:. lI :eem: IhcI ycur Lrcin {cnc mine)
re:pcnc: Ic Ihe Ihing: we Ie|| iI. /nc if we Ie|| iI gccc Ihing:, iI wi|| Legin Ic
Le|ieve u:. /nc iI wi|| :enc cuI chemicc|: IhcI :uppcrI Ihi: wcy cf Ihinking.
/|| :crI: cf fee| gccc chemicc|: cre re|ec:ec cnc Ihe Lrcin ccIuc||y fcrm:
new pcIhwcy: Lc:ec cn Ihi: wcy cf Ihinking.

Ihi: hc: LenefiI: fcr :urpc::ing Ihe cuIccme cf wheIher ycu cnc ycur ex
geI Lcck IcgeIher cr ncI. /: ycu ccnIinue Ic prccIice Ihe meciIcIicn cnc
Ihe cffirmcIicn cf |cve, ycu wi|| finc IhcI ycu Leccme mcre ccnficenI,
mcre |cving, mcre Iru:Iing, cnc mcre :e|f c::urec. Dc ycu Ihink Ihe:e
uc|iIie: wcu|c he|p ycu in ycur |cve |ife

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Ihi: cne exerci:e c|cne hc: Leen re:pcn:iL|e fcr Ihe hec|ing cf mcny
hecrI: cnc Ihe renewing cf ccnficence cnc fciIh in Ihe hecrI: cf Ihe cne:
whc hcve ccne iI.
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LeI: :cy ycu cnc l were Ic gc Ic c mcvie, hcw cLcuI 8rcvehecrI Ihe
pcrIicu|cr mcvie i:nI IhcI impcrIcnI. Sc, cc ycu rememLer when hi: wife
hc: her IhrccI :|iI in Ihe Leginning Ncw |eI: :cy we |efI cI IhcI pcinI.
Wc|kec cuI. Ihe mcvie :Icppec. Ihe enc.

WhcI wcu|c ycu Ihink cf IhcI mcvie We||, if ycure |ike mc:I pecp|e
{my:e|f inc|ucec), ycuc Ihink IhcI iI :uckecl Why 8eccu:e Ihere wc: nc
re:c|uIicn. We cicnI geI Ic :ee Ihe prcL|em re:c|vec.

8uI ncw, |eI: :cy IhcI we :Icyec Ic Ihe enc cf Ihe mcvie. WheIher ycu
|ike Ihe pcrIicu|cr fi|m 8rcvehecrI cr ncI, ycu ccn :ee IhcI Ihe :Icry cI
|ec:I mcke: :en:e cI Ihe enc. /nc cce:nI Ihe Leginning mcke Ihe re:I cf
whcI hcppenec c|| Ihe mcre pcwerfu| /|| Ihe mcre mcving /|| Ihe mcre
in:piring

Ycur |ife i: nc cifferenI. Ycu :ee, if we :Icp Ihe fi|m cf ycur |ife cI Ihe |cw
pcinI cnc cnc|yze iI Ihere, we mighI :cy Ihe :cme Ihing we :cic cLcuI
wcIching 8rcvehecrI Ihe fir:I Iime IcgeIher: IhcI :uck:."

8uI, Ihe fi|m i:nI cver fcr ycu eiIher. Nc cne wcIche: c mcvie IhcI :IcrI:
cff wiIh:

- .,- . .- / ., . ...(./ ./ ,.- .-. / - .
...(./ ./ ,.-,, .-. /, /... /.,,./, . .(

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Ihe pcinI i: Ihi: - ycur :Icry i: in Ihe micc|e. When Ihe re:I cf Ihe fi|m i:
:hcwn, Ihi: pcrI WlLL {ju:I |ike in every gccc mcvie) mcke Ihe encing :c
much :weeIer. Ihe fccI IhcI ycu experience Ihi: |cw c||cw: ycu Ic
experience c grecIer high.
Ckcy, :c hcw cc ycu u:e Ihi: juicy LiI cf fi|m Irivic Here: hcw:

lmcgine Ihe encing cf ycur :Icry Ihe wcy ycu wcu|c wriIe iI. NcI Ihe wcy
ycure cfrcic cf iI hcppening, LuI Ihe wcy ycu wcnI iI Ic unfc|c. See Ihe
Iwc cf ycu IcgeIher, |cughing, hc|cing hcnc:, uncre::ing ecch cIher,
whcIever. Ncw, whi|e ycure in IhcI :cene, Ihink Lcck Ic Ihi: :iIucIicn cnc
hcw gccc iI fee|: kncwing IhcI ycu wcrkec Ihrcugh iI cnc cre ncw
IcgeIher cgcin, c|c:er Ihcn ycu ever were Lefcre.

/nc, if ycu mcke c mcvie cLcuI iI, l|| Le :ure ncI Ic wc|k cuI cI Ihe
Lreckup pcrI cf Ihe :Icry.

ln Ihe nexI chcpIer we|| ci:cu:: :cme prccIicc| :Iep: Ic Icke IhcI wi|| he|p
ycu Ic crcu:e Ihe ce:ire in ycur ex cnc hcve Ihem wcnIing ycu Lcck.





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Ncw IhcI weve
uncer:Iccc where ycu cre in
ycur re|cIicn:hip {whcI
hcppenec), IhcI ycur ex :Ii||
wcnI: ycu Lcck, cnc IhcI
pre::ure i: c ki||er, iI: Iime Ic
figure cuI whcI Ic cc wiIh Ihi:
kncw|ecge. Hcw cc ycu u:e iI
in ycur inIerccIicn wiIh ycur
ex

Fir:I, chi|| cuI. Ihi: mecn: Ic Le in ccmmuniccIicn :i|ence. /fIer c Lreckup
Ihe Iencency i: Ic cc||, IexI, Leg, p|ecc, IhrecIen, mcke fun cf, eIc. @K?.+
@K +7<+. Cne, iI mcke: ycu |cck ce:percIe, cnc Iwc, iI mcke: ycu |c:e
re:pecI fcr ycur:e|f.

ln:Iecc, cc Ihi:: GeI c pen. Finc c cc|enccr. Finc Ihe ccIe IhcI i: Ihree
week: frcm ncw. GcI iI Ncw circ|e iI. Dc ycu kncw whcI Ihi: ccIe
repre:enI: Ihi: i: C-Dcy. Nc, iI: ncI Chri:Imc:. lI: CcmmuniccIicn ccy.
Ihi: i: Ihe nexI Iime ycu wi|| iniIicIe ccmmuniccIicn wiIh ycur ex.

WhcI i: Ihe :ignificcnce cf 3 week:
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Ycur Lrcin |ecrn: new hcLiI: cfIer Ihree week:. FighI ncw, ycu mcy Le
reccIive, cnxicu: cr ce:percIe Ic geI ycur ex Lcck. /: weve ci:cu::ec,
Ihi: i: ncI Ihe :IcIe cf minc IhcI wcrk:, ncr i: iI c :IcIe cf minc IhcI i:
enjcycL|e.

8uI mcrking Ihi: ccIe cn ycur cc|enccr give: ycu c gcc|. lI give: ycu
cirecIicn, cnc iI give: ycu Iime Ic c||cw Ihe pre::ure Ic re|cx c LiI. Ihe
LenefiI: cf Ihi: ccnncI Le expre::ec in wcrc:. CcmLinec wiIh Ihe :imp|e
exerci:e: we ci:cu::ec ecr|ier, Ihi: puI: ycu in c frcme cf minc IhcI i:
ccnficenI, hec|Ihy cnc :e|f-c::urec. Ihi: puI: ycu in Ihe pc:iIicn Ic Le Ihe
cne in ccnIrc| cf wheIher Ihi: re|cIicn:hip gce: fcrwcrc cr ncI.

c. | .- .. /. /-

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EiIher Lcck up, regrcup, cnc Icke Ihe:e nexI 21 ccy: Ic :crI ycur cwn
hecrI cuI.

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Gc cn fee|ing cnxicu:, :ccrec cnc cepre::ec unIi| ycur re|cIicn:hip finc||y
cie: fcrever. UnfcrIuncIe|y, pecp|e whc Icke Ihi: cpIicn u:uc||y cc Ihe
:cme Ihing in Ihe nexI re|cIicn:hip, cnc Ihe nexI, cnc Ihe nexI. lI: IcIc||y
ycur righI Ic chcc:e iI, LuI l per:cnc||y ccnI Ihink iI: c: enjcycL|e.

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lf ycu chc:e Ic gc wiIh cpIicn 1, here i: :cme ccvice. Fir:I, we c: pecp|e
ccn cc c|mc:I cnyIhing if we hcve cn enc in minc. Sc c|Ihcugh ycu mighI
fee| |ike iI: impc::iL|e, ycu ccn encure iI wiIh Ihe enc ccIe in minc. lI wc:
:cic cf ccncenIrcIicn ccmp vicIim: curing Ihe hc|cccu:I IhcI Ihe cne:
whc :urvivec were Ihe cne: whc ccu|c :ee Ihe enc cf Ihe IcrIure cnc c
reIurn Ic c LeIIer fuIure. My gue:: i: IhcI ycu crenI Leing Lurnec Ic
cecIh in ycur Lreckup, cr wcIching ycur fcmi|y gc Ic Ihe gc: chcmLer,
hcwever, c |iII|e per:pecIive i: :cmeIime: he|pfu| fcr giving u: IhcI exIrc
ccurcge we hcpe Ic exhiLiI.
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Fir:I, cc Ihing: ycu |ike. /cIicn i: Ihe key Ic mcking chcnge:. Sc geI upl

Here cre :cme icec: cf Ihing: Ic cc Ic geI ycu :IcrIec.

/|Ihcugh l ccn he|p wiIh icec:, iI: ycu IhcI mu:I Icke Ihe ccIicn. /nc l
ccn c::ure ycu IhcI if ycu cc, ycu|| Le g|cc ycu cic.

/ uick ncIe cLcuI Ihe fc||cwing ccIiviIie:: /I c|| pcinI: pc::iL|e, :checu|e
Ihe evenI: IhcI ycure prccIicing cI Ihe :cme Iime every ccy. Ihi: wi|| he|p
ycu menIc||y Ic Lreck up ycur ccy inIc LiIe :izec chunk:, :c IhcI in:Iecc
cf wcncering hcw ycu|| geI Ihrcugh Ihe enIire ccy wiIhcuI Ic|king Ic her,
ycu|| cn|y hcve Ic mcke iI Ihrcugh c ccup|e cf hcur: unIi| {fi|| in enjcycL|e
ccIiviIy here).

! Gc Ic Ihe gym - wheIher ycu enjcy wcrking cuI cr ju:I wcnI Ic
mcke :ure ycure |ccking :uper :exy fcr Ihe nexI Iime ycu :ee ycur
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ex - give ycur Lccy c wcrkcuI. Ycu|| enjcy Ihe re|ec:e cf
enccrphin:, cnc IighIer cL:l Schecu|e ycur Irip Ic Ihe gym cI Ihe
:cme Iime every ccy.

! Schecu|e in ycgc c|c:: everyccy - ycgc i: :imp|y :uperL.

! Hcving prccIicec ncw fcr cLcuI mcnIh:, l ccn Ie|| ycu iI mcke:
me cc|mer, mcre fccu:ec cnc mcre |cving. lI mcy cc Ihe :cme fcr
ycu.

! Icke c pcIIery c|c:: - never ccne Ihi: my:e|f, LuI iI ju:I :cunc: ccc|. l
mecn, geIIing ycur hcnc: cn c |ump cf c|cy cnc mcking iI inIc
:cmeIhing IcngiL|e i: hcI. NcI Ic menIicn ycu geI Ic u:e IhcI whee|
Ihing.

! Gc cnIc Crcig:|i:I cnc |cck uncer Ihe ccIiviIie: :ecIicn - |ccc: cf
pecp|e cre |ccking fcr pcrIner: Ic cc fun/weirc/ccc| Ihing: wiIh. /
recenI :ecrch LrcughI up everyIhing frcm c :ci|ing expeciIicn Ic
Ihe 8chcmc: Ic c mcnIh|y Lcck/Leer c|uL cI Ihe |ccc| wcIering
hc|e. Ihink cLcuI hcw freeing iI ccn Le Ic wicen ycur circ|e cf
frienc: cnc enjcy experience: wiIh cIher pecp|e.

! Finc c Ienni: pcrIner - l puI Ihi: in Leccu:e l Ihink Ienni: i: fun. lf iI:
ncI fcr ycu, ycu :hcu|c prcLcL|y :kip Ihi: cne.

! Icke c guiIcr |e::cn.

! Gc hcr:eLcck ricing.

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! Gc :ncwLccrcing {if ycure in Denver, ccme cuI wiIh u:).

! Gc cn c :peec ccIe - lm :ure ycuve hecrc cf Ihi:. lI wc: mcce
fcmcu: Ly Wi|| SmiIh: mcvie, HiIch. lf ycu ccn gc inIc iI wiIh c :en:e
cf humcr, iI ccu|c prcvice ycu wiIh |ccc: cf |cugh:, IhcI nighI cnc
cfIerwcrc:. Speec ccIe: cre he|c in mcjcr ciIie:, cnc ycu ccn finc
Ihe cne: c|c:e:I Ic ycu wiIh c :imp|e Gccg|e :ecrch cf ':peec ccIe
+ ycur ciIy.

! Vc|unIeer cI c reIiremenI hcme - :cmeIime: geIIing per:pecIive cn
ycur |ife i: ju:I whcI ycu neec Ic geI ycur minc:eI Lcck Ic Ihe wcy
ycu wcnI iI. NcI Ic menIicn, c|c pecp|e cre cfIen hi|cricu: wiIh Iheir
ceccce: wcrIh cf :Icrie: Ic Ie||. Very enIerIciningl

! Cr ycu ccn geI c Lig IuL cf ice crecm cnc/cr c 12 pcck cf Leer
cnc gcrge ycur:e|f. ScmeIime: IhcI ccn he|p, LuI ncI u:uc||y.









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Sc here we cre, Ihree week:
|cIer. {l kncw we crenI rec||y,
LuI |eI: p|cy Ihe imcgincIicn gcme).

Hcw cc ycu gc cLcuI reccnnecIing
/nc whcI cc ycu cc if ycur ex cc||:
ycu LeIween ncw cnc Ihen

We wi|| cn:wer LcIh cf Ihe:e
ue:Iicn: here.

Sc Ihere ycu cre, ccing ycur Ihing.
lI: Leen c week, cnc c|Ihcugh iI: Leen Icugh, ycure :IcrIing Ic fee|
LeIIer, cnc mcre ccnficenI. Ycure :IcrIing Ic :ee :cme cf Ihe Ihing: IhcI
ccnIriLuIec Ic Ihe Lreckup cnc ycure :IcrIing Ic fee| |ike Ihe chc||enge:
crenI impc::iL|e Ic cverccme. /nc ycu mi:: her, righI

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LeI: exp|cre LcIh cn:wer: :c ycu ccnI fee| |ike lm feecing ycu c |ccc cf
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Ycu kncw Ihi: fee|ing, lm :ure. Like c crcck cccicI IhcI ju:I ccughI c whiff
cf :cme pipe :mcke, cnc wcnI: c hiI rec||y Lcc. 8uI i: IhcI whcI ycu rec||y
wcnI 8eccu:e we ccn precicI whcI wi|| prcLcL|y hcppen, ccnI we lf
ycu Icke her {cr hi:) IexI cnc run wiIh iI, ycur ex i: :Ii|| in ccnIrc|, crenI
Ihey /nc if Iheyre in ccnIrc|, IhcI :Ii|| mcke: ycu Ihe neecy cne, cce:nI
iI Ihe cne IhcI: wciIing fcr Iheir ex Ic chcnge Iheir minc, LuI whc:
never uiIe :ecure in Iheir ceci:icn, righI Sc, if ycu geI Lcck IcgeIher cn
Iheir Ierm:, whcI wi|| keep IhcI frcm hcppening cgcin

{/ uick ncIe here. l cm ncI :ugge:Iing IhcI ycu hcve c pcwer Irip in
cny wcy, cnc lm cerIcin|y ncI ccvcccIing IhcI ycu mcke ycur ex ccme
Legging |ike c mi:crecnI fcr ycur fcrgivene:: unIi| ycu :Irike Ihem wiIh Ihe
:cepIer cf mercy.)

WhcI l cm :cying i: Ihi:: ycu wcnI Ihe re:pecI cf whcever ycu cre geIIing
inIc c re|cIicn:hip wiIh, righI We||, if ycu cn:wer Ic ycur ex: Leck cnc
cc||, hcw much wi|| Ihey re:pecI ycu ln cIher wcrc:, ycu wcnI Ihem Ic
wcncer if ycure :Ii|| inIere:Iec. IhcI: whcI ycuve Leen ccing, i:nI iI
/nc whcI hc: Leen Ihe effecI cn ycu When ycu wcncer if Ihey :Ii|| |cve
ycu cce: IhcI mcke ycu mcre ecger Ic hcve Ihem lI cce: fcr everycne.
We c|| wcnI IhcI which i: hcrce:I Ic geI.

Sc, |eI: |cck cI cncIher cpIicn. l Ihink Ihi: cne wi|| :cunc mcre cIIrccIive -
LcIh Ic ycu cnc ycur ex. 8eccu:e Ihe fccI i:, ycur ex cce:nI wcnI ycu Ic
Le wrcppec crcunc Iheir finger. Ihey wcnI ycu Ic Le ycur cwn per:cn.

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lf ycur ex IexI: ycu, here i: whcI ycu cc: ycu mcke c :hcrI rep|y IhcI i: kinc
- keep iI :hcrI. Ycu wcnI Ic ccnvey IhcI ycure mcving cn {even if ycu
crenI) cnc Ihing: cre gcing we||. Here cre :cme excmp|e::

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{, /., .,

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{, /.-, . . c- ..- {whcIever ycuve Leen
ccing - if ycuve Leen crying cnc ecIing ice crecm, mcke up :cmeIhing
e|:e) {, .// ., // ( ,.

Ycu :hcu|c wciI c cf ccup|e hcur: Lefcre ycu geI Lcck Ic Ihem. WhcI
ycu wcnI Ic ccmmuniccIe i: IhcI ycu crenI wciIing fcr Iheir every
ccmmuniccIicn.

Ycu ccn :ee whcI Ihe effecI i:, ccnI ycu Ycu ccme ccrc:: c: |ccking
ckcy, ccju:Iec, mcving cn. ln effecI, ycu ccme ccrc:: c::

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lf Ihey ccnIinue Ihe ccnver:cIicn, |eI Ihem kncw :cmeIhing |ike Ihi::

{, ., . /. (- ,. ,, | .- ./| ./ - |- .-
/ -.../ ( /.. .// ./ ., ,-

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Ncw, if :cmecne ycu wcnIec :cic Ihi: Ic ycu, my gue:: i: IhcI ycu wcu|c
wcnI Ihem :cme mcre. Ihe rec:cn fcr Ihi: i: we |cve Ic wcnI whcI i:
cifficu|I Ic geI.

When l wc: c kic, l wcre Iurf c|ecI: Ic :chcc|. Ycu kncw, Ihc:e :hce: wiIh
cLcuI 100 |iII|e ruLLer c|ecI: cn Ihe LcIIcm Whi|e Ihe ccc| kic: hcc /ir
Jcrccn: cr FeeLck:, l hcc Ihc:e |cme :hce:. Dc ycu Ihink l wc: :hcwing
Ihem cff Why wcu|c l 8eccu:e cnycne ccn geI Ihc:e :crry :hce:. 8uI
Ihe pecp|e whc gcI Ihe Jcrccn: righI when Ihey ccme cuI, Ihey were
:hcwing Ihem cff Ic whcever wcu|c |i:Ien.

Ycu :ee Ihe pcrc||e|, righI 8e Ihe cne whc i: ce:irec. lI fee|: gccc, cnc
ycu give Ihe :cIi:fccIicn cf giving :cmeIhing cf vc|ue Ic Ihe per:cn whc
pur:ue: ycu.

Icking Ihe cpprccch IhcI mcke: ycu ce:ircL|e Icke: ccurcge. l kncw IhcI
ycu hcve iI in ycu, even if iI: Luriec uncer 30 yecr: cf ccwcrcice. Keep
cigging. Ycu|| geI Ic iI.

Ncw IhcI Ihe Ihree week: hcve pc::ec, cnc ycu wcnI Ic geI in Icuch
wiIh ycur ex cnc mcke :cmeIhing hcppen cn ycur Ierm:, here i: whcI ycu
ccn cc:

Cc|| Ihem up. DcnI IexI Ihem - IhcI: |cme, cnc in :iIucIicn: where Ihe
re|cIicn:hip i: ncI fu||y cefinec, iI: Icc ec:y Ic recc inIc Ihing:.

Sc cc|| Ihem. Iry Ic cc|| :cmeIime when ycu ccnI Ihink Ihey wi|| cn:wer.
Ycure ncI rec||y wcnIing Ic Ic|k Ic Ihem c: much c: ycu cre ccnIinuing Ic
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Lui|c ycur ce:ircLi|iIy. When Ihe vcicemci| ccme: cn, |ecve c me::cge
IhcI i: |ighI-hecrIec, fun, cnc fccu:ec cn Ihem.

Ycu mighI :cy :cmeIhing Ic Ihe effecI cf:

{, ,.// -. /.. /., . | ., . . .- .(.,
.-. /, . /...- /., -.,,.. ,./ - --, .-, ,.- ,.
. .- --.,,. /./ ,.. /.. |- {, .// ., //

Ycu wi|| hcve Ic ccju:I iI cf ccur:e Ic Ihe cpprcpricIe :iIucIicn fcr
whcever ycure Ic|king Ic. Ihcugh Ihi: :cunc: c LiI Iechniue-ey {mcce
IhcI wcrc up), when ccmLinec wiIh cn uncer:Icncing cf why ycu cre
ccing iI, iI Leccme: very pcwerfu|.

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Ycu cre Ie||ing Ihem IhcI ycu hcve Leen Ihinking cLcuI Ihem, wiIhcuI
Ie||ing Ihem Ihi:. /nc ycure ccing Ihem c gccc Iurn, crenI ycu Ycuve
ccne Ihem c fcvcr cnc IhcughI cf Ihem, wiIhcuI gcing cn cnc cn cLcuI
hcw much ycu wcnI Ihem Lcck.
WiIhcuI gcing inIc Ihe Lcckgrcunc cf Ihe p:ychc|cgy Lehinc c|| Ihi:, lm
:ure ycu ccn :ee IhcI iI wi|| hcve c pc:iIive effecI cnc, if ccne in Ihe
prcper Icne, iI wi|| hcve Ihem Ihinking grecI IhcughI: cLcuI ycu, cnc c: c
re:u|I, ycu|| Leccme mcre ce:ircL|e.

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Ycu kncw hcw :cmeIime: Ie||ing :cmecne :cmeIhing L|unI|y hc: Ihe
cppc:iIe effecI, e:pecic||y if ycuve Ic|c Ihem Ihe :cme Ihing cver cnc
cver We kinc cf geI ccnciIicnec Ic iI, ccnI we

ScmeIime: iI: LeIIer Ic Icke c :neckier rcuIe. Sc in:Iecc cf engcging
Iheir ccn:cicu: minc, ycu cre engcging Iheir :uLccn:cicu:. IhcI i: whcI
Ihe me::cge cLcve c||cw: ycu Ic cc. Ycu ccn Ihink cf iI c: c Lcck cccr
cpprccch Ic ccmmuniccIicn: cne IhcI i: fcr mcre effecIive Ihcn Ihe
ncrmc| wcy.

lf iI fee|: |ike Ihi: i: c LiI cf ccI cnc mcu:e, iI i:. Ihi: pu:h-pu|| e|emenI i:
funccmenIc| Ic cIIrccIicn. /gcin, Ihe:e crenI Irick: cr :pe||:, ju:I ncrmc|
humcn p:ychc|cgy mixec wiIh regu|cr ccmmcn :en:e.

ln every hec|Ihy re|cIicn:hip Ihere i: c cerIcin cmcunI cf Ien:icn. Mc:I
cfIen IhcI Ien:icn i: crecIec Ly Ihi: pu:h-pu|| e|emenI, even wiIhcuI
pecp|e kncwing iI. 8y Leing cwcre cf iI, ycu ccn keep IhcI Ien:icn {cnc
c: c re:u|I, IhcI cIIrccIicn) gcing even |cng cfIer Ihe LuIIerf|y :Icge" i:
gcne.

lf ycuve ccne Ihi: rec||y we|| cnc Ihe cIIrccIicn i: :Ircng, ycu mcy finc
IhcI ycur ex ccIuc||y c:k: Ic :ee ycu cgcin. Ihi: i: very pc:iIive {cuh).

lf ncI, cfIer Ihey reIurn ycur cc||, {cnc Ihey wi||, ju:I give Ihem Iime Ic cc
:c) cffer Ic meeI up fcr c LiI cf ccIch up. Ihe wcy ycu phrc:e Ihi: i:
exIreme|y impcrIcnI.

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Ihey cc|| ycu Lcck. {Smc|| Ic|k :mc|| Ic|k, L|ch L|ch L|ch). ln Ihi: :mc|| Ic|k,
Le prepcrec. Hcve :cmeIhing Ic :cy. NcI ju:I, We||, ycu kncw, :cme c|c
:cme c|c." Cr even wcr:e, NcIhing gcing cn here, whcI hcve ycu Leen
ccing"

Ycu wcnI Ic pcrIrcy ycur:e|f c: Ihe cne whc i: ce:ircL|e. Sc even if ycu
Ihink ycur |ife i: mcre Lcring Ihcn Ihe |cIe:I rerun cf Hcgcn Kncw: 8e:I,
Ic|k cLcuI :cmeIhing, cnyIhing IhcI i: gcing we|| fcr ycu.

{, .,, /. ,. |- /. ,.,,, /. | {, ,..-
,, .,..

Ycu :ee, Ihe ccnIenI cf whcI ycure Ic|king cLcuI i: W/Y |e:: impcrIcnI
Ihcn Ihe enIhu:ic:m wiIh which ycu Ic|k cLcuI iI.

! Dic ycu kncw IhcI 37 cf cur ccmmuniccIicn wiIh cIher: i: ncn-
verLc| WhcI IhcI mecn: i: Ihi:: when ycu Ic|k Ic :cmecne, hcw
ycu :cy whcI ycu :cy hc: c fcr grecIer impccI Ihcn whcI ycu
ccIuc||y cc :cy. Dce: Ihi: mcke :en:e Fe-recc IhcI |c:I :enIence
cgcin Ic mcke :ure ycu uncer:Icnc.

Sc, Ihe impcrIcnI Ihing Ic ccmmuniccIe {Ihrcugh ycur enIhu:ic:m,
upLecI ci:pc:iIicn cnc :unny per:cnc|iIy) i: IhcI ycu cre ce:ircL|e. We c||
|ike pc:iIive pecp|e, ccnI we

l ccn ju:I hecr :cme pecp|e :cying Nc, l Ihink pc:iIive pecp|e cre
cnncying." We||, IhcI mighI Le pcrI cf Ihe rec:cn ycure reccing Ihi:
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Ihe key i: Ic mcke Ihe ccnver:cIicn :hcrI. Nc mcre Ihcn cLcuI 5 minuIe:.
ln IhcI Iime, :ee hcw Ihey cre ccing, Ie|| Ihem cne gccc Ihing gcing fcr
ycu cnc Ihen :cy, Hey, l gcIIc gc, LuI iI wcu|c Le fun Ic geI IcgeIher
cnc ccIch up c LiI. Ycu wcnnc grcL c cup cf ccffee nexI week"

Ihe exccI meeIing |cccIicn i: ncI IhcI impcrIcnI, LuI Ihere cre :cme
Ihing: Ic :hy cwcy frcm. DcnI cc cinner:, fcmi|y evenI:, weccing:, eIc.
Ycu wcnI Ihe fee|ing Ic Le |ighIhecrIec cnc fun. Gc fcr |unch, ccffee, cr
c crink cfIer wcrk. Ihe:e cre |cw-key :eIIing: IhcI c||cw ycu LcIh Ihe
freeccm Ic ncI fee| pre::urec.

/nc iI: IhcI |cw-key, nc expecIcIicn: minc:eI IhcI ycu wcnI Ic Icke wiIh
ycu when ycu meeI up IcgeIher. Fcr mcre cn Ihi:, |eI: :ee chcpIer 7.







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Ycu :hcu|c gc inIc wherever ycu
cre meeIing cnc :IcrI :inging cI
Ihe Icp cf ycur |ung:, FeuniIec cnc iI
fee|: :c gcccl"

Nc. DcnI cc IhcI.

lf ycuve gcIIen Ic Ihi: pcinI, Ihe re:I i:
c|| Lccmp:-c-cci:y.
Ycuve given ycur re|cIicn:hip rccm Ic
LrecIhe, gcIIen ycur:e|f uncer ccnIrc|,
cnc Legun Ic mcke :Irice: Icwcrc
|cving ycur:e|f.

lI :hcu|c Le cppcrenI IhcI if ycu cnc ycur ex cre geIIing IcgeIher Ic hcng
cuI, hcwever Lrief|y, iI: c gccc :ign. Ihey cre :Ii|| inIere:Iec in ycu, cnc,
Lc:ec cn Ihe fccI IhcI Iheyve cgreec Ic geI IcgeIher, Ihey cre
inIere:Iec in repciring Ihe Lrecch in ycur re|cIicn:hip.

Hcwever, Ihe fcI |ccy i:nI :inging yeI.

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Ycuve ccne mc:I cf Ihe hcrc wcrk, cnc :ince ycu Iwc hcve c hi:Icry, if
ycu keep ju:I c ccup|e Ihing: in minc, ycur Iime IcgeIher :hcu|c gc
:wimming|y.

Ncw IhcI ycuve gcIIen Ic Ihi: pcinI, ycu|| wcnI Ic mcke Ihe mc:I cuI cf
Ihe effcrI IhcI ycuve puI fcrIh. Sc, when ycu gc Ic meeI up, hcve
:cmeIhing p|cnnec. / :Icry, c funny :Icry cLcuI :cmeIhing IhcI:
inIere:Iing Ic ycu LcIh. Ihi: wi|| kick Ihing: cff wiIh c |cw-key, fun kinc cf
mccc. Ihen ju:I |eI Ihing: f|cw.

Fcr icec: cf whcI Ic :IcrI Ihe ccnver:cIicn wiIh, gc Ic Digg.ccm cr
De|icic.u:, cnc cc c :ecrch fcr mc:I Ic|kec cLcuI iIem:. U:uc||y, Ihere i:
p|enIy Ic chcc:e frcm Ihere. Chcc:e :cmeIhing gccc, cnc Ihen ju:I |eI
Ihe ccnver:cIicn f|cw.

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IhcI if Ihing: :IcrI Ic geI weirc cr unccmfcrIcL|e, cr ycu wcnI Ic reciIe c
Shcke:pecrecn :cnneI Ic cec|cre ycur |cve, Le :ure Ic |ecve -
lmmecicIe|y.

Ihe rec:cn i: Ihi:: ycu ccnI wcnI Ic hcve cny remincer: fcr ycur:e|f cr fcr
ycur ex cf Ihing: Leing |cme, unccmfcrIcL|e cr c|ingy. Sc, if Ihing: :IcrI Ic
fee| ncI uiIe righI", ju:I |ecve.

Ncw if Ihing: cre gcing we||, when ycu geI up Ic |ecve Ihey mcy cffer Ic
:ee ycu cgcin. LeI Ihem mcke Ihi: reue:I - ccnI ycu Le Ihe cne Ic cc iI.

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Ihe nexI Iime ycu Iwc geI IcgeIher iI wi|| cLvicu:|y Le mcre re|cxec, mcre
ncrmc|, cnc mcre |ike iI u:ec Ic Le.

lf Ihe Iime ycu Iwc :penc IcgeIher IhcI fir:I Iime i: c crcg, Ihen rec||y
ccn:icer, whcI i: iI IhcI ycu wcnI cuI cf Ihi: WhcI i: iI IhcI ycure chc:ing
in c :iIucIicn IhcI :eem: Ic hcve ncIhing gccc in iI Ihere i: mcre cn Ihi:
in Ihe |c:I chcpIer. Fcr ncw, |eI: Icke c mcmenI Ic Ic|k cLcuI Ihe Lirc:
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When ccing re:ecrch fcr Ihi:
Lcck, l recc c few Lcck: cuI
Ihere cn Ihi: :uLjecI. Ihi: chcpIer
wc:nI cne IhcI l wc: p|cnning cn
inc|ucing cI fir:I, LuI cfIer reccing c
Lcck Ly c guy ncmec I DuL"
Jcck:cn, l IhcughI iI wc: c gccc icec.
He Lring: up :cme gccc pcinI: IhcI
cre cefiniIe|y wcrIh ci:cu::ing here.

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Ckcy, |ccie:. Ihi: mighI Le c
:hccker, LuI guy: rec||y |ike :ex.
{G/SFl) - NcI cn|y Ihe phy:icc| c:pecI
cf iI, LuI Ihe chc:e, Ihe ccnuering, cnc Ihe winning. ln fccI, Ihi: i: fcr
mcre :cIi:fying Ihcn Ihe phy:icc| ccI, :ince we c|| kncw Ihere cre cIher
wcy: Ic.chem, cchieve IhcI fee|ing.

Sc whcI cce: Ihi: mecn fcr ycu / |cI. Ic :IcrI cff wiIh, ycu|| wcnI Ic
uncer:Icnc Ihe effecI IhcI c chc:e hc: cn c guy. We hcve Ic|kec cLcuI
Ihi: c LiI c|reccy, LuI wiIh regcrc: Ic :ex, iI: even mcre heighIenec.

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E::enIic||y, if ycure |ccking Ic geI Lcck wiIh ycur ex cnc mcke iI |c:I,
ccnI hcve :ex wiIh him :IrcighIcwcy {:crry guy:). Here: why:

Ihe ce:ire ycu ccn crcu:e in c mcn Ly hcving him wciI fcr ycu :exuc||y i:
very pcwerfu|. l mecn, weve c|| recc :cme cf IhcI c|c :chcc| pceIry righI,
cr :een Ihe fcL|e: cLcuI men gcing cff Ic LcII|e Ic win Ihe |ccy:
hcnc" l ccre :cy Ihere were cIher pcrI: cf her cncIcmy IhcI he wc:
mcre inIere:Iec in winning.

Ihe pcrc||e| i: c|ecr, i:nI iI NcI cn|y cic Ihi: riIuc| mcke Ihe guy puI fcrIh
Ihe mc:I pc::iL|e effcrI, he cpprecicIec whcI he wcn. lI: Lc:ic
p:ychc|cgy. Hcve ycu ever wcrkec rec||y hcrc fcr c gcc| Iriec Ic geI c
cerIcin jcL Iriec Ic geI Ic c cerIcin weighI Iriec Ic cchieve c cerIcin
cmcunI cf mcney WhcIever ycur gcc|, mc:I Iime: Ihe cmcunI cf effcrI
ycu puI in wi|| cirecI|y cffecI ycur cpprecicIicn cf cchieving iI.

/ nece::cry ccuIicn fcr ycu wcmen: cc ncI u:e Ihi: c: :cme :crI cf pcwer
Iechniue. Ihere i: c fine |ine LeIween per:uc:icn cnc mcnipu|cIicn.
Fer:uc:icn i: u:ec Ic LenefiI LcIh pcrIie:, whi|e mcnipu|cIicn LenefiI: cn|y
ycu. Fcr excmp|e, we mighI u:e per:uc:ive IccIic: Ic :Icp c frienc frcm
u:ing hercin. 8uI if we u:e per:uc:ive IccIic: Ic geI cur frienc Ic give u:
|ccc: cf mcney ju:I Ic LenefiI u:, IhcI: mcnipu|cIive.

Here: Ihe ruL: if ycu Iry Ic u:e :ex c: c pcwer Icc|, ycu|| cn|y Lui|c
re:enImenI cnc ycu :Ii|| wcnI geI Ihe ccmmiImenI frcm him IhcI ycu
wcnI. lf ycu engcge in c LcII|e cf wi||:, ycu mighI Le cuIwiIIec cnc Ihen
fee| u:ec cnc LeIrcyec.

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Ihink cf iI Ihi: wcy: in Ihe fcL|e:, when Ihe herc ccme: Lcck frcm Ihe
LcII|efie|c hcving ccnuerec Ihe Ic:k, Ihe wcmcn cce:nI reIrccI cnc
wiIhhc|c her:e|f frcm him cnc give him cncIher Ic:k. Mcke :en:e lf ycu
Iry Ic exp|ciI Ihi: gccc ce:ire in c mcn, iI wi|| |ike|y Lcckfire.

ln:Iecc, :eI in ycur minc IhcI ycu Iwc wi|| Le inIimcIe cnce he hc:
e:IcL|i:hec IhcI he i: inIere:Iec in Leing wiIh ycu cn|y. /nc when he
cce:, rewcrc him wiIh Ihe Le:I :ex he hc: ever hcc. {Ycure we|ccme
guy:).

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Fe||c:. Here: Ihe cec| fcr ycu. Fir:I, Ihe ccvice, Ihen c ccuIicn fcr
ycu c: we||.

Ihe ccvice. Hcve :ex wiIh ycur ex c: uick|y c: ycu ccn. Wcmen
c::ccicIe phy:icc| Icuche: cnc inIimccy wiIh emcIicnc| inIimccy. Even
when c gir| :|eep: crcunc c |cI {hcpefu||y Ihi: cce:nI ce:criLe ycur ex)
:he hc: :cme emcIicnc| ccnnecIicn Ic Ihe ccI.

Sc, if ycu wcnI her Lcck, c|c:e Ic ycu cgcin, ycu|| wcnI Ic prcper|y
:ecuce her c: uick|y c: pc::iL|e. Ihink cf iI c: reccnnecIing. NcI cn|y
IhcI, LuI :he wi|| ncI |ike|y Lru:h cff :uch inIimccy c: cc:uc|.

/ wcrc cf ccuIicn here guy: - whi|e ycu :hcu|c re-e:IcL|i:h ycur inIimccy
wiIh ycur ex c: :ccn c: pc::iL|e, Ihi: cce: ncI mecn in cny wcy IhcI ycu
cre Ic fcrce, ccerce cr mcke ycur ex hcve :ex wiIh ycu. ln ccciIicn Ic
mcking ycu |icL|e fcr crime: IhcI cre cevc:IcIing in Iheir ccn:euence:,
ycu wi|| |c:e her re:pecI.
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ln:Iecc, cc Ihi:: Legin Ly crcu:ing her imcgincIicn. /: mcny cf Ihe
pecp|e lve wcrkec wiIh Lefcre hcve hecrc me :cy,

lf ycu ccn ccpIure c wcmcn: imcgincIicn, :he wi|| give ycu cny cIher
pcrI cf her ycu wcnI."

Sc, ccpIure her imcgincIicn. Fecc c|c :chcc| pceIry cnc Ihen rewcrk iI
inIc ycur cwn wcrc:. Ie|| her Ihing: IhcI ycu kncw p|ec:e her. Fcr
excmp|e, if ycu kncw IhcI cne cf Ihe Ihing: :he wcnI: Ic cc i: rice ccwn
/1/ cn Ihe Cc|ifcrnic ccc:I in c ccnverIiL|e wiIh Lig :ung|c::e: cnc c
:ccrf crcunc her neck, Ic|k Ic her cLcuI IhcI. Ie|| her Ihe Ihing: IhcI
p|ec:e her emcIicnc||y. Wcmen cre fcr mcre inIc ccnnecIicn cnc
imcgincIicn Ihcn mcney, |cck: cnc whcIever e|:e.

Ihen, when ycu guy: cre c|cne, Icke ycur Iime. 8egin Ly ju:I Leing c|c:e
Ic her, :me||ing her, ki::ing her genI|y cn Ihe neck, :hcu|cer, ecr. Ycu wcnI
her Ic wcnI ycu. Ycu ccnI wcnI her Ic fee| |ike ycu ju:I wcnI Ic cc ycur
Ihing. ln:Iecc, Lui|c her ce:ire up Ly mcving :|cw|y cnc pc::icncIe|y. Ic|k
Ic her genI|y, Ie||ing her IhcI ycu finc her irre:i:IiL|e. Wcmen wcnI Ic fee|
wcnIec, rememLer NcI ju:I Leccu:e Ihey hcve vcginc:. Ihey wcnI Ic
fee| wcnIec fcr whc Ihey cre. CcnnecI wiIh her emcIicn:, cnc Ihen wciI
fcr her Ic Ie|| ycu :he wcnI: ycu. Ihen mcke |cve Ic her mcre pc::icncIe|y,
mcre :|cw|y cnc mcre |cving|y Ihen ycu ever hcve. She|| Le g|cc ycu cic.
/nc :c wi|| ycu.


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Sc here we cre cI Ihe enc. /nc
pcrIing i: :uch :weeI :crrcw.
Weve gcne cver hcw Ic geI ycur:e|f
re|cxec in Ihe cfIermcIh cf c
Lreckup, Ihe Lc:ic p:ychc|cgy cf
cIIrccIicn, :cme Iip: cnc Iechniue:
Ic cpp|y IhcI Lc:ic p:ychc|cgy cnc
Ihen hcw Ic keep Ihem crcunc cnce
ycu hcve Ihem.

/|c:, wiIh Ihe numLer cf pecp|e whc
cre gcing Ihrcugh Ihi: cci|y, ncI every
:iIucIicn i: gcing Ic wcrk cuI Ihe wcy
we hcpe, i: iI WhcI cc we cc in IhcI
:iIucIicn

Ihe cim cf Ihi: Lcck i: Ic fccu: cn ycu. 8eccu:e rec||y, when ycu Lci| iI
ccwn, Ihi: :iIucIicn i: :ignificcnI Leccu:e iI cffecI: ycu. IhrcughcuI, weve
Ic|kec cLcuI wcy: fcr ycu Ic Leccme mcre :e|f-cwcre. Ihe fccI i:, ycu
c|reccy kncw whcI Ic cc cLcuI ycur ex, cLcuI ycur |cve |ife, cLcuI ycur
|ife. Ycu ju:I hccnI rec|izec IhcI ycu c|reccy in:IincIive|y knew. /rmec
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wiIh whcI ycuve recc in Ihi: Lcck, ycure ncw :everc| :Iep: c|c:er Ic c
ccn:cicu: uncer:Icncing.

Ihe fccI i: Ihi:: Ihe Lreckup IhcI precipiIcIec hcw ycu fee| ncw i: cne cf
mcny chc||enge: IhrcughcuI ycur ccy:. Ihi: wc:nI Ihe fir:I chc||enge,
cnc iI wcnI Le Ihe |c:I, LuI if ycu ccn Icke frcm Ihi: c grecIer cwcrene::,
ycu wi|| cpprccch Ihe nexI :iIucIicn wiIh mcre grcce, ccnficence cnc
pizzcz: cnc evenIuc||y ci:ccver cn cuIccme IhcI wi|| unccuLIec|y mcke
ycu hcppier.

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