Penetrating Insights

By Adult Film Star Peter North

A Guide to
Meeting and Dating Beautiful Women

Disclaimer
The advice and techniques set forth in this book are based on the
authors own experiences and are only the authors opinions. The
studies and surveys are the authors, and can vary from area to
area. The efforts used to prepare this book were to the best of the
authors abilities, and there are no representations or warranties
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Copyright
Copyright 1994 by DP-1-9-5-8. All rights reserved. No part of
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Cover photo: Nick Burger, Santa Ana, CA.

Table of Contents
Preface............................................................................................. 1
Introduction ..................................................................................... 5
1. Why Youre Not Getting Results ................................................ 7
2. Confidence ................................................................................ 26
3. Keeping in Shape or Not Keeping in Shape ............................ 45
4. Sense of Humor......................................................................... 63
5. Grooming Tips: Dress to Get Results ....................................... 70
6. Peter Norths Tips ..................................................................... 86
7. Places to Meet Women ............................................................. 95
8. Techniques .............................................................................. 103
9. Health Tips .............................................................................. 112
10. Love Making Tips ................................................................. 115
11. Peter Norths Advice............................................................. 123

PREFACE
No matter who you are or what you look like, theres a woman out
there for you! You could be a fat, ugly loser and there still will be
many women out there for you.
Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Peter North. For
those of you that dont know who I am, I can be seen in your local
video store. Youll find some of the adult videos Ive made over
the past several years. My job as an actor has included sex with
hundreds of beautiful women in many different countries. But
without my acquired ability to meet women, my reputation as an
experienced lover would never have gotten off the ground.
For many years my fans have written to me wanting to know about
the many differences and similarities of the incredible lovers Ive
had, and how it feels to be intimate with these extraordinary
women. That is why I wrote this book.
You might ask why Im qualified to be an expert on this subject.
My friend, there are many ways to begin to understand women.
Four come to mind immediately. First, you could be a woman. Not
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an easy task or, in my case, an option! Lop off yer own parts, but
not mine! Second, be born with great looks, tons of cash, a
marvelous personality and the perfect aphrodisiac. Not happening
here, Im afraid. Third, laboratory testing, years of in-the-field
research. To my knowledge, this has never been documented. And
finally, as is my situation, unusual circumstances.
I had as much experience with women as most pinhead teenagers
just out of school. I was destined to be a bonehead just like some
people you might know.
Early in my developing manhood, my prime motivation for
everything and anything was to eventually lead me into some
beautiful dames panties.
This is the same motivation many of you may have at this very
moment.
The key difference is my unusual circumstances
When I started in the adult movie business, little did I know that
my immature pinhead mentality would be replaced by a wealth of
knowledge that could never be gained in such a short time outside
of a scientific clinic! My roles called for me to have sex with
beautiful women without the preliminaries! No more perfect pick-

up lines or moves or chatting up as the British call it. I was

sliding into home plate without having to round the bases!
Between scenes, while the crew would be changing sets and lights,
I would get to know the women that I just acted with! After having
sex! And after youve had sex with some women, you can get them
to tell you anything, sometimes everything. And sometimes you
just wish theyd shut up!
My expert teachers were women I already had sex with.
There is an understanding between friendly sexual partnersa
relationship in the simplest terms. You learn to laugh and joke, you
share experiences, talk about what they like, who they like and
why, what makes them happy, mad or sad. This was an honest
education. We werent playing any head games or battling wits.
After all, getting into their trousers, my original motivation was
gone! This is where I met the true honest experts in the field. Then
we would do another scene
In the following pages, I hope to provide some insight to my
readers and to share the techniques and experiences that have made
me what I am today.
My philosophy of life is: We are all on this planet for a very short
time, so try to have the best possible attitude that you can and
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enjoy life. Dont take things too seriously and have a good time.
Learn from your mistakes and maintain a good sense of humor.
Remember, there are plenty of beautiful women to go around for
everybody. So, just relax and kick back and let nature take its
course.

INTRODUCTION
The purpose of writing this book is to help you, the reader, meet
more women and to get you on track to getting results! After all,
isnt having sex the best thing life has to offer?
While writing this book, Ive tried to keep the reading easy to
understand, with as little complication as possible.
I know there are other books out there regarding this subject, but I
think my methods are easier to understand and more practical. I try
to base almost everything in this book on my own personal
experiences, and what I have seen work for others around me.
In this book, I will cover various techniques including meeting
places, opening lines, body language, the right cologne to wear,
and much, much more.
I dont claim to be a Casanova or Don Juan, but I havein my
own waystudied the way women behave. I have concluded my
own theories and opinions on various subjects concerning women.

You should utilize your own personality while learning my

techniques. Dont try to act like someone youre not. Try to keep in
mind that only by the combination of your personality and my
techniques will this system work.
I love women, I respect women, and I love to make love to women.
But to understand women, you must be patient.
There are far too many men out there that are afraid to even
confront beautiful women, much less get results. They feel
intimidated. But, I know that, with a few positive suggestions and
some intestinal fortitude, these people can change and get more out
of their social life.
Also, later in this book, I am going to share some of my own
sexual techniques that can enhance your sex life with beautiful
women.

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WHY YOURE NOT GETTING
RESULTS
Interesting question: Why arent you getting results? Its just like
anything in life thats worthwhile. It takes some effort. My good
friend, Ron Jeremy, used to tell me, you have to get out there and
make things happen!
Always try to remember this: You are in control of your own
destinynobody but you. Youve heard this phrase before from a
school teacher or maybe your parents. Every human being on this
planet has a will of their own, a will to choose how he or she plans
to live their life. If you want the finer things in lifeif you want to
be successfulyou must have a strong will and then push yourself
in a positive forward direction.
If you want to put yourself in a better position socially or
financially, or if you simply want to get into some babes panties,
youll have to initiate a plana strategyand put forth some
effort. Sitting around and waiting for women to come to you is not
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how it worksunless, of course, you are Arnold Schwarzenegger.

But, if you were Arnold Schwarzenegger, you wouldnt need this
book, now would you?
Lets discuss some of the reasons that hold you, and millions of
other capable and fine gentlemen, back from getting big results.
Fear of rejection is probably one of the biggest reasons why men
and women dont get results. The dictionary defines rejection as: to
deny acceptance, care, love, etc. to someone; to refuse to agree to,
use, believe, etc.
Rejection is very devastating to some people, causing them to
crawl into their shell and hibernate, becoming camouflaged or
wallflowers, so nobody even knows they exist. Time after time, I
observe people in nightclubs sitting or standing around, waiting
for something to happen. They are so afraid of being rejected that
they dont even try.
Ask yourself this, would you go on a date with yourself? If the
answer is no, then you probably dont like yourself. Somewhere in
your past, you must have had an experience with rejection. Why is
it that you feel uneasy around women? Technically, the reason is
that the rejection you experienced earlier in life caused you to feel
inferior. It just stands to reason that, if you feel inferior and dont
have any self confidence, you probably dont believe in yourself.
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The dictionary definition of an inferiority complex is as follows: a

neurotic condition resulting from various feelings of inferiority,
such as derive from real or imagined physical or social inadequacy
and often manifested through overcompensation in excessive
aggressiveness, a domineering attitude, etc.
Someone or something in your past has probably led you to believe
that you cant be a success, or cant accomplish great things, or
that you have to be just like they are, and nothing more. Let me
tell you this right now: This is complete and total ignorance! You
possess the power within yourself to overcome these negative
feelings.
Do you defeat yourself before youve given yourself a chance? Do
you take it for granted that every woman thinks youre funny
looking, or that you talk strange, or act weird? Even if these things
are all true, dont worry; there is hope.
You may think that your outward physical appearance is the most
important thing in getting women to like you. It plays a part, but
its not the most important thing. The most important thing is
whats on the inside of a person. This is the area that needs to be
worked on the most.
Let me give you a few examples of some well known people that,
in the public eye, may not be considered great looking. Though I
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wont mention her name, I can think of one successful comedienne

/actress who is far from a beauty queen. She has not, however,
allowed her looks to affect her negatively in any way. She has
made millions of dollars and has accomplished many amazing
things, and she is still continuing to succeed. If she continually
dwelled on how unattractive she is, she wouldnt have become
famous, much less a movie star.
Another example is a very successful musician who is a perfect
example of someone who has overcome the odds. Not only is he
short and partially bald, he also suffered from a tragic childhood.
Yet I can look at his accomplishments: the several successful
albums hes had, his beautiful young wife, and the millions of
dollars he has made. Andhe loves what he does for a living.
A favorite example of mine is a friend named Dennis. Dennis is
ugly. One night, spurred with a few shots of liquid courage
(alcohol), he approached a beautiful lady and boldly asked her if
she would like to spend the evening with the ugliest guy in the
world! He got lucky that nightor she got lucky, depending on
how you look at the situation.
Although, the same line never worked exactly the same way,
Dennis realized his own style and humor. He also began dressing
better and no longer feels he must drink to bolster his courage.

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A celebrity, or any successful person, is no different from you and

me. They were all born with a brain, a will, two eyes, and a mouth.
They all put their shoes on one foot at a time. The only difference
is that they have made a conscious decision to succeedand they
have done so!
Im not saying that you have to compete with movie stars. My
point is that you must push rejection aside and not listen when
people tell you that youll never succeed, or that you cant do
something, or that something has never been done before. People
who say these things are the type of people who are going nowhere
with their lives.
If you look back at history, youll find that Thomas Edison was
rejected many times for his stupid theories and ideas. He worked
on close to five thousand experiments that failed before he finally
discovered a way to harness electricity. If it wasnt for his strong
will and determination, electricity may never have become such a
part of everyday life. If he had listened to his critics, he might have
given up after the first couple of hundred experiments.
Dont listen to the negative people who tell you what you can and
cant do. You can do it, and you can do it even better than you
think you can!

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Yes, gentlemen, I, The great Peter North, have been rejected,

too. But if you have hit on as many women as I have, Im sure you
would have been rejected as well. Rejection happens to everyone,
no matter who you are. Lets face it, boys, different women have
different tastes. Some women like the clean-cut type, some like the
macho type. Some like them thin, some like them stocky, etc. But
if you play the odds, you increase your chances a thousand fold of
getting results. So just remember not to let rejection get in the way
of your fun.
Ugly Dennis says he practices Success by Rejection! He says
that he doesnt give up asking different babes to go out with him
until he has gotten ten Nos in one day! Most guys sweat and
give up after one! Dennis also says he has rarely made it to number
ten before he succeeds. So stop making excuses. If you want to
have more beautiful women than you can handle, youve got to
stop the excuses.

Excuses are empty reasons.

Empty reasons are lies. Like most lies, and liars, for that matter,
when there is enough repetition, you might start believing them.
Excuses are for the losers in this world. Losers are the kind of
people who might say things like, If I only had more hair on my
head, or If I were only two inches taller, or If only I were built
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like Mr. Universe. This is all mental sewage, fellows. It doesnt

matter if you have hair or not, or even how tall you are, or how
youre built. Just quit the excuses get yourself a plan and
DO IT!
AND DONT STOP UNTIL YOU GET
WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.
AND DONT SETTLE FOR SECOND BEST
Lets try to keep the focus of why youre not getting results on a
more positive track. The reason that you are not getting results, or
not meeting enough women is obviously a problem or you
wouldnt have purchased my book. Problems have to be diagnosed
before you can solve them. Youve already made one good
decision by obtaining this book. This tells me that you have
already made some effort to try to change the situation youre in.
Getting started on the road to change is very important because
without change you will not progress.
In order to diagnose your problem, or problems, you must first ask
yourself the following questions:
(Get out a pencil and a note pad and write down your answers as
we go along.)

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1. Do I know what kind of woman I want?

2. Do women reject me right away?
3. Do I handle rejection from women well?
4. Do I go into singles bars and just stand around without
approaching any women?
5. Do I see myself as a shy person?
6. Am I satisfied with myself physically?
7. How do women think I look physically?
8. Would I like to improve my physical condition?
9. Do I want a serious relationship?
*

Lets analyze each of your answers. You must be as honest as

possible in answering these questions. Remember, we must
diagnose the problems before we can solve them. Also, note that
some of my examples deal with the nightclub/single bar-type
environment. When answering these questions try to picture

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yourself in a singles club. The reason I have done this is that my

readers and fans constantly relate their situations to the nightclub
scene and I have found that it is a pretty predictable atmosphere. If
you dont happen to frequent the nightclubs then just simply
answer the questions for your particular situation.
Do I know what kind of woman I want?
This is a very important question to ask yourself because, if you
dont have a vision of what your dream girl (or your dream
centerfold) should look like, then you will significantly limit your
chances of getting the woman you really want. You must be
focused in on the exact desirable qualities that interest you. In this
situation, Im referring to the woman of your dreams and needs
not some two on your scale of ten.
Is she intelligent? Is she dumb? Does she have a sense of humor?
Is she rich? Is she poor? Is she independent? Is she just average?
Is she tall? Short? Blonde? Brunette? Medium-sized breasts? Big
breasts? Is she innocent looking? Orvery nasty looking?
Does she have to fit all of your criteria, most, or just a few? What
if she really excels in just one area of these descriptions? Describe
your expectations of the woman that you want. Be specific about
your tastesboth physically and mentally. Write it out in your
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note pad and keep it for reference. Keep in mind that this is a list
focused on her qualities, not a list of bargaining chips in case she
finds your presumed flaws. Always try to radiate self confidence.
Understanding what youre looking for will help us pinpoint a
direction for finding a particular type of woman. Also, it will guide
us in determining the best places to find her.
If you dont know what type of woman youre looking for, youll
probably settle for just about anything, right?
Do women reject me right away?
Ask yourself this, When I walk up to a woman in a nightclub, do I
stutter and just walk away? If I ask her to dance and she says no,
do I just walk away, or do I continue to talk to her? When I
approach someone, does she usually walk away? Think about this
one, and be honest. Can you keep a womans attention for any
length of time after first approaching her? The purpose of looking
at these things is to help you realize how women are rejecting you.
If youve been rejected by women frequently, then you probably
dont like to think about itbut you must try to accept it as a
problem.
Rememberin a nightclub situation, when women reject you it
might be for a multitude of reasons. When you are in a nightclub or
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bar, its like youre on the playing field. And, women usually have
the advantage. The night scene has different rules than when you
are at a museum or an aerobics class.
If you are getting rejected before you can even get out your first
sentence, maybe you are going to the wrong place to meet your
kind of woman.
Do I handle rejection from women well?
Do you get frustrated to the point of just giving up, or do you keep
trying? Do you crawl into a shell and forget the world? Do you get
angry? If you do handle rejection well, do you just laugh it off?
If youve answered this last question no, then youre just like
most people. Nobody likes being rejected. But its how you handle
rejection that is important. The bottom line on rejection is, Dont
be afraid of being rejected.
We will study rejection in detail in our next chapter, on
confidence.

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Do I go into singles bars and just stand around without

approaching any women?
This is a bad habit of many men. They walk into singles bar after
singles bar and just sit down and watch. They never utter a word to
any woman. I am amazed when I go into clubs and see all the
beautiful women sitting and waiting for men to approach them.
These women want you to approach themthats why they are
there!
If the answer to this question is no, then youll to need to brush
up on some other areas to be covered in future chapters of this
book.
Do I see myself as a shy person?
Are you simply afraid to approach women? Do you cringe at the
thought of meeting new women? They say that shyness is
inherited. That may be true, but the reason doesnt matter if it is
constantly hindering your chances to meet someone. If you
answered the above question yes, then we need to adjust your
attitude a bit.
First, lets look at it realistically. In general, women like shy men
because they perceive that the shy man is more honesta more
down-to-earth type of guy. When you approach a woman and
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youre totally petrified, stuttering, and nervous as hell, most

women are flattered that you have built up enough courage to
approach them. They love the fact that you find them attractive.
After all, this is what all women desire. They like as much
attention as possible. That is why they spend so much money
trying to make themselves look beautiful.
Dont act like most shy men, always sitting around and waiting for
women to approach them.
When they are approached by a womanany womanthey take
the easy road and settle. They wind up marrying her two months
later. This is a cop-out! You may have been able to do much better
but were afraid to approach someone more desirable. Take a
chance! If youre shy, dont worry about it. Find the most beautiful
woman in the place, take a couple of deep breaths, go up to her and
introduce yourself. You might offer to buy her a drink, ask her to
dance, complement her on the way shes dressed, etc.
Am I satisfied with myself, physically?
Look at yourself closely. Are you overweight? Do you smell bad?
Is your body out of tone? Is your hairstyle from another decade?
Be honest with yourself. Put your cards on the table.

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If you are not satisfied with yourself in this area, youve made the
first step by buying this book. In the following chapters, I will
guide you to putting yourself in the physical condition that you
desire.
Do women think I look good, physically?
If you are not sure, ask some women. Tell them that youre doing a
college experiment and you want an honest answer on how people
think you look. Maybe you are too shy to approach them face to
face. You could have one of your friends help you out. Have them
show a picture of you to several women and ask their opinion. If
you cant do either of these things, find a trusted roommate, friend
or relativesomeone you know will be honest. A good friend
usually can be relied on.
Most people should be able to analyze their own situation. Just
look in the mirror and compare yourself physically to someone you
envy. What person would you most like to be like, physically
speaking?
Would I like to improve my physical condition?
You are the person that needs to answer this question. But if you
are unsure, or dont think that you need improvement, then once
again, go out and ask some beautiful women what they think
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would improve your physical appearance? Dont take offense at

some of the possible answers. Its supposed to be called
constructive criticism.
If the answer to this question is no, youre probably working out
at the gym on a regular basis, right? If not, perhaps you have a
physical handicap. If you have no handicap and are still not
working out, the problem could only be laziness. Yes, that
devastating disease that plagues millions of people. I have only one
comment on lazy people: Get off your sorry buttNOW! Not
tomorrow, or later, but NOW! If you want to meet any kind of
decent women, you will have to follow my plan. Dont be like the
fat cat in the cartoon who sayswhile eating sardines: Some day
Im gonna get me a mouse trap. Laziness wont get you the
beautiful women that you deserve.
Do I want a serious relationship?
Are you ready to settle down with one woman? Do you still feel
the need to play the field and see what develops?
If the answer is yes to a serious relationship, then you must find a
woman that meets all or most of the expectations of your dream
girl. You certainly wouldnt want to spend all your valuable time
with a woman who doesnt measure up to your own standards. You

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need to make sure that you find a woman who does more for you
than all the others. She must be a good match for you.
Some of the obvious reasons for not getting results are very simple.
Perhaps you lack confidence or you encourage rejection.
Confidence is the subject of our next chapter. In that chapter, we
will go into the different ways that I can help you in this area.
For now, lets dwell a little bit more on this thing called rejection
(that ugly word). Unfortunately, rejection is an everyday part of
life. Most of us can cope with minor rejection like the bank turning
you down for a loan or a business deal going sour. These are forms
of rejection that you deal with on a regular basis. Being rejected
by a woman is really no different.
Yes, as I have said before, even the great Peter North has been
rejected (but only onceor so). Rejection is just a reality of
everyday life. Every one of us faces it. The most important thing is
how you handle it.
Youve got to understand that some women dont want the Mr.
Universe type or Mr. Macho. Some women want mice or wimps.
All women see different men differently. To one woman, a bald
man is unappealing, but to another, a bald man turns her on. Im
making this point because most men take personal offense when a
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woman turns them down (or rejects him). Most men dont
understand that each woman has a different expectation of what
her knight in shining armor will be like.
So dont take rejection from women so personally. There will
always be a woman out there who will say yes.
Rejection can work to your advantage. For instance, suppose
youre sitting in a night club scanning on a particular woman and
you see that she is rejecting every guy that approaches her to
dance. Most men would be deterred from asking her. But, in most
of these situations, timing is essential. First, you send a drink over
to her table and make sure that she acknowledges you. Smile at
her, but dont overdo it. Watch her reaction to the music. When she
reacts favorably to a song, go up to her and ask her to dance.
Chances are that shell say yes. She will feel somewhat obligated
to dance with you because you sent her a drink. If she says no,
just look at that as an opportunity to start a conversation. I have
seen this work successfully many times.
First, look at it from the womans perspective. Most women want
to get lucky just as badly as you do. But they might be worrying
about some of the possible consequences, things that men arent
fully aware of. For one thing, theres always the chance of getting
pregnant. She might also be worrying about sexually transmitted
diseases. Men usually dont care as much about these things as
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women do. Beautiful and worthwhile women are usually a bit

more defensive when a guy tries to be sexually aggressive toward
her. This is one of the biggest mistakes men make. Dont smother a
woman by trying to hump her in the middle of a conversation. You
should relax and take your time. Your chances of getting to know
her will be much better with this kind of approach.
Lets face it, gentlemen, some women view us as animals and
some of us are. Most women reject men in nightclubs because they
come on too strong.
Two of my friends performed a survey for me in the clubs of New
York and Los Angeles over the past year. The survey asked
women this question: What are the different reasons that women
reject men in night clubs?
The most popular reasons were:

Men act too phony.

Men act like all they want is sex.

Men view them as though they were a piece of meat.

Also, women were really turned off when:

Men come off too aggressive.

Women really hated it when:

Men looked or dressed sloppy.

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Procrastination
Another reason that a lot of men dont get any action is
procrastination. Sitting on your butt watching television and eating
junk food will get you absolutely nowhere with anything or
anybody.
If you arent willing to get out there and try, your odds of meeting
anyone will decrease substantially. The chances of a beautiful
woman coming into your house to watch as you view television
and to share your pizza are very small.
You may have a million reasons why youre not getting results.
Just remember this: There are at least a million men out there just
like you who think the same thing. Just remember thisthey dont
have the Peter North Guide to help them. You now have the
greater advantage. Now instead of three or four beautiful women to
each man, its ten or fifteen beautiful women to every smart man.
The men without the Peter North Guide will get the women no one
else wants, or end up with nothing. Consider this book to be your
advantage over the other womanless men. If you follow my proven
strategies, you will prevail with a woman that will satisfy you.

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2.
CONFIDENCE
The definition of confidence in the dictionary is as follows: The
strong belief in ones own abilities. The fact of being or feeling
certain; assurance, belief in ones self confidence, reliance on
ones own powers.
Confidence is not something you can buy. Confidence is
something you have to build within yourself. Part of the
confidence-building process is believing in yourself and feeling
good about yourself. Once you believe in yourself, others will
believe in you. Once you feel good about yourself, others will feel
good about you.
Though Im not a psychologist, when it comes to women, I am
aware of what works and what doesnt. The first person that has to
like you is you! Confidence is the most important element when
initially meeting women. Women can almost sense immediately
when a man lacks confidence. They notice when you cant look
them straight in the eye, when you stutter while trying to start up a

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conversation, or when you act extremely nervous when you

approach them. To women, these are all obvious indicators that
confidence is lacking. You must have at least a little selfconfidence to be able to approach a woman with any chance of
success.
When people do not think highly of themselves, it is usually
because they have literally made themselves believe in all of their
personal flaws or faults. They dwell on their bad physical
appearance, speech impediments, and other negatives, when they
should be thinking of all the positive things about themselves. If
every person on this planet looked closely enough at himself, he
could always find something wrong. Remember, everybody, at
some time in his life, has felt doubtful or inadequate about himself.
There are several components involved in the confidence-building
process.
Confidence building can be done in several different ways, and
these are a few ways that have worked for me:

Always reward yourself for the positive things that you do.

Dwell on your good points, not on your bad ones.

Refuse to think negatively.

Constantly tell yourself how you are just as good as the

smoothest Casanova.

Work on being a more positive person.

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Always look for a positive end result.

Rewarding yourself is very important in the confidence

building process
For example, if you order your dog to do a trick for you and he
does it, you reward him with a bone. The same principle applies to
you.
If youve set a goal and met it, even if it was something you did
against your wishes (like a root canal!), you should always reward
yourself. Or, if youve accomplished something that has made you
feel good about yourselfreward yourself. Heres an example: I
just purchased a new car. I went to five different dealerships until I
got the deal that I was looking for, and to reward myself, I went
out and bought myself a new Giorgio Armani double breasted suit.
You should always reward yourself, unless youre rich enough to
pay someone to do it for you. This helps build self-esteem and
makes you feel better about yourself.
There are several ways that you can do this: buy yourself a new tie
or a pair of shoes. Or if you really feel that you deserve something
big, buy yourself a new Ferrari. The important thing is that you
realize your accomplishments, and reward yourself with something
that fits the magnitude of the accomplishment.

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Dwell on your good points, not your bad ones

Lets face it: nobodys perfect. As Ive said before, anyone can
find something wrong with all of us. We all have flaws; some have
bigger ones than others, but we all have them. I am probably the
only exception to this rule but I was just lucky (joking, of course).
Dont criticize yourself. There are enough negative people in the
world. The world doesnt need another critic. Instead, compliment
yourself. When something goes wrong, look for something positive
in it. Ask yourself what went right. For example, you may have a
bald head and are pathetically fat, but you should disregard those
facts and instead start to think about your assets. Dwell on your
great sense of humor, or on your blue eyes that women always
compliment. If you think positive thoughts, you will be more
relaxed and increase your chances of meeting more beautiful
women.
Take the time right now to figure out what some of your good
points are. If your teeth are extremely white, then smile more!
Everyone has good points, find yours and then capitalize on them.

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Refuse to think negatively

Anytime that a negative thought comes into your head, no matter
how big or small, simply do not allow it to affect you. this may
sound simple, and it can be, if you follow these simple steps:
Dont waste your time looking back unless you can learn
something from it. Leave bad emotions behind because you dont
need any mental sewage. What has happened in the past no longer
matters.
Dont ever say, I cant. What this really means is, you wont.
Personally, I dont even associate with people that project this type
of attitude. They make me sick. Set your sights high and forget the
I cant. YOU CAN, DAMN IT! When you say you cant, you
really mean, Im not worth it.
Youve got to be willing to change. Forget about the old you and
start thinking about the new, more positive you.
Identify your old negative habits and replace them with positive ones.
When you find yourself making excuses and/or procrastinating, keep
pumping yourself full of positive things. Just do it

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No man is better than another

Definitely dont forget this one. In looking at yourself you may see
several inadequacies. Possibly you are thin, or short, or baldso
what? Should you see a muscle-bound stud walking with a
beautiful woman, you may think hes well-built. He might look
good physically; but, you only see whats on the outside. This
supposed stud may barely be able to speak his name, and maybe
hes the most dull and boring person on this earth or, even worse,
he may not even be able to get a hard-on (imagine that!) The point
that Im trying to make is that you should never be little yourself.
After all, you are just as good as anyone else, if not better.
Working on a positive inner you is essential
This can be achieved by various techniques. Heres one that works
for me. You have to first start off by reprogramming yourself to
think differently. Next time, instead of looking at the negative side
of a situation, look toward the positive. For example, lets say that
you are driving down a busy street and you stop at an intersection.
You see a man in a wheelchair crossing the street. Think of his
situation and compare it to yours. Nothing short of a miracle might
make him able to walk again, even if he had all the money in the
world. Now, look at yourself. If you have two perfectly good legs,
even when things arent going your way, you still have the ability
to walk. (This example is meant as a comparison only. It isnt
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intended to single out the handicapped. I personally know a

partially paralyzed man, confined to a wheelchair, who is happy
that hes even alive, andhes getting laid more than people that
are 100% healthy.) ITS ALL IN YOUR ATTITUDE!
Always look for a positive end result
Envision this: You are in a night club. You walk up to the most
beautiful woman in the place and ask her to dance. She responds,
yes. After the dance, you buy her a drink, talk to her for a while.
Then you ask her for her phone number or, better yet, ask her to
your place for a nightcap. When you envision such a scenario, it
will make it easier to approach these women. You will look surer
of yourself and women like that.
Ive found that, if you just have a good attitude and some
confidence, you can get what you need from women. But, more
importantly, they will get what they need from you.
Most woman want sex just as much or more than you do. In fact, in
a survey that was recently done, polling one hundred single women
between the ages of eighteen and thirty-two, the question was
asked: How often do you think of having sexonce a day, twice
a day, or more than three times a day? The results showed that
seventy-two out of a hundred admitted that they wanted to have

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sex at least twice a day. A womans sex drive is just as strong as a

mans.
I recently did a rather primitive survey of my own. The objective
was to try to help raise the confidence level of my students. In this
particular survey, I did find out some interesting information. I sent
six women into six different night clubs in the Los Angeles area,
asking them to go into the ladies restroom and to report back to
me what some of the conversations were about. I was most
interested in the sexual content of the conversations. The findings
were quite interesting!
Girl No. 1 reported back to me that she had hung out in the
restroom for approximately forty minutes and got the usual earful.
She said that most of the topics were sexually-oriented. One girl
had just come back from the parking lot where she had apparently
been serviced by the valet attendant. She also told her girlfriend
that this episode in the parking lot got her hotter than a volcano
and that she needed a man. Several girls came and went while Girl
No. 1 was listening from a stall. They all had sex on their minds.
Girl No. 2 came back from a Hollywood night club and gave me
her story. She said, I was in the restroom for forty five minutes
and the most interesting conversation I heard was about these three
girls who had come to the bar together to find a guy to take home.
They planned to tie him up and take turns teasing him all night.
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They said they were all tired of commitments to men. Several other
women commented on how horny they were and that they needed
some intimate attention.
Girl No. 3 told me that, after just fifteen minutes, she had heard
enough for her report. She began to tell me how one woman was so
horny; she said she was not going to leave the bar until she found
someone. She said she would take home the first man that
approached her! I asked Girl No. 3 what this woman looked like.
Was she a filthy pig? She said that this girl was one of the better
looking women in the club; one a scale of one to ten, maybe an
eight.
Girl No. 3 also said that, just by looking at this woman, you would
never think that she would be talking about this sort of thing. (You
never can tell by just looking at someone.)
Girl No. 4 said that she had heard a few women complaining that
the men were not aggressive enough. The women stated that they
were horny and didnt come to this bar to make small talkthey
wanted to get laid!
Girl No. 5 sat in the stall of a restroom in a posh West Los
Angeles night club for one hour. She reported that, in addition to
listening to a couple get it on in the stall next to hers, she also

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heard one woman tell her friend that she had not had sex in over a
week and that the men werent as aggressive as they should be.
Girl No. 6 came back from a popular night club and reported that
she had witnessed two women talking about having sex in different
places. The first girl said, Once I made love with two guys at once
in an elevator that was stuck between floors.
My objective in reporting the survey is to make this point: The
women out there are very horny and more nasty and adventurous
than most men would ever think. Men and women are put on this
planet to breed. Soget out there and do your part!
Also, if you have a chance, go into the ladies rest room and hear
for yourself! (Im joking, of course.)
Goal setting
Goal setting is an important component in establishing selfconfidence. If you dont have goals in life, its like taking a trip
and driving cross country without a road map. Goals are similar to
road maps. To get to your planned destination you must take
various routes and travel through different terrain. This is also true
in life; you go through the ups and downs, ins and outs and so on.

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Remember, youve got to have a dream if youre going to make

your dream become a reality. Try to focus in on what your dreams
are. Look at Arnold Schwarzenegger. His dream was to be Mr.
Uni-verse, The King of All Body Builders. Not only did he achieve
that goal, he went on to be a famous movie star and a millionaire.
He overcame the odds and stuck with his goals. Self-confidence is
what it takes to help make your dreams come true. If you want to
find that beautiful woman youve been dreaming about, you must
have a plan to guide you there.
About 90% of the population has no such plan whatsoever. They
wake up in the morning, go to work, come home, and do the same
thing day after day. They live paycheck-to-paycheck, never getting
anywhere. Most people dont know the first thing about setting
goals. Thats why a majority of people never get anywhere in life;
they fail to plan ahead and have no goals or direction. These
people are like transients in the streets. They walk from dumpster
to dumpster, hopelessly wandering. These are the type of people
who hope one day that theyll win the lottery or inherit a fortune.
Their lives constantly revolve around waiting for things to
happenunrealistic things. These people usually wind up
drowning themselves in alcohol, drugs and garbage.
On the other hand, 10% of people take the time and exercise the
discipline to decide upon a destination. They start on a course

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(devise a plan) that will make them successful in life. When a

person sets goals and puts them into effect, he usually
accomplishes the things he sets out to do in a relatively short
period of time. The goal-oriented person may take months to reach
his objective. However, the person without goals or direction may
never succeed. Realistically speaking, in todays society most
people are followers, not leaders. They would rather have someone
else make their decisions for them.
Each and every person on this planet has both a success mode and
a failure mode. The failure mode goes off automatically. In the
absence of the success mode, people just automatically fail and go
nowhere with their lives. The success mode is triggered by a goal.
Every time we think about our goal, visualize our goal, talk about
our goal, or write down our goal, we are turning on the success
mode and we are triggering ourselves toward positive
accomplishment. The devastating reality is, of course, that the
great majority of people dont think of this. And even when they
do think of it, they lack the self-confidence, the will, or the courage
to set goals and stick with them until they accomplish them.
You must have an intense ultimate purpose. This means the
ability to set a clear burning purpose and commit yourself to it
unconditionally.

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A self-made billionaire, who died back in the sixties, made the

following statement in an interview when asked: What advice or
recommendations would you give to people out there seeking a
better way of life? He said, Son, Ive established hundreds of
corporations in my life and made billions of dollars. I found that
its not difficult to be successful. There are only two things that are
required. First of all, you must decide exactly what it is that you
want to accomplish. (Most people never take that step of deciding
exactly what it is they want in life.) The second thing that you have
to do, is to determine the price you have to pay to accomplish
exactly what it is that you want. Then you must resolve to pay that
price and to make the sacrifices that are necessary to accomplish it.
This is all you have to dodetermine what you want and then
resolve to pay the price to get it.
Set different types of goals. Start with your long-term or lifetime
goals. What do you stand for? What cause would I defend to the
end? What would I want people to say about me after Im dead and
gone?
After setting you lifetime goals, start setting your immediate
goals or priority goals. Priority goals are goals that you set with
a specific time limit on thema one-year limit or a three-month
limit, for instance.

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Most people waste the majority of their valuable time each day
going through the same old stick in the mud routine, wasting
their most valuable commoditytime. They put off projects and
put off making crucial decisions that could get them ahead. Since
they dont have a plan, then eventually they lose precisely by
failing to plan. Most people spend more time planning a night on
the town, reading a magazine or watching a football game than
they do planning their own lives.
Successful people set their daily goals the evening
before, making a list of the important things theyll do
the following day.
Projects or chores that allow you to realize the greatest progress
toward you goals should receive the first priority. Successful
people are always thinking of goal achievement instead of aimless
wandering to fill a time slot. The key to success is focusing on goal
achievement rather than running off to play somewhere. The
difference between the real winners and losers is their selfdirection. Losers focus their attention on the instant gratification
they get from pleasurable activities. They have no long-range goals
or results in mind. Thats like eating the desert before the main
course. Winners focus their attention on the achievement of their
goals. That gives them pleasurable and long-term results.

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The value of making lists

Start each day by making a To-Do List. This practice should be as
routine as taking a shower (assuming that you shower, of course).
Write down all the things that you want to accomplish that day.
Then, list them in the order of importance. The small amount of
time and effort that you invest in this practice will repay you many,
many times over.
Make sure your list is on one sheet of paper rather than on several
sheets. Also, make the list on a pad or piece of paper that is small
enough to fit into your wallet or pocket so that you can have it with
you everywhere you go.
Any goals that are not completed that day should be carried over to
the next days goal list. Developing a habit of decisive goal setting
is both self-satisfying and can be mentally and physically
profitable. Reaching your goals is not only rewarding and
satisfying for you, but it will positively affect the women in your
life as well.
Remember, your goals should be just out of reach, but not out of
your sight. Your goals should be specific, because your brain
operates like a laser-guided missile or a computer reading its disk
drive. Like a robot on autopilot, what information you feed into
your brain determines the direction in which youll be headed. The
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brain cant program itself without your inputting specific

information. It wont relate to general or indeterminate
information. In other words, you have to be very specific in your
goal setting. Dont just say that you want to make more money. Be
specificset your goal for how much money you want and how
long youll give yourself to earn it. The more specifically you
define your goals, the better the aim and focus. Goal setting will
help make you a more self-confident person.
Youll begin to see a positive person in yourself, and so
will the women
Ultimately, everyone wants happiness. So, write down all the
things that you think would make you happy and continue to work
at them until you achieve them. Believe me, it can be done.
Get rid of the negative. Dont waste your time looking back at the
past; thats history, forget about it. Today is the first day of the rest
of your life. Forget about all those missed opportunities. The time
is now. Five minutes ago is gone. So, dont worry about the past or
anything for that matter. Worry is a negative. Eliminate it from
your vocabulary.
Before we proceed to the next chapter, I would like to tell you
about a person I know. This person, whom we will refer to as
Fredrick, was quite shy and had a very low opinion of himself.
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Fredrick was someone who came to me seeking advice. He was

also partially responsible for motivating me to write this book.
Fredrick was not only striking out with women, he was also
striking out with life in general. Just by looking at this guy, you
could tell he was on his last leg. He asked me this: What is your
secret success with women? I told him that I really hadnt thought
about it much. However, it soon dawned on me that I was indeed
successful with women. I began to analyze why I had had such
success and I came up with this: You must first and foremost have
self-confidence. If you dont have that, you might as well be a
whimpering introvert. You can build confidence in yourself by
following the suggestions found in this chapter.
Remember that, when you have confidence in yourself, you will
also realize that you have self-respect and dignity. But, the most
important thing you will have is the will to change. (By purchasing
this book, you have shown that you have the will to change.) You
must make a commitment to yourself that you want to make
something of yourself. If you dont decide to do this, it will never
happen. Nobody will do it for you.
As I look back, I made this commitment to myself years and years
ago. I see the goals that Ive set for myself. Some Ive
accomplished, others Im still working on. I made a commitment to
myself that I was going to be successful no matter what I did in
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life. It just so happens that I work in the adult entertainment

business. I consider myself lucky to have such a great jobbut
Ive worked hard to put myself in this position and to give 100%
with every performance. I also have made a commitment to my
fans, never to let them down.
I told Fredrick that, the bottom line is, youve got to set goals for
yourself and commit yourself to them. If you want to be a rock
star, then I suggest that you start taking music seriously and get
yourself involved in some line of work that is related to the music
industry. You may even have to work in the mail room at Warner
Brothers Record Company. You must focus in on what it is you
want in life and then plan how youll get there. Its the same with
meeting women. Find one that you really like and map yourself out
a plan on how youre going to get her.
Knowledge can also help create confidence. The more you learn
about what it is that you want to be good at, the better you get at it.
Things start to become easier when you have knowledge working
for you, instead of making your backbone do all the work. Just
remember this: always make your endeavor an exciting one.
Points to remember

Focus on exactly what it is you want.

Set goals for yourself, both long and short term.

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Make the necessary sacrifices and commitments to achieve

your goals.

Always have high expectations of yourself.

Always be confident and positive.

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3.
KEEPING IN SHAPE
OR NOT KEEPING IN SHAPE
First of all, look at yourself in a full length mirror and evaluate the
way you look. View yourself very carefully. Be realistic and totally
honest with yourself. If you are a filthy, fat pig, then admit it. If
you look as skinny as a toothpick, then be straight-forward with
yourself. After analyzing your physical condition, write down in a
notebook what your deficiencies are, or what you need to work on
physically to get yourself into self-satisfying condition. Try to
pinpoint the exact kind of physical condition that you would like to
be in. Dont generalize, be specific. Do you want bigger arms?
Maybe youre satisfied with your arms but you want a bigger
chest. Write down exactly what it is you want. Most importantly,
be honest with yourself.
Once youve analyzed your physical condition, you must continue
to the next step. That is defining what youre going to do about it.
You must first ask yourself: What caliber of woman do I want? Do
I want a zit-ridden, fat pig? Do I want a toothless bitty hag?
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Probably not, because these types of women are always available

and dont take any effort to get.
Maybe you would like the girl-next-door type, the Playboy
centerfold type, or the college cheerleader type. Whatever the
caliber of woman you choose, you should gear up your physical
appearance toward attracting her. This is especially true in our
society. You must stand out from the average guy in most
situations. What Im trying to get at here is that you may need to
make some improvements on yourself. Although not all women are
into physical appearance, it helps to have everything positive
working for you. If you enhance some of your physical features,
this will strengthen your chances of meeting more and even better
looking women. Always try to enhance your looks in any way that
you can.
Next, you now know what type of woman youre looking for,
right? For example, my friend, Frank, likes all types of women;
but, he usually prefers intellectual blondes with a plain-Jane
school teacher type look. He knows what turns him on. He may
date several other kinds of women, but ultimately this is the type of
woman that he wants. You must have an image of your ideal
woman (or dream girl).
Lets say that youve picked the aerobics queenyou know the
type. She has long wild hair, beautiful face, slender build, totally
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gorgeous body. You might have seen her working out at the gym
that you just joined. Most of these women are very aware of being
in shape. They care very much about the way that they look. They
eat healthy and they like to associate with people that feel the same
way they do.
If you want to have a chance at her, you had better start preparing
yourself for a major commitmentand I mean a real serious
commitmentto work and work hard. She can be yours if you
realize that it can be done. But, you will have to commit yourself
to achieving the same or higher levels than she has physically. This
is exactly what inspired me to start working out.
Believe it or not, I once had a thin, scrawny build myself. I didnt
know the first thing about women, weight lifting, or eating healthy.
I finally realized that, if I wanted to meet and date beautiful
women, Id better do something about it. I was twenty years old
then, but I made the commitment and I stay with it. As a result, I
have finally realized success in many parts of my life.
Keeping in shape is good for several reasons. One reason is that
you have much more endurance. I need my endurance so that I can
work all day and night. Endurance is built by working out, eating
right and so on. You can achieve endurance by running, weight
training, doing aerobics, martial arts, playing basketball, etc. There
are several different exercises that are effective. No matter what
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you do, you have to do something, even if its just walking a

couple of miles a day. Another benefit of being in shape is that you
live longer.
Hard work will always pay off, if you really care about how you
look. The longer you work at it, the more it will show. Most
important is the fact that youll feel better. The bottom line is, if
you want a fine woman, youve got to work at it. Remember,
anything worthwhile takes effort, and this applies to meeting fine
women.
The biggest reason why most people dont work out in the gym is
that its hard work and sometimes painful. I have found that most
people who start weight lifting programs push too hard the first
few days in the gym. When this happens, they put themselves in
constant soreness for several days afterwards, thus discouraging
themselves from going any farther. Im sure there are several other
reasons for not working out, but other than a physical handicap or
medical reasons, there are no valid excuses.
You must have a certain amount of self-discipline to obtain any
kind of success. If you dont, you will always be making excuses
for not making it to the gym to work out, or not eating right, etc.
Youve got to discipline yourself now and keep pushing yourself to
achieve your goals. When your workday has ended and youre
tired, the easiest thing to do is to go home and lie on the couch,
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watch television, or sit around and do nothing. Try asking a babe

if shed like to come over to hang out with a slob that sits around
watching TV! This is when you have to tell yourself (as you grit
your teeth), to go to the gym or to the basketball court. Sure, its
not easy. If it were, everyone would be doing it. And, there
wouldnt be any fat slobs around. Remember, not everyone gets to
meet beautiful women.
Always set goals for yourselfshort term goals and long term
goals. Goal setting applies to just about everything in life from
weight training to setting up strategies for meeting a woman. Dont
forget it. Ever.
Now, Im going to share some of my techniques for what it takes
to build your body into a woman magnet. Probably the most
important thing to remember is: YOUR DIET.
Eating right and taking the right vitamins is essential in the bodybuilding process. Whoever it was that said, You are what you
eat, is 100% right. You should think about that if you eat trash.
Eventually, youll look like trash. No thanks!
My diet consists of a variety of carbohydrates, fruits, vegetables,
protein shakes, fish, red meat and, of course, I cant forget:
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My recommendations for a good, strong, healthy diet is to eat lots

of fresh vegetables such as: potatoes, corn, spinach, lettuce (salads
with very little salad dressing), beets, tomatoes, yams, squash,
carrots, onions, pickles, celery, sweet potatoes, cucumbers,
avocados, green beans, all types of beans (beans are an excellent
source of the B-vitamins), peanuts, and all other types of nuts,
garlic, egg plant, and any other vegetables that you can think of.
Try to include lots and lots of vegetables into your diet every day.
Any and all fruits should be eaten, such as: apples, oranges,
grapefruits, cherries, peaches, pears, lemons, limes, strawberries,
raspberries, grapes, tangerines, cranberries, raisins, apricots,
bananas (a very good source of potassium and other essential
vitamins), pineapples, coconuts, kiwis, plums, blueberries,
mangos, watermelon, cantaloupe, and any other fruits that you can
think of.
Just remember to eat as many fruits and vegetables each day as you
can. This is very essential.
I cannot stress enough the importance of consistency in your diet.
Every day, in addition to your workout, you must be consistent
with you diet. If you are not, you will be defeating the purpose.
Always remember this: one is no good without the other.

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Try to stay away from the whites: sugar, salt and bleached flour.
Your body does, however, need some sugar on a daily basis. But
be aware of the amount you are consuming. Try to keep away from
excessive amounts of ice cream. Ice cream is loaded with sugar
and is also very high in cholesterol. If you are a diabetic, consult
your doctor for a specialized diet for you to follow.
Meats are a very important source of protein, but recent studies
have found that red meats may not have as many benefits as
originally thought. I personally think that red meat is good if eaten
in moderation.
All types of poultry: chicken, turkey, duck, pheasant, quail, and
goose are good protein sources. When eating poultry, keep in mind
that the skin of the bird is mostly fat. I usually remove the skin of
all poultry before eating. Poultry also has less cholesterol than beef
when the skin is removed.
I highly recommend that you eat lots and lots of pasta because it is
good for the brain. It is also good for energy (stamina). Spaghetti,
ravioli, rigatoni, macaronieat lots of it. Its good for you.
Fish is probably the most beneficial addition to your diet. Eat lots
of fish but try to stay away from the deep fried preparation.

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Rice is probably my all-time favorite food. Not only is it a great

source of carbohydrates, but its loaded with vitamins. I usually
have rice prepared in a variety of different ways, sometimes mixed
with spinach, sprouts, and green beans or potatoes. Use your
imagination, but stay away from frying and creamy artificial
sauces.
If you find that you just dont have the time to prepare these dishes
or you are constantly in a hurry, then I suggest that you go to the
grocery store and buy the Budget Gourmet vegetables or Stouffers
meals. (I suggest the tuna noodle casserole.) These meals are
microwaveable, fast, easy and nutritious. Always read the
ingredients to make sure that there are no preservatives or MSG
(monosodium glutamate, a flavor enhancer).
Try to stay away from the fast food places. If you have no other
alternatives, try to stick with the chicken or fish (preferably
skinless, grilled or broiled). The reason to stay away from these
types of places is because of the potential hazards of food
poisoning, low nutritional value, and high fat content. Also, most
of the fast food places still use grease to fry their food. People have
actually died from eating at fast food places.
If theres one important meal that should never be missed, its
breakfast. Breakfast is very important for a multitude of reasons.
The first reason is that its the first meal of the day and because
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your body is empty (unless you eat in your sleep), you need all the
energy you can get. Another reason is that the first meal of the day
expands your stomach muscles, which youll need for the fruits
and vegetables youll continue to eat throughout the day. Breakfast
is also the meal that you should try never to compromise on. So,
dont miss it and try to eat as nutritionally as possible. Again, try to
stay away from all types of fats.
Vitamins are an essential part of your diet and, because everyones
nutritional needs are different, I recommend that you ask a licensed
nutritionist or your doctor for a recommendation as to what
vitamin combinations to use. As for me, when I wake up in the
morning, I usually drink a protein shake mixed with fruit, even
before I eat breakfast. When you finish your breakfast, take
whatever vitamins youve chosen. In choosing vitamins, try to stay
with the gel capsules. They are easier to digest in your system.
Your B vitamins, especially B-12, are good for energy. Try to use
them in the liquid form or gel caps if possible. Remember, you
wont get any benefits from taking vitamins if you dont eat.
Always take your vitamin supplements after you eat. Even missing
one day can screw up your whole schedule.
Protein powders are a good source of energy. The Joe Weider
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There are different mixtures for each objective. Ask a nutritionist

or your health food store clerk which combination will work best.
There are several other protein powders on the market which also
come in different flavors.
Here are some of my favorite recipes for protein shakes. You
should drink shakes at least twice a day. All protein shakes can be
mixed with many types of natural juices, low fat milk or spring
water.
Recipe No. 1
2 bananas
1/2 pineapple
1 papaya
Combine fruit with orange flavored protein drink mix and blend
thoroughly.
Recipe No. 2
Low fat milk
2 bananas
4 egg whites
4 tablespoons of wheat germ

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thoroughly.
Recipe No. 3
1 cup fresh squeezed orange juice
1 cup fresh squeezed grapefruit juice
3 egg whites
23 scoops fruit flavored protein

powder

Combine juices with flavored protein drink mix. Blend thoroughly.

Recipe No. 4
2 cups yogurt (0% fat)
1 cup low fat milk
2 tablespoons wheat germ
2 tablespoons honey
1 tablespoon Vitamin C crystals
Combine ingredients with flavored protein drink mix. Blend
thoroughly.
You may add any of your own ingredients to help compliment
these mixtures. Just try to make sure that all the ingredients are

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natural. Welchs has a 100% natural, no sugar added, frozen grape

juice that makes a great mixture.
Its also very important to get plenty of sleep. Everyones sleeping
requirements are different. Personally, I try to get seven to eight
hours per night (or day).
Alcohol is not recommended. When I do drink alcohol, I drink in
moderation. A few drinks now and then never hurt anybody. When
drinking beer, I try to stay with the light beers.
Always drink plenty of water, but try not to consume too much tap
water. Tap water in my area (Los Angeles) is questionable at best.
Water consumption is very important especially when working out
at the gym. Try to always remember to bring a full water bottle
with you when you are working out. Youll need this because you
lose essential bodily fluids when sweating, which need to be
replaced immediately.
When selecting fluids, stay away from the syrup and sugar based
drinks. I prefer mountain spring water, Perrier, or Gatorade.
It is very important to maintain a proper diet when working out. I
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Diet for Body Builders

Eat four to five meals a day on the days that you are working out.
On your days off, eat at least three meals.
In the morning, drink freshly squeezed juices, egg whites and fresh
fruits with either oatmeal or some type of high grain cereal with
whole grain toast. Blueberry pancakes are also recommended.
At lunch time, eat rice cooked with egg whites, chicken (mostly
white meat), or fish. Try to keep the red meat consumption to a
minimum (once or twice a month). Bulk up on the salads. (Load
them up with plenty of vegetables.)
In between meals, you should eat lots of bananas, slices of white or
whole wheat bread and drink spring water. I eat russet potatoes. I
clean them and put them in the microwave. I refrigerate them until
theyre cold and eat them throughout the day.
For dinner, try baked fish or chicken, with plenty of potatoes and
corn. If you eat deserts, eat nonfat yogurt. BE AWARE OF THE
FAT CONTENT OF WHAT YOU ARE EATING.
Currently, I am using Rexall vitamin products. I have tried several
different vitamin supplements and have found Rexall to have very

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effective products. If you would like to inquire about these

products, feel free to call (800) 266 6245 ext. 5330 for information.
Before you work out, you should ingest some protein, either in
ready mixed form or mix your own from the various protein
powders. One of the pre-mixed protein drinks is made by
American Body Building Products. Some of their products include
Amino Force and Blue Thunder. These are essential for feeding
your muscles.
After working out, sometimes I eat a 6-1/8 oz. can of StarKist tuna
fish directly from the can. This is a great source of protein (over
thirty-five grams).
Remember that your body can only digest approximately 30 grams
of protein at one sitting.
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Now that weve covered diet and sleep, lets go on to weight

training. Weight training is a great way to build and tone your
body. Most worthwhile women like a toned body on a man, as
opposed to a flabby body.
You need to keep two things in mind when you select an
appropriate gym. First, the gym should have competent instructors
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and a competent nutritionist. You want to have these people set up

a program for you, both physically and nutritionally.
This comes standard with some of the bigger gyms, but even
smaller ones will usually work out some type of rounded program
for you.
The second thing you need to accomplish when selecting a gym is
to find an incentive to work out: you guessed itwomen. There
must be plenty of beautiful women present to help keep your
motivation level up. Also, coed gyms usually have aerobics
classes, which are almost always about 90% female.
My weight training program consists of a mixture of different
routines. I try to mix up my routine about every other month.
Sometimes I will work on my legs and do lower body and stomach
muscle exercises, etc. The following day, I will work on my upper
body, chest, biceps, etc. I might run five or six miles on the third
day, then take a day-off.
Before each and every workout, you must never forget to first
stretch out your muscles. Usually, your health instructor can advise
you on several different stretching techniques. If not, consult a
martial arts studio.

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Youve probably heard the saying: No pain, no gain. This is the

biggest bunch of garbage ever. When you are working out at the
gym, if you start feeling any type of real pain, you should
immediately back off and start to work on different muscle groups.
Fatigue and pain are two different things. Fatigue is when you get
tired of working out. Pain is when youre actually injuring
yourself. Some soreness usually occurs approximately two to three
days after your workouts (when initially starting a weight lifting
program). The longer you work out, the less sore youll get. But
remember, when it starts to really hurt, back off. Dont take the
risk of injuring yourself.
When working on the chest muscles, there are a few standard
exercises: the flat bench press, the incline press and the decline
press. Have the gym instructor set you up on a program using these
bench exercises and a serious chest workout. Other chest exercises
include: using the fly machine or the peck pump machine, pushups,
pull ups, dips. Instead of always using weights set up on a barbell
for bench pressing, try using dumbbells. When you are weight
training, always try to remember to use different exercises in
working the same muscle groups. In other words, instead of using
the bench press every day, on your next chest workout use pushups
and dips, and do more repetitions.

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Your lower body and leg exercises can be accomplished on all the
different leg presses, squats, etc. Everyones strength levels are
different. So dont try to take the bull by the balls your first time
out. Injuries caused by weight lifting often take long periods of
time to heal. Take your time.
You must remember this: you wont have a perfect body in a day,
so be patient. Dont think that even a month of hard-core weight
training is going to make a difference. Chances are you may see a
difference, but different people will notice results sooner than
others. Dont get frustrated because one day youll be working out,
youll look in the mirror, and you wont even recognize yourself.
Is it The Hulk or ?
So, heres another set of goals for you:
1. Select a gym and join it.
2. Consult with a nutritionist or your doctor to plan your diet,
including the necessary supplements, vitamins, etc.
3. Set a goal for yourself regarding the shape and condition
you want to be in. Then start working toward it.
4. Set short and long term goals for yourself.
5. Commit yourself to the plan 100%.
6. Stay away from junk food.
7. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables.

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Do not veer away from your plan. This is an order! If you want any
kind of a decent woman, youll have to work for it. Remember,
nothing thats worthwhile in this life comes easy.
You should also put together progress charts to keep track of what
muscle groups to work on. The fitness trainer at your gym can help
you design a specific chart for what you need to work on.

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4.
SENSE OF HUMOR
A sense of humor is one of the most important elements of your
personality when it comes to getting women to like you. A sense of
humor is an essential part of your personality. That is because
without it, you would be serious all the timeand seriousness
leads to boredom. I have seen some of the ugliest, ignorant scum
on this plant with some of the most beautiful women Ive ever seen
in my life. One of the key elements those men possess is a good
sense of humor. You could be the wealthiest person alive, but
without a sense of humor, you would eventually bore every woman
to tears and they would take all of your money and leave.
Some people use their sense of humor to make up for being short
or being bald andit works! I personally know two different
people that used their sense of humor to compensate for their
physical appearance.
The first individual was a very up type person who always had a
joke to tell and was very likable. He was handicapped in the looks

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department because he was slightly bald and was missing a leg.

Unlike most people who dwell on the negatives, he turned his
handicap into an asset. He always had a peg leg joke ready. He
never took his handicap or his physical appearance seriously. On a
few occasions, he removed his wooden leg and passed it around
the bar. The women found this man to be quite fascinating and his
encounters with women were notorious. Believe me, this homeboy
has been with some gorgeous dames (some of whom I personally
know).
The second person Im talking about is seriously overweight; I
mean a real fat pig. Mr. Pig (as we will refer to him) was in fact
a virtual hippopotamus. He was, though, one of the funniest
human beings on this planet. Mr. Pig is getting laid all the time! I
could not figure out how Mr. Pig was meeting all these babes.
Women seemed to overlook the fact that hes a blimp. When he
starts telling his jokes, people gather around and listen because its
just human nature to want to laugh. In my opinion, its almost
more important to have a sense of humor than any other one trait.
Even studies done by individuals in the medical field have proven
that laughter can be healthy. That is because it relieves all the
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Women feel far less threatened when a man has a sense of humor.
Theres nothing better to ease the tension than a good joke or a
humorous comment.
They say that some people are born with a sense of humor, but
what if you dont have one or if yours is rather dull? One very
basic suggestion is that you go to your local book store and
purchase a joke book or listen to some old Richard Prior, Eddie
Murphy or Sammy Kinison tapes. Get ideas from the masters.
Movies such as Arthur, Trading Places, Hollywood Knights,
Naked Gun, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, or any of your favorite
comedies are easy ways to get one-liners.
Another suggestion is to take her to a movie (comedy), and then on
the drive home, subtly quote a couple humorous lines from the
movie. Most women find this both humorous and witty.
Humor is really just an extension of reality. The real things that
happen to us in everyday life seem to be the most humorous. Most
successful comedians use real everyday situations in their comedy
routines. They always find that the real situations are the funniest
to their audiences.
The dictionary defines humor as: A persons disposition,
temperament; a mood; state of mind; the quality that makes
something seem funny, amusing or ludicrous; the ability to
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perceive, appreciate or express what is funny, amusing, or

ludicrous.
Doing imitations can be a good way to break the ice with some
women. For instance, you could do the old Jack Nicholson
impression, even if youre not good at it, because it will seem
funny to most women.
There are books and tapes on the subject of doing imitations. Go to
your local library and ask your librarian for reference books on
Humor. Maybe theyll be able to help you. The most important
thing to keep in mind is to let the woman know that deep down
inside you, you possess a sense of humor. Everyone has a sense of
humor. Its just that some people have to dig deeper than others to
find it. Find yours and start working on it.
When finding humor and making jokes, do so without being
openly critical or rude toward others. For instance, if youre
walking out of a movie theater with your date and you see a big,
fat, sweat hog of a woman walking in front of you, dont make an
offensive comment that could be heard by others. Some men
would laugh out loud or make a remark of some sort. Most decent
women (especially when youre first getting to know them) will be
turned off by this. Women would view this as mean or rude.
Instead of laughing out loud or making a crude remark, just wait
until the fat woman is out of listening range and ask your date if
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shes ever seen anyone take up that much space? That way, you
can find out what type of sense of humor she has without being
offensive or embarrassing her.
You can always try some humorous one-liners. Sometimes this can
break the ice from the start. When you first approach a woman,
you can use a good line thats been around for a long time:
Havent I seen you somewhere before? But, better than that old
clich, try this: You look familiar. Shell probably chuckle a
little bit at this clich. But, add: Yeah, maybe its because I saw
you ten minutes age when I first walked in here. Another clich
is: Do you believe in love at first sight, or do I have to walk by
again? If you choose to use a clich, try to be creativeadd your
own style, wit, flair and humor. And make it funny.
Another semi-serious one-liner to use when first having a
conversation with a woman: The next time you see your parents,
thank them for me. She will ask, Why? You say, Because they
have created one beautiful daughter. This is best used when
parting and, though it may sound corny, women love this type of
thingcompliments with humor.
When you first meet a woman that you are interested in, remember
to try to keep her entertained. Try to keep the mood relaxed and
easygoing (non-threatening). If theres a gap in the conversation,
tell a joke. Say this: I heard a joke this afternoon, and its a good
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one. You can then proceed to tell a tasteful joke. Dont tell a
crude one at this point. You would do yourself a favor by saving
those for when you get to know her better. My good friend, Ron
Jeremy, is a master at keeping people entertained. He knows a lot
of famous people and has plenty of good stories. Women,
especially, love that kind of stuff. Some women dont care about
who you know or what you have, but they always want someone
with a sense of humor and someone that likes to have fun.
When I go out on dates, one of the things that I do to make women
laugh is to tell them about some of the stupid or funny things that
have happened to me in the past. Some of these things werent too
colorful and might not have made me look good. However, they
helped relieve the tension and make the women feel more
comfortable and relaxed. This also lets the women know that
youre not so hung up on yourself that you cant admit to having
done stupid things. Telling them these types of things will almost
definitely get good laughs.
Sarcasm or sarcastic humor is effective if its not overdone. For
instance, sarcasm takes timing and understanding. If the time isnt
right, it could come off as offensive. Some suggestions for where
to find comfortable sarcasm is on MASH, probably one of the
all-time great television series. Alan Alda masterfully delivers his
perfectly timed comments, and even he misses a few times.

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Also another good source of sarcastic humor is the Airplane

movies, Airplane #1 and Airplane #2. Mel Brooks has had most of
his success with making movies dealing in sarcasm. Personally, I
like small amounts of sarcasm, but I find that too much can be
annoying. Some women like it and others dont. So I suggest that
you use your own discretion and make sure your timing is right.
Remember, theres nothing like a good laugh to break the ice.
Andgive her some room to share some humor, too! There is a
time for you to shut up and listen to her. If she wants to share
something, think about what shes saying. If she wants you to
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5.
GROOMING TIPS:
DRESS TO GET RESULTS
For your own sake, Dont be a dribbling slob! Its not that damn
hard to look halfway presentable. Always remember this: First
impressions are the most important. In this chapter, I will cover
some of the basic things that women look at when contact is first
made. (This is undoubtedly the most impressionable time.)
Beautiful women wont give you a second look if you look like a
dribbling slob! There is a simple solution to this problem: DONT
LOOK LIKE A DRIBBLING SLOB. Its not that difficult to look
decent.
It is true that looks arent everything. But good looks and good
grooming techniques are a direct reflection of how you operate the
rest of your life. If you look and dress like a filthy slob, then
chances are you are probably a slob at home and in your office.
Chances are that the condition of your car is also filthy. Women
are very aware of this. Most of the very fine women (if this is
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what you want) will be looking for someone that cares about the
way he looks, just as they care about how they look. Women spend
billions of dollars every year getting beautified. Why? Because
they want to impress men!
Look at yourself in the mirror. What is it that you see? A hopeless
geek? A baldheaded eyesore? Again, be honest and analyze
yourself from head to toe. Be constructive, not destructive, in
analyzing yourself. Your reason for doing this is to determine what
your weak points are. Start with your hair and work your way
down. Ask yourself questions like, Is this the hair of a stud or the
hair of a cue ball? (Dont get me wrong, I know many women that
like bald men.)
Now its time to make another list. This may sound unnecessary,
but it has proven to be effective. In the first column, put the good
things about yourself.
In the second column, put the not-so-good things (or things you
think you might need some work). By all means, be honest with
yourself. If you suffer from acne, write it down.
Our objective with this issue is to highlight some of your good
features and eliminate or disguise your bad ones.

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Getting back to your hair, are you satisfied with the way your hair
is? Is the style current? Does your haircut fit your image?
One simple suggestion to someone not satisfied with their hair is to
look around at other men. Look at some of the men that are always
around beautiful women. Notice what types of hair styles they are
wearing. Also, you might look through magazines such as GQ,
Playboy, or any other magazine that shows the current hairstyles.
Watch current TV shows like LA Law, soap operas, and TV shows
that deal with man/woman relationships. Another good way to find
out what some alternative hair styles are is to talk to women. Ask
them what kinds of hairstyles they like on a man or that they would
like on you.
Ask several people, both men and women, what they think about
the way you wear your hair. Get many opinions. Try to stay with
your age group or the age group of the women you would like to
be dating. The age group is important because, if youre trying to
pick up a twenty-three year old woman, youre not going to wear a
hairstyle that a sixty year old man might have (unless, of course,
youre stinking rich).
Your hair is an important part of the package. When I refer to the
package, I mean that each part of you is a component. When all of
your components are analyzed, assembled and fine tuned, the

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ready.
Find a hair style that you will be satisfied with. Either comb it in a
different way or leave it the way it is. Just be conscious about your
look and be aware of neatness.
Dont select a different hair style that you might not be
comfortable with just because someone else thinks it will improve
your look. Get a style that youll be satisfied with and that makes
you comfortable. Keep your individuality.
The next component is your face. In a recent study I conducted, I
asked hundreds of woman: What is the first part of a mans
anatomy they look at? The most popular answer was the butt. The
second most popular answer was the face. You may think that
theres nothing that you can do about this part of your anatomy,
but there is. First of all, lets look at your color. If you are
Caucasian, are you fair skinned? Are you average or medium? Is
your skin dry? Oily?
If you are Latin or African American, then some of these tips may
not apply to you (especially the tanning). Use the tips that apply to
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Makeup is not just for women. Its true. If the right type of makeup
is used, it can work in your favor. When I refer to makeup, I dont
mean eye shadows or lip liners and such. One of the types of
makeup that Im referring to is a makeup stick called Erase by
Max Factor. This makeup comes in a lipstick-type applicator.
Erase is used to help hide zits, scars, and minor imperfections on
your face. Erase can be purchased at most places that sell makeup.
It comes in a variety of different shades: natural, natural tan, and
several others. Make sure you choose the correct skin tone so that
it blends in with your pigmentation. Many men and women in the
movie business use this product.
There are also types of makeup that can help hide shiny or oily
skin. This makeup is called solid powder blush and is applied with
a brush. This technique is also widely used in the movie and
television business. You probably wont need to use this unless
your skin is really oily. To help reduce blemishes, prevent
problems from oily skin, cold sores and greasy hair, change your
sheets and pillow cases every other day. This will help you to stay
clean and cut down on re-infecting yourself, allowing you to clear
up these problems. Consult your physician for further suggestions.
I recommend that, if you do need to use makeup, dont overdo it.
Usually, if you blend it in to your natural skin color without using
too much, no one will ever know you have it on.

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If you need more information on various makeups, consult your

local department stores cosmetologist. She will be happy to help
you. This might be a useful anecdote to help expand your comfort
zone. A friend of mine was with me when we passed by a cosmetic
counter in a fashionable department store. He couldnt believe all
the attention he got when we stopped in front of the counter, where
a fine looking lady clerk stood. I suggested he talk to her about
the dark circles under his eyes. She immediately had a few makeup
samples for him to try. Before he knew it, she and a friend were
going to join us for cocktails after they got off work. Now every
once in a while, hell ask if I feel like checking out the cosmetics
department whenever we pass a mall!
Just for your information, dark circles under your eyes can indicate
one of many things: heredity, sometimes lack of sleep, or more
commonly, a sinus condition. Check with your doctor about this.
When dry skin is a problem, use a moisturizer. Moisturizing
lotions can give the face a healthier look, when used over a period
of time. Vaseline Intensive Care, Lubriderm and many others can
be used.
For wrinkled skin, try some types of the products on the market
that can temporarily control your wrinkles. Your cosmetologist can
help you find what you need.

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Our next subject is whether or not to wear eyeglasses. So, you

wear glasses, youre thin, and you are bald. I can almost predict
right now that women are probably not beating down your door.
My initial suggestion is to get rid of the glasses and get contact
lenses or corrective surgery. If neither of these options are
available to you (and you positively must wear glasses), get the
darker or polarized lenses. For example, look at comedian, Richard
Belzer. Hes got a slender build and, in my opinion, hes not
particularly great looking to most peoples standards. However, his
dark lens glasses actually compliment his face. Hes obviously
doing something right. After all, hes married to one of the most
beautiful women on the planet.
I recently conducted a survey in which I asked 70 women in Los
Angeles, 70 women in New York and 70 women in Detroit what
their views were on men that wear glasses. (Some of these women
wore glasses and some did not.) I came up with some interesting
reactions. In all three cities polled, approximately 40 out of 70
women preferred men without glasses. I also asked: If a man was
forced to wear glasses, what style would be the most desirable?
Approximately 45 out of 70 thought that the rounded type looked
best. The others liked various designer and tinted types. It seemed
that women who liked men in glasses were the intellectual or
business-oriented women.

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My personal observation is that if you are built with a big frame or

are the muscular type, glasses seem to have become more
acceptable to a majority of women I know. Designer frames, such
as those by Armani, Ray Ban and Gucci, Prada, have included
some new and unique styles. Check the current mens fashion
magazines. I suggest that, if you positively must wear glasses,
make sure they fit the image that you want. Im talking about the
new image that you want to project for yourself. After all, we are
talking about your face. Dont be afraid to spend the extra money
for the designer frames. Sooner or later they will pay for
themselves.
While we are still focusing on the face, lets talk about facial hair:
beards, mustaches and sideburns. I sent a girlfriend of mine to
survey the situation. She polled a total of 200 women in New York
and Los Angeles. The basic question was: Do women like or
dislike facial hair on men? Out of the 100 women surveyed in New
York, 66 of them preferred men without facial hair. In Los
Angeles, 70 out of 100 preferred men without any facial hair. She
found that women who did like facial hair liked the sideburns or
mustache. Most of the women polled were disgusted by beards of
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NOTE: Depending on the part of the country that you live in,
beards and mustaches could be more acceptable. For instance, in
Alaska, more women may like men with facial hair than not.
Personally, I dont like any type of facial hair on me. But, some
women like the rugged type, the Grizzly Adams look. Ive found
that, when it comes to mustaches, women either love them or hate
them. Sideburns seem to have made a comeback in the nineties.
They look good on certain people, but its not my style.
Remember, its important to be aware of your own style and
individuality.
Your teeth are very important. Women really like a man with
good, straight, clean teeth. Rule Number One: NEVER forget to
brush your teeth. Out of all the comments from women regarding
disgusting things about men, not brushing their teeth ranks near
the top of their list. If you must, carry a spare toothbrush in your
car. Remember, never forget to brush, and dont forget to floss.
Most of you already know these things. I just want to reinforce the
details that most worthwhile and beautiful women look for in men.
What if you dont have straight teeth or your teeth are discolored?
If you have crooked teeth and cannot afford braces, you might ask
your dentist for other options, such as filing your teeth or
extractions. If you have no other alternative, braces can usually
correct the problem. (Ask your dentist about invisible braces.)
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If your teeth are discolored, you have three options. The first is to
have your teeth bleached. A dentist can perform this procedure for
you or you can purchase a product that can be used at home.
Bleaching will make your teeth a lot whiter and brighter. The
disadvantage of using this procedure is that it doesnt offer a
permanent solution to the problem because eventually it will wear
off. Also, it is said to make your teeth brittle. Your other option is
having your teeth bonded or veneered. This procedure can also be
done by your dentist. In tooth bonding (or veneering), a white
porcelain material is affixed to the teeth, covering the old surface. I
have seen some very impressive bonding jobsso good that, if
people hadnt told me they had this procedure done, I wouldnt
have known it. Make sure that you have a good dentist who is very
familiar with this procedure, because teeth are very important. The
third option is to have your teeth capped. This is usually a very
expensive procedure. Consult your dentist for other possible options.
Finishing up on the face, dont forget to trim your nose hairs
occasionally. Most women get very disgusted when they see hair
(or other things) hanging from a mans nose. So, dont let this
happen to you.
Women are always turned on by a man who has a healthy tan. A
tan seems to make a person look healthy and exotic. I personally
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dermatologists do not recommend tanningespecially if youre

fair skinned. My dermatologist looks at it this way: if you are
going to expose yourself to the sun, then use caution and care. He
suggests that you should use sun screen and keep your skin moist.
When I dont have time to lie outside in the sun, I sometimes use a
tanning salon. Tanning salons are an alternative to the beach or the
pool. I also use tanning accelerators. (An accelerator is a solution
that is applied to your skin before tanning.) Using an accelerator
can hasten the time it takes you to acquire a deep, dark tan
sometimes to as little as a week.
I have also met several beautiful women in tanning salons, not only
the women that work at them, but their clients as well. Many
women such as actresses, body-builders, strippers and dancers use
tanning salons for their line of work (where looking good is their
business).
Another option for tanning, as a last resort, is a cream called QT.
This is a substance that is applied to the skin and will immediately
give you the illusion of having a tan. I really dont recommend this
technique. However, if you find that the sun damages your skin too
much, and you still want a tan, then this is an option for you. Other
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One other technique is to use tanning pills. These pills are usually
found at your local health food store and contain the vitamin, beta
carotene. This vitamin, if taken consistently, causes your skin to
tint into sort of an orange/brown color, thus simulating a tan.
After shaving, showering, blow drying your hair, or applying the
appropriate mousses and/or gels to your hair, you are now ready to
select the cologne for the evening. Women and cologne
manufacturers are very aware of the fact that smelling good is very
sexy. Women love a sexy smelling man. Ive had women tell me
that they have had orgasms over the way I smell. (These particular
women may have been a little hornier than the average woman, but
what the hell.)
Listen, gentlemen, the way you smell to a woman can mean the
difference between getting lucky or not. So by all means, choose
the right cologne. There are several cheap colognes out on the
market. For your sake, try to stay away from the cheap karate crap
or bargain musk. Most worthwhile women are insulted by this
garbage. And, quite frankly, Ive smelled better paint thinners.
Use the good stuff: Paco Rabanne, Fahrenheit for Men, Perry Ellis,
Halston, New West. And, if you dont like any of those scents,
there are plenty more available at the fine department stores
everywhere. Also, do what I doalways approach the finest
women you see and ask: Whats your favorite cologne on a
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man? Other references on cologne can be found in Playboy and

GQ magazine. The most important thing is that you smell good. I
use several different types of cologne and I create some of my own
mixtures by combining two or three together. One tip: dont
overdo it! Just because you bought a bottle, doesnt mean that you
must wear the whole damn thing at one time. In the past, some
women have almost asphyxiated me by drenching themselves with
perfume. (If you come across a woman doing this, she may have
good reasons to do this. Believe me, you dont want to know why.)
Next comes how you dress. This may make the difference in
whether or not the woman will even notice you. You definitely
want her to notice you, right? Well, homeboy, this is where the
boys are separated from the men. If its a fine woman that youre
after, you had better be ready for herI mean dressed to kill! I
mean deadlier than a hit man! The way you dress should be taken
very seriously.
Dress appropriately for the occasion. If you were to attend a
wedding, then you probably wouldnt wear blue jeans, would you?
Or, if you were going to the tractor pull contest, you probably
wouldnt wear a tuxedo.
My suggestion is this: Take the time and spend an entire day
looking in clothing stores and talking to the experts. If your city
has a fashion district like Los Angeles, you would start off on
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Melrose Avenue. If you dont have a fashion district, go to your

local malls or major department stores. Should you live in a rural
area, try the various mens catalogs. If you live in Seattle, you may
want to go to the Salvation Army for the popular grunge look.
You dont have to buy anything at this point. What you want to do
is to try to establish an image for yourself. Go into these stores and
try things on. See what looks the best on you. Get some feedback
from other people in the store. Ask their opinion on how certain
clothes look on you. Women, especially, are always up on the
latest fashions and they know what the fashion-minded men are
wearing. They know what they like their men to wear. Ultimately,
its you who will be wearing these clothes, so make sure that
youre comfortable with whatever you purchase.
Dont try to look like someone youre not; just find clothes that
blend in with your own personality and image. If you dont feel
good about the way you look, you will reflect those feelings to
others by being uptight, etc. So feel comfortable and secure with
the way that you dress yourself. Remember; dont try to act like
the Mr. Furley character on the TV show, Threes Company. At
least not until youre in his shoes.
How you dress yourself can be a signal to women for how
aggressive you might be in bed. For instance, if you went out to a
nightclub dressed up like a businessman in your boring,

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On the other hand, if you went into that same club dressed in a pair
of loose-fitting jeans, a sport coat and a T-shirt, women would
perceive you as being a bit more adventurous.
When wearing ties on a date, or when youre out scouting for
babes, try to wear it loosely fitted. This helps give the impression
that youre more relaxed. When selecting a tie for a night on the
town, pick one that might be a bit different from the others
maybe one thats a little on the outrageous side (one that could
spark up a conversation). I have used this technique before. It
started out as kind of a joke one night. I wore this tie that had a
picture of buildings on it (like a cityscape). I couldnt believe how
many women came up to me that night. It was like a magnet.
Women felt that they just had to come up to me and ask me where
I got it or comment on it.
What look turns women on? Good question. What better way to
find out than to ask several beautiful women. In this survey, two of
my friends and I went out in the Los Angeles area. We went to
shopping malls, night clubs, and in the downtown district.
Altogether, we probably surveyed about five hundred women (and
got two hundred and fifty phone numbers). Our conclusion was
that the majority of women felt that they preferred men who
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liked men with baggy fitting jeans and other types of casual pants.
Most of the women agreed that leather jackets on men were very
sexy. One negative note: a lot of the women said they didnt like a
man with gold chains hanging off him or men that wear too much
jewelry.
Bottom line, gents: The women seem to want the more casually
dressed men with your basic sport coat or leather jacket, jeans or
casual pants, T-shirt or collar type shirt. Stay with the relaxed look
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6.
PETER NORTHS TIPS
All women are different. When some women look for a man, they
might want a father figure. Some want the intellectual type. Others
want someone that looks like James Woods. You could be the
biggest stud on the planet, but if you dont fit the image shes
looking for, then you lose. What Im saying is that there is
someone for everyone, but women usually have an image of the
type of man they are looking for. Some women are more specific
than others. My point is, just because a woman doesnt respond to
you when you send her a drink or give her a smile or drop that
clever line, it might be that youre simply not what shes looking
for. So when this happens, just go on to the next one. Stop wasting
your time dwelling on what you think might be wrong with you.
Dont always assume that, if you had only approached her
differently or did this or that, that it would have worked out
differently. Most of the women out there ultimately want a man
who gives them a sense of security. This security could come in
the form of meeting a man with a lot of money, or a man that takes
control, or perhaps a man that is very confident with himself, or
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has a great sense of humor. Most women can sense these things
almost immediately when they initially meet a man.
Lets talk a little about the Turn Offs. These are things that
clearly turn women off to certain men. Women Ive surveyed have
told me about the things that turn them off the most about men.

One of the most popular answers was: when a man talks

about himself too much. A majority of the women really
seemed to dislike this type of man. This tells the women
that these men are very insecure with themselves.

Another major turn off is a man who is a cheapskate, or

who is constantly complaining about spending his money.

Men who talk negatively about others, complain about

things, and talk down to people. This also breeds insecurity
as well as signaling a bad upbringing.

Men who are sloppy dressers also rank high on the turn off
list.

Of course, bad breath, un brushed teeth, and body odor,

were obviously at the top of the list.

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Women told me that one of the biggest turn offs of all time
is a man who belches and/or farts, either in public or
private captivity. (This shows your woman that you are not
only a total pig, but that you have no class whatsoever.)

Another turn off is when a man compares his previous

relationships to the woman that he has just met.

Last but not least, most decent women cant stand men who
use profane language.

The only other tip I can give here is, if you care at all about the
woman youre with, use your manners and a little common sense.
Most women really do appreciate this and it will likely pay off
when you finally end up in her bedroom.
Always be a good listener
Listening to a woman can be very much to your advantage. Find
out what she likes and dislikes. Try to fill up your mind with her
thoughts as she speaks. Most women are very impressed by a man
who cares enough to remember what shes said. Plus, you can start
to gear up some of your impending strategies for deciding where to
take her or how you can surprise her with something that she had
no idea you remembered.

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Where do you take your woman for a first date? Good question.
There are several possibilities for this situation. First of all, you
must determine a couple of things:
(A)

How much do you care about this woman?

Is this the type of woman that many not have required much effort
to get her to go out with you? Do you predict any future
possibilities with you and this woman? Or maybe youre just
looking for a one-night stand. Just determine what exactly your
objective is with her.
Some of you are probably saying to yourself, how the hell am I
supposed to be able to determine how much Im going to like her,
if I barely even know her? Well, look at it this way: You were
attracted to her for some reason; try to figure out what it was and
put some type of value on it. For instance, if all you think that you
want is a quick, one-night stand, then you might just take her out to
an average bar for a drink, then back to your place (or her place).
Of course, most every man probably wishes that it was this easy all
the time. But, if youre going for the cream of the crop (or an
above-average woman), then you probably should take a little bit
more time with her before jumping her bones.

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(B)

How much money do I have to spend?

Here again, if youre looking at a one-night stand, then youre

probably not going to spend a fortune. If you think she is the
materialistic type and wants the best of everything, be prepared if
you want to meet her expectations.
After youve determined these two things, lets look at some of the
possibilities.
Lets say the woman you selected is someone you would like to
continue to see (at least at this point), and you dont have a lot of
cash to spend. First, try to find out a few of her interests. What
does she like to do on dates? Women usually like to have a chance
to talk and get a feel for what your personality is like. Dont panic.
Some men and women get so tied up in worrying about whether or
not someone will like them that it can sometimes ruin the entire
date. Just relax. You can ease the first date tension by taking her
to the right place.
Most towns of at least intermediate size have a comedy club. If
there isnt one in your town, then find out where the closest one is.
The cost is not much, typically about $8.00 to $12.00 per person.
Usually there is also a two drink minimum per person. Each area is
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Taking her to a comedy club will tell you a lot about her sense of
humor. This will tell you a great deal about her personality. Notice
which jokes she laughs at. Maybe she finds that the sarcastic jokes
are funnier than the others. Not only does the atmosphere of a
comedy club tell you about her sense of humor, but its a very
relaxed, easygoing, setting for the both of you to get to know each
other. This is definitely one of my top choices for where to take a
woman on the first date.
Another place to take a woman for a first date is an amusement
park. These are usually found in or near most towns. If there isnt
one in your town, find out where the closest one is, even if you
have to drive a long distance. By amusement park, I mean a place
that has a roller coaster and other rides, or else a fun park that
has water or snow slides. This is another kind of environment that
will take the off the pressure of first date jitters.
The local roller skating or ice skating rink is always a possibility.
Its cheap and fun if youre into this type of thing. With the
popularity of the new in-line skates, you may be pleasantly
surprised to find that she owns a pair. This is another nonthreatening atmosphere, where the edge or tension is somewhat
relieved when you are on that first date.
You could also take her horseback riding through the mountains or
the plains or the swamp, depending on where you live. Take
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along a bottle of wine or champagne and surprise her while out

riding. This one has worked for me on several occasions. (Dont
EVER buy the cheap sparkling wine or champagne)
Just try to remember this: The atmosphere that you put yourself in
on a first date could very well determine how far youll get with
that woman in the future. No matter where you go, keep this in
mind. Take her to a fun place or a place that doesnt make her feel
obligated or threatened in any way. And remember these three
things: relax, have fun, and be yourself.
Trivia
Physically speaking, what things attract women to men?
One hundred women were asked the question: What is the first
thing that attracts you in a mans looks? The answers were quite
interesting.
The most common answer was the mans butt. The second most
popular answer was a mans eyes. And the third was a mans build
and overall appearance. This may be useful for you to know, just
as general information. The more you know, the better your
advantage is over other men. So when working out at the gym,
remember: Work those gluteus muscles!

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Heres another tip when honing in on a woman. Lets say that

you go to the same grocery store just about the same time, twice a
week, to get your fruit and vegetables. Just about every time you
go in there, you see the same beautiful blonde shopping. One of
my strategies for this type of situation would be to take it slow.
The fist time you approach her, you might ask her to recommend a
certain spice to use for your spaghetti or chili. Then the second
time you run into her, you might ask what vegetables to use to
compliment a certain dish, or what wine would go with a certain
dish. The third time you see her, ask her if shed like to join you
for dinner; youre making your secret veal recipe. Or you might
tell her that the spices she recommended turned out to be perfect
when you blended them with your existing recipe. Tell her youd
love to make it for her. Try to be sincere about this, even though
you may not be a great cook. Tell her to bring the Tasters Choice.
Try to be considerate of her feelings. Usually, women have more
sensitive feelings than men do, so try to keep this in mind as much
as possible. For example, when greeting her at anytime, give her a
little hug and tell her that its good to see her. Women like that.
Another tip that I cant stress enough is: Dont ever talk about your
past relationships (or your ex-wife) on the first date or early in a
new relationship. This will surely bring things to a halt before they
even get started.

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Keep your conversations in an upbeat mode, keeping things

positive. Make her feel that nothing else matters to you but her. For
example, if youve got a wooden leg, or a glass eye, you probably
wouldnt tell her on the first date. Wait until the timing is right.
Keep the unusual things for later, or after youve really gotten to
know her. Try to stay away from subjects like abortion and politics
on the first few dates. Try to be aware of her reactions when you
are talking to her. This allows you to determine some of her likes
and dislikes.
Hold on loosely
Once you have gotten the woman you want, you must never be too
possessive of her. Almost all women hate that possessiveness BS,
and personally I do, too. If you really do like this woman and plan
to keep her, you must hold on loosely, and by all means, give her
the space that she needs.
Again, the most valuable tip I can give is this: JUST BE
YOURSELF. Relax and have a good time. Remember, you only
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PLACES TO MEET WOMEN
Get to know your environment. If youre looking for a wealthy and
sophisticated woman, then youre probably not going to find her
by looking on skid row or picking through a dumpster. You
probably have some type of mental picture of what type of woman
youre looking for. Try to categorize her in the sense that would
put her in similar places or situations that you might find yourself
in. In other words, if you want a woman that keeps in shape, then
go to the gym to find her.
The night clubs arent always the best places to meet women. As a
matter of fact, it really isnt one of my top suggestions at all. The
direction that I have taken in recent years is to join different types
of classes. You can take classes in such things as:

Aerobics

Self Defense, Karate, Judo

Acting or Drama

Yoga

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Massage

Dance

Photography

Art or Sculpture

Ceramics

Ive found that joining these cultural types of classes can be both
educational and fun. And theyre a great way to meet women.
Some of these classes are free, others may cost money. Regardless, its well worth your while. Remember: Try to stick with the
classes where the women outnumber the men. You can usually
find these kinds of classes at your local community college or at
private schools. The private schools are usually more expensive.
Some of the physically-oriented classes may be offered by your
own gym or health club. The aerobic classes are a prime example
of a place where women outnumber the men. Aerobics classes are
also a great way to keep yourself toned as an alternative to some of
the weight training exercises. (Mix it up, work the weights one day
and work on aerobics the next.)
Maybe taking classes isnt your style. Then join some type of
team: softball, baseball, bowling, soccer, etc. Or perhaps youre
not cut out for intense physical wear. Volunteer yourself to coach
some type of team (something you have experience in) such as
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that hang around these kinds of sports, no matter how young or

how old the players are.
Also remember that there are lots of single moms out there. Once
the word gets out that youre single, look out! An example of this
single mom thing happened to a friend of mine. He had recently
divorced his wife. They had one child from the marriage. Two
days during the week, the father would drop off and pick up the
child at the day care facility. The other days the mother would pick
up the child. A couple months went by and some of the women at
the day care center would ask him about the arrangements that he
and his ex-wife had. He explained that they had recently finalized
the divorce and that they were sharing custody of the child. That
was all it tookgetting out the word that he was single. My friend
didnt even realize what happened until he went out with two or
three of the single moms. He told me that some of these women
would even ask the girls at the day care if they could drop some
hints to ask them out on dates. You see, in some situations, you
have to put out the word that you are, in fact, very single.
Some of the other examples of possibilities to meet women are:
Coed gyms
This goes without saying. What better place to find a woman who
cares about her looks? Most gyms today are coed. Just make sure
that the one you join has lots of women.
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The perfume counter at major department stores

Have you really looked at some of the women who work in the
cosmetics department of some of these stores? A majority of the
ones Ive seen are positively beautiful. Its part of their jobto
look beautiful. Simply approach them when they dont seem to be
busy and say something like this: Its my sisters birthday and I
was wondering if you might have any suggestions for a gift? Then
compliment her on how nice she smells or tell her how much you
like her earrings. Then, maybe come back the next day and ask her
for a date.
Grocery stores
This is where I do most of my shopping for food and women.
Grocery stores are an example of a non-threatening atmosphere.
Women in grocery stores dont usually expect to be hit on. Be
tactful in your approach. Keep your conversations oriented toward
cooking and ask her advice on certain recipes. This type of
conversation will definitely help break the ice.
Museums
This is also a great place to meet women. Museums are very
popular with the ladies, especially women that are looking for the
upper class type man, a man who appreciates the historical and
educational things in life.

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Tanning salons
You can always meet beautiful women at tanning salons. Some of
the women who use these places are models or dancers. Great
success stories can be told here.
Seminars
Attend special interest seminars that involve more women than
men. Check your local newspaper for a seminar that might fit this
category.
The malls
A virtual cavalcade of women, the mall is always very heavily
populated with women of all shapes and sizes. Simply ask a pretty
woman for directions to a particular store. You can also ask her for
advice on what would be a good gift for your sister. Be creative
with your approach.
Major department stores
Women frequent the department stores a lot more often than men
do. This is an excellent place to meet all sorts of women. In fact, if
youve got the time and energy and are the adventurous type, get a
part-time job there. Simply approach the woman that youd like to
meet and tell her that she looks like she has the same taste in
clothing as your sister. Tell her that you are looking to buy a dress
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something out. I have a friend that has tried this technique before
and hes actually gotten women to try dresses on for him.
Art galleries
I have met several women in art galleries. Simply glance over at
the painting that shes admiring and make a few comments on it.
For instance, tell her you like the color combinations that the
painter uses or that you like the artists style.
Enrolling in a bartenders school
Another great idea on where to meet lots of women was passed on
by a good friend of mine, whos not the most attractive looking
man in the world. He enrolled himself in a Bartenders School for
training as a bartender. He did this even though he didnt need a
job. He thought it would be a great way to meet women. Not only
did he meet women at the Bartenders School, he ended up getting a
part time job at one of the local bars and now he introduces me to
women.
Golf lessons
If you like golf, go to the local golf courses and ask the instructors
there what the ratio is of men to women. The majority of the time
you will find there are far more women taking lessons than men,
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Companion columns
Newspapers and local magazines have 900 numbers set up for
people to place or respond to ads. If you place the ad, its usually
free. However, to retrieve your responses, you may have to call a
900 number. To respond to a listing is even easier. All you do is
dial the phone number and the listings extension, leave a message
and pay your phone bill. When she returns you call, you should
talk briefly and set up a rendezvous in a public place. Why a public
place? Because you can get a visual on her physical appearance
before you commit yourself to a face-to-face. (Some people can
be deceiving when describing themselves over the phone or with
touched up photos.) This way you can escape, if necessary, without
wasting too much time if you see that shes not suitable for you.
Last but not least, dating services
Dating services arent for everyone. But, if you need something to
get you going, to get you out of a rut and back into the swing of
things, then this could be an option for you. Unfortunately, these
services arent freeand theyre not cheap, especially for men. If
you do decide to go this route, make sure to check the lists of
dateable women. Sometimes these services have a large selection
of women; however, they may all be quite a bit older than youre
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The main thing to keep in mind is that you just need to get out
there. Then you will find beautiful women everywhere. So figure
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8.
TECHNIQUES
First of all, you need a plan or a strategy before you can determine
which direction youd like to be headed. Get out your list of things
that you are looking for in a woman. Then summarize the type of
woman you want. Again, I will use this example: If its a woman
who likes to keep herself in shape, then youll probably have the
best chances and selection at a health club. Once youve made your
determination of what type of woman youre looking for, put
yourself in the appropriate atmosphere: health club, grocery store,
department store, etc.
Next, you must initiate the conversation. If you wait for her to say
something first, it may never happen. So, I suggest that you make
the first move. What you say will sometimes depend on where you
are. If you are in the grocery store (weve talked a little about that),
the conversation might start out with which type of potatoes should
you use with this T-bone steak, or what kind of seasonings will
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Openers at the health club may go something like this: Ask her:
How did you get your thigh muscles toned so wellin aerobics?
Ive been thinking about taking an aerobics class. Which one do
you think I should start with? This will definitely get her talking.
Remember this when you cant think of anything to say: Just start
asking simple questions. These could be about anything, such as
the weather, the time of day, where she bought something, what
she does for jock itch (just kidding), etc.
Most questions require some type of answer. Obviously this is one
of the best ways to get her talking.
Another way to initiate a conversation is to simply say, Hi, hows
your day going? Give her a compliment on how nice her clothes
are, or that you like her shoes, etc.
Using the clich
My theory on clichs is that most women still respond to them (if
tactfully delivered, of course). Remember the old clich: Havent I
seen you somewhere before? Instead, you might say: Didnt I
marry you somewhere before? Women like it when men are
creative and humorous. I have a friend that uses clichs and is
constantly having success meeting women. The only thing he does
differently is that he substitutes some of the words from the
standard phrase with his own. Instead of, We could make
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beautiful music together, he would say, We could make beautiful

pasta together. Believe it or not, he picked up a very beautiful
woman with that very line. (I was there.) When using a clich,
spice it up with your own imagination.
Dont be boring
Ive sat and watched some of the most glamorous people in
Hollywood carry on the most dull, boring and pathetic lives that
Ive ever witnessed. Some of them are so caught up in talking
about themselves that they dont know the first thing about having
fun. These are people who drive Ferraris, have millions of dollars,
and act as if they are the talk of the town. Unfortunately, having all
the money in the world wont do you any good if youre a dull,
boring putz. They never seem to live life happily (or to its fullest).
To most of the women I know, boring people, no matter how rich
they are, are a turn off. Personally, these people bore the hell out of
me. Eventually, everyone gets tired of boring people (except other
boring people, of course).
Ive found that taking a woman to lunch is a somewhat innocent,
non-threatening way of gradually working your way up to
spending more time with her.
Conversation pieces
Wearing conversation pieces (jewelry, etc.), can be a magnet for
women to notice you. Occasionally, Ill wear a pin on the lapel of
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my sport coat, one of several different kinds, such as a diamond

studded star, a gold and onyx bolt of lightning, a silver and
diamond machine gun. Of course, you dont have to go out and
spend a fortune on the real thing. The point is, give her a reason to
come to you. If she sees this diamond glaring in her eye across the
room, then this could be just the added edge that you need to meet
her.
Conversation pieces can also come in the form of a tie, a pair of
lizard boots, or a hat. Or, it could be a different category such as a
car or a boat.
Subtle persistence
This is one of my favorite techniques. By subtle persistence, I
mean that, if you are in a singles bar and women are walking by
you, act like youre not paying attention to them. Obviously your
basic instinct is to look at a beautiful woman. Well, this is perfectly
natural. But, thats just what most women expect you to do. You
shouldnt conform to what everyone else is doing. Pretending not
to pay attention to her is one technique that has worked for my
friends and me. Women seem to like this subtle approach.
So dont come off like a vulture. Set yourself apart from the other
dribbling slobs. Just kick back and let her eyeball you. If shes
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she will try to cross paths with you. When she does, smile at her
and ask to buy her a drink.
When most women go out to the clubs, their idea of having fun is
dancing and partying with their girlfriends. They, like anybody
else, want to escape from the realities of life and get away from the
daily pressures. So be subtle and relaxed when approaching these
beauties. Personally, I highly recommend this approach if you
think that this may be your dream girl.
Throwing out signals is very important
Probably the most simple signal to use is your smile (Or in Bruce
Willis casethe smirk). The smile can be very effective when
used at the right time. When she returns the smile, youve made the
initial move. The second move would then be to go over and say
hello and give her a compliment of some sort.
Other types of signal can come in the form of using body language.
An obvious gesture is to wink at her, but the only time that I might
use the wink is when Ive seen the woman before and I know that
Ill probably see her again (possibly at the grocery store). So when
either of us is leaving, I might make some casual eye contact, and
give her a brief wink and smile. The next time I see her, she might
be a little more responsive toward me and shell probably get the
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Some other obvious body language signals may come in the form of
licking your lips, blowing her a kiss, or rolling up you shirt sleeves.
(Rolling up your shirt sleeves is supposed to imply that youre ready
for some action, like a rooster that ruffles his feathers.)
Playing the odds
Try this: Each day, approach a woman and ask her for a date, or at
least try to let her know that you exist. Dont be discouraged if you
get turned down a few times. Play the odds. No matter who you
are, this technique always seems to work.
Compliment her
I dont care who she is or where she comes from, all women love
compliments. This is especially true if the compliment that you
give her sounds sincere. Thats a nice dress, babe. Your hair
looks great tonight. You smell good enough to eat. Use your
imagination, but try to be as honest as possible.
When youre out driving
This happens to me almost every day: Im out driving in my car, I
glance over to the car next to me, and there she is, another
beautiful woman. How does one approach such a situation. Well,
one way is to motion for her to roll down her window. Then, ask
her for a direction to a bar that you know is close by. Next, thank
her and ask her if shed like to join you there for a drink. My
success rate with this one is about 50%.
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Here is another technique that has worked well for a friend of

mine. He bought one of those devices that is similar to a flip chart
with a couple of suction cups that go on the car window, and a
remote switch. This thing spells out certain phrases and allows you
to display them from the car window. When you are stuck in
traffic, either on the freeway or at a traffic light, just use a phrase
that she can answer with either yes or no. For example, Im
headed to happy hour, why dont you join me? This technique
may not be for everybody, but if you want to take advantage of
every opportunity, give it a try. Just a word of caution on picking
up women that are driving in cars. On a couple of different
occasions, the women that looked excellent while seated in the car,
certainly looked different when they stepped out. That pretty little
innocent face was supported by a cross between a gorilla and a
giant bowling pin. Just look as closely as you can, or take a chance.
When you finally do find your woman, take an interest in some of
the things she finds interesting.
No, Im not talking about wearing a dress or going to a baby
shower. For instance, if shes interested in art, keep an eye open
for art exhibits. Check your local newspaper or call the art galleries
in your area for information. She may be interested in horses. If so,
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might start to like some of these things.
Give her the space she needs
Try not to interfere with any of her usual everyday activities. Try
to respect her space. For instance, if she works out at the health
club every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, then be considerate of
her schedule. Encourage her to do things on her own or with her
friends. Dont ever give her that tied-down feeling. If you want to
lose a beautiful woman real fast, all you have to do is give her that
smothered feeling and shell be out the door.
Buy her things
This is a sure fire way to show her that you like her. You dont
have to spend a fortune. Sometimes just a flower or a box of her
favorite candy will do. Women love surprises, no matter how small
they are.
Take her places
One of womens biggest complaints about being in a relationship is
that men dont take them out often enough. Mix it up a bit. One
night you can take her to the movies; the next time, take her out
dancing. Have her bring some of her friends along. Most women
like it when you ask them to include their friends. If you dont
have a big budget for all this gallivanting, than just take her to the
beach for a walk, or a drive to the mountains, or up to a nearby
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lake. Consult your local newspaper for the freebies (the events
around your town that dont cost anything). Theres always
something happening somewhere, so keep informed.
Strength in numbers
The next time you go out to a night club looking for women, take
along a few of your friends. Theres something about the strength
in numbers game. It seems to give everyones confidence a boost.
Dont forget
Women like to be told how beautiful they look. So once in a while,
let her know that you realize thisby telling her!
All techniques require practice, so dont expect miracles overnight.
If you start to get discouraged, just remember this: Forget about the
obstacles and focus on the light at the end of the tunnel.
Worrying about rejection and all the other negatives is for the other
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9.
HEALTH TIPS
SEXUALLY SPEAKING:
Always try to urinate directly after having sex. This will help
prevent (to a certain extent) some of the less severe communicable
diseases. Preventative maintenance is the objective.
Never have oral sex with a woman when her private parts smell
like a dumpster.
When first having sex with your woman, always try to do a visual
on her private parts before you indulge. You can never tell these
days and you can never be too careful.
I try to use a condom as often as possible. Unfortunately, in my
business, I cant always do this. I highly recommend using them.
There are several different types: studded, ribbed, French ticklers,
lambskin, and latex. Some women dont like condoms. Use your

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judgment. When using lubricants with a condom, check to be sure

the lubricant will not affect or harm the integrity of the condom.
There are also various different types of disinfectant lubricants
available today. Ask your doctor for his advice on whether or not
these products could be effective for you. Ive used these
lubricants on occasion for women that want anal sex.
Try to get regular physical checkups from your doctor. Get a
periodic AIDS test. (I get tested for AIDS twice a month.) Consult
your doctor for the needed frequency of these tests. Also, get the
recommendation of a competent laboratory for the results (there
are a lot of misdiagnosed cases each month). Make sure that your
doctor knows that you are very sexually active so he can check
specifically for possible sexually transmitted diseases.
I dont want to scare you, but no matter how good she looks or
smells, you never can tell just by looking at her, whether or not
shes got some sort of sexually transmitted disease.
Until you are really settled in with a woman and feel really
comfortable with her, I suggest that you use a condom. Its better
to be safe than sorry, especially when sorry can mean your life.
The best health tip I can suggest is that you keep yourself in the
best shape you can and eat well. See your doctor every six months
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or so (whether you need to or not). If you have sex with multiple

partners, then see your doctor more often to check for diseases.
In general, just eat right, exercise, and practice good hygiene.
Dont wear someone elses clothes. When youre at the gym, use
your own towel. While youre working out at the gym, use a towel
to protect yourself by placing it between you and the machine.
If you have several girlfriends and they are having a lot of sex with
others, try to be aware of their outside sexual activity. Again, I
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10.
LOVE MAKING TIPS
Before you actually get down to the act of making love with a
woman, you must try to make her want you just as much as you
want her. This process requires what I call the preliminary
foreplay. Preliminary foreplay is the caressing, licking and
touching that you get into before you proceed to oral sex and actual
sexual intercourse.
Women can get turned on by being touched in the strangest places.
I am not one to brag, but I have touched and licked many, many
women in many, many places. Its funny, but if you put your
tongue in the right place, you can render a woman almost helpless
or make her scream with passion and desire.
It seems like no two women are the same. I have found that some
women like to be licked on the back of their neck and other women
like it on the back of their elbow or upper arm. Even holding a
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hug with a casual kiss on the neck works great with some women.
You simply get used to what each of your women like.
I recently met a gorgeous brunette at the health club near where I
live. When I took her out for the first time, I just couldnt seem to
find her get her in the mood spot. After twenty minutes or so, I
was almost ready to give up and just start humping on her. Just
then, I hit it. She let out a sign of relief as she told me I was
sending a shiver up her spine. I was licking on the top of her left
back shoulder with circular motions. That was her spot! So dont
give up so easily. Every woman has one. Sometimes though, if you
are unable to locate it, you should back off. Her interest could
change into annoyance, leaving her to believe that you just arent
going to be able to fulfill her needs. If this is the case, she isnt
very likely to give you another chance! This is the difference
between being a gentleman and youre rushing it, buddy!
Next, comes foreplay. There are several different types of foreplay
that can be used to help heat up the period before the actual act of
sexual inter-course. Some people are into whips and chains, some
are into wearing handcuffsthe list can go on and on.
The main thing to remember is that you must satisfy each other. I try
new things all the time. Most women like a man whos sexually
adventurous. Even finding unusual places to have sex can be a form
of foreplay. A simple foreplay technique, for use while in the
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bedroom, is to stand together fully clothed. Hold and kiss each

other. Massage her back and buttocks. Slowly, move your hand up
to the back of her neck. Caress her neck while kissing her
passionately, then move your hands back down to her buttocks,
squeezing it.
If she is wearing a dress, move your hands up under her dress and
into her panties (if shes wearing any). Slowly remove her panties,
ease her down on the bed on her back and spread her legs apart.
Sometimes I will start to lick at the inside of her knee, then move
slowly down toward her pussy.
Remember to take your time. Slowly work your way to her inner
thigh, kissing and licking all the way to her inferno of love. Once
you get to her vagina, dont just stick your tongue in, tease her a
little. Put your tongue all around the outside of it without actually
touching the clitoris. (For those of you who arent familiar with the
location of the clitoris, its located right at the top of her love
mound.) Then, when it seems like shes all but begging you to eat
her, start to lick her clitoris slow and soft, then intensify it faster.
Try to use the tip of your tongue. Shes probably almost in heat
at this time, so you should continue sucking on her clitorislightly
at first, then harder.
At this point, you should help her remove her dress and your pants.
When youre both naked on the bed, you can move your penis
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toward her mouth, where shell start to give you head. You can
then either move into a sixty-nine position or watch her go down
on you. This is only one example of the countless combinations of
foreplay that you can try. Use your imagination and always try new
things.
If you think that they may help stimulate your imagination, there
are guides and manuals that are available for different types of
foreplay. Many of these guides are rather formula, making the
whole effort seem sterile. To be a good lover, you need to
improvise and add some humor. The main thing is to remember
that, when youre engaging in foreplay, keep it alive.
My view on the situation is that, usually at the start of each
relationship, both the man and the woman are very intrigued with
each others bodies. Their sexual excitement is at its peak. As time
goes on in the relationship, things can seem to fall into a routine
sexually speaking. When this starts to happen, you might want to
look at some options:
Go out and buy her some real sexy lingerie and give it to her as a
surprise. I dont know of any woman that wouldnt love to get
lingerie as a gift.
The use of oils and creams for massaging each other can help
stimulate some new possibilities for sex.
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There are a number of various edible gels and lotions that can be
applied to each others bodiesthen licked or eaten off.
Body paint is another interesting way to explore each others
bodies one step farther.
Dildos can add an interesting new element to a sexual downswing.
Some women like the idea of a dildo or sex toys, some dont. I
suggest that you talk this over with your partner before you spend
big money on a turbo-charged unit.
Oral sex with ice cubes can be fun. Have your partner place a
couple of ice cubes in her mouth while she gives you head. The
same works for her. Just put some ice cubes or crushed ice in your
mouth and start having oral sex with her. Put the ice in and out of
her muff and around the clitoris. I suggest that you dont surprise
her with this one! You had better talk to her about it before you do
it, because you could end up with a slightly crushed skull.
There are a few different types of sex games out on the market.
These are the spin the bottle or roll the dice type games. One such
game entails drawing cards, which tell you what you have to do to
the other person. For example, kiss them in an unusual place, etc.
(You can usually find these kinds of games and unusual items at
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I could go on and on about different ways to put more spark into

your sex life, but all you have to do is to remember to use your
imagination. If your imagination isnt working, talk to others for
ideas, or buy some sex manuals.
As far as sexual positions go, there are literally hundreds of
possibilities. Just about any sex position can be achieved if youve
got good agility. There are books available on sexual positions.
They recommend some of the most popular and widely used
positions. This can be a good reference guide if you want to
explore some new ideas.
One of the sexual techniques that I like to use is having sexual
intercourse in the doggie style position. Start with nice slow
strokes, with about 3/4 penetration, gradually picking up the pace.
When youve got her groaning a little, start to back off by slowly
pushing it all the way in her. Then, very slowly draw it out. Next,
just give her the tip with fast in and out motions. Then, give her
everything youve got for a couple of minutes; then, slow it down
again. This one drives women crazy. I call this the tease her than
slam her technique.
Another technique that I like utilizes the missionary position. You
start by pumping her with full penetration, but at half speed. Then,
pump inside of her in different directions. For example, instead of
going straight up her vagina, just pump one stroke up inside of her
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and the next stroke to the left and then to the right. Try it, shell
like it!
One technique that makes women go crazy for the magician with
a smaller magic wand, is to lay your woman on her stomach with
her legs spread wide enough for your unit to penetrate about an
inch or so. The key here is to make sure her legs are close enough
so you cannot enter her entirelyjust the tip. Most of her sensitive
areas are located where you will be stimulating, plus your weight
against her rear moves the neglected top side of her womb into
play. This will give her even more areas of contact. Be careful not
to crush her or all your efforts will be in vain. Now, all you have to
do is hang on with one hand and make sure your unit stays in play
with the other while your lover gives you a rodeo ride! You wont
see this in the movies too often for two reasons: (1) the general
public believes a man should have a big tool (which is hog shit),
and (2) because its a very difficult position for the camera to shoot.
Many people ask how and why I ejaculate so much cum. They
have speculated that my loads are exaggerated by special effects,
such as squirt guns filled with water and egg whites. This was
relayed to me by Tammy, the lady who is president of the Peter
North Fan Club. (By the way, Tammy is a real babe and kind of
shy. Im trying to get her to do a centerfold-style video.) Wellthe
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healthfullyand still do. A good consistent carbohydrate diet

seems to improve the amount of semen that I can ejaculate. Lower
body exercises also seem to help me hold back until the timing is
right for the explosion.
One tip that I cant stress enough is: Always have proper
lubrication when having intercourse. Sometimes a woman can be
very horny but still not produce enough lubrication to make a go of
it. There are a few good lubricants on the market; however, I can
only recommend one called Astroglide. This stuff is
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11.
PETER NORTHS ADVICE
Look, gentlemen, life is too serious to take seriously. I dont know
which wise man said that, but remember it to your grave. Just
relax. Live your life one day at a time and to its fullest. Let the
other guy worry about stress and anxiety.
Always remember this: Women are never free. Theres a cost for
everything thats worthwhile in life. The better the quality, the
higher the cost. Remember the old saying, You get what you pay
for. When I refer to cost, I dont necessarily mean money. I
mean it could be time, it could be effort, etc.
If you havent gone out with a woman for a long time, try this.
Approach a below-average type looking woman, a woman that
may not get as much attention as some of the prettier women get.
Try to compare yourself to her. (On a scale of one to 10, if you
think youre a 7, then she should be a 5.) This will help you ease
into the dating scene. The more average looking she is, the less the
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beautiful that the woman is, the more competition you have to deal
withand this creates pressure. You especially dont need this
kind of pressure when youre just getting into the dating scene.
After you get to know this woman, if you choose, you can simply
tell her that you want to start dating other women. Its called
moving up the ladder.
When thinking about getting laid, think about it in this way: Look
at everything on an ultimate level. For example, evaluate it in this
wayno man is better than another (each is considered equal).
What matters is your attitude. We are all expendable and,
ultimately, some day we all will die.
So, you have to grit your teeth and go for the best that you can get.
Instead of asking the average, ordinary, woman to dance, or to let
you buy her a drink, ask the most beautiful woman in the bar.
Youll be surprised at how many will say Yes.
On that note, I want to share a tip from a DJ friend of mine. I have
yet to prove him wrong. He suggests that, if you like the night club
scene, get there early, especially if youre not a regular at the bar.
This way you can ask the women that are there to dance before the
energy of the club gets intense. Even if there arent any women
youd like to leave with, get up to dance. This is a trick that he
learned from a hooker that used to come into his club. She said that
she did it to get floor exposure.
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It works because you are advertising some strong messages by

doing this. If you dance with many women, others will look at you
and think, He must be a nice guy. It also works because you are
being seen with women. In this case, you dont actually have to be
dancing. Have you ever heard guys complaining about how the
best women seem to be interested in them when theyre with other
women, perhaps on a date? Out of respect for the women that
theyre with; these guys dont pursue the best women. This is
admirable when youre on a date, but in your situation, you dont
have the same obligations as those guys do. You didnt bring an
anchor and your objective at this time is only to be seen with
women. As the night goes on, you will have developed a few
friendships that allow you to make return visits throughout the
evening. This way you move about socializing and dancing until
you reach the babe youd like to meet. By doing this, youve also
developed a perceived value by women who have observed you.
Women like men that appear to be wanted by others, and they like
to be seen with these guys! Now that you are so damn popular, you
dog, you must practice leaving acquaintances without implied
obligations or rudeness. This takes practice, indeed, because you
dont want to get a lousy reputation before you deserve one!
The one thing that you should always remember is that you must
be patient. Dont be tactless and mount the first woman that you
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for the woman that you want. Carefully scan the area and pick out
a few prospects.
When some women start to get comfortable in a relationship, they
start to let themselves go. They might put on weight, stop working
out, or lose interest in the way they look. To help prevent this from
happening, I suggest that you project an element of mystery in the
relationship. For example, try to avoid telling her too much about
yourself. Avoid telling her how much she means to you, even if
you think she is the best woman on the planet. Sure, you can give
her a compliment once in a while, but dont overdo it.
Most importantly, leave this I love you phrase for after the
wedding. More often than not, when you mention the words I
love you to a woman, she feels that shes finally got you. So be
very careful on your timing before deciding to utter those words.
This isnt true with every woman. But be careful about how you
use that four-letter L-word.
Play it cool hints

Never repeat yourself when speaking, unless someone asks

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When entering a night club, dont slobber over the first

woman you see. Scope out the entire situation before
making a move on a particular woman.

Never seem overly anxious about anything, anywhere.

No matter how bad things may seem, always stay relaxed.

It does you absolutely no good to panic or worry.

Never scam on a woman thats with her boyfriend. This

shows an incredible amount of bad taste, and no class
whatsoever. Should she make a pass at you, get her number
discretely. In this situation, never give out your number.
Some women get off by watching their boyfriends make
ground hamburger out of your face.

Never ask a woman: Whats your sign? Never!

Try to avoid talking about yourself as much as possible.

Take any of her questions and turn them around toward her
because she might be trying to tell you what she wants to
talk about.

Look, you were born into this world alone, and when you
die, you leave it alone. Nobody is going to take you by the

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hand and do things for you. Ultimately, you are the person
that has to make it happen. Sodo it!

Dont get caught in bed with a married woman.

Remember the famous old Clint Eastwood saying: A man has got
to know his limitations.
And, my last bit of advice: Dont take it personally if she turns you
down. When a woman turns you down, dont even let it phase you.
In fact, act like you couldnt care less, smile and walk away. You
might even throw her a compliment as youre walking away; tell
her that you like her dress or the way her hair looks. Dont ever
worry about hurting your ego.
Again, remember this: There is someone for everybodya woman
for every man and a man for every woman. Statistically speaking,
there are far more women on this planet than men. So, take your
time and make sure that you find the right one (or two, or three).
Have a great life!

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Cover photo shoot in Newport Beach, CA

Book cover out take Newport Beach, CA

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Book cover shoot Newport Beach (subject holding prototype book)

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Signing at the Los Angeles Convention Center in 1996

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Taylor Hayes & Peter at the LA Convention Center in 1996

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Tyffany Minx, Peter North, and Taylor Hayes at the Los Angeles
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Tyffany Minx 1996 LA Convention Center

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Peter North Las Vegas AVN Convention 1997

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Christy Canyon and Peter North Las Vegas AVN Convention 1997

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