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    The document discusses various theories and research on love. It addresses how we fall in love by idealizing characteristics of the loved one, whether real or not. Research found that men fall in love more quickly while women more often end relationships. Men also tend to overestimate their own attractiveness while women underestimate unless rating men very high. The document outlines different types of love and factors for successful relationships like trust, caring, respect and responsibility. It explores chemical changes involved in infatuation and attachment as well as Sternberg's triangular theory of love. Finally, it notes that the partner least invested has most power and common reasons for breakups are jealousy and excessive dependency.

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    Love
    How do we fall in love? (Kemper & Bologh, 1980)
    We fall in love with a preconceived ideal
    We attribute our ideal characteristics to the loved one, whether or not the person actually has them
    After we fall in love, we idealize the characteristics of the loved one, and this becomes the basis for our ideal
    Love and Gender (J. Soc Issues, 1985)
    -In college men and women
    Who falls in love more quickly? MEN
    Who breaks up relationships? WOMEN
    Desirability by Gender (U of N.Mexico, 1999)
    -Who believes themselves to be more desirable to others?
    Women in general underestimated their own attractiveness, with the exception of the condition when women
    estimated mens attractiveness as very high .
    Men consistently overestimated their own attractiveness, regardless of the rating they gave women
    Types of Love Eric Fromm
    Brotherly non-sexual, non-erotic, just a love of another person.
    Parental Unconditionally, non-sexual
    Erotic sexual, intimacy, passion, etc.
    Self-love liking who you are. Am I a good person? Do I respect myself?
    God spirituality Non erotic, non sexual, love of worldly things like nature.
    Successful love relationship Eric Fromm
    Trust
    Caring
    Intimate knowledge
    Respect you have to respect your partner. Dont try to change them.
    Responsibility
    Ideas About Love
    Freud (psychoanalytic) all love is derived from sex, is always an expression of sexual desire
    Dorothy Tennov (humanist) . stage of limerance
    Chemical Changes
    -Limerance/Infatuation . increase in:
    dopamine
    norepinephrine
    testosterone
    -Attachment increase in:
    vasopressin
    oxytocin
    -Decrease in dopamine and norepinephrine
    Sternbergs Triangular Theory of Love
    P Passion
    I Intimacy
    C Commitment
    (SEE POWERPOINT SLIDES!)

    Power Within Relationships


    -Who has the most power in a relationship? The one who is least invested.
    Wallers Theory of Least Interest = They can treat you negatively, but you are invested more in them. So they
    have the power.
    Ending Relationships
    -The two most common reasons given for a breakup:
    Jealousy
    Excessive Dependency = you become the focus of their life. The person loses all their friends and focuses on
    you.

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