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Dick Sutphen - How To Fix Everything in Your Life at Once (Entire Book, 16 Chapters, 130 Pages) PDF
Dick Sutphen - How To Fix Everything in Your Life at Once (Entire Book, 16 Chapters, 130 Pages) PDF
Increase Energy
High energy is important to all self change. To begin, you must have enough energy
to care about making a change. Those who are always tired, lethargic or depressed
seldom have the energy or focus to act in their own behalf, which is essential to creating
your own reality. So energy is the logical place to begin a book about fixing your life.
Although we are all born with different energy levels, there are steps you can take to
assure that you are maximizing your energy potentials. As the following 24 points will
show, high energy results from factors we can avoid, dietary and supplement choices we
make, and lifestyle decisions about exercise and the way we spend our time. The first six
energy-increasing tips explore the primary energy robbers.
even further out. Then repeat the process. Several minutes of this deep breathing will
generate deep relaxation. In the future, remember to B-R-E-A-T-H-E!
7. Act Vigorous!
Long hours spent at your occupation or activities will cause fatigue, which is usually
noticed as a loss of focus. In most cases, instead of physical rest, your brain needs
physical stimulation to rejuvenate itself. And the best way to quickly increase energy
may be to act vigorous. The new psychotherapies claim behavior wags the tail of
feelings. In other words, you dont have to change your thinking to change your life, if
you are willing to change what you are doing. Act vigorous and youll soon begin to feel
vigorous.
blood sugar balanced. The idea of three square meals a day is not based upon dietary
wisdom, but was established to accommodate workers in an industrial age. If you eat a
series of mini-meals, each meal doesnt need to be balanced, but the total meals should
fulfill a nutritional balance. The idea is to spread out the same amount as you would eat
in three meals.
Eating mini-meals also keeps you from overeating at any one meal, which usually
results in an energy slump. The concept of five to seven mini-meals is also suggested as
a way to lose weight.
An excess of foods containing sugar and refined white flour will eventually rob you
of your health and energy. Replace red meat with fish, chicken and turkey, and only buy
meats that are hormone free and contain no nitrates. Both are believed to cause cancer.
Eat more vegetables, fruits and 100-percent whole-grain bread, cereal and pasta
products. And it goes without saying that you will be wise to stop smoking and
eliminate most alcohol.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how to
include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I awaken each morning enthusiastic about my day.
Every day I take time to stretch and exercise.
I always drink enough fluids to avoid becoming thirsty.
Nutritious healthy food now becomes my lifestyle.
When I want to be vigorous, I act vigorous.
Joy is always my best option.
I remember to breathe deeply.
I seek to associate with positive, happy, successful people.
I handle compulsive thoughts with positive programming.
I view everything that happens as an opportunity.
C H A P T E R
T W O
Boost Your
Brain Power
Within every normal human brain resides the potential for genius, waiting only for
its owner to discover and use it. However, we use only two to three percent of our
brains total capacity. Even the most generous estimate suggests that we use up to ten
percent. Think of what a two or three-percent increase might mean for you.
performance, learning, and brain function, as well as decreased depression and lowered
anxiety. Memory, attention span and motivation are also positively affected by exercise.
turmoil and anxiety decrease thinking ability. It may seem difficult to deliberately force
yourself not to worry, but worry is directly related to physical tension. Ease the tension
and your mind will follow. Soothing music, deep breathing, meditation, yoga, and
progressive relaxation training are useful to achieve a calm emotional state and reduce
mental clutter.
in extreme nervousness and irritability. A high level of zinc has been shown to have a
significant relationship to high academic grades in many recent studies of brain
function. Zinc deficiency can cause mental lethargy and apathy. And manganese
functions synergistically with the B vitamins to nourish the nerves and brain, aiding in
the transmission of neural messages.
the drink will affect the thermometer. Youll see a pattern of peaks and dips
corresponding to your mental performance pattern. Once you identify your personal
peak times, you can take full advantage of them.
mind and decrease productivity and efficiency. Learn to organize your surroundings.
Consider taking a course in organizing skills at a local college.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
Every day in every way my brain power increases.
My visualization and imagination skills get better by the day.
I regularly challenge and stimulate myself.
I keep my mind busy with imagination and spatial challenges.
I establish and sustain an effective program of mental rejuvenation.
Exercise and physical activity increases my intelligence and performance.
I eat a balanced diet.
I practice proper posture and feel better as a result.
I keep my mind like calm water.
I think clearly and act quickly and decisively.
I sleep soundly and awaken rejuvenated and ready to begin a new day.
I have the power and ability to focus my concentration at will.
I remain alert and focused upon what I am doing.
I now learn to think laterally.
I avoid or immediately resolve stressful situations.
Enhance
Self-Esteem
You create your reality with your beliefs, and it doesnt even matter if your beliefs
are true. If you believe something, it becomes true for you. Negative beliefs about selfesteem, body image, career, and romance will become true just as a positive belief will
also become true. What you call reality is what youve agreed reality to be for you. And
you can change it.
Self-esteem results from what you do in life. If you feel good about the way you
relate to others, and about your accomplishments, you already have high self-esteem.
The same is true in reverse. If you are not getting what you want, its time to work on
your self-esteem. From this day forward, never do anything that lowers your self-esteem.
Changing your self-image takes time. But once youve set it down as a clear goal
youre on your way and you can do it. The idea is to have patience and know that youll
get where you want to be.
The rational approach is to let others be right and see how much more often you win
the game. Be aware that the other guy is programmed to be right. He needs to be right.
And unless you allow him to be right, his survival is threatened and there will be
conflict. Maybe you can let him be right with a simple phrase such as, Yes, I
understand that. Often thats enough. His subconscious computer is no longer
threatened and he can then concentrate upon the issue. The key is to approach all
problems from the other persons vantage point.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I project a positive self-image.
I live authentically.
I do not take the opinions of others personally.
I am always aware that my thoughts are creating my reality.
I am clear on my intent to have the highest self-esteem.
I speak and act in ways that support my self-esteem.
I base my decisions upon rational thinking and not emotions.
Id rather win the game than get to be right.
I accept the experience of my emotions without being compelled to act.
I easily accept compliments.
I am compassionate towards myself.
Every day, in every way, I gain in self-esteem.
I support my self-esteem with daily programming.
I am very sure of myself.
I am self-reliant and self-confident.
I am filled with independence and determination.
C H A P T E R
F O U R
Maximize
Self-Discipline
Self-discipline isnt about self-denial or self-restrictions. In the context of success it
means self-determination. It is perseverance in action. Self-discipline is the very basis of
success because it is how you direct your time, energy and resources to manifest your
desires. Self-discipline is the one factor common to all self-made, successful people. In a
nutshell, self-discipline simply means that you do what you need to do, and you stop
doing what doesnt work.
If your lack of self-discipline causes you mental suffering, you are going to be stuck
with the pain unless you get stronger. You can build your strength by increasing your
willpower and generating high self-esteem. Build your willpower by practicing onepointedness, focusing only upon what you are doing and do one thing at a time until the
task is completed.
Actions influence attitude, and better behavior will increase your self-esteem. Exert
the willpower to make immediate changes in your behavior, and it will lead to a change
in attitude.
Your level of self-esteem is the result of what you have done in the past. When you
do things that make you feel good about yourself, you build your self-esteem. When you
do things you dont feel good about, you lower your self-esteem. As a basic rule of life,
never do anything that lowers your self-esteem.
inadequate, there is a payoff of some kind in it for you. Negative games are great
attention-getters. Another benefit of these games might be that they protect you from
blame. The number of games is infinite. There is the I cant find the right relationship
game. And the I can only attain a limited level of success game. Or, how about the
My relationship is miserable game?
Life is a game. Some people play it as a game of struggle, or sickness, or poverty, or
being right all the time. Others play the game of happiness, success and abundant
health. We are each playing a game we set up. And if your game is not bringing you
some kind of payoff, stop playing.
Often, there are hidden reasons why you procrastinate and end up feeling the need
to increase your self-discipline. Explore how you are served by not doing what you need
to do, when you need to do it. Maybe you fear success or fear failure, and by avoiding
the issue you dont have to cope with either. Maybe you experience anxiety about
starting or completing a task. Or maybe if you put things off somebody else will do it, or
maybe the avoid will keep you from being judged, or maybe you think everything
will eventually resolve itself. Start with any area where you feel you are lacking in selfdiscipline, and explore how it serves you to do what you do. Then design a
countermeasure, a change in behavior that will eliminate the problem.
As an example, my primary area of procrastination relates to returning phone calls. I
used to put them off for days, weeks, or forever. I lacked the self-discipline to return
almost all phone calls. Why? Because they take time away from my writing and I dislike
the small talk that is usually part of any call. When Im directly to the point, it often
alienates people who require social rapport. Now, in understanding why I lack the selfdiscipline to return calls I can either build the strength to stop procrastinating or find
another way of resolving the problem. In this case I chose to delegate the undesirable
task to my office staff. They now return 99 percent of my calls. My friends already know
I dont like to talk on the phone and are willing to communicate with my wife or
answering machine.
Discover ways to eliminate the problem; either a change in behavior or a change in
attitude can easily do the trick.
intellectual growth, recreation & leisure activities, home & material possessions, and
community or service involvements.
Your goals should consist of your primary short-term career goal, long-term career
goal, short and long-term personal goals, and relationship goals.
If your goals consist mainly of financial and career successes and your values are
primarily concerned with your spirituality, recreational and leisure activities, you may
be fooling yourself.
one generates the other in a continuous cycle of productivity and joy. You might have to
work a little longer at what you enjoy to earn what you need to hire someone else to do
what you dont enjoy. But wouldnt it be worth it?
4. How are you served by your lack of self-discipline? Explore any secret satisfaction
you may receive from not being fully in charge of your life.
5. Learn to control your thoughts.
6. Realize that no one is perfect.
7. Rise above the fear of success.
8. Understand and rise above three more fear blocks: the fear of failure, the fear of
being overwhelmed and the fear of finishing.
9. Examine your values and make sure they are compatible with your goals.
10. Clarify your values and goals.
11. Question yourself about your life desires.
12. Do only that which you enjoy.
13. Divide big jobs into workable steps which you take one step at a time.
14. Eliminate busy work.
15. Touch each paper only once.
16. Just beginone disciplined act leads to another.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I have the self-discipline to accomplish my personal and professional goals.
I direct my time and energy to manifest my desires.
Every day, in every way, I increase my self-discipline.
I do what I need to do and stop doing what doesnt work.
I can control my thoughts, and thus my actions.
I freely choose to do what I do.
I am assertive and feel good about myself.
I am clear on my values and willing to commit to my goals.
I do a job one step at a time until its done.
I live a directed life.
I only act in ways that build my self-esteem.
I take charge of my life and play the game of happiness, success and abundant health.
Success Opportunity is my technique to reverse the energy of my thoughts.
I have the courage to be afraid and act anyway.
I decide exactly what I want in life and I go for it.
I incorporate time management techniques into my life.
I spend my time in ways that support my goals.
I know that who I am is perfect.
C H A P T E R
F I V E
Reduce Stress
To reduce stress, you need to understand stress. Stress is the result of your
perception of events. It is indicated by how you react to situations. What is stressful to
you might not be stressful to someone else and vice versa. You are not born with more
or fewer stress-prone genes than other people. In the end, it all amounts to attitude.
Stress is being implicated in an ever-increasing number of serious health problems.
To learn how to unstress, you must understand how you wound up stressed in the first
place.
The moment we encounter a tension-producing situation, our body chemically
prepares to fight or flee. Your adrenal cortex secretes hormones which cause you to
tense up. Your blood pressure rises and blood sugar is released for energy. Extra oxygen
is delivered to your organs so you can use them in fighting off the danger. Clotting
agents are increased in your blood in case you are wounded in the fight. Cholesterol and
other fats are released to serve as a reserve energy supply. Many other biological
changes also take place, all of which will allow your body to remain ready for action for
the next two or three hours.
But of course you dont fight and you dont flee, and this Stone Age internal reaction,
originally meant to protect you, becomes a serious menace to your health. So what can
you do?
Well, you have a few options. You can keep the stress repressed and bottled up
inside you. Of course this is sure to result in frustration, ulcers and worse health
problems down the line. Or you can express your stress through sickness, apathy, anger,
drinking, drugs, overeating or in any number of other undesirable ways. Or you can get
rid of your stress according to a plan, and this chapter offers a complete stress reduction
plan.
Make a list of all the stress factors in your life, and if the cause isnt apparent,
attempt to find it. What causes you to be agitated? What makes you angry? What
frustrates you? When does that tension begin to creep in? Write down all the little things
that affect your well-being. You must first identify your stress buttons before you can
eliminate them.
If you become stressed every time you have a report or a deadline, maybe it goes
back to a childhood incident. It could be something remote. Perhaps your fourth-grade
teacher reprimanded and embarrassed you, which programmed an automatic anxiety
response you are still carrying. Take the time to stop and think about the reasons for
your anxiety. Sometimes just knowing the cause is enough to alleviate the effect.
produced them. Spend this time doing something that is relaxing, while also mentally
engaging. This will take your mind away from the stressful thoughts of the day.
research study of 592 type A people, every single one doubted their ability to perform
their duties well enough to warrant advancement in their company. If this describes
you, I suggest you read Chapter Three, Increase Self-Esteem.
10. Exercise!
Since stress prepares your body for intense muscular activity, exercise is a great way
to relieve built-up tension. The more aerobic the exercise the better. Vigorous daily
exercise increases levels of the neurotransmitters as well as endorphins, the bodys
natural opiates, and will make it easier for you to relax more completely. The oxygen
flooding through your system will help you detoxify more quickly and eliminate the
biological factors that prolong stress.
So, running, fast walking, swimming, cycling, calisthenics, and aerobic dancing are
especially recommended. When you include regular exercise as a part of your lifestyle, it
assists you to keep your stress level low enough to absorb ordinarily stressful situations
without affecting you. Obviously it is best not to take up competitive exercise such as
handball, tennis, or volleyball, as these may create other stressful situations.
your diet. For example, you can greatly reduce candida by eliminating sugar and dairy
products from your diet.
If you dont take vitamins, perhaps you should consider vitamin supplements. Most
health food stores carry anti-stress vitamin and mineral formulas that can be very
helpful. Some of the most important stress fighters are vitamin A, vitamin C, vitamin E,
the complete B complex, and panthenic acid, which is vitamin B-5. Most nutritionists
suggest using supplements, but you need expert advice, or you need to do your own
research before purchasing vitamins. Of course, obtain your doctors advice before
making any significant changes in your lifestyle.
what is, you are wasting your energy, because you want something, or somebody, to be
different than they are. It wont happen, so why become stressed about something you
cant change?
A problem does not have to be eliminated to be resolved. Often a better solution is a
change in viewpoint. When you are no longer affected by a problem, you no longer have
a problem, although nothing may have outwardly changed.
What other people say or do, other than physical violence, does not affect you. Only
what you think about what they say or do affects you. Why allow another persons
problem to create a problem within you? Lets say the person closest to you is often
warm and loving, and you enjoy these times, but this person can also be selfish and selfcentered. During those times you consciously detach and let the negativity flow through
you without affecting you. It is that persons right to be grouchy, and it is your right not
to be affected. Nothing about the situation has changed except the way you view it.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I am at peace with myself and my circumstances.
I feel very relaxed and peaceful.
I now view life as a tranquil oneness.
I am no longer affected by what cannot be changed.
I am physically relaxed and emotionally at ease.
I now let go of all turmoil in my life.
I feel balanced and harmonious.
I am so relaxed and so at ease.
I no longer have expectations of approval or control.
I accept that what is, is.
I consciously detach from negativity, allowing it to flow through me without affecting me.
I handle disputes with other people immediately.
C H A P T E R
S I X
Lose Weight
Information is your most powerful weapon in the fight against fat. Information, not
willpower, and certainly not some new fad diet, will assist you in making healthy
choices in your diet and lifestyle. The diet industry is constantly bombarding us with
new weight loss trends: food combining, juicing, less fat, more fat, more carbohydrate,
less carbohydrate. How are we to sort through it and make the healthy choice?
Answer: information. All the willpower and discipline in the world cant help you if
you havent armed yourself with the proper information. Reading a diet book that only
prescribes a daily meal plan wont teach you anything about how the body works. It is
important to understand how your body reacts to the fats, carbohydrates and proteins in
the foods we eat. Nutrients and other processed ingredients act like drugs upon the
body, causing certain reactions and responses, and not all of them are good. Read books
that explain why we should or shouldnt eat certain foods. Learn about nutrition. Arm
yourself with enough information to wade through the useless fad diets that may
distract you from your real goalgood health.
Weight control involves work, but the self-esteem, social values and improved
health that go with it certainly make it worthwhile. Think in terms of your weight
transition being a renewal period in your life.
headaches, chronic rashes or itching, numbness, tingling, rectal itching, bad breath, nasal
itching, sore throat, burning or tearing of eyes and recurring ear infections.
The third medical cause of obesity is hypoglycemialow blood sugar. Primary
symptoms include being shaky and craving food, nervousness, irritability, low energy,
cold sweats, weak feelings, depression, dizziness, headaches, digestive disturbances,
forgetfulness, insomnia, worrying, confusion, muscle pains, low sex drive, allergies, leg
cramps and impotence.
These three medical conditions can keep you from losing weight. All are curable, but
you must see your doctor to determine your condition and the best course of action.
There are also two additional factors that interrelate beliefs. First, there is a universal
law that says you cant become what you resent. If you look at a young woman with a
perfect body and think, All beauty and no brains, you are creating a mental block. You
cannot become what you resent. The second universal law says that you always live up to
your self-image. Now, if that image includes being brainless if you have a perfect
body, you are in a no-win situation. Your subconscious mind will never allow you to
think of yourself as brainless, so it will block your weight loss.
It is time to examine all your beliefs about your weight. If you find beliefs that are
not serving you, explore the cause of the belief, and if necessary use programming
techniques to override them. It is critically important, if you are overweight, to change
your beliefs about your weight. That is what hypnosis, sleep programming or subliminal
tapes can help you do. These tapes program new beliefs.
healthy and fit. Finding this perfect balance requires you to try different dietary
formulas until you find the one that works best for you.
Conventional wisdom says no more than 15 to 30 percent of our calories should
come from protein, no more 15 to 30 percent of our calories should come from fat, and
anywhere from 55 to 75 percent of our calories should come from complex
carbohydrates. In other words, eat less fat and more carbohydrates and youll lose
weight. This model for weight loss claims that carbohydrates are the bodys fuel. The
more you eat, the more cleanly and efficiently youll run. Eating proteins and fat, on the
other hand, can clog your motor and slow you down.
This high carbohydrate diet works for some people, and for the last fifteen years
Americans have been eating less fat and more carbohydrates. But some people believe
this formula doesnt work. New research indicates that when we eat too much
carbohydrate, our body cannot convert all of it into fuel, and what remains gets
converted into fat. So, the new trend in carbohydrate, protein and fat ratios runs
something like this: 30 percent of your daily calories should come from fat, 30 percent
from protein, and no more than 40 percent of our daily calories should come from
carbohydrates. In this scenario, protein plays a more substantial role and carbohydrate
consumption becomes more moderate.
Perhaps the key to this new dietary thinking is moderation. Extreme behavior, such
as starving your body of fat, causes your body to hold on to the fat its already got.
Starving your body of calories induces your metabolism to slow down and it burns less
fuel. Burning less fuel means those excess carbohydrates in your body get converted into
fat.
Ultimately, you will have to choose between a high carbohydrate diet or one that
balances carbohydrates, proteins and fat in a more moderate ratio. If you choose the
high carbohydrate model, preloading is one way of assuring a high carbohydrate meal.
Carbohydrate preloading is starting each meal with a starch or carbohydrate such as
potatoes, beans, spaghetti, an apple, or a low fat, whole grain bread without butter. The
next step is to eat slowly so that the early part of your meal lasts at least 20 minutes.
During this time the carbohydrates will activate your hormones, resulting in a reduction
of fat craving as you continue your meal. Try this for three days and see if helps reduce
your craving for sweets. If so, this may be an effective way for you to control your fat
intake. What you think of as a craving for sweets is often a craving for fat. Although you
think of candy and ice cream as sugar treats, they are also often high in fat. Fat is
considered by nutritionists to be the primary enemy of good health. Read Chapter
Eleven to learn more about fat and how it affects your health.
maintaining any weight loss. Eat a variety of healthy whole foods and you will feel
satisfied and eat less.
18. Exercise!
Exercise does promote weight loss. Exercise is more effective than dieting to get rid of
excess weight. Start an exercise program today. Even if you hate exercise, start walking.
There are many books on the market that will provide you with all you need to know.
Prevention magazine has a national walking club you may want to investigate. Join a
gym. Try not to expect instant results. Begin by walking for ten minutes on a treadmill.
Use the exercise machines with the expectation that you wont look like a pro your first
time out. But dont give up. Go for a swim, ride a bike, do anything as long as its safe
and gets you moving.
you have this awareness, plan around it by eating healthy before seeing these people, or
keep all food out of the environment. It is also very important to enlist help from your
family and friends to support you in your weight loss goals. Chart and monitor your
weight loss efforts precisely. Not only can monitoring clue you in as to when eating
problems occur, it will also encourage you to try harder if you are faltering, and you will
be encouraged by your success. Maintain your weight loss by establishing an internal
warning system if you begin to backslide.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
the frequency and depth of your breathing. Gradually increase the depth of your
breathing as you slow the rate. Do this to the point where you are breathing in what you
feel is the most relaxing and calming pattern for you. Focus mentally on relaxing with
each breath. With each inhalation, breathe with greater calmness and peace. Let go of all
tension in your body. See yourself inhaling energy, calmness and relaxation. Exhale
tension. Feel yourself blowing away the pressures and stresses of the day with every out
breath. Breathe in calmness. Breathe out stress and tension. Maintain this focused
breathing for at least ten breaths.
8. Meditate.
Relax and rest at least a half hour a day. An ideal time is immediately after your
deep breathing exercises. A quiet environment is essential; eliminate distractions and
unnecessary noise. Make yourself comfortable and progressively relax your body. Half
an hour of quiet relaxation or meditation performed regularly gives your body a chance
to recuperate and keeps the immune system strong.
9. Exercise!
Proper exercise, done in moderation, is a cornerstone of health. Avoid very
aggressive or competitive exercise, which is stressful and can injure the body. Walking
one or two miles a day can help your lungs, heart and circulation. Exercises such as
yoga, tai chi, running and aerobic dancing provide beneficial exercises for the body,
mind and spirit!
11. Laugh.
Laughter can be the best medicine. It blocks feelings of apprehension and panic that
can accompany serious illness, and positively affects your health by helping you
maintain a balanced perspective. Positive physical effects include lowered blood
pressure, better muscle tension, improved digestion and elevated mood. Laughing
makes things seem less frightening and overwhelming. So have fun, watch funny
movies or read funny books. Do things that make you laugh.
aluminum sulfate and sulfur dioxide. Additionally, water may be hard, which means
it contains mineral salts, some of which can be injurious to health even though they
occur naturally. The best way to avoid the many chemicals and indigestible minerals
found in water, including bottled spring water, is to drink distilled water. This is water
that has been boiled, converted to steam, then re-condensed. In this process, everything
that is not pure hydrogen is removed. The result is pure water. In the human body, it
acts as a solvent to help clean out the arteries, lungs, liver and kidneys. Let your body
obtain its minerals from organic fruits and vegetables, not from your water.
functional disorders of the nervous system. Exposure to the full range of solar radiation,
including the ultraviolet and visible regions of the spectrum, are necessary to obtain
these beneficial effects. Of course, it is important for one to use sunblock if planning to
be in the sun. But the healing properties of a regular dose of sunshinea walk in the
park, a bike ride, a swimfar outweigh the negative.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
Radiant health is now my reality.
Every day, I am healthier and healthier.
I now use the unlimited power of my mind to become healthy.
I know how to relax completely and release tension from my body and mind.
My positive, loving attitude keeps me healthy.
Every day in every way, I love and care about my body and myself more and more.
My body knows exactly what it needs to stay healthy.
I visualize perfect health.
I maintain a state of calmness and tranquility.
I let negativity flow through me without affecting me.
My positive attitude keeps me healthy.
C H A P T E R
E I G H T
Reverse Aging
What would you say if I told you that men and women in their 60s and 70s can
become as fit and energetic as people 20 and 30 years younger? You can look and feel
years younger if you are willing to make simple changes in your behavior.
As we get older, our cardiovascular and respiratory fitness is reduced. There is a loss
of muscle and bone, a stiffening of the joints, and the skin thins and wrinkles. But the
good news is that these changes accompany aging, and are not necessarily the inevitable
result of aging. There is considerable evidence that shows these aging effects can be
slowed down, and in some cases, reversed.
This chapter will cover many areasfrom the regenerative power of nutrition and
proper exercise to the human potential concepts that will help you achieve what you
really want out of life. It is not meant to conflict with your own doctors advice, which
you should obtain before making any changes in your lifestyle.
1. Exercise!
Exercise is the easiest and surest way of affecting how you look and feel. It only
takes a few minutes a day and the benefits far outweigh the burden. Studies show that
you dont need a particularly strenuous exercise program to achieve the equivalent of
ten years rejuvenation. You just need to be reasonably active.
Adequate oxygen is critical to your cardiovascular and respiratory performance, and
declines about one percent a year from age 30 on. Yet research has documented that this
can be reversed with an intelligent exercise program. Taking consideration of your age
and physical ability, begin an appropriate exercise regimen immediately.
Walking is excellent for any age. Walking can decrease body fat and increase overall
fitness. Go for a stroll, meander down to the end of your street, saunter over to your
favorite book store. Walking rejuvenates you. Brisk walking can lower your blood
pressure, relieve arthritis, and help you to lose weight.
Swimming, cycling, rowing, yoga, and lifting light weights (3 to 15 lbs.) can have a
tremendous impact on how you look and feel. The most important thing is to stay active.
The more inactive you are the more difficult it becomes to do routine things like
unloading the trunk of your car, gardening, or picking up your child or grandchild. Take
the stairs instead of the escalator. Park farther away from your destination instead of
right in front. Go to the gym instead of a movie. There are many opportunities to make
the active choice every day.
A five year study of more than two hundred people from ages 57 to 87 was quite
dramatic. They walked, jogged, did calisthenics and stretched three to five times a week.
Some had been active all their lives, but others had not worked out for years. As early as
six weeks into the program, men and women in their 60s and 70s became as fit and
energetic as people 20 and 30 years younger.
So consider fast walking, running, calisthenics, aerobic classes, bicycle riding,
swimminganything that will increase your aerobic capacity.
circumstances, which are incapable of doing anything to you anyway. They simply
trigger feelings that lie within you. You choose how you are going to react.
pumping exhilaration, challenge, joy, stimulation and pleasure that makes life worth
living.
Have you traded freedom and aliveness for security? Is your life so routine and dull
you have to look for places to hide? Some people hide by becoming couch potatoes
addicted to TV, others gossip on the telephone. Some go to bars or seek out other empty
distractions.
You need to know that your mind cant accept a mundane reality for long.
Eventually, it will subconsciously create some excitement to make life more interesting.
It might make you sick, cause you to have an accident, or create some other kind of
complication. It can generate circumstances that will result in the destruction of your
relationship, health or career just so youll have the challenge of rebuilding it.
People who feel and act younger, and get sick less often then their peers, are people
who are excited and enthusiastic about life. They have goals they want to accomplish,
and dreams they want to experience. They are open-minded people with a sense of
humor and strong self-esteem. They are also people with personal discipline and a real
sense of responsibility. And they usually have a personal philosophy that gives their
lives meaning.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
Every day I feel more youthful and enthusiastic.
I now unleash the youthful vigor that lies within me.
I choose to live a healthy lifestyle of proper diet
and exercise.
I am excited about life and I feel vigorous.
I am as young as I feel and every day I feel younger.
I now recapture my youthful vigor and enthusiasm.
Every day I think more positively.
I really feel good.
One secret to reverse aging is proper diet and exercise.
What I think I am creates my reality.
I detach from stress and allow it to flow through me without affecting me.
I no longer resist what I cannot change.
I now eliminate all excess in my life.
I balance my life and my life works.
I now act younger and feel younger.
C H A P T E R
N I N E
Our self-image is created by a lifetime of feedback from the world around us.
Perhaps the most common problem with self-image today has to do with appearance
versus the media and the culturally-accepted norm. We are all bombarded with ads
featuring beautiful people getting what they want by using particular products or
wearing specific clothes. Obviously, looking your best, having nice clothes and
projecting a positive image is desirable. It is a good way to suggest to others that you
feel good about yourself. But dont compare yourself to the people on the magazine
covers and in the TV ads. The right way for you to be attractive is to relax and be
yourself. Express yourself, your unique qualities and enthusiasm for life and the people
around you. Warmth, sensuality, sensitivity, and humor have nothing to do with looks,
clothing, money or fame. Forget the media image of what is appropriate and start to
project the real youthe authentic you. Then you will find yourself attractive to others
and on the road to a realistic and satisfying relationship. If youre not 100-percent happy
with the real you, you have the power and ability to enhance who you really are. Ill talk
more about that soon.
2. Strike A Balance
Recognize that shyness and excessive concern about your image is a kind of selfabsorption. Try to be more interested in your date and a little less concerned about your
own hairstyle or bald spot.
As you get involved in meeting new people, you want to find out about them and
allow them to get to know you. If you remember to strike a balance between asking
about them and telling about you, the relationship will progress more easily. And your
concerns about your own imperfections will seem less important.
3. Project Charisma
Projecting charisma is an important part of connecting with people. If you were to
take a charisma class to enhance who you are, the instructor would work with you on
several points you can develop on your own, or with the assistance of self-change
programming tapes. The following are the key factors for developing charisma: 1)
Project an inner-warmth and friendliness, 2) Act self-assured and independent, 3) Project
self-confidence, 4) Be open and approachable, 5) Be sensitive and allow others to know
it, 6) Project confident posture and assertive body language, 7) Be secure enough to let
your vulnerability show . . . and remember, 8) one of the most appealing human
characteristics is the ability to make other people feel at ease.
almost magical, so get a conversation-starting dog and walk it through the areas
populated by the kind of people you want to meet. And if youre walking the dog or
taking your wash to the laundromat, make sure you look good. If youre a woman wear
makeup. If youre a man, shave and put on some bronzer. Make sure your clothes are
flattering. Obviously, the more flattering, the better. You never know when youre going
to meet that special person. Research proves we tend to mentally judge new people
within seven seconds of meeting them.
they had rigid and demanding expectations about their relationships. It also turned out
that their loneliness was less related to the actual number of dates or partners that they
had, but to their own inability to accept and enjoy others. Perfectionism is not a positive
trait in establishing relationships.
If youre looking for love, that means giving trust and acceptance to someone and
loving them as they are, not as youd like them to be. The usual feeling that signals a
true-love relationship is recognitiontalking to someone that understands you and
what you are trying to say, from the outseta sense of intimacy and sharing without
effort. This doesnt mean that all goes smoothly at every moment. But a basic
willingness to accept people as they are is the beginning of unconditional love.
right for you in a relationship is not necessarily what is right for someone else. But we all
seek love and acceptance from other human beings.
performance on a first date ... or even a fifth date, beyond common curiosity and
common sense.
When you begin seeing someone, if you feel uncomfortable, shy, or tense, chances
are your partner is experiencing something similar. If you mention your uneasiness in a
relaxed way, your date will probably say something like, Im glad you said that. I was
feeling the same way. Then the ice is broken and youre just two human beings getting
to know each other.
Love each other as you would be loved, cherishing the passion and joy, while
allowing the negativity to flow through you without affecting you.
ACCEPTANCE
Treasure each others uniqueness and accept each other as you are without
expectations of change.
COMMITMENT
Support each other in ways that increase self-esteem. This is critical to a good
relationship, for to love another you must love yourself.
DETACHMENT
Let the little things go. Before reacting negatively, ask yourself, Does it really matter
or am I just acting out of a need to be right?
COMMUNICATION
Openly communicate and share yourself. The greatest gift you can give each other is
to be all of who you really are. Be willing to discuss needs and compromise solutions.
LISTEN
Listen to each other and be willing to appreciate the others position even when you
dont agree. Also, learn to hear what isnt being verbalized.
COMFORT
Provide comfort to each other in the midst of worldly concerns. Be friends as well as
lovers and let your union be a refuge of balance and harmony.
TRANSCEND ANGER
Always make time for each other and find fulfillment in the current moment. Shared
activities are the building blocks of a good relationship.
TRANSCEND BLAME
Encourage each other to evolve spiritually. Through faith, you can transcend the
darkness and attain peace of mind.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I now create the space in my life for the perfect love relationship.
Finding the right love relationship has a top priority.
I willingly commit the time and energy necessary to find a loving relationship.
I now seize the moment and act immediately to meet people.
I am clear on my intent to meet the perfect lover.
I project warmth and openness.
I am ready to give and receive unconditional love.
I now focus the power of my subconscious mind upon drawing the perfect lover into my life.
I project sensitivity and vulnerability.
I project self-confidence and independence.
I will love my lover as I would be loved.
I will treasure my lovers uniqueness and totally commit to the relationship.
I will support my lover in ways that increase self-esteem.
I will detach from negativity and let the little things go.
I will openly communicate and share myself, and I will be a good listener.
I will comfort my lover and make time to spend together.
C H A P T E R
T E N
Improve Your
Love Life
What kind of relationship do you desire to establish? Is it time to change how you
view your relationship? Everyone wants to have a warm, joyful, fulfilling relationship in
which shared experiences encourage mutual growth and happiness. But many people
would be thrilled just to find themselves in a relationship that is not a source of pain or
anguish. Even when the relationship doesnt breed conflict, couples often experience the
fear-based emotions of jealousy, possessiveness, anger and envy. Yet they talk of love.
Dont wait for your mate to effect positive change. Like any aspect of life; you get as
much out of a relationship as you put into it. Most people dont take the initiative in
their lives. Rather, they live life at minimal risk, waiting for others to take the initiative
so they can react. Positive change must begin with your efforts. You may fear you will be
rejected or your attempts may fail. Maybe you wont succeed, but at least you become an
active participant and know you gave your best. Responsibility is the basis of
transformation.
1. Do things together.
Activity builds a strong foundation for a good relationship. These activities should
be other than having sex or watching television together. Get out and exercise together,
work on a shared hobby, socialize, share a crossword puzzle, cook a gourmet meal
together or do something you both enjoy. When you can be friends as well as lovers
your union will be much more likely to serve as a refuge of balance and harmony.
2. Do things separately.
Individual activity is essential for the personal development of each partner. Always
challenge yourself with new learning that will support your self-esteem. You need to
take the time to nourish yourself emotionally and psychologically. Remain independent
in spirit, yet committed to the partnership.
all married men have had an affair. One major poll claimed 72 percent. One percent of
women have been involved sexually with an animal. Most people enjoy oral sex and a
good percentage enjoy anal sex. Statistics are more difficult to obtain in other areas of
sexuality, such as group sex, swinging, threesomes, S&M, et cetera ... But millions of
people have had these sexual experiences. And what about the average frequency of
sexual intercourse? Statistics show that generally, a couple in their 20s are likely to have
sex every day. 30-to 40-year-olds have sex between two and three times a week, 40-to 50years-olds once a week, and 60 plus, less than once a week. Two out of three men in
their 70s are still sexually active.
These are just some facts about what is with sex. And, youre not abnormal if none
of the fantasies or statistics relate to you. Objective norms dont really exist. There is no
right or wrong. The idea is to stop judging yourself and stop judging others. Its time to
ask yourself, Does what I do sexually work for me? Does it manifest love, health and
happiness ... and does it allow me full self-expression?
9. Stop blaming.
It is easier for many people to blame others and fate for their circumstances, and to
play the part of the victim, than to take responsibility for their life. But blame is nothing
but an expression of self-pity. And blame always makes matters worse, leastwise by
programming your subconscious mind negatively. The subconscious mind operates like
a computer. Thus, if you program it with negativity, it will generate negativity. In data
processing terms this is GIGO: Garbage In, Garbage Out. So the idea is to give up all
blame. The happiest couples are those who take full responsibility for their lives.
experiences. Your computer says it is all right for you to do what you do as compared to
the past, for when you did something similar in the past you survived. Since your
subconscious mind operates like a logical machine, it cannot be wrong. To be wrong
threatens its survival. So the only way it can function is to make you feel correct. Your
subconscious computer doesnt care if you get what you want out of life. It just needs to
be right to protect itself. So, your computer gets to be right and you lose the game.
By becoming aware of your programming you can begin to detach from the buttons
that cause you to act like a machine ... like a robot. A robot has no choice in the way it
acts. It has wiring and circuits that are set up so that when a button is pushed it reacts
according to programming. But you are the same way. Being challenged pushes your
button and you instantly need to be right.
So, knowing this, let the other person be right. Until you can move him past his need
to be right, there can be no real communication. Sometimes you can do this by simply
saying, Yes, I understand that you feel that way. This acknowledges his rightness and
can take him off of tilt. Then he can focus upon the problem at hand. When you give up
the need to be right, chances are youll start winning the game.
13. Exercise!
Physical fitness is a definite advantage in the bedroom, if only because it enhances
endurance. All too often non-orgasmic women simply tire out before they can orgasm.
So if you are not already involved in an exercise program, it is time to start one. Even
moderate physical activity is accompanied by positive mental and physical changes.
Studies measuring mental function after a ten week program of jogging, calisthenics and
other physical recreation show significant improvements in intelligence, speed of
performance, learning and brain function, as well as decreased depression and lowered
anxiety. Memory, attention span and motivation were also positively affected by
exercise ... all of which indirectly relate to a better love life.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I accept my lovers uniqueness without expectations.
I support my lover in ways that increase self-esteem.
I let the little things go, detaching from negativity.
I totally commit to my relationship.
The greatest gift I can give my lover is to be all of who I am.
I am open to communicate and share myself.
I listen and am willing to appreciate my lovers position even when we dont agree.
I rise above anger by asking myself, Am I seeking approval or control?
I always make time for my lover.
I communicate what I want directly and honestly.
I would rather win the game than be right.
Every day I use opportunities to show my love.
I now nutritionally balance my diet and make exercise part of my lifestyle.
I realize that a loving and caring relationship is the ultimate aphrodisiac.
Reduce
Cholesterol For
A Healthier Heart
This information is not meant to conflict with your doctors advice, which you
should obtain before making any major changes in your lifestyle.
Coronary heart disease is the leading cause of death in the United States. Unless you
have a congenital heart defect, the single factor most affecting your hearts health and
whether or not you will develop coronary heart disease, is your blood cholesterol level.
Although men are most at risk, women should also be concerned about their cholesterol
levels, especially women past menopause. Heart disease is still a major cause of death in
women.
You can lower your cholesterol levels and decrease the risk of heart disease easily,
without drugs, in a fairly short period of time by making appropriate lifestyle changes.
Before you can make these necessary changes, its important to understand what
cholesterol is and why it can be deadly when high levels are found in the blood. To
better understand, and start on the road to a healthy heart and lower cholesterol, lets
define our terms:
Cholesterol: According to the American Heart Association, cholesterol is a wax-like fat
found in all the cells in the human body. It is a vital constituent of cell membranes and
nerve fibers, and also serves as a building block for many hormones and important
tissues. The liver produces cholesterol and it is found in certain foods. Having too much
cholesterol in your body can be very dangerous.
Lipoproteins: In the bloodstream, cholesterol is transported to and from the cells on
special carriers called lipoproteins. There are different kinds of lipo-proteins: low
density lipoprotein (LDL) and high density lipoprotein (HDL):
Low Density Lipoprotein (LDL)The Bad Cholesterol: LDL is the primary carrier of cholesterol
in the blood. If you have too much LDL, it can build up a plaque-like substance in the
arteries, and eventually create a blood clot or barrier that stops the flow of blood. If this
happens near the heart, a heart attack results. If it occurs closer to the brain, a stroke. This is
called atherosclerosis or heart disease.
High Density Lipoprotein (HDL)The Good Cholesterol: About one fourth of blood
cholesterol is carried by a different kind of lipoprotein: HDL. The experts dont always agree
on how HDL works. Some think HDL carries the cholesterol away from the arteries and back
to the liver where the body eliminates it. Others think HDL acts as a scavenger, removing
excess cholesterol and fat from artherosclerotic clots, slowing their growth. What is not
disputed is that high levels of HDL lower the risk of heart attack, and conversely, low levels
of HDL increase the risk. In summary, the goal is to have low levels of low density lipoprotein
and high levels of high density lipoproteins.
Tryglycerides: This is the fat in your blood. It comes from the food we eat, but it is also
produced by the body. People with heart disease have high triglyceride levels. But not
everyone with high tryglyceride levels have heart disease. To reduce the risk of heart
attack, it is important to maintain low levels of tryglycerides.
Saturated Fat: The American Heart Association believes that saturated fat is the main
dietary culprit in raising blood cholesterol. The degree of saturation in saturated,
polyunsaturated and monounsaturated fats and oils depends on how many hydrogen
atoms are in the chemical chain. The more saturated a fat, the harder it is and the more
cholesterol it will form in the body. Animal fats, hydrogenated shortenings and
margarine, and palm and coconut oils are all saturated fats, which stimulate the
production of low-density lipoprotein (bad cholesterol) and raise total cholesterol levels.
Polyunsaturated Fat: Polyunsaturated fats come from vegetables or seeds, and include
safflower, corn, soybean, cotton seed, sesame, walnut, and sunflower oils. They lower
LDL and serum cholesterol levels, but use them in moderation. Too-plentiful use of
polyunsaturated fats can lower beneficial HDL and boost tryglycerides.
Monounsaturated Fat: Monounsaturated fats lower total cholesterol and LDL levels as
effectively as polyunsaturated fats without lowering HDL or raising tryglycerides. They
are found in canola and olive oil, and should be added to the diet in a ten- to fifteen
percent ratio.
Use only poly- or monounsaturated oils, and in limited amounts. Many margarines
and spreads are made from these oils and should be used instead of spreads made from
saturated fats, such as butter, lard or hydrogenated shortenings.
Cholesterol Levels
Less than 200 milligrams per deciliter
200-239 milligrams per deciliter
240 and over
Good
Borderline
High
LDL Levels
Less than 130 milligrams per deciliter
130-159 milligrams per deciliter
160 or higher
Good
Borderline
High
HDL Levels
40-50 milligrams per deciliter
50-60 milligrams per deciliter
Less than 35 milligrams per deciliter
Average Male
Average Woman
Low
the dosage of fish oil in relation to other kinds of polyunsaturated fats, not the absolute
amount of fish oil consumed. So do not alter the amounts of polyunsaturates in your
diet when you add fish oil.
Several studies indicate the body converts the eight percent linoletic acid in liquid
soybean oil into the same omega-3 fatty acids as those found in fish oils. Another
vegetable oil containing about ten percent linoleic acid is canola oil. Evening primrose
oil contains about nine percent gamma linolenic acid, which lowers cholesterol and LDL.
Evening primrose oil can be purchased in capsule form at the health food store.
Recommended dosage: one gram per meal.
eaten daily as a main meal, as a soup, or tossed into salads will make your cholesterol
levels plummet. Plus their versatility makes it easy to eat plenty. And dont forget
apples, which contain the water-soluble fiber pectin.
Keep hydrated by drinking at least eight glasses of water a day. You dont have to
start with the full eight glasses. You can start to increase your water consumption over
the period of a week to let your body adjust. See whats right for you, but start today.
never too late to quit. Compared to those who continued to smoke, people in their midfifties or older who quit dramatically reduced and even halved their risk of heart attacks.
a beneficial effect on the cardiovascular system. Pet owners with heart conditions have
half the mortality rate as those without pets.
18. Exercise!
Regular aerobic exercise provides protection against heart disease by conditioning
the heart and circulatory system. It also improves the oxygen efficiency of the heart,
lungs and muscles. And it reduces other risk factors, such as high blood pressure, high
cholesterol and LDL levels, and alleviating depression. Exercise at least three times a
week for a minimum of 20 minutes at your training heart rate, which is 85 percent of the
maximum heart rate based on your age.
Avoid highly aggressive or competitive exerciseits stressful and can injure the
body. The best aerobic exercises are brisk walking, swimming, stationary cycling or
outdoor bicycling, cross-country skiing, rowing, and aerobic dance. Exercises such as
yoga and tai chi provide spiritual and emotional boosts as well as beneficial exercise for
the body.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
A healthy heart is now my reality. Every day, I am healthier and healthier.
I now use the unlimited power of my mind to reduce my cholesterol level.
Consciously and subconsciously, I choose perfect health.
I know how to relax completely and release tension from my body and mind.
My positive, loving attitude keeps my heart healthy.
Every day in every way, I love and care about my heart, my body and myself more and more.
I exercise my body regularly to keep my heart healthy.
My body knows exactly what it needs to stay healthy.
I eat only healthy foods.
I eat more fiber, fruits, and vegetables.
I avoid cholesterol, fat and sugar.
I visualize perfect health.
I maintain a state of calmness and tranquility.
C H A P T E R
T W E L V E
Stop Smoking
We are all aware of the dangers of smoking ... and how difficult it can be to stop. You
want to quit, but youve tried before and failed. Now you fear that this habit is stronger
than you are. It frequently seems that this addiction is overpoweringdominating your
thoughts, sapping your willpower, and affecting your health. You feel the negative effect
smoking has on your body; the wheezing in your lungs when you walk up a flight of
stairs; the tiny lines that appear on your upper lip and around your mouth; your lack of
energy.
Smoking is a psychological and physiological addiction that ruins the quality of your
life while cutting it short. Its dangerous, expensive, turns off friends and strangers alike,
and threatens not only your own life, but the health of those around you. You are well
aware that you must stop, but how?
Erroneous rationales
When caught in the throes of a nicotine craving, it can be very easy to forget why you
wanted to stop in the first place. We must recognize howat those momentswe
ignore certain truths. We easily intellectualize, justify, explain away and make
allowances for behavior that is detrimental to our well-being. It is important to
understand how we rationalize our negative behaviors. Otherwise we continue those
negative behaviors and never change them. Here are the key ways in which we justify
smoking:
A lack of knowledge or misconceptions about smoking, including denying or
diminishing the dangers of smoking
Denying the personal relevance or ability to quit
Denying the necessity of quitting
Philosophizing, intellectualizing, and advancing irrelevant arguments.
Escapist behavior
Escapist behavior encompasses five patterns: procrastination, wishful thinking,
regression, blaming others and repression.
Procrastination is a very effective escape route. A clever smoker can come up with
enough excuses to put off quitting for years, even forever, fooling himself into believing
that he is going to quit ... tomorrow.
Smokers indulging in wishful thinking live in a fantasy world where none of
nicotines adverse effects will happen to them, or if it does, those effects will be minimal
or easily reversed. While thats always possible, its not likely. Wishful thinking is
unrealistic and escapist in nature, like the ostrich refusing to see things as they are by
sticking its head in the sand.
Regression enables the smoker to get around the inconsistency between his
knowledge of the dangers of smoking and his continued smoking by simply refusing to
deal with it. This is accomplished by regression to childish or inappropriate behavior
and attitudes, such as becoming overly emotional, swearing, and screaming at people
who raise the smoking issue.
Blaming others is an avoidance tactic. Many people began smoking not as a result of
an informed decision but as a consequence of interpersonal relationships and peer
pressure. Quitting is frequently made even more difficult because of lack of support
from other people. Blaming others enables the smoker to disclaim responsibility while
clouding the issue of a solution to the problem.
Repression is quite simply not viewing smoking as a problem. This deliberate
behavior enables the smoker to avoid conflict and the necessity of making excuses,
blaming others, or indulging in wishful thinking.
6. Use a journal.
In addition to your daily smoking log, buy a larger notebook to use as a journal. This
is a personal record of your goals, rules, accomplishments and observations of events
occurring in your quitting program. Write your reasons for quitting in your journal for
later reference when you have the urge to smoke. If you notice yourself feeling deprived
and becoming angry, blow off steam in the journal, but be sure to work the anger
through and turn it around to positive thought.
swallowing several tablets. Take 4,000mg every two to four hours; do this for at least one
week. If this causes diarrhea, cut dosage in half but continue frequency of doses.
cream into them and manicure your nails. Or try sketching, doodling or writing in your
journal. Be creative in your alternatives.
16. Exercise!
If you dont already engage in regular daily physical exercise, start now. Its hard to
smoke while youre exercising. Vigorous daily exercise increases levels of the
neurotransmitters as well as endorphins, the bodys natural opiates, and will make it
easier for you to relax more completely. The oxygen flooding through your system will
help detoxify your system more quickly as well. Also, mood swings will stabilize and
you wont feel as depressed. Your self-image and self-esteem will improve and you
wont want to damage your body with cigarettes any longer.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I now set a target date and on that date I will stop smoking forever.
Every day, up to my target date, I smoke fewer and fewer cigarettes.
Cigarettes disgust me. I no longer want to smoke. Every day, I smoke less and less.
I now stop smoking.
By quitting, I feel better mentally and physically.
I successfully focus on overcoming my smoking habit, replacing it with desirable new behavior
patterns.
I have the willpower to do anything I desire to do.
I crave cigarettes less and less. The urge to smoke is leaving me... the urge to smoke is now gone.
I am now a nonsmoker.
C H A P T E R
T H I R T E E N
Negotiate
What You Want
It may surprise you to know that the key to successful negotiation is not just
knowing what to say and when to say it. Wealth, success, happinesswhatever you
desire, you can achieve. Learn the principles to successful negotiation and you can
unlock, harness and develop your potential to achieve a new, positive, and successoriented self-awareness. This chapter covers both the human potential concepts that can
help position you to become a better negotiator, and the practical, easy to apply, tactical
elements and strategies necessary for powerful negotiation. These tips will help you
become a winner, to get what you wantthose dreams, wishes and fantasies that will
make your life a delight.
laws, employees and friends what they think you should be doing with your life and
everyone will give you a different answer. It is your life. You will have to control it.
The third block is low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a self-imposed limitation. The
first step to rising above this restrictive thinking is to become clear on your intent in the
negotiation. Exactly what do you want, why do you want it, and what are you willing to
do to get it? Once youve drawn that line, never cross it. Never do anything that lowers
your self-esteem. If it adversely affects your well-being, walk away from it. No matter
how tense the negotiation gets, never lower your standards just to achieve the goal you
desire. Absolutely nothing is worth the extreme negativity a loss of self-respect would
bring.
High self-esteem results from what we do in life, not from what we have. When your
conduct is below your standard and you dont correct it, your self-image will suffer.
When you do things that make you feel good about yourself, your self-esteem and your
self-image is enhanced.
7. Ask effectively.
If you ask in the right way, anything is possible. You can have whatever you want in
life: wealth, material goods, happiness, rich life experiences, fulfilling relationships, and
more. Before you ask, know what you really need or want. Remember, you must have
clarity of intent. Certainty inspires confidence and support.
Ask for the essentials first. This is very important. The people who get what they want
in this world are those who can work and live lean. Cut back your unrealistic desires
and be selective in what you ask for; dont ask for the wrong things. Too many people
think that luxuries are necessities and their wants become endless. Sometimes people
ask for things that will not help them get what they really want.
important; say please, thank you and Im sorry when these phrases are called for.
Say thanks in advance. When youre wrong say so.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I know exactly what I want and I am willing to do what is necessary to attain my goal.
I am a successful negotiator and I achieve my desires.
I carefully look at each situation and take the risks necessary to accomplish my goal.
I have the power and ability to attain my desires. I now rise above the self-imposed blocks to get what
I want.
I am persistent in getting what I want. If one approach does not work, I try another.
I am creative and imaginative in the way I negotiate with others.
I recognize and use each opportunity to my advantage.
I know how to ask for what I want.
By helping others I receive help in return.
A P
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Become a Success
Statistics show that highly successful people are: 1) self-confident; 2) impatient and
excessive about their personal and professional pursuits; 3) committed to their work to
the degree of being workaholics; 4) people who want, need and demand to be in control;
5) people who have strong likes and dislikes; 6) introverted as opposed to extroverted; 7)
more concerned with being respected than being liked; 8) find the process of attaining
their goals much more joyful than the actual accomplishment; 9) predictable and reliable
high achievers who always act to secure the future; and 10) people who need to learn to
delegate. If you dont fulfill all these profile points, that doesnt mean you cant learn to
become successful. YOU CAN!
To most people, learning how to become successful means developing a particular
skill, or launching a hot idea. But the truth is, thats only a small part of successa
necessary part to be sure, but 90 percent of success results from four factors: energy,
enthusiasm, self-image and discipline.
Success obviously means different things to different people, and although most of
the following tips could be applied to any aspect of success, this chapter will focus
primarily on monetary success.
Physical energy is the basis of all energy and is the key ingredient of renewal. How do
you attain the energy you require? In a nutshell, it will come from your lifestyle. A
lifestyle incorporating physical exercise and a proper diet, plus a balance of work and
play, and a minimum of stress almost assures an excess of physical energy.
Enthusiasm combined with action will hasten success. Enthusiasm is the
psychological adrenaline that drives you to victory against the odds. It usually results
from doing what you love to do. Before embarking upon the quest of a goal, be sure you
have the enthusiasm to see it through. The more you believe in your goal the more
enthusiasm youll have. Then attain the knowledge you need which will generate even
more enthusiasm.
Self-image: perceiving yourself as a winner is probably the most powerful success
factor of all. Self-image results from what you do. The more you do what makes you
proud of yourself, the better your self-image becomes. So, stop doing anything that
lowers your self-image in any way. And start doing everything you can to generate
positive esteem.
It is critically important to realize that you will never allow yourself to have what
you dont feel worthy of. Do you feel worthy of your goals? If not you must begin
immediately to program your conscious and subconscious mind to support your
worthiness. Chapter Three Increase Your Self-Esteem offers a blueprint for building
your self-image.
Self-discipline isnt about self-denial or self-restrictions. In the context of success it
means self-determination. It is perseverance in action, and the very basis of success,
because it is how you direct your time, energy and resources to manifest your desires.
Self-discipline is the one ingredient common to all self-made, successful people. And it
certainly isnt difficult to rise above the level of self-discipline of the masses because they
are so accustomed to being disciplined by others, they cant discipline themselves. They
accept being told what to do, and how and when to do it, by their parents, friends, mate,
employer, religion and government.
Self-discipline simply means that you do what you need to do, and stop doing what
you know doesnt work. It is you and you alone who controls your mind, body and
actions. It starts with positive thoughts. If you cant control your thoughts, you cant
control your actions. Obviously, your current life is a result of your thoughts, which
created your feelings, which causes your actions. Begin immediately to monitor your
thoughts and when you catch yourself thinking negative, say to yourself, Success
Opportunity. Then quickly imagine the same situation with a positive outcome. This
little technique blocks negative subconscious programming and promotes positive
thinking.
We all have the same 1,440 minutes per daywhich is forever lostunless you
invest it in your future success, acquiring knowledge, learning skills, making business
contacts or enhancing your personal life. If you have trouble planning, organizing your
life and setting priorities you need to study time management. There are many excellent
titles on time management at your local bookstore.
6. Act now.
Dont wait for the ideal time to put your success plans into action. Chances are there
will never be a perfect time. Success comes to those who are bold enough to risk.
Courage is the willingness to be afraid and to act anyway.
spending quality time with your child, enjoying a hobby, or even attending to your
spiritual needs. But this balance is critical to your overall well being. Maintaining your
equilibrium needs to become a central priority.
If you allow yourself to get out of balance, things will start to go wrong in the area
you are not attending to. If your ignoring your relationship for your career, you can
count on relationship problems which will then indirectly effect your work career. If you
arent eating and exercising properly, youll probably get sick, which will again
indirectly affect your success career.
If any of your answers were negative, you have a problem with beliefs that must be
solved by finding the cause of the belief, or through reprogramming. There are many
ways to process the cause of the belief: metaphysical counseling, past-life regression, self
hypnosis, psychiatric therapy, etc. You will have to find what works best for you.
percent of your efforts. The idea is to increase your efforts in the area that is paying off
and delegate to others the busy work that isnt generating the high-percentage return.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how
to include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
I take control of my life and create unlimited monetary abundance.
Every day in every way I become more and more successful.
My creative thinking now opens the doors to abundance.
I now focus my attention on making great amounts of money.
I am totally confident of my success.
I am clear on my intent to become successful.
I am willing to do what I need to do to succeed.
I live a lifestyle that generates high energy.
I am worthy and deserving of wealth and success.
I surround myself with happy and successful people.
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Create Happiness
For most of us, happiness is what life is all about. Our dreams and goals revolve
around happiness. And it seems that we know what is best for us, because when we are
happier, we are also healthier. Research clearly shows that happier people have fewer
physical ills, they age slower and live longer. There is no one happiness formula that is
right for everyone, but the behavioral experts continue to prove that there are several
factors that contribute most to meaningful happiness.
Happiness is a state of well being, filled with positive feelings toward yourself and
the world. Of course, truth is what works for you, and if you believe something to be, it
becomes so for you. So your own ideas about happiness are important to the attainment
of happiness. If you stop to think about it, just about every decision you make is based
upon what you think will bring you more happiness. All of the important aspects of
your life, your love and relationships, your job, your level of success, your friendships,
your sexuality, and spirituality are a means to bring you happiness. Among the
encouraging news found in psychological research studies comes knowledge that people
are infinitely changeable. Once they have established clarity of intent, they can alter their
personalities, rise above neurotic patterns, and find happiness at almost any age. The
experts claim that throughout your entire life relationships are continually reshaping
you. And an imbalance at one point can be corrected later on.
Most of the suggestions have already been shared in other chapters, but Im going to
repeat them again, together, because this combination of factors is most likely to
generate happiness.
1. Love yourself
Love yourself. This is critically important. Self-esteem is a cornerstone of happiness
and mental health. Contentment is a benefit of loving yourself and is the core of
motivation. Your self-esteem is primarily based upon what you do in life. When you do
things that make you feel good about yourself, you increase your self-esteem. When you
do things that make you feel bad about yourself, you lose self-esteem. (Read the
Enhance Self-Esteem chapter.)
Self-esteem is also the result of how you look. So if there is something you dont like
about the way you look, get to work on a program to change for the better. This is
sometimes the fastest way to begin increasing your feelings of self-worth.
value here. It seems that when you care about someone else, you feel better about
yourself.
satisfy someone else. If your behavior makes someone else uncomfortable, they have the
right to leave. The same goes for you. Often in a close relationship, one person will
compromise in hopes of achieving harmony. They change, and thus the other person is
now reacting to a different, changed person. And often they also change, not because
they are being asked to, but because they want to. In a situation like this, the change is
natural and will probably last.
Affirmations
The final chapter explains how to use the following affirmations as self-talk and how to
include them in a self-hypnosis format for daily mind programming.
Every day in every way I love myself more and more.
I make the time to do things that are satisfying and enjoyable.
I am self-confident and self-reliant.
I give love and I am open and receptive to receiving love.
I catch negative thoughts and turn them positive.
The Technique
First, use deep breathing to relax your body and mind. Take a very deep in-breath,
and hold it for as long as you comfortably can. Then let the breath out slowly through
slightly parted lips; this allows you to retain the moisture in your mouth. When you
think the air is all the way out, contract your stomach muscles and push it even further
out. Then repeat the process. Do this for a couple minutes before you begin the body
relaxation. When you begin to relax your physical body, play the role, play the part and
imagine your body relaxing in response to the suggestions.
Body Relaxation
Close your eyes. Use the following as a recording script or paraphrase the words in your
mind: The relaxing power is now entering the toes of both of my feet at the same time. It
is moving right on down into my arches ... into my heels, and right on up into my
ankles. Completely relaxed. Completely relaxed. And the relaxing power now moves on
up my legs to my knees, relaxing all the muscles as it goes ... and on up my legs to my
thighs and to my hips, permeating every cell and every atom. An my full attention is on
relaxing my body as the relaxing power now moves on up into the fingers of both of my
hands ... relaxing my hands. And my forearms are relaxing ... and my upper arms are
relaxing. My fingers and hands and forearms and upper arms are now just completely
relaxed. And the relaxing power moves on down into the base of my spine, and I
imagine a warmth in the base of my spine. And the warmth now moves slowly up my
spine ... up my spine ... up my spine, and into the back of my neck and shoulder
muscles. And the back of my neck and shoulder muscles are loose and limp ... loose and
limp ... just completely relaxed. And the relaxing power now moves on up the back of
my neck and into; my scalp ... relaxing my scalp. And the relaxing power drains down
into my facial muscles ... relaxing my facial muscles. My jaw is relaxed. I leave a little
space between my teeth. And my throat is relaxed. My entire body is now relaxed all
over in every way ... and all tension is gone from my body and mind.
Deepening
Visualize yourself in a situation in which you are going down, down, down as you count
backward from seven to one. Number seven: deeper, deeper, deeper, down, down, down.
Number six: deeper, deeper, deeper, down, down, down. Number five: deeper, deeper,
deeper, down, down, down. Number four: deeper, deeper, deeper, down, down, down.
Number three: deeper, deeper, deeper, down, down, down. Number two: deeper,
deeper, deeper, down, down, down. Number one. And I am now relaxed and at ease
and I feel a sense of deepness. I remain consciously aware of my surrounding, but my
body is going to sleep ... to sleep ... to sleep. Number seven: deeper, deeper, deeper,
down, down, down. Number six: deeper, deeper, deeper, down, down, down. Number
five: deeper, deeper, deeper, down, down, down. Number four: deeper, deeper, deeper,
down, down, down. Number three: deeper, deeper, deeper, down, down, down.
Number two: deeper, deeper, deeper, down, down, down. Number one ... and I am now
in a deep, deep altered state of consciousness.
At this point you are deep in an altered state of consciousness, or deep in a meditative state,
or deep in hypnosis, whichever you prefer to call it. They are the same thing. Next, give yourself a
suggestion such as the following:
And Im now relaxed and at ease and I can awaken at any time by simply counting
up from one to five and say the words, wide awake. So Im always in control of my
mind-programming sessions. And Im gong to begin with suggestions that will be
communicated to every level of my body and mind, and they will be accepted on every
level of my body and mind.
Insert from 9 to 15 appropriate suggestions/affirmations as found at the end of each chapter
or create your own. Then say:
And these suggestions have been communicated to every level of my body and
mind, and theyve been accepted on every level of my body and mind. ///// And Im
now going to visualize my desires as already being successfully accomplished. I
fantasize the desired result of this programming, by creating every detail in my mind ...
my feelings and reactions ... the reactions of others. Everything.
Your subconscious mind is a visual consciousness, so it responds best to visual
programming. Visualize what you desire as a mental movie. You are the producer, director and
star. Use other people in your movies, but as the director you are in control of their words, actions
and reactions. You imagine the events exactly the way you like to experience them in real life. By
seeing your goals as accomplished, your subconscious is able to fully comprehend the goal. It then
beings to work in subtle ways to manifest the inner belief in your outer life. Spend one to three
minutes visualizing.
Vary your mental movies. As an example if you desire to lose weight, here are some
variations: 1) You see yourself step on a scale and watch the dial swing, slow down, then
stop at your desired weight. You hear yourself exclaim with delight, you imagine the
smile on your face, and you feel the elation. 2) While out in the world, you run into a
friend you havent seen for a long time. Your friend is amazed at your thin body and
proceeds to tell you so. Create all the dialogue and interaction. 3) Youre shopping in a
clothing store and the salesclerk asks your size (use the size you want to be). Imagine the
process of trying on the clothes. They fit perfectly. Feel the elation. The clerk
compliments you on your figure. Next, support the visualizations with phrases like the
following:
Ive just seen my own reality and the visualizations manifest in my life. I ask it, I
beseech it, I mark it, and so it is. And Im now going to repeat a mantra to saturate my
mind with a message. I will shout the words out silently and imagine them echoing out
across the universe and back to me.
Create one sentence that best expresses what you desire. Repeat it over and over from 10 to 20
times.
Thats right. Ive programmed this suggestion on every level of my being, and it
becomes my reality. //// And now, once again, its time to imagine another mental
movie.
One to three minutes visualizing. Next repeat the suggestions.
Ive just seen my own reality, and upon awakening I will remember all that has been
communicated. Ill awaken feeling as if Ive just had a refreshing nap. My head will be
clear, and Ill think and act with calm self-assurance ... feeling glad to be alive and peace
with myself, the world and everyone in it. On the count of five I will open my eyes and
be wide awake. Number one, I feel the life blood returning to my arms and legs.
Number two, coming on up and at peace with all life. Number three, coming on up
feeling an internal balance and harmony. Number four, returning to my waking state.
Number five, wide awake, wide awake.
ALTERED-STATE TIPS
Conditioning
On average, it takes 21 days of use to fully condition your body/mind to easily
attain your natural altered-state depth. Do a hypnosis session at least once a day, every
day. Once you are conditioned, the suggestions will become more effective. There is no
way to judge how long it will take. If youve smoked 20 years, every time you raised a
cigarette to your lips and drew in the smoke, you were enforcing a positive smoking
suggestion. Understandably, it may take a lot of non-smoking suggestions to override
the old programming. But keep at it. Change will occur if you are patient and tenacious.
Body Position
For your self-hypnosis sessions, try to pick a time when you will not be interrupted
and a place where it is quiet. You may either sit in a chair or lie down. If you are sitting,
be sure both feet are flat on the floor and place your hands on your legs. Do not cross
your legs; any weight can feel heavier during hypnosis.
The prone position is best unless it causes you to go to sleep. Avoid altered-state
work when youre very tired. Each session conditions your subconscious mind and you
dont want to condition it to fall asleep when you go into hypnosis. If you fall asleep
twice while in the prone position, do your sessions in a sitting position for a few days.
Your subconscious mind contains all of the memories of this life (and past lives), but
it has very little reasoning power; thus it can easily be programmed contrary to your
conscious desires, unless you know how to work with it. There is no danger whatsoever
in falling asleep while in an altered state; it is only the habit pattern that is to be avoided.
If you wear contact lenses and normally remove them when you go to sleep, take
them out before going into an altered state.
The Environment
Certain conditions are more conducive than others to doing altered-state work. An
overly warm room is much better than a cool one. Darkness helps most people to
visualize more effectively, so if you dont have a dark room, use one of the sleep masks
available at most drugstores. If your environment is noisy, use earplugs. If youre using
a tape, use headphones. If it is extremely noisy, you may also want to play another
tape/CD at the same time to block out the noise. Sound effects programs such as rain or
the ocean are good, and New Age music might also be helpful.
Spinning or Swaying
A small percentage of people sometimes experience a feeling of spinning or swaying
while in an altered state, especially toward the end of the induction. There is nothing to
fear; you are probably attempting to leave your body and astral project. To stop the
effect, simply give yourself the strong command, Stabilize! On the count of three I will
stabilize and the swaying ceases, one, two, three. You are always in control in selfhypnosis/meditation.
Headaches
On rare occasions, someone will awaken from an altered state with a headache that
feels like a tight band around the forehead. Although somewhat uncomfortable, it is not
a matter for concern and will usually disappear within 30 minutes.
Trigger Word
Post-Hypnotic Mind Programming
The trigger word technique is post-hypnotic programming to use when you need an
extra lift to support your goal. The word you choose might be concentration,
willpower, motivation, energywhatever you want it to be, in keeping with your
goal. The programming is highly effective once you have become conditioned and
begun to use it.
of up and down brain waves were created when the woman came into the room and did
a dance as when the subject imagined her doing a dance. The same was true with all
other situations with all of the test subjects.
The brain waves were identical, so the computer part of the mind was obviously
incapable of telling the real from the imagined.
Another supportive series of tests were conducted by the University of Chicago.
These and many similar tests show how our subconscious computer actually creates the
reality for which it is programmed. Three test groups of subjects took part in a mental
programming experiment based upon shooting a basketball. All the participating
students were tested as to their individual basket-shooting ability and the results were
tabulated.
Group One was told, Dont play any basketball for a month. In fact, just forget
about basketball for the entire month.
Group Two was told, You are each to practice shooting baskets for one full hour a
day, everyday, for the month.
Group Three was told, You are to spend one hour a day imagining you are
successfully shooting baskets. Do this each day for the month. Fantasize yourself at
being successful shooting baskets. See every detail of your accomplishments in your
mind.
One month later, the three groups were again tested as to their basket-shooting
ability. The Group One participants, who hadnt played basketball for a month, tested
exactly the same as they did the first time. Group Two, who had been practicing a full
hour every day for a month, demonstrated a 24-percent improvement in their basketshooting ability. Group Three, who had only imagined that they were successfully
shooting baskets for an hour each day, tested 23 percent improved in their actual basketshooting abilityonly one percentage point less than the group that had actually been
practicing.
Obviously, the group that only imagined shooting baskets successfully programmed
their subconscious mind to perform almost as effectively as those who had actually
practiced. The subconscious will always work to replicate your inner programming in
your outer life. And it can be fooledtricked. It can be programmed, especially by
vividly imagining what you desire as if it were already so.
A breakthrough in physics research shows how the use of altered states of
consciousness can lead to a transformation in nearly every part of your life.
An experimentally confirmed theory earned Belgian chemist Ilya Prigogine a Nobel
Prize. Called the theory of dissipative structures, it solved the mystery regarding why
the use of altered states can result in life-changing insights, new behavior patterns, and
the relief of lifelong phobias or ailment. Heres how the theory works as applied to real
people:
First, human beings are structures. The structure of your body is composed of bones,
muscles, and ligaments. Your brain, however, is given structure by the thoughts and
memories that dictate your actions. It is the programming of your brain that provides it
with structure.
Now, Prigogines theory states that complex structures (such as the human brain)
require an enormous and consistent flow of energy to maintain. In the brain that energy
is measured as brain-wave levels on an EEG machine. The up-and-down pattern of these
wave levels reflects a fluctuation in the amount of energy reaching the brain. The larger
the fluctuation of brain-wave levels, the larger the fluctuation of energy.
In wide-awake beta consciousness, your brain-wave levels would show up on an
EEG as small, rapid, up-and-down lines. There is little fluctuation in the level of energy.
However, when you change your state of consciousness through the use of altered-state
techniqueshypnosis, meditation, relaxation, et ceterayour brain-wave levels shift to
alpha and theta. There is a lot of fluctuation in the level of energy in these altered states.
According to Prigogines theory, small fluctuations of energy (such as beta rhythms)
are suppressed by the brain, so it stays essentially the same. Thats why changes
suggested to a conscious mind usually have little effect. The message is suppressed by
all the existing programming. However, says Prigogine, large fluctuations of energy
(such as alpha and theta rhythms) can cause the structure to break apart and reorganize
itself into a higher and even more complex form.
Thats why suggestions given to an individual exploring in the alpha and theta
brain-wave levels are so effective in creating change. The new suggestion, dropped into
the uneven alpha rhythms like a pebble into a pond, creates a ripple effect that tears
apart old programming and creates new behaviors and viewpoints. Your brain
dismantles its old concepts and reorganizes them into new, more complex, and usually
more meaningful forms.
When this shift occurs, you may become aware of information about your life and
goals that your old mental structures kept hidden from you. You may experience a
sudden, powerful insight into an unsolved problem and you may even release yourself
from its effects.
There is also an added bonus. Each transformation makes the next one likelier. You
see, every time you trigger a collapse of memory or data structures and your brain
reorganizes them into more complex forms, it requires more energy to maintain those
new structures. And they are even more vulnerable to fluctuations of energy. Basically,
the more complex a structure is, the more unstable it is, and the easier it is to trigger the
next transformation.
If you carry this concept to its logical conclusion, youll see that every time you
successfully use an altered state of consciousness to achieve new insights, or to program
or reprogram your mind, you increase your chances of success the next time you do it.
In other words, the more you program self-improvement, the easier it gets. And the
more youll understand how unhappiness and failure are self-inflicted, while happiness
and success are self-bestowed.