Professional Documents
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HELPFUL Rules
Name: __________________________
for School
Sometimes when you read the rules in your school diary it can be
confusing…. in fact not many of these helpful rules are in your school
diary…the rules in this book are written just for you
The purpose of this book is to help you work out what to do. Other
kids in the school don’t know much about you and maybe you don’t know
much about them SO you can use this book to help you work out what
are the best things to do at school
To use the book so that it helps you get better at understanding the
secret rules better you need to:
1. read over the rules (at least once a week) until you have a good
knowledge of them
2. keep the book secret … maybe you could keep it at home…you can
show it to Mum or Dad
3. when you have a problem – find some secret rules that you think
will help sort the problem out AND then ask an adult (Mum, Dad or
SEU teacher or teacher aide) for their advice to make you have
chosen the most helpful rule for the problem
You need to do a little thinking and detective work in your head to sort out
if something is really just funny or something is nasty, hurtful funny.
Questions to ask yourself in your thinking:
What’s funny (like a movie, a joke or cartoon) about the situation?
You need to look very closely at the people around you and decide…
Is everyone laughing– do you think someone might be feeling
uncomfortable or saying something like “that’s not funny”?
Is someone “left out” of the joke or situation and you think you can tell
they “don’t get it” and they look upset by the situation?
If you think about these questions you can decide if you want to stay
and be part of the group or whether you should leave.
One more thing…. it could be YOU that others are making fun and if you
don’t think about the situation and ask those detective questions in your
head you could be the person others are laughing at….THEN it would
be a good time for you to leave and talk to a trusted adult about what
you think and feel ….
People who laugh at others to be nasty and hurtful are bullies and need
to be told that doing so is totally unacceptable behaviour.
- listen and nod or say “uh hah”, “yeah” to let them know
you are listening
- when they finish what they are saying, you could ask a
question or talk about something you know about the
same topic
If you don’t show them that you are interested in what they
are saying they will loose interest in talking to you and
probably stop talking to you.
When you are near others in your class make sure there is
about a nose to finger-tip space between you and them
If you can give eye contact with the person – but be careful not
to stare at them (a good trick is try and focus your eyes on their
shoulder and then look up to their face a few times during the
conversation, especially when you are showing you are
listening to what they are saying)
Say the other person’s name when you want to get their
attention before you say something to them
Take turns in a conversation – nobody likes a person who
seems to “know it all” and keeps talking and not listening to
what the other person has to say, interrupting or talking over
the top of the speaker. Some good tricks are to:
wait until the other person stops and if they stop talking for
at least 10 seconds (count to about 10 but in your head)
they probably are waiting for you to talk then say what you
want to on the topic –remember to let the other person back
into the conversation when you have finished saying what
you wanted to say
ask the other person a question
listen very carefully to the other person, they will stop talking
and expect you to say something
wait until the other person asks you what you think or a
question
If you don’t agree with the other person that
is OK and you can you disagree but you need to say it without
being rude, impolite, raising your voice or getting angry…if the
topic will make you and the other person angry or mad at each
other, it might be best to change the topic to something else or
say ‘I’ve got to get going now, been nice to see you and we can
catch up later” (catch-up means that you will meet them again at
some other time, maybe you could phone them)
What you talk about might be different for
different people. For example you could talk about pop music with
your friend but you probably would not talk too much about this
with the Principal.
If you are really good at something don’t talk
about how good you are all the time. If you do people will say you
“brag’. If you brag other students may not want to be around you.
Try not to ask questions that will embarrass
a person especially in public. Look at the list of things not to talk
about, that’s a good guide for things not to ask about. People
don’t like to be asked personal questions (about their family,
friends, illnesses, arguments that they have had, sex and
relationships) as these things are private.
If someone asks you a question you think is
too personal, or you feel uncomfortable about answer it is OK to
say that it is personal and that you feel uncomfortable answering.
In some cases you have to answer questions about what you
have done or know about something (could be a crime and you
are asked by the police what you saw, or a questions asked by
your doctor about how you feel) and this is OK.
When two or more people are standing close
together and are speaking softly it could mean that what they are
talking about is private and it is not a good idea to listen in (this is
called eavesdropping). It could also be that someone is talking on
their phone, it is not very polite to listen.
If a person of the opposite sex is nice to you
it does not mean that he or she is your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Don’t go to others and say she is your girlfriend or he is your
boyfriend –this maybe cause a lot of other students to tease
you or the other person and they likely won’t be nice to you
again.
Don’t follow them around –this is what we call ‘stalking’ and
it makes them feel very uncomfortable and sometimes
scared
Use a good tone of voice and use “Miss’ or ‘Sir” when
talking to your teacher. Speak respectfully and don’t make rude
comments such as “you’re old”, ‘you’ve got funny hair’, ‘you’ve
got a big *****’ or ‘you look fat’ as these comments are hurtful and
inappropriate.
When talking to an adult (teacher or Principal) don’t tell
them they need to listen better or that they don’t care about you or
other students– teachers do listen and they do care otherwise
they would not like teaching…both listening and caring are part of
their job.