“I do not think it is a very smart idea to go Jake.
One of you
Is parenting
ruining the new
generation?
I am talking about personal freedom and choice, and how
parents sometimes do not allow their young adults to make
decisions on their own which is crippling them for the future.
Here is a few examples to prove my point. One year ago around
this time my friends and I were planning a trip to St. George.
My friend Zach and Mariano were driving down. We planned
this whole thing out. Day one we would drive down and once
we got there we would settle down in our motel and get
comfortable. Once everyone was unpacked we would go to
dinner then come back for bed. On day two we would wake up
in the morning, get breakfast, and then head straight down to
sand hollow and basically spend the whole day there until
dinner. We planned on cliff jumping, swimming, boating, and
basically doing whatever we felt like doing down there that day.
Granted all us 17 and 18 year olds do not have a boat and can
not even drive one, but thank goodness Mariano's parents were
coming down. They had the boat and were watching us and with
us the whole time. Then after the long day and dinner we were
going to go to bed. Then the next day we were going to wake
up, get breakfast and then Mariano's parents were going to take
us on a hike before we would head back home. That was our
plan for the weekend, we got it all figured out and the date was
set. Now all the boys of course had to get permission from their
parents since we still lived under their roof. Everybody's parents
allowed them to go except mine. I asked my parents if I could
go and they said, and I quote,
guys might get hurt, and I do not think that Mr. and Mrs.
Delgado will be able to keep an eye on all of your the whole
time (there is only four of us going). We just want you to be
safe.” and they continued to proceed with saying stuff like this
and giving me reasons of why I can not go. A couple days went
by and the day that everyone was going to St. George was the
next day. I pleaded and pleaded with my parents and they still
would not allow me to go. Obviously I was not very happy and I
was even more upset when I found out all the boys were able to
go. Literally every single one; all of their parents said yes,
except mine. Even Connor Hydes parents said yes and they do
not let him do anything. This is what was so disheartening for
Also if I went my mother would of given me some money to use for on the trip, so
me. All of my best friends were going to go do all these fun
I would of been able to learn how to balance my money and learn when to use and
adventures and make all these amazing memories that I would
when to save. All these cool things I could have learned on the trip but I was not
not be able to be apart of. I was mad but I shook it off and
able to. Not to mention all the amazingly fun things they did. I was not able to
moved on, until when they got back. They showed me all the
experience new things and explore new places I have not been. This is what my
videos and all the fun they had, and that is when I got really
parents do not see. They are holding their kids back. My siblings and I could learn
upset. My friends had first hand experience of learning the
so many new things, but most likely is that we will not be able to because of the
functions of a boat. I have never been boating before so that
strict parenting of my parents. The sad thing is, while they coddle us and we do
would have been amazing to learn and to experience that for my
not do anything for ourselves how are we supposed to learn? How are we going to
first time, but sadly, I was not able to. Not only did they go
become self dependent when we move out of the house? That is the problem. We
boating, they went tubing. I do not know about you but tubing
will not learn how to take care of ourselves when we move out and go experience
looks like so much fun. I would watch those funny fail videos of
life on our own for the first time. When the day comes when we have to move out
people tubing, and if I was able to go tubing with the boys I
of the house, or go to college, we will not be ready. When we move out it will
guarantee that is a memory I would never forget. Although that
basically be our first time doing anything on our own. It is like a baby bird riding
sounds amazing I was not able to go, so I was not able to
on its moms back everywhere it goes until one day it is time for the baby bird to
experience tubing. Not only did they do fun things they also
move on with its life. It will be its first time flying and it is basically trial by fire.
learned how to change a tire on the way down to St. George,
That is what parents are doing to their kids all over the world. This is why our
(which I have never done). That would of been handy to know,
generation is so behind and struggles when we first get out there and be real
because I had to learn how to change a tire on the side of a road
adults. That is the big problem going on, and that is why we need everyone's
when I got a flat going to school one morning. Changing that
parents and my parents to help their kids along the way through childhood. We
tire would of gone ten times faster if I knew what I was doing,
need you to teach us what to do, not do it for us. We need you to allow us to
but I had no clue. I sat there watching videos on how to change
experience things for our own, and when this is done our generation will be back
a tire until I figured it out.
on track and there will not be a let down.