ANCIENT WISDOM FOR A NEW PSYCHOSPIRITUAL JOURNEY: THE NINE PATHS OF BEING OURSELVES AND BEING A LEADER

WHAT I LOST WHAT I CAME TO THE STRATEGY I DEVELOPED THIS STRATEGY LEAD ME WHAT MAKES ME ANGRY/ HOW OTHERS CAN SUPPORT
PATH OF SIGHT OF BELIEVE TO FOCUS ON CAUSES ME STRESS MY GROWTH
We are all one and are People are not accepted for who I learned to gain love and self-regard by being Right and wrong, especially whatever Unfairness. Irresponsibility. Things Encourage me to go easy on myself and
perfect as we are they are. Their good behaviour is good, responsible, doing things the correct way, is wrong that should be corrected. being done the wrong way. Not being to take time for myself. Provide me with
THE REFORMER/
expected and taken for granted. meeting my high internal standards. I suppressed The rightness and wrongness of other able to quiet my internal critic and the a non-judgmental viewpoint. Remind me
THE PERFECTIONIST Their bad behaviour is and impulses anger, tension, and resentment. people’s behaviour. Self-criticism and associated anxiety and worry. Too that the goal in life is to be human, not to
are judged negatively and punished. other’s criticism of me. much error to correct. be without fault.
Everyone’s needs are To get, you must give. To be loved, I learned to get my personal needs fulfilled by being The needs and wants of others, Confusion about my own needs. Appreciate my independent self, instead
equally and freely met. you must be needed. needed and by giving others what I feel they need especially of people I care about and Feeling unappreciated or uncared for. of being seduced by or dependent on the
THE HELPER/
and want, and I expect they will then do the same would like to have care about me. Feeling controlled. Unmet personal help I give. Pay attention to my real
THE GIVER for me. I developed feelings of pride in being Relationships. The moment to needs and wants. needs and ask about them. Reinforce
indispensable. moment feelings and emotions of me for saying no when appropriate.
others.
Everything works and .What gets done is dependent on I learned to get love and approval by achieving All the things that have to be done: Obstacles: anything or anyone that Show me they care about me for who I
gets done naturally each person’s individual effort. success, by working hard to be the best, and by tasks, goals, and future achievement. threaten the successful achievement am, not for what I have accomplished.
THE ACHIEVER/
according to universal People are rewarded for what they maintaining a good image. I learned to deceive The most efficient solution. How to be of my goals. The pressure that comes Remind me to slow down.
THE PERFORMER laws. do, not for being who they are. myself that the image is more important than who I the best. from basing how good I feel about
am. myself. Doing too much.
Everyone has a deep People experience a painful loss of I learned to keep searching for an ideal love or What is positive and attractive about People and experiences not living up Encourage me to keep my attention on
and complete their original connection, leaving perfect circumstances to make me feel loved, the future and the past. What is to my romantic ideals, disappoints what is positive in the present. Honor my
THE INDIVIDUALIST/
connection to all others them feeling abandoned and feeling whole, and complete again. I developed feelings of missing or distant that I long and feel and lets me down. Wanting more than feelings and idealism. Let me see that
THE ROMANTIC and to all things. that they are missing something longing and envy for what was missing. lonely without. is available. Being rejected, they really understand me instead of
important. abandoned. Feeling misunderstood. trying to change me.

There is sufficient The world demands too much from I learned to protect myself from intrusive demands The intellectual domain. Facts. Being considered factually incorrect. Respect my need for privacy and space.
supply of all the people and gives them too little. and being drained of my resources by becoming Analysis and compartmentalized An overload of emotional input. Encourage me to be self-disclosing and
THE OBSERVER
knowledge and energy private and self-sufficient. I do this by limiting my thinking. I am sensitive and evasive of Failing to maintain sufficient privacy, to express my feelings.. Provide
everyone needs. desires by accumulating a lot of knowledge. I the intrusions and demands on me. boundaries and limits. Trying to learn moderate feedback about their own
developed a sense of avarice. everything there is to know before feelings and concerns towards me.
taking action.
We all begin with faith The world is threatening and While I became fearful and doubting I learned to be What could go wrong or be The pressure I put on myself in my Counter my doubts and fears with
in ourselves, in others, dangerous, and people just can’t vigilant and questioning which lead me obey or to dangerous. Potential pitfalls and efforts to deal with uncertainty and positive and reassuring alternatives that
THE LOYAL SKEPTIC
and in the universe. trust one another. escape (flight) or defy (fight) authority and difficulties. Fear leads me to focus my insecurity. Untrustworthiness. Feeling are realistic. Help me realize that most of
perceived threats. attention to scan the environment. pressured. Difficulties with authority what I fear does not happen in reality.
either obedience or rebellion.
Life is a full spectrum The world limits people, frustrates I learned to protect myself from limitations and pain Interesting, pleasurable, and Coping with the overload that results Encourage me to deal with pain, fear,
of possibilities to be them, and causes them pain. by engaging in pleasurable activities and by fascinating ideas, plans, options, from trying to sample all that life has and restlessness rather than escaping
THE ENTHUSIAST
experienced freely. imagining many fascinating possibilities for the projects. Interconnections and to offer. Making the same mistakes from these. Help me realize that running
future. I became a glutton for interesting ideas and interrelationships among diverse over and over because of my desire away from pain will never lead to
experiences. areas of knowledge and experience. to avoid pain, happiness. Let me know that others also
have equally important needs.
Everyone begins in It is a hard and unjust world in which I learned to become strong and powerful by Power and control. Justice and Having to contain my confrontational Provide feedback about my impact on
innocence and without the powerful take advantage of imposing my own truth and by hiding my Injustice. Deceptions and style and having difficulty containing them. Support me when I reveal softer
THE CHALLENGER/
guile, and everyone can others’ innocence. vulnerability in order to protect myself and others manipulations. All-or-nothing it. People who won’t stand up for feelings and vulnerabilities. Help me see
THE BOSS sense truth. and to gain respect. I developed a forceful energy polarities. Whatever demands action themselves. Others not responding to that my display of strength is only a
and came to rely on my instincts. right now. me or to what has to be done. cover-up of weakness.

Everyone belongs The world makes people I learned to forget myself and merge with others. I Others’ agenda, requests, and Saying no to someone and having Encourage me to express my own
equally in a state of unimportant and requires them to substituted inessentials and small comforts for real demands. All the things in the that person get angry. Having to positions. Support me when I act
THE MEDIATOR/
unconditional love and blend in, which provides them with a priorities. I learned to be lazy as my reaction to my environment that attract or tempt. make timely decisions and priorities. responsibly towards myself. Allow me to
THE PEACEMAKER union. sense of comfort and belonging. feelings of insignificance. Keeping life comfortable and familiar. Being treated as not important. Being acknowledge my suppressed anger.
forced to face conflict. Dealing with a Encourage me to set and keep my own
commitment I made that I didn’t really boundaries, limits, and priorities.
want to make.
 SELF-IMAGE I FIXED MY VIEWS ON THE VICE OR THE VIRTUE I NEED WHEN I AM STRESSED I USUALLY WHEN I AM RELAXED I USUALLY MY CORE FEAR
PASSION I NEED TO TO DISCOVER AND SHOW THE NEGATIVE SHOW THE POSITIVE
PATH OF
BE AWARE OFAND DEVELOP IN MYSELF CHARACTERISTICS OF CHARACTERISTICS OF
FACE TO GROW
I AM RIGHT AND PERFECTION, fixing the ANGER SERENITY THE INDIVIDUALIST/ THE ENTHUSIAST IMPERFECTION
THE REFORMER/ HARDWORKIN G world THE ROMANTIC
THE PERFECTIONIST
I AM CARING SERVICE PRIDE HUMILITY THE CHALLENGER/ THE THE INDIVIDUALIST/ BEING USELESS
THE HELPER/ BOSS THE ROMANTIC
THE GIVER
I AM EFFICIENCY DECEIT TRUTH THE MEDIATOR/ THE LOYAL SKEPTIC FAILURE
THE ACHIEVER/ SUCCESSFUL (Competence / Result- THE PEACEMAKER
THE PERFORMER Oriented)
I AM UNIQUE AND AUTHENTECITY or ENVY CALMNESS OF THE HELPER/ THE REFORMER/ ORDINARY / OBLIVION
THE INDIVIDUALIST/ INTUITIVE Genuineness TEMPERAMENT THE GIVER THE PERFECTIONIST
THE ROMANTIC
I AM PERCEPTIVE KNOWLEDGE AVARICE NON- THE ENTHUSIAST THE CHALLENGER/ EMPTINESS
THE OBSERVER (Hoarding) ATTACHMENT THE BOSS

I AM LOYAL (BUT SECURITY DOUBT OR COURAGE THE ACHIEVER/ THE MEDIATOR/ FEAR
THE LOYAL SKEPTIC DEEP WITHIN FEAR THE PERFORMER THE PEACEMAKER
SKEPTICAL)
I AM HAPPY OPTIMISM GLUTTONY TEMPERANCE THE REFORMER/ THE OBSERVER PAIN
THE ENTHUSIAST THE PERFECTIONIST

I AM POWERFUL CONTROL LUST (the need SIMPLICITY / THE OBSERVER THE HELPER/ WEAKNESS
THE CHALLENGER/ to subject others CHILDLIKENESS THE GIVER
THE BOSS to ones will)
I AM EASY GOING INACTION LAZINESS DILIGENCE THE LOYAL SKEPTIC THE ACHIEVER/ CONFLICT
THE MEDIATOR/ THE PERFORMER
THE PEACEMAKER
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LIFELINE OF MY LIFE-WORLD (LIVED EXPERIENCE). Mark the Dot that approximately characterized the highlight of your experience on each year of
your lifeline. Connect the dots to create a graphical (life-line) representation of your lived experience up to this point in your life.

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