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First and foremost, Cosmopolitan’s mission

What I’m Into RN
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is to empower women to live their best lives
and to arm them with the tools and inspiration to do just that. We
also have a long history of celebrating guys, which has presented
us with a unique—and some might say, unprecedented—chal-
lenge over the last few months. How can we responsibly uphold
that tradition at a time when it feels difficult to laud men?
As I write this letter, near-daily sexual-harassment claims are
finally felling powerful men in almost every industry—from tech
to entertainment to media to academia. And an avalanche of dis-
turbing #MeToo revelations continues to fill our Facebook feeds.
The result: A lot of women have taken a stance of understandable
indignation toward men that extends far beyond the perpetrators.
When I’ve questioned whether it’s fair to treat the entire male
species as a maligned monolith, I have, at times, been met with an
incredulous glare. I get it—women are pissed. And it’s warranted.
But the truth is, there are honorable men out there…of course
there are. And right now, some of those dudes are petrified that
they are guilty of having unknowingly done something indecent
and damaging…or that they might still. The reckonings they may
have to face could be the first step out of this mess.
At Cosmo, we want to do our part to move the conversation
forward. This month, for all our brothers who truly want to
be good guys—and who still have the opportunity to be—we’ve
created a special section straightforwardly called “How Not to
Be a Sexual Harasser (Even If You Think You Could Never
Be That Guy).” We’re not mincing words—just offering up
candid advice. Tear out the pages, give them to a
well-meaning man in your life, and encourage
him to take the guidance to heart.
It’s the very beginning of a dialogue and
(phrase)
an education process that is long overdue
and needs to take hold in concrete ways.
Only then will we be able to get back to

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celebrating men, no questions asked.
go-ahead, e.g., “You’ve
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back to the gym. Send
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 Cosmo THE SLEW OF REVELATIONS
across industries has made
FOR
one thing clear: The scope
Men of sexual misconduct in this
country is way larger than
are now reconsidering their
workplace behavior, and
nearly 20 percent are less at
ease with female colleagues,
for fear of inadvertently

HOW
many would have guessed.
And although plenty of
men would never dream of
harassing female colleagues,
the disturbing accounts
of groping and gross com-
ments have made even “good
doing or saying the wrong
thing (i.e., acting like the
company creep).
Guys, this is your guide
on how to take action—
alongside your female
peers—to make your work-

NOT
guys” wonder if they’ve ever
unintentionally demeaned or
sexually harassed a woman…
and how they can make sure
it never happens again.
In fact, an exclusive
place a safe, respectful
space for everyone. That
includes calling out bad
behavior when you see it,
because staying quiet can
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TO BE A from former Vice President

SEXUAL
HARASSER
EVEN IF YOU
THINK
YOU COULD GAL?

NEVER BE THAT

GUY BY ASHLEY MATEO

AND KAITLIN MENZA

Rip out this special section, and pass

it to a well-meaning man in your life.
 %
84
of people say some or a lot of
sexual harassment goes down in
American workplaces today.

56% of men
BEHAVIOR
BEST
Your

Workplace

“Men get fixated on the ‘sexual’ component of sexual harassment and say ‘It’s
have heard
coworkers impossible for me to have sexually harassed so-and-so. I’m not attracted to
make crude them,’” says Patti Perez, a VP at Emtrain, which trains companies on how to
comments to
or about prevent and resolve sexual harassment. “But stopping sexual harassment at
female peers. work is really about respect—having the same level of respect for all your col-
leagues, male and female.” These are the ground rules for acting appropriate.
Yet only
13% confess to
compliment, says you’d say it to a like body lan-
personally
doing so.
Go Hands-Off Perez, but do it potential boss. guage can make
“No one wants to wisely. There’s a “Everyone does you realize if
work in an envi- big difference better in the work- you’re making
ronment with no between Is that place when they people uncom-
forty-three

human element,” a new sweater? act as if they are fortable, says

32 says Perez. But

other than a
handshake or fist
It’s nice, and
That sweater
really shows off
being assessed in
some way,” says
Romy Newman,
Lewis Howes,
author of The
Mask of
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percent of peo- godboss, a jobs
percent of
ple think is fine—
men have seen
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colleagues rate by women.

the hotness Back rubs, shoul- “No asking a Call out other
woman for
of women in
their workplace.
der pats, and the
like may seem details about her Read the guys when they
cross the line. If
percent of
innocent, but sex life or talking Room that has no
always err on the about your own,” “Men tend to effect, you can
women have says Perez. You
witnessed
side of caution. focus on getting still be part of a
the same. may think you’re things done, woman’s support
coming off as a
Keep Looks stud, but to her,
rather than on
how things are
system. Speak to
her as an ally.
Out of It you may sound said,” says Perez. “Say, ‘I saw that.
17 11 Forty-two
percent of
like a perv. If you’re speak-
ing and a woman
Is everything
okay?’” advises
women have
been made
Pretend It’s a crosses her arms,
stops talking, or
Howes. Gauge
her comfort level
percent of guys
admit to doing it.
uncomfortable Job Interview leaves early, it’s about moving
by a male peer’s If you can’t tell if not because she forward with a
percent of women
comments about something’s has to use the complaint, and
own up to rating their appear- appropriate or bathroom. Tun- offer to take it to
other women. ance. You can not, ask yourself if ing into things HR together.

IS IT OKAY TO ASK OUT A COWORKER? “The reality is a lot of romantic relationships begin at work,”
says Romy Newman. If you’re her boss—or she’s yours—it’s a no-go. Otherwise, assess the risks; you could be
violating company policy. Still wanna go for it? Be crystal clear in asking her out. Think: Would you like to go on
a date? Not: Don’t we have such great chemistry? If she declines, that’s it—move on and don’t mention it again.

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 married and having my wife And if you ever see or

HOW I tell me that certain things

aren’t okay—talking over her
constantly, hugging every
woman I meet (I’m Ital-
hear sexual harassment, you
have to say something. You
don’t have to be the moral
police. You can still be a cool

Woke Up”
ian!)—that made me start
thinking about my subcon-
scious bias and the privi-
lege that comes with being a
straight white man.
BY JUSTIN BALDONI, ACTOR, DIRECTOR,
AND CREATOR OF THE NEW DIGITAL SERIES MAN I’m not trying to say that
ENOUGH (WEAREMANENOUGH.COM).
guy and say “Hey, don’t talk
about her that way” or “Don’t
do that to her.” We can’t be
silent anymore, because
when we’re silent, we’re
accomplices. We can’t have

%
45
BACK IN FIRST, maybe sec-
ond grade, I had a sign on
my door that said No Girls
Allowed. My friends and I
wouldn’t hang out with any of men say “It’s
girls. Nobody told me that awful, but I’m
not surprised,”
wasn’t okay, I think because about the
we’re so used to this “let rampant sexual
harassment
boys be boys” culture. The being revealed
problem is, that then turns in the news.
into “bros before hos” and a
guy code that teaches men
%
that our allegiance is to
other men. Now we have a
whole culture of men who
53
of women say
male coworkers
don’t even realize they’re have asked
them about
complicit in inappropriate their dating life.
behavior because they’re
just “boys being boys.”
The first step is recogniz-
ing that we are the problem.
%
We really are. It was getting
23
of guys admit
they’ve done so.
can change.

Like Justin, 42 percent of

men say they call out
harassment if they see it.

WORDS FROM
a Few More Good Men
All men could ask, ‘How am I behaving
differently toward this person because she
happens to be a woman?’ We can limit our
defensiveness if a woman shows us this
article and we assume she has faith that we
can be a part of the solution.” —MATT MCGORRY,
My first lesson in sexual harassment
was when I was 8 years old. My brother
and I catcalled a pretty girl, like we saw
grown men do. My mother had none
of it. She told us how disrespectful it
was. I will never forget her lesson.”
—TERRY CREWS, ACTOR, BROOKLYN NINE-NINE

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 JUST DON’T
SAY THIS STUFF.
EVER.
Even if you’re “only
joking.” Ax these offensive The Mindy Project Girls
lines, permanently. A male coworker tells Mindy that Hannah’s peers tell her to
her breast-feeding in public is dis- “get used to” their handsy boss.
“I had a super “You really
gusting. “This harassing com- “This makes women who report
hot dream need to get ment shames women for a natural abuse feel like culprits who need
laid.” biological process,” says clinical to think about the well-being
psychologist Sheela Raja, PhD. of their harassers,” says Raja.
“Your butt
looks great in
that skirt.”

“You’re totally
The Sexual Harassment
my type.”
DECODER
Pop culture tends to depict it as either a very serious plotline
or a big ol’ joke. IRL, sexual harassment is always

%
inappropriate, as shown in these subtle to overt examples.

How I Met Your Mother Grey’s Anatomy

Only A guy Robin rejected is a bigwig The staff finds out Izzie used to
7 percent at her new job, and he’s telling be an underwear model, and they
of men fess lies about their sex life. “This is tape up pics of her all over
up to this. particularly egregious because of work. Everything about this epi-
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his position,” says anti-harass- sode likely constitutes a fire-

ment consultant Susan Strauss. able sexual-harassment offense.
H E A D S H O T S : G E T T Y I M A G E S . B A L D O N I : TJ M A N O U.

It’s easy to be on auto-
pilot at work. But take time
to observe how women
are treated. Hear their con-
cerns. Say ‘How can I
support you?’ Not ‘Let me
coach you.’” —LEWIS HOWES,
AUTHOR, THE MASK OF MASCULINITY
My dad used to say the greatest sin is the abuse of power. That’s what we are talking
about here. It’s about attitudes that shame the victims and allow the perpetrators to
escape consequences. We’ll only truly be able to change this culture if everyone is
brought in, men and women. Men need to ask themselves, Am I demanding enough from
my school, my fraternity brothers, my teammates? They need to ask themselves what
kind of man they want to be.” —JOE BIDEN, FORMER VICE PRESIDENT AND COFOUNDER OF IT’S ON US

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funny!
Confessions

“I am a pro Insta
stalker. After I
found my
potential BF’s
ex’s account, I
‘investigated’
her all the way to
the beginning.
Later when I
returned to her
page, I was
so embarrassed
once I saw
a posted
screenshot
featuring all the
notifications
from my spree.
A glitch had
caused my
phone to Like
every picture as I
scrolled down
her feed. She
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“In my fresh- “I was

man year, I hanging
got an exten- with this guy “My family vis-
sion on my and told him ited me on-set.
English paper about a Michael Keaton
and pulled an pillow I’ve was there and
all-nighter to slept with asked, ‘How
complete it. I forever and old’s your sis-
was super proud how my ter?’ I said, ‘I
of my paper, ‘50 friends call it don’t have a sis-
Shades of my ballsack ter—he’s my

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Hamlet,’ so when because brother.’ I
I e-mailed my that’s what it didn’t realize he
was implying
teacher, I wrote looks like. that my mum
‘Thanks for the Back at my looked young. I
extension! I place, we had thought my
know you’ll enjoy were having brother was
this!’ Less than sex. All my pretty enough
five minutes normal-looking to be my sister.
later, I got a reply pillows fell off It didn’t go over
“I was visiting Poland and walked from my teacher the bed during well. My
brother was
around KrakÓw for the day. Back saying ‘We need
to have a talk. In
the act, and
suddenly, he upset, and so
at my hostel, I stood up, and a person. ASAP.’ goes, ‘Is that
was my mum!”
—TOM HOLLAND,
Turns out, I’d your ballsack?!’
hostel-mate sitting behind me accidentally sent When all the
SPIDER-MAN:
HOMECOMING

said, ‘Your trousers are ripped.’ I a pdf of the book

Fifty Shades of
stuff fell off my
bed, it must’ve
have no clue how long I had a rip Grey instead of
my essay!”
been revealed.
That’s the last
in the middle of my pants! I hope —ANGELA B., 23,
FINANCE ANALYST
thing you want a
guy you’re in
my coat covered the free show!” ELLICOTT CITY, MD
bed with to say!”
—SAMMY JO S., 27, ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE, RIDGEWOOD, NY —CHAN B., 25

“I went to the doctor to check a wart on my finger. When the derm walked in, she put
her hand out, and I assumed she wanted to look, so I stuck my hand out, like royals do. She took
my hand and chuckled. I realized she wanted to shake my hand, not look at my wart, and I died.” —SARAH S., 24

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 “I’ve had years of braces and surgeries to get my teeth near-perfect. When I was 16, I
went camping with my now-ex and his family. Over dinner, they offered me an ear
of corn. Without thinking, I bit right into the cob. I felt a crunch and pulled the corn away
from my mouth, and imbedded in it was my front tooth! I was mortified.” —ERICA M., 23

“After four years of dating, my boy-

friend let me drive his car. I had to
document it and put it on my
Snapchat Story. When I got home, he
told me I shouldn’t Snap and drive. I
lied and said I was at a stoplight...not
realizing the speedometer clocked
me at 40 mph. I was caught, and he
shamed me on social media!”
—CASEY M., 25, FASHION PR AND BLOGGER, GUILFORD, CT

“I was on
vacation
with friends
in Florida
and stayed in
an Airbnb. I
had to be up
early to
catch my
flight but
remembered
I had some
stuff in my
friend’s room.
I thought I’d just
sneak in and
grab my things
since she was
sleeping. When
I opened the
door, she was in
bed with a guy,
but I needed my
stuff, so I ran in
and said, ‘Keep
doing what
you’re doing.
I’ll be quick, no
worries.’ I then
got my things
and scurried out
so fast.”
—ASPENNE R., 22,
STUDENT, QUEENS, NY

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Dates From Hell

“I was talking
to this guy on
“The guy I was Tinder, and
seeing asked we agreed to
if I wanted to hang at some
go to dinner local bars. He
for my birth- was plas-
day. I knew he tered when
was having we met up.
money trou- He said he was
ble, so I told crashing on
him I had some guy’s
coupons to “I went on a couch, and I felt
my favorite date with this bad. I offered
place. I ordered guy who was my place, since
my main course, a drummer. “We got drinks before a he was too
and he ordered I thought drunk to get to
an appetizer for he was really show. He ordered a bottle of where he was
his meal, which cool. Our wine—I had a glass; he had the staying. We got
should’ve tipped date was three to my place
me off. When hours long, so I rest. He was drinking at and he tried to

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the bill arrived, assumed it had the show and took me to a bar spoon me and
he took one look gone well. When make a move,
and started tally- I got home, he after. He was slurring his but I made it
“I met this
ing what he’d texted me, ‘I’m words, telling me about past lawyer, who clear I was not
had. I told him pretty sure you interested. We
the coupons were just telling make-outs. Then he ordered took me to a
lovely dinner. fell asleep, and I
hadn’t been me what you food. Next thing I knew, he We had a lot thought I was
applied yet. I thought I
waited for him to wanted to hear was sleeping at the bar. I tried in common. dreaming of the
Then he brought sound of rain.
pick up the final all night long,’ to sneak out, but his sandwich me home in his Then I realized
tab, but he asked and he said I
me to pay for the was a fake per- came. Since he was asleep, I big fancy car that he was pee-
with a personal ing on my wall. I
meal and said son. I blocked grabbed the plate, but my driver. Before I kicked him out
he’d reimburse
me when he got
his number.” elbow hit his glass, spilling his got into my place, of my house at
—KYLIE P., 20 four in the morn-
his paycheck. He drink on his lap. He woke up he stuck his weak
little tongue in ing and spent an
took the left- and refused to look at me. hour disinfect-
overs and never my mouth and
ing. We never
paid me back.” I laughed and walked out.” started whisper-
spoke again.”
—STEPHANIE B., 39 —EMMA T., 28 ing that he was
falling in love —TALIA R., 23

with me. Weird!”

—DANIELLE M., 22

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I’m in a committed
3 minute relationship.
The BEAUTY
Ugly Side
of Beauty
Bargains
When Dana spotted an
internet coupon offer-
ing Juvéderm for a jaw-
dropping $135, she added
it to her cart stat. Since the
hyaluronic-acid filler can run
up to 10 times that amount, it
seemed like an amazing deal.
Fast-forward to a month after
her appointment and the injec-
tion site on Dana’s face flared
up, becoming red and swollen.
She sought the advice of der-
matologist Howard Sobel, MD,
who diagnosed her with a bio-
film infection, which is caused
by bacteria in the filler or from
an unclean injection site and
can take months to clear.
Shady beauty “bargains”—
and their ensuing issues—are
becoming widespread across
the country as the demand for
injectables grows, particularly
with the under-30 set. “I’d say
1 in 4 [bargain hunters] suf-
fers some kind of complication,”
estimates Miami dermatologist
Manjula Jegasothy, MD. Those
range from short-lived irritation
to allergic reactions to persistent
infections, nerve damage, facial
drooping, disfigurement, and in
rare cases, blindness or paraly-
sis. Here, the troubling—and
sometimes terrifying—reasons
you should never get cosmetic
procedures on the cheap.
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The Product May
Be Imported
Curious why her service was so
inexpensive, Dana asked her
injector. “He told me he gets a
great deal from Canada,” she
recalls. What he didn’t tell her
was that purchasing filler from
outside the country is illegal.
Fact: The only way for an
injector to know that a product
is authentic and FDA-approved
is to order it directly from the
manufacturer or an authorized
distributor. Yet the 20 docs we
interviewed have all been solic-
ited by dealers making cryptic
offerings. “We often get e-mails
pushing discounted fillers from
so-called Canadian pharma-
cies,” says New York City plastic
surgeon Lawrence Bass, MD.
And as Bryan Smith, an asso-
ciate vice president and senior
counsel at Allergan, explains,
“These tend to be products
approved for use in other coun-
tries that are initially sold to
legitimate distributors but fall
into the hands of criminals,
who then sell them for a cut
price to doctors’ offices and
medical spas in the U.S.”
But wait…if an injectable
product gets the thumbs-up
somewhere in the world, doesn’t
that mean it’s safe? Nope. These
imports—fillers, in particu-
lar—face less government scru-
tiny than injectables that have
met the FDA’s requirements
for copious long-term data. In
Europe, for example, “fillers
get banged out a mile a minute
because they’re not as strictly
regulated, which is why they
have some 160 different prod-
ucts on the market while we
have only about 20,” says Hono-
lulu plastic surgeon Clyde Ishii,
A L L I E H O L LO WAY.
MD, president of the American
Society for Aesthetic Plastic Sur-
gery. And lax standards beget
questionable quality. “Many
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European fillers have char- The Filler Could

acteristics, like hardness
and lumps, that Americans
would never find accept-
able,” notes Dr. Bass.
Neurotoxins (muscle-
freezing injections, such
as Botox), on the other
hand, tend to be more
tightly controlled across
Europe because, unlike fill-
ers, they’re classified as
drugs, not medical devices,
explains Andy Pickett, PhD,
a neurotoxin expert for
Galderma. But, as Smith
adds, “anything being
shipped to the U.S. from out-
side our supply chain means
we have no idea how it was
handled, transported, or
stored.” And when improp-
erly stored, fillers and neuro-
toxins can degrade and lose
their efficacy.
The Injector May
Cut Corners
“Some cut-rate injectors operate by
doing work at or below cost in the
hope that you’ll stay on later at full
price,” says Dr. Bass. But others curb
their losses by overly diluting the
products, minimizing their effect
and possibly increasing your odds of
infection. “Fillers can be contami-
nated when taken out of their native
syringes to be mixed with water or
saline,” notes Lara Devgan, MD, a
plastic surgeon in New York City.
Another sketchy practice: Some
unscrupulous providers save half-
used syringes of filler to inject into
the same patient (or worse, another
patient!) at a later date. Reputable
physicians consider filler a single-
use item and charge accordingly.
“Splitting the syringe just to save
a few dollars introduces needless
risk,” adds Dr. Devgan. In addition,
recapped leftover filler can separate
over time, making it harder to inject
or possibly causing lumps at the site,
says Dr. Jegasothy.
“Bargain-basement injections
can also signal inexperienced pro-
viders looking for practice,” says
Dara Liotta, MD, a plastic surgeon
in New York City. That’s yet another
reason so many medical spas can
undersell. Those injections “often
aren’t done by doctors but by peo-
ple with less training, like physi-
cian’s assistants,” says dermatologist
Debra Jaliman, MD.
Be Fake
While less pervasive than
unapproved imports, imi-
tations are also on the rise,
according to George Karavet-
sos. He busted hundreds of
unauthorized distributors and
fraudulent practitioners for
selling or ordering and inject-
ing phony formulas during
his 2015 to 2017 tenure as the
director of the FDA’s Office of
Criminal Investigations.
What’s in them is anyone’s
guess: “It could be silicone,
cement…anything,” says Jean-
nette Graf, MD, a dermatolo-
gist in Great Neck, New York.
According to Pickett, who
has traced and studied counter-
feit botulinum toxin, fakes can
range from unconvincing cop-
ies to exact replicas. Their con-
tents are just as inconsistent.
“In some we tested, we couldn’t detect
any toxin at all,” he says. “In others, we
found many multiples of the labeled
potency.” But potentially more dan-
gerous, he says, is “the fact that these
products could have been made in
someone’s garage. There’s no sterility
or quality and safety assurance.”
The Bottom Line
Botox costs about $6 a unit (roughly
$600 a vial) for pros to buy legiti-
mately from Allergan, the drug’s
manufacturer. “Most doctors charge
between $13 and $25 per unit to cover
the cost of the product and general
overhead and profit,” says dermatolo-
gist Paul Jarrod Frank, MD. Fillers
typically range from $600 to $1,500
per syringe. So if you’re seeing them
for much less, it’s too good to be true. Q

1 2
Google your injector. Find
How Not a board-certified cosmetic derm
to Get or plastic surgeon with a valid
license to practice in the U.S. who
Suckered treats patients in a medical
office. Or use the find-a-physician
locator on the product websites.
3
Inspect your fillers. Make
sure the box is in English and
unopened. Look for the sticker with
the product name, lot number, and
expiration date. “The doc should
place this in your chart. You can ask
to see it,” says Dara Liotta, MD.
Eye your toxin. For Botox, find
OnabotulinumtoxinA on the vial
and carton, plus an Allergan holo-
gram on the vial. For Dysport, Abo-
botulinumtoxinA should appear,
and Galderma should be on the
upper left corner of the carton.

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Your Skin
on an
Acid Trip

AZELAIC ACID GLYCOLIC ACID

The Redness
Reducer
The Acne Don’t let the idea of
Eliminator putting acid on angry
skin scare you—this
banishers works one blocks the inflam-
two ways: “by exfoli- matory enzymes
ating dead skin cells responsible for dilating
and reducing inflam- capillaries and causing
mation—two primary redness, says Dr. Idriss.
causes of acne,” If you’re dealing with
says Shereene Idriss, minor flushing, add an
MD, a cosmetic azelaic acid–based OTC
derm in NYC. Use it cream, like the one
morning and night. here, into your routine.
This wash delivers If you have chronic red-
2 percent (the max ness, talk to your derm
available in OTC about an Rx version like
acne products) in a Finacea or Azelex.
whipped texture.
The Ordinary Azelaic
Neutrogena Acne Proofing Acid Suspension 10%, $8,
Whipped Foam Cleanser, theordinary.com
$8.50, drugstores
HYALURONIC ACID
The Hydrating
Hero
Think of HA as the anti-
acid. “It pulls moisture
from the air into your
skin, resulting in a
hydrated and dewy
complexion,” says Dr.
Idriss. Another bonus:
All that moisture pro-
vides a temporary
plumping effect to min-
imize the appearance
of fine lines. This serum,
which boasts HA
and ceramides, works
especially well as a
makeup primer.
StriVectin Rehydrate +
Replump Hyaluronic
Dual-Response Serum,
$79, strivectin.com
The Skin
Smoother KOJIC ACID
Fine lines, meet your
match. “Glycolic acid Eraser
improves texture by This bomb brightener
loosening dead skin inhibits tyrosinase
cells, revealing a activity (aka it stops
smoother, glowier com- new pigment from
plexion,” says derm forming) and pre-
Jaimie Glick, MD. And, vents existing spots
she says, some studies from oxidizing and
show that it can getting darker, says
enhance collagen (the Dr. Glick. Used nightly
protein that keeps skin for 12 weeks, the
plump). Two nights a serum is clinically
week, apply this gel—it proven to reduce
contains rose water to hyperpigmentation
soothe any irritation (a by 48 percent.
common side effect).
La Roche-Posay Mela-D
Monastery XX Exfoliating Pigment Control
Glycolic Gel, $68, Concentrated Dark Spot
monasterymade.com Correcting Serum,
$49.50, drugstores

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This Is
How You
 LOVE

T
S TA R
ING!
SO METH

The word flirting can sound

quaint to the point of being
lamely outdated. But the
ability to banter playfully with
someone you’re into is a time-
honored and valuable dating
skill. “It heightens sexual
tension and distinguishes
your dynamic from a just-
friends situation, and it helps
you gauge compatibility and
chemistry on so many levels,”
says dating coach Laurie
Davis Edwards, founder of
The Worthy One and author
of Love @ First Click. The only
problem? In the era of digital
dating, you may never have
learned this analog skill…or
you’ve let it expire. Here’s
how to signal you’re down to
get much, much closer.

Use Enticing Words

Digital Flirting
Data from dating app
The League found that
women who write mmm,
cute, gorgeous, aww,
or handsome in their mes-
sages are six times more
likely to swap numbers
with a match than their less
flirty counterparts are.
Try a line like, “A handsome
guy who also likes ice
cream? Mmm,” says the
app’s founder and CEO,
Amanda Bradford.
Pepper in an Emoji
Toss in a wink, smiley face,
or kiss—the top emoji
used by both sexes when
flirting on their phones,
according to Match’s
Singles in America survey.
But do so sparingly and
not in lieu of a complete
sentence when one is
called for, says celebrity
matchmaker and dating
strategist Jasmine Diaz.
Shoot Over a GIF
“When texting, it can be
difficult to express
yourself and even more
difficult to show emotion,
but GIFs take off
some of the pressure,”
explains Jess Carbino,
PhD, Tinder’s resident
sociologist. “You can send
a flirty GIF, such as batting
eyelashes, that conveys
interest without having to
be too forward.” It also
shows your comical side.
Get a Little Fresh
When flirting with your
thumbs, banter is the only
thing you have to go
on. “It has to create enough
rapport that you want to
meet up,” says Edwards.
While chatting, look
for moments where you can
tease him or be sassy with
an intriguing challenge, like
“I’ll tell you when I see you”
or “Wonder if you’re this
funny IRL.…” He’ll bite.

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 LOVE

Face-to-Face
Flirting
Lock Eyes with expressing (c’mon, he’s try-
WAIT, IS HE
(in a Non- an earnest com- ing here!), sim- INTO YOU OR NOT?
Creepy Way) pliment,” says ply respond Despite how intuitive women can be,
“Some old- Sassoon. Look with “Thank 82 percent of us don’t know when we’re being
school methods for something you,” then move flirted with, per a University of Kansas study. The
are irreplace- you find flatter- the conversa- researchers chalk it up to the many different styles
able. There’s ing about him tion along. If of wooing. A sincere flirt, for example, discloses his
nothing sexier (his outfit, his that feels too feelings (“Um, I like you”), although you might
than two con- drink choice), or abrupt, throw mistake him for simply being friendly. Other guys
fident people mention some- some honest may opt for the polite style—acting “cautious
making eye con- thing sweet he praise right almost to the point of being passive,” says
tact from across did, like giv- back. study author Jeffrey A. Hall, PhD. If he
the room,” says ing his seat to wants to hang or asks if you’re
Rori Sassoon, another person Send Signals seeing anyone, take the hint:
cofounder and or helping to get With Body He’s into you!
CEO of the VIP the bartender’s Language
matchmaking attention so Consider all
service Plati- someone could the nonverbal
num Poire. A order a drink. hints you give
glance or two in when you’re
which you make Recognize not interested
eye contact (for His Efforts in someone.
three seconds, If a guy tosses You fold your
max!) paired out a line like arms, avoid
with a subtle “You have beau- eye contact,
smile sends a tiful eyes” and and lean back.
clear message: your response When you want
“I’m interested.” is “I bet you say to show that
that to every- you’re listening,
Say Some- body,” you come engaged, and
thing Nice off as skepti- intrigued, make
So this hottie cal, says Diaz sure to uncross
picked up what (even if it was your arms, look
you’re putting a total line). If him in the eyes,
down and is you’re inter- and casually
approaching. ested in getting tuck your hair
Now what? “You to know this behind your ear,
can’t go wrong dude, instead advises Diaz.
of deflecting or
downplaying
his comment

DON’T STOP ONCE YOU DTR Although there are other motivations (like sex),
most happy couples who are long-hauling it keep flirting because it’s fun, says Dave Henningsen, a pro-
fessor of communication at Northern Illinois University. “As a relationship develops, flirting may not
seem as important, but it can show your partner that you’re still attracted to them,” says Henningsen.

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Total-Body Sex!
John Mayer was right: Your
body is a wonderland...of
climactic possibilities! It contains
tons of different nerve endings
that, when touched, send signals
to your brain that can turn you
on. And when you’re already
in a sexy headspace, your
partner trailing their fingers
across a certain hot spot can be
enough to trigger an earthquake
down below. “It’s even been
reported that the neck and
toes, when stimulated in the BEHIND THE KNEES
right way, can lead a woman to An oft-ignored spot, the backs of your knees love
orgasm,” says Keith Blanchard, a soft smooch or stroke from your bedmate. But this is
also a very ticklish spot, so watch out for knee jerks!
who researched the topic for
his new book It’s All in Your
Head. Let this be your guide to
discovering all your O-zones.
Urethra
Because of the
clitoris’s shape, it sur-
rounds three sides of
your urethra (where
your pee comes
from...and no, we
won’t call this a pee-
gasm). Technically,
touching here still
counts as a clitoral
climax, but it’s more
indirect contact—
and two-thirds of
women prefer that.

FEET
It’s not everyone’s thing, but a foot massage or light toe
sucking can light up the brain area adjacent to the one
connected with genital touching. That explains why some
people get off on playing footsie! Try asking your S.O. to
knead the bottom of your foot to see if it feels good.

YOUR PLEASURE KEY

FULL O POTENTIAL EROGENOUS ZONE

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 SEX

Clitoris
The clitoris is the wishbone-shaped home to 8,000 sen-
sory nerve endings that extends through your labia and
runs along your lady parts internally—making it the
mecca for most women’s bed-breaking orgasms. Try
up-and-down motions right on your external C-spot with
your fingers or a bullet vibe, or opt for more indirect
stimulation by rubbing your labia.

Cervix
Your cervix (at the
top of your vaginal
canal, near the
opening to your
uterus) is a hot spot
because of its prox-
imity to the vagus
nerve, a pathway
that carries info to
the brain that can
lead to intense
climaxes. If your
guy can’t reach it
(the average vagi-
nal canal is 3.7
inches but length-
ens when aroused),
try an internal
vibrator, like Fun
Factory’s Abby G
($90, fun
factory.com).

Butt
Your booty has tons
of sensory nerve
endings, so the area
can be a major sexy
center but also
quite sensitive.
Proceed with
caution: Go slowly,
practice with what
feels good, and
MARCIN T YSZK A /TRUNK ARCHIVE,

use plenty of lube Vagina

when inserting any-
thing back there P-in-V sex hits your G-spot, a dime-size area along the top wall of
(the anus isn’t your vaginal canal. While the G-spot is packed with nerve endings,
self-lubricating like only 18 percent of women in a recent study reported orgasms
the vagina). from vaginal penetration alone. However, during foreplay, your
partner can massage this spot in a come-hither motion with
one finger while you press down gently on your abdomen to create
a pleasurable pressure that can end with an O.

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 YOUR PLEASURE KEY

FULL O POTENTIAL Nipples

When lightly twisted or sucked on, your nipples become
EROGENOUS ZONE erect and light up the brain’s pleasure center the same
way genital stimulation does. Playing with them can also
cause uterine contractions that help you reach your peak.

WRISTS
The thin skin on
the inside of your
wrists, also a pulse
point, makes the
area especially Chest
sensitive for some.
Have your partner Yeah, it sounds out there, but spiritual gurus believe
kiss them lightly or that accessing the energy in your “heart center” in the
gently tie a scarf middle of your chest (different from your actual heart)
around them may cause a feeling of release. During sex, alternate
during foreplay. touching your vulva and your chest, and as you inhale,
imagine pulling the energy in your genitals up to your
chest until it builds up and is released in a rush of plea-
sure in your chest area. This may lead to a deeper emo-
tional connection with your partner.

Core
Ten percent of women have reported feeling a deep
internal climax while exercising, according to SIDE BOOB
one study. (Among the most common exercises were ab The side of your
work, climbing, and weight lifting.) When you work breasts can handle
out, you increase blood flow all over your bod, but some a little more pres-
moves may also trigger your pelvic-floor muscles, sure than your
which contract when you orgasm. super-sensitive nip-
ples, according to
research. Grab a
handful the next
time you’re going
solo, or have your
mate give your
ladies a rubdown
with massage oil.

percent of women report that clitoral stim-

ulation during intercourse is either necessary
for orgasm or makes their finish feel extra.
This combo of G- and C-spot stim is what’s
known as a blended orgasm. Shoot for one
by teasing your clitoris during missionary.
 SEX

Brain
Fantasizing about an
erotic hookup activates
FINGERTIPS the area of your brain
The nerve-dense associated with
pads of your digits LIPS orgasms and sends
can be used to While only some women claim they’ve orgasmed arousing oxytocin
your advantage by from giving a BJ (who are these unicorns?), it’s true that throughout your sys-
having your lover your pout is one of your most sensitive, nerve-concen- tem. This is why
gently suck on them. trated parts. Vary up your kissing from quick experts call the mind
Or press your tips pecks to running your tongue along each other’s lips your largest sex organ,
against theirs in an to amp up excitement. why some women can
intimate move that think themselves off,
will boost your bond. and why 37 percent can
reach their peak while
they’re sleeping.

NECK
In a recent survey,
women ranked the
nape of their necks
higher than breasts
as a seriously eroge-
nous zone. (Men
also found the neck
to be particularly
erotic.) Invite bae to
gently run his or her
fingers along your
nape, then alternate
between light
sucking and kissing.

EARS
The nub between your lobe and the tip of your outer ear
is the cymba, and someone touching it can give you serious
chills. If they gently lick your earlobes too, it can make you
think of other places you want them to use their tongue.

SOURCES: GYNECOLOGIST ALYSSA DWECK, MD; SEXOLOGIST SADIE ALLISON, FOUNDER OF TICKLE KITTY; SEXUALITY AND TANTRA EDUCATOR LAYLA MARTIN

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Dating &
Mating With
Esther Perel

Let Go of
Being
the Perfect
Partner

You might
need to blow
up your own
Cinderella
story.

There is no such thing as the ideal girl-
friend. It’s time to give up the hope that you can
be fault-free, put-together all the time, and just
the right amount of deferential and independent
in a relationship. That idea is utterly unrealistic,
keeps you in a constant state of not feeling good
enough, and prevents you from developing real
confidence. It can even end up putting unneces-
sary strain on your mate and bond.
Think about it this way: Relationships are
like musical instruments. If you expect to pick
one up and quickly play it like a pro, you’re
going to become frustrated, and you may just
walk away from a good thing—missing out
before you really even began. To foster a long-
term, supportive, rock-solid connection and
healthy self-esteem, try to acknowledge your
flaws while still holding yourself in high regard.
Start by getting rid of these outdated notions of
exemplary girlfriend behavior.
“I ALWAYS HAVE TO LOOK GREAT”
Trying to be something you’re not rattles your
confidence—and that applies to wearing outfits
that society tells you are conventionally attractive
but don’t make you feel like yourself. Of course,
it can be fun to use clothing to highlight your
unique features, but give yourself permission to
dress however makes you the most comfortable
in the moment—even if that means donning a
sweatshirt on date night or your favorite tee that
has holes in it. Your partner will be more drawn
to you if you don’t dress in a way that seems forced
or causes you anxiety.

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 LOVE

LOVE QUIZ
Are Your
Standards
for Your
1 2 3
The checklist
of qualities
you need your
partner to have
is rigid and
inflexible.
You nitpick at
things like their
eating habits or
their style.
TRUE
FALSE
When you get
into a fight, you
find it nearly
impossible to
make up.
If you answered
mostly true,
you may be holding
your partner to
unrealistic ideals.
Instead of fixating
If you answered
mostly false,
you’re allowing your
mate to have their
own flaws. The
ability to love and
Lover Too TRUE
TRUE
FALSE
on superficial
faults, focus on the
respect each other
in spite—and
High? FALSE harmony you two because—of these
do have. Then ask imperfections
if he or she is open (within reason!)
to learning and can strengthen
evolving. your connection.

Being supportive does not mean everything

becomes your responsibility.
“I NEED TO BE TOTALLY CHILL”
Being chill or cool is not a sign of emotional
maturity or intelligence. There are things that you
should get worked up about, like if your partner is
unfaithful or neglectful. In fact, I would be wor-
ried if that didn’t upset you! Some situations
demand certain reactions, and this idea of women
being too much or crazy is destructive. It leads
you to act fake and pretend that your partner’s
hurtful actions don’t bother you—which deprives
your relationship of true closeness and connection.
What you want to learn is how to regulate the
way you express your emotions. As in, you cry, get
angry, scream…and then calm down. By doing
so, you’re giving your partner a chance to really
get to know you, what upsets you, and how you
handle and resolve your feelings. And yes, the
right partner will still love you once you open up
to him or her this way.
“I HAVE TO BE SUPPORTIVE”
In relationships, women are often given the role
of the pleaser, the more nurturing partner, the
I L LU S T R AT I O N B Y N I C O L A S O R T E G A .
your own identity and individuality. Instead of
adhering to the “right thing to do,” you must find
your own voice as a caretaker. Being supportive
does not mean everything becomes your respon-
sibility. You might need to step away when
you feel overwhelmed or allow your partner the
space to solve his or her own problems.
“I SHOULD HAVE MY LIFE TOGETHER”
A woman who tries to be the perfect girlfriend
or spouse feels as though she must have it all fig-
ured out, as if that just comes naturally to her. In
Esther Perel is
a sex and reality, you are allowed to make mistakes, search
relationships for yourself, and not have all the answers just yet
therapist, author,
and the host of about who you are and where you’re heading.
the Audible Plenty of my clients have told me things like,
original series
Where Should We When I met [my girlfriend], she was so poised.
Begin? With She gave off an air of someone who knew what
Esther Perel. Her
TED Talks on she was doing and where she was going, but now
desire and infidelity that we are together, I’ve discovered that none of
have been
viewed nearly that was true. If you begin a relationship on the
20 million times. presumption that you already have everything
Her latest book,
The State of Affairs, figured out, you are setting yourself up for stress.

shoulder to cry on, the emotional rock. But always
being there for others can sometimes make you
forget to take care of yourself. Constantly trying
to be supportive and uplifting can also cause you
to second-guess yourself, asking, “Did I say this
right? Did I do the right thing?”
The fundamental challenge is to figure out how
to encourage your mate while also holding on to
is a New York Times Your bond will be built on unrealistic expecta-
best seller.
tions, and your partner may be resentful once
you reveal your true self.
Instead, try to learn to feel good about yourself
even when you are imperfect, and present that real
version to potential mates. This will set you up to
have a romance built on truth, and you’ll be confi-
dent that he or she likes you for who you are. ■

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all about
men6 Traits of
Guys Who Are
Great in Bed
POP
It’s likely he’s
mainstream, so his
moves probably
won’t be creative. If he’s
mixing it up, it’s because
his bro told him
about a move that
slays in the
sack.
According to a recent
study published in
the journal Socioaffective
Neuroscience and
Psychology (so you know
it’s legit!), dudes who
get women off the most
possess these

Decode His
Sex Playlist : ALTERNATIVE
Chances are, he’s
When it’s time to make mellow and open-minded,
some noise (behind closed but he may need a
strong female lead to take
doors), take note of what his the reins. With you in
taste in music might reveal charge, it could develop
about his between-the- into the best sex of
your life.
sheets style, says sexologist
3. Creativity Megan Stubbs. Consider
4. Emotional warmth these good guesses.
5. Faithfulness
6. Pleasant body odor

1 0 2 0 3 0 4 0 5 0 4 0
Would He
Rather… “Sex over “
Give Up Super Bowl. “I would rather
Having Sex No game is enjoy the endless
worth pleasures of sex
for 3 Months giving up than watch up sex for life to see
rather watch it my Jets in the Super
overpaid humans really horny than
play catch for Bowl. Sex is over-
sit at home while rated when your
three hours.” my friends are at
—JAY H., 27
teams are winning.”
a bar going nuts.” —JEREMY F., 22
—COLE M., 19

3 0 4 0 5 0 4 0 3 0 2 0 1 0

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 4 Reasons
He’s Not
Relationship
Ready
1 3
R&B
“You don’t play Bad Timing He Feels Like
Perhaps he’s He Just Hit
Marvin Gaye and His Prime
expect to have a leaving soon for
a yearlong Some men try to
quickie,” says Stubbs. compensate for
He’s feeling you, so backpacking
trip through not having been
embrace it—you’re in the hot jock who
for a long night of Australia or he’s
in-between got all the
sexual healing.
moves. The attention in
right guy at the school by playing
wrong time is the field once
still the wrong they’re older and
guy and can more self-
waste your time. assured. Often,
Unless you both this phase
have a solid plan doesn’t last long,
for making a but if he’s loving
future together the attention
happen, stop from women, it’s
COUNTRY not worth
telling yourself
“Usually the songs waiting around
tell a story, so he may he’s close to
committing. for him to grow
be into words,” says Stubbs. tired of it.
Give him affirmations,
and tell him when 2
he’s hitting the right spot, 4
especially during
cowgirl—wink! His Role He Can’t
Models Are Support
Eternal Himself
Players Financially
He looks up to Yes, it’s 2018. But
James Bond, many men still
Don Draper, or feel an urge to
George Clooney provide. When a
(pre-Amal days) man’s career isn’t
M A N W I T H H E A D P H O N E S : S E R G E G U E R A N D/ B L AU B LU T- E D I T I O N /AU G U S T.

and is on a where he wants

mission to sleep it to be, he can
with every feel like taking on
R E F E R E E : G E T T Y I M A G E S . W O M A N K I S S I N G D O G : S T O C K S Y.

THE PERCENTAGE woman with a a relationship

OF MEN WHO THINK pulse. It’s isn’t doable.
SOMEONE WHO’S safe to assume Show him that
AFFECTIONATE he won’t be your support
WITH DOGS IS SUPER ready for one isn’t dependent
ATTRACTIVE. woman until the on his paycheck.
BOWWOW, CHICA! whole player If that’s not
SOURCE: NATIONAL TODAY.COM SURVEY
thing starts to enough, then let
seem stale. him go.

Get Matthew Hussey’s free

guide to the five reasons men
pull away in relationships at
WhyHesGone.com.

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 LOVE

Ask Him Anything

Love advice from our guy guru, Logan Hill

Who says date

night can’t be
date day?
 Help! My fiancé and I
are stuck in a serious
date-night rut. We go to
the same restaurant,
order the same thing....
He sees nothing
wrong with it. How do
I tell him we need to
switch it up?
A_ In life, it’s always easier to
criticize than to come up with
a better option. In relation-
ships, it’s always easier to blame
your partner than to take
responsibility. But easy doesn’t
get results. If you don’t like
the same ol’ same ol’, don’t just
gripe, “I’m so bored with that
dive on Main Street. If I have to
eat another burger....” Come
up with a specific plan of how
you’re going to update your
routine, then tell him, “Let’s go.
Get in the car. It’s a surprise.
I’ll drive.”
I’ve been complaining so
much to my husband
about work that he says
he can’t hear it anymore.
How can I make him
understand that venting
to him helps me?
A_ Everybody vents. You should
remind your husband that you
each need different kinds of sup-
C O U P L E : D I R K K I K S T R A / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M . S E L FI E S H O T S : G E T T Y I M A G E S .
I made the mistake of
telling my man that
I’ve had better sex with
other guys (eek!). How
do I recover?
A_ Ouch. How does he
recover?! If the truth hurts, you
Men say they hate basically just kicked him in
the nuts with honesty. He’s not
duck-face selfies, going to believe you when you
say, “I didn’t mean ‘other guys,’ I
but I get the most just meant one guy and I can’t
even remember his name.…” So
Likes from dudes the only way out is forward. Tell
him you’re sorry; you screwed
on those posts. up. Then explain that it often
takes a while to communicate
What’s the truth? and figure each other out before
sex gets really amazing. Then
say, “I was insensitive before,
but I care about you, I want you,
and I’d like to make this part of
our life better.”
My ex and I broke up
four years ago, and he
just reconnected with
me via Snapchat. I
recently got engaged,
so his timing seems
extremely suspect.
What could he want?
A_ He wants attention. He and
his bruised ego are probably
grappling with the horrifying
idea that you could possibly

port. Just as you may help him
talk through issues with his
family or give him some space
when he’s grumpy, you need him
to listen to you fume a little over
your boss’s latest memo or
arbitrary rule. Also, remember
that many guys are “fixers” who
get impatient when they hear
complaints—often, they just
want to solve a situation. Let
him know that you appreciate it
when he just sits and listens,
even when laying the usual work
rant on him. But remember,
too, that there are limits to how
much negativity any one person
can absorb.
A_ If your goal is to get a ton
of random people comment-
ing that “You look hot,” then
duck face may do the trick. (To
each his own, but to me, overtly
sexy posts often look thirsty,
like you’re just desperate for
Logan Hill has
dated around,
attention.) If you are not fishing
hooked up, grown for compliments, though, then
up, screwed up,
and settled down,
who cares what anyone else
so he knows thinks? Post selfies that make
what he’s talking
about. See more
you feel happy and like your
of his insightful most authentic self. It means
answers to your
love dilemmas at
so much more when someone
Cosmopolitan.com. Likes the real you.
love someone else. So just plain
ignore him—you don’t need
him stirring up any drama.
Every time I say “I love
you” to my long-term BF,
he doesn’t say it back.
Why can’t he do this?
A_ The only person who can
give you a straight answer is your
guy. Maybe he’s not ready or he’s
worried how those words might
change things. Rather than
accusing him of not loving you,
explain what you mean when
you say that phrase to him, then
ask him if he feels the same.
Better to know now than later. ■

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Shower Get a Grip

Sex...That Holding on to your shower cur-

tain as your partner takes you
from behind can rip it down,
and putting your foot on the

Doesn’t End
slick edge of the tub for a bet-
ter angle during face-to-face
sex is asking for trouble. That’s
why adult brand Sportsheets’
suction Handle Bar and Foot

in the ER
Rest ($18 and $17, sportsheets
.com)—made just for wet
hookups!—are must-haves,
says Emily Morse, host of the
Sex With Emily podcast.

Steamy air, cascading

water, soapy naked bodies
gliding against each other.
Shower sex sounds incredi-
bly erotic. In reality, the expe-
rience can be anything but. Bring a Buddy
First, the close quarters ing loofah (like the Vibrat-
and slick surfaces call for ing Mesh Sponge, $18,
some pretty awkward maneu- sportsheets.com) can help you
vering. “And then there are lather up and act dirty at the
the physical dangers, like same time. Inside the layers
of mesh is a hidden water-
slipping and falling,” warns proof bullet vibrator. Have
sex coach Alicia Sinclair. I your partner work it all over
mean, you’re aching for an your body, stopping at hot
orgasm, not an arm cast! spots such as your nipples and
All that said, here at Cosmo, clitoris for an X-rated thrill.
we are undaunted by a carnal
challenge, so we’ve come
up with tips for safely pulling
off a wet and wild session.

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Light It Up
Most bathroom lighting is
harsh and unflattering—the
opposite of mood setting. If you
have a tub or a glass shower
door, consider dimming or kill-
ing the overheads and lining
your countertop with scented
candles for a sensual and sexy
glow, suggests Sinclair.
S H O W E R H E A D : G E T T Y I M A G E S . I L LU S T R AT I O N S : K AT I E B U C K L E I T N E R .
Feel Even Wetter
Getting water in your privates
can actually dry them out, mak-
ing sex uncomfortable. Reach
for a silicone lube, like Trojan’s
Riviera ($16, amazon.com),
which is made for shower play
and keeps the action slidey and
glidey (but first, put down a non-
slip mat on the shower floor).
Rub-a-Dub-Dub
Take turns giving each other
a scalp massage with sham-
poo. Then move on to full-
body stroking with a soap like
Sustain Natural Body Wash
($17, sustainnatural.com), an
organic, fragrance-free for-
mula that won’t mess with
your vagina’s pH levels.
Cushion the Blow
A washcloth is not only an
ideal accessory with which to
rub each other down, but it’s
also a great cushion for your
knees. Lay a few on the floor
of your shower (or a use bath
towel) when you’re going down
on your guy or if you’re doing
it doggie-style.
OOPS-
PROOF
POSITIONS
TO TRY
The Bathing Booty
Firmly plant your feet on the tub floor,
and make sure they’re secure. Then
bend over at the waist and spread your
legs so your guy can enter you from
behind. He gets a stellar view, while you
get plenty of G-spot feels.
The Edge of Glory
Oral in the shower = an awesome adven-
ture. Take turns sitting on the edge of
the tub and pleasuring each other with
your mouths. On your turn, switch up
the pace of your tongue, twisting from
long, slow licks to speedy circles.
The Stream Team
Face your partner, lean back against the
shower wall, and wrap one leg around
his torso. Then have him enter you.
If you have a handheld showerhead,
aim the water at your clitoris while you
swivel your hips back and forth.
sex SEX

I just got

Q+A
Honest answers to your most private questions
engaged, and
the sex with
my fiancé is
better than
ever. What’s
going on?
A_ Any chance he popped the
question one year into your
relationship? That’s when most
couples say their sexual sat-
isfaction peaks, according to
a study in Archives of Sexual
Behavior. But there’s another
way putting a ring on it can
jack up your libido. All the
excitement may prompt a rush
of desire-revving hormones
like dopamine and testosterone
in both of you. “When you feel
like, ‘we’re in this for the rest of
our lives,’ it shifts your mind-
set,” explains sex therapist
Megan Fleming, PhD, and that
can lead to electric sex.

How do I get my guy to

try new positions?
A_ There are two types of
approaches, says Fleming. Over
a glass of vino at your favorite
neighborhood spot, say some-
thing like, “I can’t wait to try
X” or “I would love for us to do
Y.” That way it won’t feel like a
demand or requirement, and
it creates sexual tension and
excitement for your next ses-
sion. Or you can take things into
your own hands (literally) the
next time you’re getting it on.
Want more boob play? Move his
Feel your hands to your breasts. Want to
desire—
just don’t switch to reverse-cowgirl when
draw blood! you’re on top? Start to twist
around—he’ll catch on.

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sex questions to
on but not wet at all.
What does this mean?
A_ There are lots of reasons
your Niagara Falls could some-
times feel a little more like
Dry-agra Falls. “It’s not uncom-
mon for women to be mentally
aroused but not experience gen-
ital arousal like tingling feelings
of warmth or lubrication,” says
ob-gyn Leah Millheiser, MD,
director of the Female Sexual
Medicine Program at Stanford
University Medical Center.
It could be that your body
is going through hormonal
changes because of birth-
control pills or breast-feeding.
Antidepressant meds have also
been shown to affect women’s
wetness level. The solution? Dr.
Millheiser suggests a few drops
of a silicone lubricant (it’ll last
longer than a water-based for-
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tell any difference between
condom materials. The thin-
nest latex version we’ve seen
to date is the LifeStyles
Zero condoms, which are
52 percent thinner than the
brand’s other versions.
What am I supposed to
do with a sex toy when
I’m sick of it?
A_ “Sadly, there isn’t a proper
sex toy recycling program,” says
Lisa Finn, sex educator and I heard that using a
brand manager at Babeland. throat-numbing spray
Though some e-waste facilities helps you give better
will take rechargeable batter- BJs. But is it safe?
ies, the exterior material has to A_ From an ingredients stand-
be removed, and unless you’re a point, these sprays (which are
toy engineer, that can be really marketed for deep-throating)
complicated. But, says Finn, are safe. They’re not danger-
you can always repurpose! For ous for you or your guy’s penis.

Will a guy notice a dif-
ference between an all-
natural condom and a
latex one during sex?
A_ It depends on the dude.
Some men say that all-natural
lambskin condoms have the
best barely there feel because
they transmit body heat bet-
ter than latex. (Important note
though: Lambskin rubbers
Lifestyles ZERO
only protect you from preg-
nancy—the material’s pores
instance, an internal toy can be
used on your clitoris or nipples,
an external vibe can turn into
a massager for your shoulders
and back, and a vibrating cock
ring can transform into a fin-
ger vibrator or be placed on a
non-vibrating dildo to make it
pulse. “If all else fails, you can
always bedazzle your deceased
toy and have it as a piece of
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 SEX

The final installment of the Fifty Shades franchise hits

theaters this month, but that’s not the only flick that makes for steamy Valentine’s Day
viewing. Here, 10 of our faves and the moves to replay at home.

Body Heat 9½ Weeks Top Gun How Stella Cruel

(1981) (1986) (1986) Got Her Intentions
Ned (William Hurt) A Wall Street player Set to Berlin’s Groove Back (1999)
and Matty (Kathleen (Mickey Rourke) languorous ballad (1998) This racy ’90s
Turner) engage expands the sensory “Take My Breath Away,” Jamaican local cult classic features
in suspenseful and boundaries of an a romp between Winston (Taye Diggs) an unexpectedly sweet
scandalous foreplay art lover (Kim Basinger) a cocky fighter pilot pursues a successful lose-your-virginity
that leads to wild sex… when he gets her (Tom Cruise) and older woman scene between
and a few broken to close her eyes, then his flight instructor (Angela Bassett) Annette (Reese
windows. feeds her fruit and (Kelly McGillis) reaches who’s on vacation… Witherspoon), the
DIY: If you dare, show up champagne. thrilling heights. pleasing her in angelic new girl in town,
to bae’s place in lingerie, DIY: Depriving one DIY: Before you every erotic way and Sebastian
a long coat, and little sense (sight) heightens hop into bed together, possible. (Ryan Phillippe), a rich
else. When your partner the others (taste, turn this now-iconic DIY: Initiate an I-come- bad boy.
opens the door, flash your touch). Blindfold your song way up, then take first rule, instructing your DIY: During missionary,
ensemble, then playmate, then your time during partner to focus keep eye contact
push them up against tease him or her with girl-on-top, timing your on you during foreplay with your mate, and plant
the wall for a ice cubes, strawberries, moves to until you’re kisses on his neck
need-you-now kiss. your tongue.... the slow rhythm. totally gratified. to heighten intimacy.

Unfaithful Troy Savages Magic Mike Adore

(2002) (2004) (2012) (2012) (2013)
Photographer Paul Amid the Troy vs. Two gorgeous guys Mike (Channing Friends Roz (Robin
(Olivier Martinez) Sparta combat, (Taylor Kitsch and Tatum) and his crew Wright) and
and housewife Connie Briseis (Rose Byrne) Aaron Taylor-Johnson) use impeccable Lil (Naomi Watts)
(Diane Lane) fall sneaks into Achilles’ and one satisfied choreography to strip take each other’s
into a scorching affair. (Brad Pitt) room girlfriend (Blake Lively) down and give 20something sons
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The scene in which with intent to kill, but equal the most their audiences one as lovers in this
Connie remembers an the potential murder sizzling threesome ever helluva show. provocative film
afternoon delight meets a plot captured onscreen. DIY: Play “Pony,” that features gorgeous
in a series of flashbacks twist: an unexpected DIY: Bring a by Ginuwine, sit on people and scenery.
is seriously arousing. roll-around. nonthreatening third the couch, then ask DIY: Fake an
DIY: Grab a solo DIY: Surprise your mate into your bedroom your boo to show air of forbidden love
sex toy, lie back, and with a tickle fight by introducing you their sexiest dance by role-playing
picture your most on a quiet Sunday an external vibe. moves. Offer with your partner.
memorable morning, then cut Show your partner how encouragement in the Pretend to be
sexual encounter— the funny business with a you like to use it form of hoots, hollers, and total strangers, rivals,
then “relive” the wordless move of your while they touch other maybe a performance or whoever else
moment. hands down below. hot spots. of your own. turns you both on.

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Morning
People—
Don’t Hate
 WELLNESS

Getting out of bed in the dark dead of winter (aka

right freaking now) truly sucks. But it might be a key part of
your overall well-being. Research shows that self-identified morn-
ing people—anyone who feels energized in the a.m. as opposed to
those who hit snooze seven times—tend to be happier and report
feeling physically healthier than night owls do. And a study in the
journal PLOS One found that morning people have a lower body
mass index—perhaps because catching sun before noon synchro-
nizes your circadian rhythm, or internal body clock, and helps Attend an A.M.
keep your metabolism on track. Dance Party
Down to reap the perks? You’ll have to commit to the morning- A morning sweat sesh is one
person lifestyle seven days a week. “If your ideal weekend involves of the best things you can do to
staying up all night and sleeping until noon, it’s going to be harder reset your internal body clock,
to get back on track Monday through Friday,” says sleep special- says Dr. Winter. “You’re tell-
ist W. Christopher Winter, MD, author of The Sleep Solution. But ing your brain that you’re in
trust: Follow these steps and soon you’ll be one of those annoy- the wake stage of your 24-hour
ingly chipper people passersby snarl at. circadian process,” he explains.
And after you’ve done a few
weeks of morning workouts,
your body will anticipate them.
In the initial days of becom-
ing an early-workout betch, hit
the gym with a friend who starts
her day with a class and will
hold you accountable. (What’s
more motivating than the fear of
standing up your homegirl?) If
your crew lacks early risers, meet
some at a sunrise dance event,
You are 98
like Daybreaker, or a crack-of-
percent more dawn outdoor fitness class, like
likely to sleep November Project.
poorly if you
binge-watch TV
than if you don’t,
according to a 2
new study
published in the
Journal of Rise and Grind
Clinical Sleep Yup, 7 a.m. sex might actually
Medicine. help you join club morning
glory, says Dr. Winter. Early-
morning O’s kick off your day
with a flood of neurotransmit-
ters like dopamine, which
promote wakefulness. And
making a habit of sun-up sexy
time (with yourself or someone
else) encourages your bod to
expect morning pleasure, says
Dr. Winter, helping you wake up
more easily (duh).

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Don’t Tuck Your-
self in With an
Instagram Story
A 2017 study suggests that
surfing the socials 30 min-
utes before passing out leads
to worse sleep than if you
quit Liking pics hours before
you’re in bed. There may be
lots of reasons for this: Your
phone’s blue light curbs your
natural melatonin flow, social
media can cause cognitive
arousal (i.e., that feeling when
your ex tags his new GF), and
hours feeding your habit dis-
place sleep time. To wake up
refreshed, stop scrolling at
least half an hour before bed.
Don’t Let
Booze Wreck
Your Snooze
A full glass of vino tastes better .com) and
after a long day. But if you want be summoned
to be a rise-and-shiner, just
pass. Aim to stop drinking wine oils of your
(or any alc) four to six hours
before bed, says Dr. Winter. If
there’s too much booze in your
blood, your bod suppresses
crucial REM sleep (the restor-
ative sleep stage important
for learning and memory) dur-
ing the first half of the night.
As you sober up mid-sleep,
your REMs may launch closer
to morning—rejiggering your
natural circadian rhythm and
delaying the wake-up time of
your “alert” neurotransmitters.
Translation: You wake up tired
as eff and piss off your BFF by
sleeping through Spin class.
WELLNESS
THREE WAYS
TO JUMP-
START YOUR
MORNING
The Night Shift
feature on Apple
iOS changes
your phone’s
blue light to
an orange-red
hue that won’t
have as big of
an impact on
your circadian
rhythm.
Set a Bedtime tates the production of melo-
Swap your basic Alarm tonin and makes you tired.
alarm clock You promised yourself you’d And queso has a lot of it. Try
app for a Pure-
go to bed at a reasonable hour, a bowl of cottage cheese, a few
Guardian Ultra-
sonic Deluxe but then you remembered mozzarella balls, or a couple of
Aromatherapy there’s a 24-hour sale online slices of low-fat cheddar
Essential Oil and you’ve been meaning to an hour or two before bed to
Diffuser with
Touch Controls
Marie Kondo your closet. help you get your sleep on.
Boom, it’s midnight…and you
and Alarm Clock
haven’t even brushed your
($60, guardian 7
technologies teeth. The easiest solve ever:
Hold yourself accountable
with a sleep alarm. “An alarm
Spoon a
from sleep by
vaporized
will alert you to shut down Heating Pad
whatever you’re doing and Turn up the heat in bed in the
choosing. get to bed,” says Terry Cralle, morning and you’ll be more
RN, a certified clinical sleep likely to get vertical. That’s
educator in Washington, because your circadian
High-tech Soraa D.C. Before you know it, your rhythm syncs your temp to
Sky lightbulbs instinct to conk out will kick your sleep-and-wake cycle.
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in before the alarm goes off. When your core temp is low,
retailers) sync
their blue-light it’s time for bed. When it’s
levels to your high, it’s time to get up. It
sleep and wake 6 might take a few weeks to
times, helping revamp your body clock, but
you hit the pil-
low and get up
Say Cheese snuggling with a heating pad
at the same time This Liz Lemon–approved speeds things up. Set an alarm
on the regular bedtime snack is actually legit, for 30 minutes before you
(thus promoting says Dr. Winter. Cheese need to be up. When the alarm
better sleep). contains tryptophan, the same sounds, turn on the heat and
snooze-inducing chemical go back to sleep. As your temp
found in turkey, which facili- rises, you’ll feel more alert. Q
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PLAYLIST IRON
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SNAP NOW,
SWEAT
LATER!
Take a pic
of this move
to bring to
the gym.

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To ramp up the intensity, hold your
forearm plank for 3 seconds before

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your upper body, abs, and butt. hands directly followed by first with your 10 reps,
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intake is a known risk for breast
cancer. And it can lead to unsafe
sexual behaviors. When you’re hon-
est, it gives your physician a chance
to talk to you about these factors,
work with you to figure out if you’re
too dependent on drinking, and if
necessary, help you cut back.
Bottom line: Always be candid with
your MD about everything.
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polycystic ovarian syndrome,
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HOW BAD IS IT? You’ll

Live
Not Changing
Your Sheets
for a Month
(or Longer)
Let’s put it this way:
One recent study
found a “significant
amount” of bacteria on
bath towels after just
7 days, and the load
“dramatically
increased” after 14.
“Bacteria and other
microbes thrive
in moist, warm condi-
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those criteria,” says
YAY, S C I E N C E !
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means you’re snuggly things that

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blame your on dirty bed sheets,”

says Yakas, “but I per-
sonally wouldn’t want
brilliant mind. to lie in yeast, mold,
and E. coli.” If you
would also like to avoid
A Georgia Institute of Technology
getting intimate
study linked zoning out to high
with these germs,
intelligence and creativity. To boost
brain power, try de-focusing more (but
launder your sheets Just
not when you’re on a deadline).
once a week. Don’t

Gyno Report
The Infection That’s
Ruining Your Sex Life
Any of the more than 20
million women world-
wide who get recurrent
urinary tract infections
(e.g., at least six per year) can
tell you that UTIs are a major
libido killer. For ladies prone to
the problem, intercourse is
fraught: All the down-there
action can cause E. coli bacte-
ria to migrate from a woman’s
bum to her urethra and blad-
der, where it explodes into a
painful sitch that brings on a near-
constant urge to pee—and
actually peeing feels like
streaming shards of glass. So,
yeah, not exactly arousing.
WELLNESS
University Center for Women’s
Infectious Disease Research.
The findings suggest that BV
bacteria, which lurk in the vagi-
nas of many women (who often
don’t know they have it, since
Urgent only a fraction ever report symp-
toms), can also move into
Care the bladder during sex. There,
or Nah? G. vaginalis damages cells on
How to the bladder’s surface, causing
1
treat a UTI some to slough off and dormant
E. coli from previous infections
When peeing
burns or the to multiply. All of which leads
urge to go to…a new UTI.
comes on sud- Can’t seem to shake the
denly, you can burn? It’s worth asking your
try gulping
extra fluids physician to check you for
to help flush BV. “Our research suggests that
out bacteria testing for BV and treating
and take
it with antibiotics could be
ibuprofen
for pain, says helpful for at least some
Alyssa women suffering from recur-
Dweck, MD. rent UTIs,” says Lewis.
2
If your symp-
toms persist REDUCING YOUR RISK
for 24 hours, Sounds hopeful, but Lewis
you develop warns that her discovery isn’t a
fever or chills,
or you see
blood in your
magic bullet for all recurring
UTIs. So until research pro-
urine, head to gresses further, be sure to take
urgent care
or your doc for
a test—and,
preventative steps. Drink plenty
of pre- and post-coital fluids so
you can pee before and after
likely, an
antibiotic
prescription.
sex to flush unfriendly bacteria
3
out of your bladder, says urogy-
necologist Tanaka Dune, MD,
If you get
Until now, doctors have been UTIs all the of Weill Cornell Medicine and
stumped about why some time, urgent New York-Presbyterian. You
women come down with UTI care won’t cut can also try popping supple-
it. Ask to be
after UTI, yet in others, E. coli referred to a ments like cranberry pills and
(which everyone carries to some urologist or vitamin C, which might
extent) hangs around without urogynecolo- make your bladder less hospita-
incident. But a new study offers gist for a urine ble to UTI-causing germs.
culture. That
clues. It turns out that G. vagi- doc can pre- If you’re doing all the above
nalis, the bacterium linked to scribe meds and still can’t get laid without
bacterial vaginosis (BV), might that target getting laid up, talk to your
also be linked to UTIs. “This your specific doctor about other options or
strain or
is the first study to demonstrate help you find a short-term solution, like
a specific trigger for recurrent another fix. taking a low-dose antibiotic
UTIs,” says senior author after sex to stop the growth
Amanda Lewis, PhD, an assis- of bacteria, says ob-gyn Alyssa
GET T Y IMAGES.
tant professor of molecular Dweck, MD, assistant clini-
microbiology and obstetrics and cal professor at Mount Sinai
gynecology at the Washington School of Medicine. ■
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Way to
Eat Your
Feelings
Negative feels probably give
you the urge to Bridget Jones
a pint of chocolate chunk…
versus cozying up to, say, a
plate of steamed broccoli. And
it’s natural to crave crap food
when you’re in a crap mood,
since sweets and simple carbs
cause your brain to release
hits of feel-good chemicals,
says Rachel Lustgarten, RD, a
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Unfortunately, the high
doesn’t last. Unhealthy grub
also spikes your blood sugar,
which then crashes, leaving
you sluggish, hungry, and no
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When your mind is fried,
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Reach for nutrients that
calm your nerves. Zinc,
found in nuts like wal-
nuts, has been shown to
reduce tension over time.
Walnuts are also full
of healthy fats, which can
help you make clearer Cut two dates in half
decisions. “You’ll increase and remove the pits.
your brain function when Stuff each half with
you incorporate this kind goat cheese, and top
of goodness into with walnuts.
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Instead of temporarily Breakup Ice Cream
blunting your blues with In a blender, combine
a lasagna binge, reach for one frozen, sliced banana
foods that will help you with ½ c. almond or
get out of the dumps for coconut milk and 1 T pea-
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magnesium, a healthier chips. Eat immediately,
serotonin-booster that or freeze for 30 minutes
can improve your mood for a firmer consistency.
long-term.
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When it comes to sailing Iced Turmeric Lemonade
over the 3 p.m. hump, liq- In a pitcher, combine one
uids are key. Even slight quart filtered water with
dehydration can make 1 T turmeric (it boosts
you feel sleepy, says energy, according to stud-
Patricia Bannan, RDN, ies), the juice of two lem-
author of Eat Right When
Time Is Tight. That’s
because a lack of fluids
forces your heart to work
harder to push oxygen
and nutrients through
your bloodstream,
an effort that ends up
sapping your verve.
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 1
WORK

Beware of
Warning
The work terrain
feels kinda Signs
treacherous these Layoffs don’t typically arrive
days. Yes, the U.S. by sneak attack. Tune into
unemployment these job-threatening signals.
rate is at a decade-
long low, but that If you work for a large biz, like a
doesn’t mean all retail or food chain, pay atten-
tion to headlines. “If your com-
jobs are safe. Far pany has a bad earnings report,
from it: More than you’ll hear about it in the news,” Planning for
the end never
6,000 retail stores says Courtney Kenney, author of felt so Zen.
have shuttered in Layoff Reboot. Set up a Google
alert to be the first to find out if
the past year, cable your employer’s in trouble. You’ll
companies and learn if your big bosses are clos-
Start to weed life manual since your last
banks have closed ing storefronts or imposing hir-
through the Extreme You. refresh. This will
hundreds of call- ing freezes (never good signs).
personal Then dump all save you time
center jobs, scores items you’ve your contacts later and make
hoarded at into an Excel it easier for
of entry-level Regardless of your company’s
work. Toss spreadsheet or recruiters to
gigs are at risk of size, watch the resources at your
what you can. Google doc find you, says
workplace. Have basic supplies,
becoming like printer paper, gone missing?
(That beer so you won’t be Blair Decem-
automated, and Koozie hiding scrambling brele, career
Did you once get free java but
in your locker? to find valuable expert at
a slew of industries now the coffee machine is MIA?
Buh-bye.) e-mail LinkedIn.
seem to be down- If anyone addresses
sizing. All of which Pay attention to staffing and
asks, you’re later on. (Just Do the same
could spell one just spring- check your with your
workload. Every time someone
cleaning. employee résumé, and
thing for countless quits, does their seat go
handbook first order new
employees: layoffs. unfilled? Have you been picking
Download to make sure business cards
up lots of extra shifts?
No doubt, it your profesh you’re not ille- with your
life —archived gally nabbing personal e-mail
sucks to get the e-mails, exam- company prop- address, phone
proverbial pink ples of your erty, which at number, and
slip—and in many work, past some places social handles.
cases, being shown Plan an performance
reviews, sales
may include
contacts stored
(You can
purchase 100
the door is out of
your control. But Evac Route commissions,
etc.—onto an
on work
computers.)
for as little as
$16 on
the right prep Hardcore disaster preppers external hard vistaprint
and skills can mean keep go-bags full of emergency drive or into Spruce up your .com.) It may
a personal LinkedIn seem old-
the difference supplies and provisions at the
digital cloud profile now. school, but
between surviving ready. Your version: everything account, says Add details on you’ll need
you’ll need to make a speedy
and thriving or exit—the leaner your work-
Sarah Robb your current these bad boys
O’Hagan, CEO role, a recent to network like
being paralyzed place footprint, the easier it’ll of Flywheel profile pic, and a survivalist if
by despair. Here’s be for you to walk out grace- Sports and any new skills you’re sud-
how to be ready. fully if you get let go. author of the you’ve acquired denly jobless.

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 3 4
WORK

Perform Tend to
Triage Your
Nooo! It happened. You’re out of a
job. You may be tempted to rant or Wounds
bawl. Instead, take a deep breath Break open the mint chip and
and these three steps. the sauv blanc. You’re now
Do your best tual,” says allowed to wallow for up to a
to leave on a O’Hagan. Write, week. “Use these days as a cool-
positive note. “Effective today, ing-off period,” says O’Hagan.
“Your reputa- I’m moving on “Let what’s happened sink in. It’s
tion is sacred, from my role. okay to grieve a lost job.”
and you never You can now After that, though, you gotta
leave your bunker. The sooner
want to burn a reach me at
you bounce back, the better,
Send Up a Flare
bridge,” says [home info].” It’s time to hunt.
Decem-brele. since landing a new gig takes an
average of about six weeks, Follow this path to new
“People in your Don’t post a
company could lengthy fare- according to a survey by soft- employment.
play a vital role well on social ware and recruiting firm Jobvite.
in your next job media as you While looking, try to enjoy your
freedom. “I wish I made more Update the end date of
hunt.” Thank pack up, says your position on LinkedIn
them, and Kenney. “Doing a use of my time whenever I lost a and use the Open
pledge to keep mass post when job, instead of stressing out,” Candidates tool to signal
in touch. you’re emotional says O’Hagan. “Know that you to recruiters that you’re
is a bad idea.” are going to get another posi- now available for hire.
Log into your You may not tion, even if it seems impossible. Using your contacts list,
work e-mail choose words And ask yourself what you’d love start sending personal-
one last time, carefully, and to do with these free moments.” ized e-mails to people in
and send a trashing your your industry. Explain
that you are looking for
brief note to employer online a new gig and would love
all your con- is a red flag to to catch up over coffee.
tacts. “Be fac- potential hirers. “This can lead to them
Ration Your saying, ‘We’re hiring. I’ll
put in a good word for

If your BFF gets

canned, offer to
bring “supplies”
over stat.
Resources
Unless you scored a severance
package, money’s gonna be tight
for a while. “First, file for unem-
ployment,” says financial expert
Bobbi Rebell, author of How to Be
a Financial Grown-Up. Look up
your state’s unemployment
office and follow online instruc-
tions. Benefits vary, but you could
receive several hundred dollars a
you,’” says Kenney.
Be direct when you’re
asked why you’re out
of work. Chances are,
people you know may
have been laid off in their
own careers.
Go ahead—post on
social. Keep it light, short,
and fun: “Personal news
alert! I am on the job mar-
ket, looking for positions
in [your career field]. If
F L A R E : C H R I S T O P H E R G R I F FI T H / T R U N K A R C H I V E .

week for up to six months. you need someone with

Take a close look at your bank
accounts. Make a list of every-
thing you spent in the last three
months, says Rebell. Add in any-
thing coming up, like a friend’s
wedding, then cut out superflu-
ous extras. To survive financial
famine, you need to afford your
main priorities: rent, food, trans-
portation, and health care.
excellent [industry-
related] skills and a love of
Fiona the hippo, DM me.”
Stick with honesty dur-
ing interviews. When
asked about your last job,
respond with the truth: If
your company downsized,
say that. Explain you’re
ready to move on and find
a great new opportunity. Q

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How to by $10 or more). They may

also sweeten the deal with
extras like premium channels

Haggle
or faster internet speeds.

Hotel Rooms
Check discount sites like Hot-
wire, then call the front desk.

Like a Pro
Say you’d love to visit, but it’s a
bit out of your budget. Do they
have any special promotions
beyond the rates you’ve found?
And if your plans are flexible,
last-minute bookings can mean
When to
steep markdowns, since no
Save Your
hotel wants vacancies.
Breath
Mani-pedis.
Recent investi-
Local Shopping gations
The next time you hit up a in New York
mom-and-pop shop (think: show nail techs
hardware stores or pharma- aren’t paid
cies), ask whether they’d knock nearly enough,
so haggling
off 3 to 5 percent if you pay in for a few
cash. The owners likely have extra bucks
to shell out for credit-card is a no-go.
transaction fees, so they might
make a deal, says Lowry. Your bar tab.
Free or cheap
drinks often
Gym Memberships come at the
Seasoned bargainers know to bartender’s
use price comparisons, but discretion.
Asking for one
here’s a pro tip: Walk into your
on the house
dream gym at the end of the is only going
month, when sales reps are try- to get you
ing to hit monthly quotas and bad service.
are hungry for members.
Lattes.
At big coffee
Annoying Fees chains, baristas
Annual credit-card costs are adhere to
negotiable. Call your company strict standard-
ized rules

89
and say, “I’m considering
Cable, Phone, and canceling this card because
and have
zero power
Wi-Fi Plans of the yearly fee. What can you to decrease
The percentage Hunt online for the best deals, offer me?” suggests Julian your bill.
of people who’ve then dial up your provider. “Tell Mark Kheel, senior writer
successfully negotiated them you’re switching to a com- at The Points Guy. “Often, the
down a price at petitor if they can’t lower your bank will waive the charge.”
D A N I L N E V S K Y/ S T O C K S Y.

least once.
SOURCE: 2013 CONSUMER REPORTS SURVEY
rate to match what you found,”
says financial expert Erin
Lowry, author of Broke Millen-
nial. Frequently, they’ll agree
(this can cut your monthly fee
Use the same tactic with
airlines: Tell them their change
fees make you question
your brand loyalty, and you
could save hundreds. ■

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Whipped cream
Candy conversation
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Spread frosting along rim
of a glass. Shake sprinkles
onto a plate and dip glass
into sprinkles to coat.
Fill a cocktail shaker with
ice, and add vodka, milk, and
cake mix. Shake, and strain
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Chill. Mismatched
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glasses keep
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Naughty
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Combine 4 c. DESICCATED
COCONUT with a 14-oz. can
CONDENSED MILK. Shape into
balls, and freeze for 10
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with sea salt.

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Riverdale stars
Camila Mendes
and Lili Reinhart
are a superclose
squad of two
onscreen and IRL.
Listen in as they
chat—candidly!—
about love,
sex, romance,
insecurities, and a
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 On Camila
(at left):
Fleur du Mal
top. Milly skirt.
Aurate earrings
On Lili:
Emilio de la
Morena top, skirt.
Jimmy Choo
heels. Zoe Chicco
necklace. Aurélie
Bidermann ring

photographed by Eric Ray Davidson

style director: James Worthington DeMolet

What do Hollywood
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reputation of generating
the archetypal mean
girl—you know the
breed: pretty, popular,
two-faced.
That’s what makes the CW
megahit Riverdale all the more
surprising. Its female leads
actually—wait for it—like each
other, even when the cameras
stop rolling.
Another departure:
Although based on the iconic
Archie Comics that started in
the 1940s, this small-screen
adaptation explores the dark
side of a seemingly idyllic small
town. At the center of the
twisted plotline are Cleveland
native Lili Reinhart, 21, and Camila
Mendes, 23, who has Brazilian
roots. Lili’s sweet, shy Betty plays
amateur murder detective, and
Camila’s Veronica—an updated
version of the spoiled rich girl—
struggles to forgive a controlling
father just out of jail.
Ahead of Riverdale’s hotly
anticipated midseason return
this month, the duo took
a break from shooting to
interview each other—and no
topic was off-limits.
play, but I think we’ve seen
a lot of strong Veronica. It
would be interesting to see
her in a different light. I want
to see her weak and defeated.
I want to see her fail. What do
you want to happen for Betty?
LILI: I want to see her have a
good time. Maybe not having
phone calls on the reg with a
serial killer, you know? I want
her to let her hair down—and
not just as a reaction to being
depressed and stressed out.
Betty didn’t even do [River-
dale’s fictional party drug]
Jingle Jangle.
CAMILA: I want to see Betty
do Jingle Jangle!
LILI: I also want to see her
explore her sexuality. She
never gets to—she’s always
stressed! Poor girl. Okay—
what do we spend the most
time doing together off-set?
LILI: Cami, how would you Haney dress. CAMILA: We love to talk
Ariel Gordon
describe me to someone who’s necklace about relationships. We’re
never met me? always very candid about
CAMILA: I’d say it takes a little
while for you to warm up and
get a feel for someone. But
eventually you come around.
You’re actually really goofy.
LILI: Yeah, I’m definitely
reserved at first. I feel like
people often think, “Oh, she’s
a bitch.” I dealt with that in
high school—people assumed
I thought I was better than
everyone else. But I just have
social anxiety. It’s funny,
when we first met, I thought
you were pretty reserved too.
CAMILA: People don’t believe
me when I say it, but I’m actu-
ally kind of shy at first.
LILI: What plotline would you
write for Veronica?
CAMILA: I want to see her
challenged—I want to see her
at her breaking point.
LILI: I want to see Dark
Veronica!
CAMILA: Yeah! I love strong
characters and they’re fun to
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and Juliet kind. I have a more R I V E R DA LE
C H A R AC TE R
modern, progressive take, so I ’ D M O ST
it can be nice for me to bring LI K E LY
DATE I R L :
myself back to that poetic
type. It makes me appreciate
romanticism, which I tend
to shut off. I approach things B E C AU S E :
more casually.
LILI: And there’s nothing
wrong with that.
CAMILA: But you’ve always
been such a fighter for love.
I’m not, which I’ve learned
can be an error on my part. C E LE B C RU S H :
LILI: Ever been in love?
CAMILA: I have—a few times.
I was a serial dater in high
school, but my truest love N OTH I N G
IS SEXIER
ended pretty recently. Some-
times you end up realizing
that your dreams don’t line
up with that other person’s
dreams, and you have to
make a choice. For me, fol- WA NT TO
lowing my own dreams has F E E L LI K E
A B A DA S S , I :
always been more important.
What about you?
LILI: I’ve been in love. Over
the past year, I had to grap-
ple—as you know—with
whether I should pursue this
F *C K /M A R RY/
love in my life or not. [Lili is K I LL :
widely rumored to be dat- R I V E R DA LE
“ DA D D I E S ”
ing Riverdale costar Cole E D ITI O N :
Sprouse.] There comes a
point when you’re like, “If I
don’t pursue it…” now, so if you were setting me CAMILA: Yeah, he could bal-
CAMILA: “…I’m going to be up with a guy, what would ance me out.
miserable.” Totally. You’ve you be looking for? LILI: Basically, you just need
inspired me to be more out- LILI: He’d be six feet tall a hot European model.
spoken about how I feel—to and well-built, with beauti- CAMILA: Listen, if you meet
say, “I’m not ashamed to say I ful blue eyes. He’d be from this guy…
love you, regardless of whether Europe, with an accent. And LILI: I’ll let him know.
or not you love me back.” you’re such a social butter- CAMILA: I feel like his name
LILI: And you’ve been there fly—it would be nice for you is Francisco or something.
for me too through some dark to have someone who could Maybe there’s an accent in
bring out a more intimate his name.
LILI: Or it’s a color. Like Bleu.
“Je m’appelle Bleu.”
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you, I was surprised because
you’re way more sexually
aware of yourself than I
thought you would be.
LILI: I’m very open sexually.
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willing to talk about sex. And
then once we started, I was
like, “Oh my god!”
LILI: I love to talk about it.
It’s interesting—one big inse-
curity I had to get past was
when the person I’m with has
had more sexual experiences
than I have and has been
in love more than I have.
It’s mainly sexual though—
I find myself thinking that
they’re comparing me to
their ex-lovers. I know it’s a
stupid insecurity, because I
can’t control someone’s past
or dictate who they slept
with before me…and besides,
they’re with me for a reason.
CAMILA: Exactly!
LILI: What do you think are
the biggest misconceptions
about sex?
CAMILA: I’ve never liked this
idea of “don’t give him every-
thing.” Like you’ve given
someone all of yourself by
having sex with them. What’s
valuable to me is giving you
my love and my intimacy.
What about you?
LILI: The idea that sex is
going to be the same with
everyone—that’s a misconcep-
tion. That’s how I felt when I
lost my virginity—I was like,
“So this is sex!” And then you
have sex with someone else,
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When I lost my virginity, I was like,
‘So this is sex!’ And then you have
sex with someone else, and you’re
like, ‘Holy shit—this is so different.’”
—LILI
this is so different.” What
you want, what feels good to
you—it’s all going to change
with every partner you have.
What do you think guys need
to know about sex?
CAMILA: I want to tell them,
“Don’t have sex at me—have
sex with me.” I want them to
understand that it’s so much
better when we’re connected.
Also, nothing makes me feel
more special than when a guy
opens up to me about some-
thing vulnerable. That’s when
I start to fall in love.
LILI: There’s nothing more
beautiful than a man crying.
CAMILA: Yes! I mean, the rea-
son he’s crying also matters.
LILI: Right—like, if I fuck-
ing eat your Chipotle, maybe
don’t cry. But if you’re talking
to me about a vulnerable part
of your life, yes, I’m going to
fall in love with you.
CAMILA: So, Lili—since
we met, what’s the biggest
change you’ve seen in me?
LILI: You’ve grown to be able
to stand up for yourself. You
know what you want, and
you’re not afraid to say it now.
CAMILA: I used to say yes to
everything because I felt like
I wasn’t allowed to have an
B E C AU S E :
C RU S H :
opinion. There’s a big fear that
we’ll be seen as divas. I’ve just
learned to let go of that.
LILI: I remember someone
once saying, “There’s a
difference between being
a bitch and being a woman
in control.” But an opinion-
ated woman who knows what
she wants is automatically
labeled demanding.
CAMILA: And it’s not the case.
LILI: Being a young woman
in Hollywood is intimidating.
I came forward on my Tum-
blr to talk about my sexual
assault story [As a teenager,
Lili went on a date with an Smythe top. It’s represented in our show—
Leigh Miller
older coworker who tried to earrings it happens to high school
force himself on her], and I Hair: Giannandrea girls. We have to start think-
know you’ve dealt with sexual at Forward Artists ing about why these men
(Camila), Kristin
assault as well. In my situa- Ess using Kristin Ess do this. And how do we teach
tion, I know how powerless I Hair (Lili). Makeup: the next generation that
Christian McCulloch
felt, because it was my career at Streeters using
no one has that power over
on the line. It’s hard not to Chanel Les Beiges someone else?
think that your next move (Camila), CAMILA: How to just respect
Allan Avendaño
dictates your career—aka the using Chanel Les other human beings. If I could
rest of your life. Beiges (Lili). go back to before I started
Manicure:
CAMILA: Especially because Stephanie Stone at
Riverdale, I would tell myself
in most of these accounts—at Forward Artists to speak up when I felt like
least until recently—people using Chanel. something wasn’t right. To
Production: First
have spoken up and then Shot Productions. use my voice and know that
nothing’s done about it. And See page 163 for it’s worth hearing. I think
shopping
it’s not just Hollywood. information. what it really comes down to
LILI: Not at all. It’s in every is giving fewer fucks.
profession and at every age. LILI: How to give fewer fucks.
I think it took a minute [for
you] to get there. It did for me.
CAMILA: Well, it’s easy to
think you have to fit some
kind of mold. The darling,
the bad bitch, the cool girl.
But there’s no way to mess up
being yourself. Q
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If the rash of gun violence has made you reluctant to attend concerts and
sporting events or to hit a movie or nightclub, you’re not alone. Young
women are at high risk for this kind of fear and avoidance in the aftermath
of mass tragedies. Read on to learn the difference between assumed danger
and a legit threat…so you can live your life fully, even in scary times.

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OD
By Amanda Robb
Martha Castro has
wanted to see Céline
Dion’s epic live show
in Las Vegas for
years. (“Her voice
is so angelic. It still
makes me feel every-
thing,” she says.) She couldn’t stop dwelling on the October
A 30-year-old tech shooting on the Strip that killed 58 people and
assistant at a school the bombing at an Ariana Grande show in Eng-
land that left 22 dead last spring. “Now, when I
in Reno, Nevada, think concert,” she says, “I just see bodies.”
Martha lives a quick It’s no wonder: A mass shooting—defined
by the nonprofit Gun Violence Archive as four
one-hour flight from or more people being shot or killed in a single
Vegas. So last May, event—happens every day in this country (on
average). The current news cycle is a nonstop
she and her husband procession of gruesome real-life tragedies,
splurged on tickets most going down in public places like stadi-
ums, nightclubs, and churches. Unhinged
for Valentine’s Day men, for the most part, have unleashed reli-
2018. But in Novem- gious or hate-fueled (and often, semiauto-
matic) fury on big cities and small towns alike.
ber, Martha abruptly The not-so-subtle message? No place is safe.
called it off. Paris, France; Manchester, England;
Orlando, Florida; Sutherland Springs, Texas…
thanks to our phones and social media, these
attacks stream into our brains 24/7 via shriek-

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 What to Know
Before the Show
“Just thinking
about being in
a theater makes
my heart start
pounding,” says
SAFETY EXPERT–
APPROVED
WAYS TO PREP
FOR A CROWDED
EVENT
1
Decide on a meeting
place. In a crowd scare,
technology may not
Meghan, 23. function. “Agree on a
meet-up point with your
friends outside the
hearing about an awful event experience physi- venue,” says J. Pete Blair,
ological stress responses to it.” They end up liv- PhD, executive director
of Advanced Law
ing in a sort of mental code red that puts them Enforcement Rapid
at increased risk for anxiety and depression, in Response Training at
addition to robbing them of one of the signa- Texas State University,
ture pleasures of youth: seeing a favorite band whose active-shooter
or team play, caught up in excitement instead response training has
been adopted by the FBI.
of scanning the crowd for snipers or suicide
bombers. Says Riordan, “Your brain starts tell-
ing you, ‘This is something I better not do.’”

ing news alerts and #PrayFor hashtags. The
result: Roughly 40 percent of Americans are
now worried that they or a family member will
be a victim of terrorism or a mass shooting,
according to 2017 Gallup polling. Even before
the massacre in Vegas, a survey found that
nearly 4 in 10 people were less willing to attend
A Posttraumatic Generation
Unfortunately, your brain is often wrong. But
that’s little comfort to people like Meghan Kue-
bler, 23, for whom fear itself has become a kind
of danger. Meghan is terrified of movie the-
2
Mentally rehearse
your exit plan.
At most concerts and
aters (see Aurora, Colorado, 2012). “Just think- sporting events, you’ll
ing about being in a theater makes my heart walk through a main
start pounding,” says the Orlando-based televi- entrance. But venues
sion production associate. “It’s hard to get air. have to have other
ways to get out too.
If I do get dragged to a movie, I pick seats that Look for these as soon
we could get down under if someone started as you get there, says
shooting. Then for two hours, I watch the exits Neil Strauss, author of
more than I watch the film.” Emergency. If there is a
What Meghan is describing is a type of panic, everyone else
will head out the way
vicarious posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), they came in.
says Pam Ramsden, PhD, a lecturer in psy-
chology at the University of Bradford, in Eng-
land. Her research has found that an average

large public events because they were afraid
of terrorism. The most plugged-in generation,
18- to 34-year-olds, is also the most fearful,
according to Gallup. And women are twice as
concerned about mass shootings as men are.
Experts say our brain’s primitive fear
responses—which evolved to deal with gnarly
predators right in front of us, not a constant
barrage of digital news notifications from
around the globe—are not well-equipped
G E T T Y I M A G E S (3).
3
of 18 percent of people who viewed images of
suicide bombings, mass shootings, and terror-
ism reported symptoms consistent with PTSD,
including depression, substance abuse, and
insomnia. Another study found that people Trust your gut.
exposed to six or more hours of media cover- We have subconscious
threat-detection
age about the Boston Marathon bombing right machinery built into
after the attack suffered more stress than peo- our brains, says Blair,
ple who were there or knew someone who was. and it often gives us
We may be hardwired to fixate on stressful warning notices. When

to handle the current onslaught. “There is a events because doing so helped our ancestors the hairs on the back of
your neck stand up,
thing called secondary trauma, and it’s real,” avoid grisly fates themselves, says Eric G. Wil- don’t question them—
says Meghan Riordan, a trauma therapist son, author of Everyone Loves a Good Train just head for the door.
in Washington, D.C. “Many people seeing or Wreck. But this fixation is exacting a toll on —CAITLIN CARLSON

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our minds: “Our amygdala, the reptilian part
of the brain, has only two settings: threat or
nonthreat,” says Riordan. “When we watch
traumatic news, it can switch to threat.”
Having your brain on high alert may be
good for avoiding predators, but it’s bad as a
permanent state of existence. “We’ve found
that women who read negative news pro-
duced more of the stress hormone cortisol
when subjected to subsequent stressors,” says
researcher Sonia Lupien, PhD, director of the
Center for Studies on Human Stress, in Mon-
treal. This did not happen to men—“perhaps
because women have a tendency to ruminate
more,” suggests Lupien.
Sustained high levels of cortisol are asso-
ciated with depression and a host of other
health issues. And depressed people may also
be more prone to stay home on the couch—
reinforcing the problem, since avoiding things
you’re afraid of robs you of the chance to learn
that they won’t hurt you.
How to Keep Perspective
Of course, nowadays, more and more people
are getting hurt. “Many of us know at least
one person who knows someone who has been
affected by one of these gun incidents,” Rior-
dan speculates. “And we all have a feeling that
the danger is creeping closer and closer to
us.” That feeling may be worse for millenni-
als, who were bombarded in their formative
years by news and images of the Columbine
High School shooting and 9/11.
Or for people who’ve already seen horror
happen right next door. Take Meghan Kue-
bler: “I’ve lived in four states, and all four have
had mass shootings,” she says. “I grew up in
Colorado. In 1999, there was Columbine. Then
we moved to Arizona, and there was the 2011
shooting at Gabrielle Giffords’ Tucson event.
Then I moved to Los Angeles, and in 2015,
“There is a thing called
secondary trauma—many
people seeing or hearing
about an awful event experi-
ence physiological stress.”
there was one in San Bernardino. And just
before I came to Orlando, there was the Pulse
nightclub shooting.”
Still, experts point to 9/11 in particular as
an example of how our ancient fear brains
can mislead us. After the World Trade Cen-
ter attacks, many Americans swore off air
travel and drove, notes Elana Newman, PhD,
research director for the Dart Center for Jour-
nalism and Trauma at Columbia University.
That may have been a deadly decision. Your
chances of dying in a motor-vehicle crash
are 1 in 114, per the National Safety Coun-
cil; your chances of dying in an airplane, 1 in
9,821. In the year after 9/11, U.S. traffic fatali-
ties increased: 43,005 Americans died on
roadways in 2002, 30 died in global terrorist
attacks, and 0 died on U.S. commercial airlines.
“Most young people know that the chance of
being hurt in one of these incidents is low,” says
Riordan, “but it doesn’t feel that way when you
wake up and check Facebook and Instagram
and see all these messages from people who
were impacted.” Our minds struggle to compute
that the stuff we do every day may be more dan-
gerous than the theatrical events we see online
(your current chances of dying in a mass shoot-
ing: 1 in 15,325, according to one analysis).
Sociologist Barry Glassner, author of The
Culture of Fear, worries that the shock of mass
tragedies is conditioning a generation of Amer-
icans to misperceive the biggest dangers they
face. Gun violence is epidemic in the United
States (death by firearm is the second leading
cause of fatalities among Americans ages 15 to

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“In a live-shooter situa-
Worst like an ocean riptide,”
says Neil Strauss. “If
total no when your
safety is at risk. “Don't
Way, Then
Text Your
tion, people who drop
to the ground with
Happens you’re stuck in it, go
with the flow and work
your way to the out-
stop to see or find out
what happened,” says
Strauss. Instead, get as
Friends
Text messages are
more likely to go
their feet pointed at
the shooter tend to
survive because vital
side, where the crowd far away as possible, through in an emer- organs are less likely
will be moving slower. as there could be sec- gency than actual to be hit,” says Strauss.
Then duck into a door, ondary shooters or phone calls are. “But this should be a
alley, or side street.” devices in the area. last resort.”
—C.C.

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34). But the vast majority of young victims are
not murdered by a stranger at a concert. About
40 percent are suicides. And in about 80 per-
cent of homicides in which the killer is ID’d,
the victims knew their attackers personally. In
other words, “it isn’t some crazed loner who is
most likely to hurt you,” says Glassner. “It’s a
partner, acquaintance, or family member.”
Getting Cozy With Fear
It is possible to live with what scares us without
being ruled by it. The first step, says Riordan,
is caring for ourselves after we experience sec-
ondary trauma. “We tell ourselves that noth-
ing bad happened to us, so we better power
through,” she explains. “But when we don’t
stop to soothe ourselves, our brains never
get the chance to reset to ‘not under threat.’”
If you find that you’re feeling anxious about
an upcoming event, Riordan suggests doing
something calming: “Call a friend or your
mom. Watch a movie you loved as a kid.”
Glassner suggests tweaking the media you
consume. Instead of reading every detail about
a shooting, immerse yourself in news about
your personal risk. “Google statistical profiles
C O S M O P O L I TA N F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 8
of gunshot victims or Should I fear going to
concerts?” he suggests. Knowledge will help
you feel more in control, which research
shows makes people feel safer. Taking action
against your fear can also help. “Join an
activist group, work with people affected by
mass shootings, or just write a check,” says
Riordan. Anxious people who get involved in
preventing the thing they are afraid of or help
people affected by it grow calmer and feel
stronger, says Glassner.
But ultimately, the best way out is through.
“Since avoidance increases anxiety, it can
really limit your life,” says Newman, whereas
if you can figure out a way to attend an event
and have a safe experience, your fear will
decrease. Try building up your courage with
the help of a friend or therapist. Use antianxi-
ety meds if your doc thinks you need them.
And prepare sensibly (see pages 157 and 158).
Afterward, if necessary, watch The Little
Mermaid. “There are terrible things happen-
ing out there,” says Riordan. “And because
we’re so connected now, they touch us all.
But even if it’s a scary world, you don’t have to
always be afraid.” ■
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 HOROSCOPES

By Aurora Tower | @AuroraAstro

AQUARIUS 0 1 . 2 0 – 0 2 .1 8

You hustle hard. Now’s your moment to

bring your visions to fruition. This month’s
New Moon in your sign—a partial solar
eclipse on the 15th—is prime time for
manifesting dreams. After the Sun moves
into Pisces on the 18th, your mind is on
dollar signs. Remind VIPs of your worth and
you’ll reap big rewards. YOUR YEAR: You’ll
feel endless gratitude for your life, fam, and

G E T T Y I M A G E S . I L LU S T R AT I O N : C I A R A P H E L A N .
friends this year. Gear up for an epic job
opportunity in May, then treat yourself
to some R & R come fall. Look out for love in
March, June, and December.
AQUARIUS GAL
Chloë Grace Moretz
02.10.97
PISCES
0 2 .1 9 – 0 3 . 2 0
You have a fab imagination—
don’t let it go to waste! At
the month’s start, spend some
quality couch time brain-
storming ideas that bring all
the Benjamins. Once the Sun
moves into your sign on
the 18th, go out and share that
shine with others. Your cre-
ative energy will attract all the
right people. PISCES GUY:
Someone’s in a funk.…Getting
him to talk big dreams will
reverse any recluse behavior.
CANCER
0 6 . 2 1 – 0 7. 2 2
Dial down the mph this month.
Instead of rushing into your
next serious move, slow your
roll for some self-reflection
first. After the New Moon
eclipse on the 15th, you’ll feel
cleansed and ready to get
after it—especially at work.
Then unwind with an exciting
excursion at the end of the
month. CANCER GUY: Frazzled
much? He’s a bit of a mess, but
if you’re willing to lend an ear,
he’ll open up and mellow out.
SCORPIO
10.23–11.21
Your feels are at an all-time
high. A full heart combined
with clear eyes can’t lose, so
get ready to kick ass. Your
team will be cheering you on
the whole way. After the
Sun moves into Pisces on
the 18th, you’ll get in a creative
mode that will reel in all the
modern-day Shakespeares.
SCORPIO GUY: The brooding
has reached Bruce Wayne
status. Cuddles after some
time apart will lift his mood.
ARIES
0 3 . 2 1 – 0 4 .1 9
Sometimes, things just click!
Your social life is thriving,
so consider this permission
to party—especially during
the New Moon on the 15th—
and watch your circle grow!
Later on, settle down and
find clarity with a low-key spa
day or staycation. Those Zen
vibes might just prompt a love
confession on the 21st. ARIES
GUY: He’s feeling lost. Balance
snuggles with socializing
to help him figure things out.
LEO
0 7. 2 3 – 0 8 . 2 2
You’re in for a throwback,
baby. Something that
sent your life into overdrive
last August is back for round
two. Before you hop into
the ring again, know what you
want. That may be a career
change, but no matter what, it
should make you ridiculously
happy. Instinct will guide you
right, especially around the
25th. LEO GUY: If you haven’t
had the talk, now’s the time.
He’s done dodging the truth.
SAGITTARIUS
11.22–12.21
Your mind is like one giant
Pinterest board. Instead of
wasting that inspo on random
distractions, try to streamline
a daily routine. With active
Mars in your sign, you’ll want
to follow your gut, but factor in
others first (especially around
the 25th). With everyone on
board, all signs point to your
next big idea. SAGITTARIUS
GUY: He’s juggling a ton. If
your needs don’t fit into the
mix, it might be parting time.
TAURUS
04.20–05.21
Keep grinding, girl! A new con-
nection will offer a lucky break
at work on the 8th. No shame
if you’re drawn in by the bud-
get boost, but clear up the
deets before committing. At
month’s end, celebrate your
triumphs with old friends. A
solid support system will keep
that go-getter ’tude in full
gear. TAURUS GUY: He’s work-
ing his ass off. Cheer him on
and the big finale will feel like
a win for the both of you.
VIRGO
08 . 23– 09. 2 2
You prove that multitasking
is possible—props! At the
start of the month, make
chores, checkups, and overall
adulting your focus. Once
all is conquered, you’ll feel like
a champ. The planet
of love moves into your zone
of relationships on the 10th,
which means major sexy time.
Single? Brace for Cupid’s
arrow. VIRGO GUY: He’s heart-
eyed. Let him wine, dine, and
treat you like a damn kween.
CAPRICORN
1 2 . 2 2 – 0 1 .1 9
Forget highlighter—you’re
already radiant! Some of that
glow will come from locking
down important projects and
a finance boost at the month’s
start. Resist the urge to ball
out, but celebrate in other
ways—the last 10 days of the
month are great for love and
friends, so soak up all the good
times! CAPRICORN GUY:
Confidence and high spirits
crown him the best drinking
and dancing buddy. Party on!
GEMINI
05.22–06.20
Now’s the time to let your
inner nomad loose. Book a
getaway somewhere new,
stat! Then find inspo, fun, and
maybe even a few new buds.
Just make sure your travels
don’t get in the way of work,
where things are about to kick
off. Focus on being a team
player and you could land a
major promotion on the 21st.
GEMINI GUY: A spontaneous
trip will have him hyped…and
bring you closer than ever.
LIBRA
09. 23–10. 2 2
You’re cruising through the
tunnel of love this month.
Single ladies are likely to meet
someone swoonworthy on
the 14th or 15th. Just don’t be
so blinded by romance that
you neglect everything else.
Stick to routines and meeting
deadlines so you can get
swept away without toppling
over. LIBRA GUY: If he’s
suddenly flaky after making
a grand gesture, call him out.
You deserve someone reliable.
AQUARIUS GUY
Ed Sheeran
02.17.91
Big changes are on
the horizon for
Aquarius dudes, and
your encouragement
is the push he
needs to pursue his
passions. Buckle
up for a fun ride!
 ALL ABOUT YOU

You Are What

You Draw
Grab a pen, and get ready for
your true personality to be revealed.

Without thinking about it, draw

a tree in this box right now.

O R I G I N A L T E X T B Y M E L E VA N S . VA L E R O R I O J A . S T Y L I S T: B L A N C A U N Z U E TA . H A I R A N D M A K EU P : V I C K Y M A R C O S F O R D I O R
A N D G H D, S T Y L I S T A S S I S TA N T: I R E N E PA LO S . P H O T O G R A P H E R A S S I S TA N T S : P E D R O M E LO, D E N N I S K L E I N .
NOW LET’S DECODE...
Branches Trunk Size
These indicate your The stem of the tree If your tree takes up
ties to the outside reflects your own most of the box
world. Chatterboxes foundation. A sizable space, you have a lot
draw thick limbs. base hints at strength of self-confidence.
Few to no branches in the home or in A scaled-back draw-
may mean you tend to yourself. Introverts ing indicates some
keep stuff private. are likely to draw a insecurities.
small trunk.
Leaves Extra Details
Fluffy foliage demon- Roots If you added flow-
strates a warm These anchors ers, fruit, or animals,
and caring nature, as uncover your con- you’re home-focused.
opposed to detailed nection with the past. If you factored in
leafiness, which No roots suggest the space around the
suggests you’re orga- impracticality or that tree (like the sky or
nized. Bare branches you’re going through ground), you are
show you’re not afraid some uncertainty or outgoing and yearn
to be yourself. anxiety. for a larger life.
SOURCE: PSYCHOLOGIST ANGELA BRADLEY

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THE BREAKDOWN

M O S T LY A’ S
Wingwoman
Wunderkind
Whenever a single
friend is on the
prowl, you’re more
than happy to
lend a hand.
Helping homies
get out of guy ruts
sends your heart
aflutter, even if
you’re still flying
solo. Keep doing
your thing, but
make sure you’re
meeting your own
needs too!

M O S T LY B ’ S
Salty
4. Your pal Side-Chick
calls dibs on the You’ve taken
one for the team so
guy you’ve been many times that
eyeing. You: you’re getting

Are You a Good

A Commend resentful. It’s nice
her for having excel- to keep others in
lent taste, then mind, but you’ll
offer up a few no-fail regret always pass-
pickup tricks. ing on promising
matches. Limit

Wingwoman?
B Sit glowering in what you do for
the corner booth, others, and know
resigned to swiping when it’s time to
since everyone prioritize your own
else has paired off with love life.
people IRL.
C Pretend you M O S T LY C ’ S

1. It’s last call 2. Your girl is 3. You just don’t hear her. It’s so
effing loud in this bar.
Hottie Hog
at the bar. close to sealing met someone On the off chance
you try to run
You’re the one: the deal, so you: who would hit it interference, you
A Scanning the A Spill a drink on off with one 5. Are you end up interested.
stools for hotties with yourself (oops) so of your friends. open to going on Don’t monopolize
wedding rings so no you have an excuse to Next move? a group date? the singles’ section.
one wastes their time leave the lovebirds If you just can’t
A Talk your girl up A If your BFF was fight the feeling,
pining over unavail- alone. Her happiness like she’s the spawn of too nervous to go
J E N N I F E R R O B B I N S / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .

able guys. is worth more than give your ladies an

Gisele Bündchen and alone? Totally. You give epic pep talk. That
your suede booties. Mother freakin’ Teresa. the Millionaire
B Seriously regret- way, they can
ting that you agreed B Let her retell Matchmaker a run for approach prospects
B Grudgingly
to share a ride home your pants-shitting her money. all on their own,
introduce them, but
with your roommate horror story for laughs, don’t let her forget she B Hell, nah. You which will keep your
and her hookup. Any- even though she didn’t owes you big-time. are eternally doomed bonds solid.
one got earplugs? clear it with you first.… to getting stuck with
C Maneuver him
C Sloshed on C Put on blinders the dud.
to the farthest corner
vodka sodas, falling and flirt like a champ— of the room and C Sure, but what
in love with strangers it’s every woman barricade him with happens if you’re into
left and right. for herself out here. your bod. both the dudes?

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