A child is not required to obey if a parent says that s/he must marry a particular person, or must not

marry a person s/he wishes to marry, provided the marriage is permissible by Jewish law. [33][34]
Letting parents know s/he is safe: A child who is traveling has an obligation to communicate with
his/her parents to let them know s/he is safe in order to prevent them from worrying. [35]
After the parent's death: A child must continue to honor his/her parent after their deaths. This can be
done by reciting kaddish for 11 months and on the yarzeit (anniversary of the parent's death), and by
donating charity in the memory of the parent. The study of Torah is also considered to be reverence
toward a parent, for it shows that a parent raised a worthy child. [36]
Other requirements: A child must never put a parent to shame, or speak arrogance|arrogantly toward
one's parent.[37]
A person who is told to do something by his/her mother for which his father does not like the result is
not permitted to tell his/her father that his/her mother said to do that. This is because this could lead
to his/her father cursing his/her mother.[38]
A child is not permitted to interrupt or contradict a parent, or to disturb a parent's sleep. [39]

Parents' obligations[edit]
As a child must respect his/her parents, a parent must respect his/her children in return. This gives
him/her the ability to respect his/her parents.[40]
A father has the following obligations toward his children: [41]

 To teach his children

 To rebuke his children. A parent who fails to do so will lead his children into delinquency.
 To refrain from showing favoritism toward his children. But a parent must never terrorize a
child.[42]
 To train a child according to his/her interests
 To teach a child a trade
 To teach a child how to swim
Rewards[edit]
The rewards for honoring one's parents are as follows: [43]

 Long life[44]
 One's children will honor the follower of this commandment
Consequences[edit]
As with most terms of the covenant between God and Israel, there are consequences for
disobedience as well as rewards for obedience:
Just as the reward for honoring father and mother is very great, the punishment for transgressing it is very
great. And the one who afflicts his parents causes the shechinah [presence of God] to separate from him
and harsh decrees fall upon him and he is given many sufferings. And even if life smiles on him in this life,
he will surely be punished in the World to Come.
– K