MODESTY AND CHASTITY

Suratulmuuminuun aya 1-5

Qn why prophet joseph is a wonderful example of a modesty man of all time?

Our todays life where immodest and unchaste life styles covers every corner of life

Where halal has become haram and haram become halal

Where adulters called goodnames like girlfriend and boyfriend

Where a woman covered with scarf called terrorist and ones open up their private parties called models.

Where homosexu relations called freedom of life styles

Where people are blind while they have eyes

Where people are already dead but still walking and breathing

Where people are deaf and emotionally numbed.

Is this global; pollution will spare pios people?

Whats modesty? shame? Dissipation? and frigidity?

Modesty refers to knowing one’s limit and (not going toofar) placing oneself in position that protects his good
relations with god first and then with people. Its like being shy and shameful.

Its spriritual ornament/ curtain/Shield that performthe function of avoidance of all badhabits that God doesn’t
want to see in peoples behaviour. The one that lack modesty also lack the abilities to dogood deeds.

There are three emotions granted to all individuals, firstly the force of intellect, this is the ability to perceive,
undersatnd and distinguisbetween useful and harmful. Second is the force of anger which is power that breed
the feeling of grudges, rage and fury. And last is the force of desire or lust which concern with bodily appetites
and pleasures, remember human was blessed with many desire faculties that wouldn’t satisfied even if they
could swallow the whole world.

So, with the spiritual ornament {modesty) all of these emotions may be directed to the rightful path.

Modesty is what made us human although modesty has different categories ranging from inborn modesty (god
given), modest before god (by doing fardh), modesty before people (avoiding hurting other peoples feeling),
and there is modesty in our innerselves ( avoid the perfomance of sins even when you are alone).

All religion has code of ethics aand ethics of islam is modesty.

Why this character is so vital?

Because modesty is part of faith, is a branch of faith from tradition the pride of human kind said

(Al--hayau minaall imaan, wal hayau la yaati illa bikhair,)

Modesty is whole of islam, modesty and faith complement each other, when one is absent other vanishes.
Because one who lines with modesty stay away from sins. (it acts as a barrier between individual and sin)

Dissipation is lack of feeling of shame and when ones attain this level becomes easily commits all sorts of sins.

Some old sayings; Do as you wish if you arent ashamed, if you arent embarrased but remember the
consenquences of your actions, loosing feeling of shame doesn’t save you from being accountable.

The pride of humanity once said; be modest towards god, the companions said, how can we modest towards
God?
He replaid; the person who is modest towards God is the one who guard his head and its associated organs and
his belly and its associated organs and who isnot spoiled by the adornement of the world and never forget death.

Guarding head means using our feelings and ideas in the path of goodness, protecting other organs assciated
with head refers to keeping our eyes from all that is forbiden (avoid gazing on haram that is first step towards
promiscuity, (Allah said kull lil-muuminiina yagh-dhudhna min abswaarihim wayahfadwna fuurijihim), our ears
from all bad words and our mouth from forbiden things such as lying,

Guarding belly means avoid eating whats forbiden, and protecting organs associated with belly could be done by
avoiding adutery, exercise and diet here is very cruicial.

Note without guarding them then we destroy our effectual power of faith and we become immodest
toward the all creator.

Allah said al-yawma na-khtim alaa afwahihim watukallimunaa ay-diihim, watashahadu arjuluhum bimaa kanuu
yaksibuun,

Th pride of humanity saw said scarcity of modesty would eventually lead a person towards disbelief. Why;
because modesty is the stucture of faith, if I the structure of something is ruined it becomes broken and
scattered. Its like good house without foundation.

This means, a person who lacks modesty can not stand even if his other qualities were good. Therefore, lay
strong foundation first.’

Qn why othman ibn affan rise to the position of caliph?

Indeed, all of them are the models towards modesty. Propriety and chastitty.

CHASTITY

Whats chastity?

Qn why marry mother of issa alaih salaam is a best example of chaste women of all time?

Refers to the avoidance of ugly words and actions and behaving within the bounderies of modesty and shame. or
chastity concern with moderate and upright approach regarding the aptitude of desires (permissible pleasures
and tastes within legitimate limits) and deliberate rejections of illegitimate desires and wishes.

In general, can be said, chastity refers to controlling one’s desires (good or bad) by the power of his wills, and
his aversion towards adultery and debauchery. Note tha controlling one’s desires from carnal selves that is great
jihad every one of us must undertake.

The sage bediuzzaman said the bounderies of halal is halal are quite wide and they would satisy all our desires
there is no reason to engage in haram acts.

Therfore a chaste person should learn to be satified by the permissible enjoyments of his organs such as eyes,
ears, and hands, and feets and not traspesing the legitmate bounderies.

Bats don’t like light, like wise the infidels don’t like sysytem of faith, ignorant people don’t like knowledge,
immodest people don’t ike modesty, and unchaste don’t like chastity.

Allah said al-khabiithatu lilk-habiithiina walk-habiithuuna lilkhabiithatu.

Do we regard the limit of privacy?

Most of the time we are nt careful in our conduct regarding limits of privacy (in relations between men and
women), forexample we are chatting as if we really close and the we got elecrocuted with our lust and finally we
induldge in fornication.
A man is never alone with women except satan is the third, if we don’t care about limits of privacy, if we don’t
avoid dating, the flow of feelings will dangeorus electrify yo and led yo make wrong steps that would make yo
regeretfull for a life time.

But most of the time we said I don’t have will power to remain chaste or I can’t controll myself or I can’t keep
my word. But remember the sublime creator gave to his servants (like a drop in the ocean) some of his attributes
and names. Like wise with our freewill which is tiny part of divine will we can enlighten or darken our lives.
Shortly we can say remote controll is on our hands.

All matters which harms chastity destroy effectual power of faith.

The wonder of age said; step your every step very carefully otherwise there is danger of slipping.

What should we do to remain chaste and modest and controll our carnal desires?

When we observe the historyof mankind we will come to know that whenever people went astray from shame
and propriety and chose unchastity lifestyles they confronted many disasters and hardships.

01 curb down boredom and you should nt loaf around but have duty

Avoid walks at places where mines of satan are sown, wher sin flow like floods, avoid unnecessary go out,
unecessary talks. Normally satan deals with idle or lazy people by emmitting improper thoughts and delusions in
their heart.

02, we must give up addictions to our carnal selves

It can be illegitimate habits or pasions (they are like deadly poison) which pulls person to vile normaly they are
from our crnal selves. note that as the carnal selves get nourished the soul become contracted and heavy, hence
clumsiness of heart and spiriyual senses.

Carnal selves are an entrance of satan, nothing good will come from our carnal selves. Knowng that getting rid
of carnal selves satan is the first step of getting closer to the almighty god.

To control our carnal selves, we have to know its identity although normally it hides itself, but if you get to
know it then you can controll it. Say stop to carnal selves.

03 we must read books and contemplate abundantly

Its important to revival our lives by reading life stories of rightesous people, our messenger, and the respected
companions, cope their lives and be like them.

04 we must controll our imagining, thoughts, visualizing, we have to evade all vernomous thoughts that are
desired by our carnal desire.

05 death must be remembered often

Because death displeasses all carnal pleasures, is avaccine which removes harm of the viruses of sin presented
by satan. You have to remember I will die and be brought to account then why should I commit sins?

Death makes our hearts beats within congruity of hope and fear which leaves positive effects on our souls and
attitudes.

06 avoid loneliness and make friendship with good people

God created human as a social being, alonely person is so weak against the winds of heedlessness, he may
become a target of satan vernomous arrows. Remember loneliness will open doors for evil thoughts, which later
wrap around our entire soul. Be around three people cause for three people its hardly possible for all of them to
come to agreement in matter concerning sins and evil deeds.
07 there sould be spared day in a week for spiritual nourishments

Each person has a passion to satisfy his spiritual thirst

Listening to advices of those people who nourishes our willpower, softens our hearts and keep us against satan
whisperings and pressure of sins.

Thus, why a person should never say I know it why should I listen again? as we always repeat taking meals in
the same we need sermons and spiritual talks atleast once a week, for they are nourishment of our hearts and
soul.

08 you should supplicate abundantly

He powerful means of protection is supplication; god almighty encourages us to make supplication by saying
pary to me and I will answer you. If we remember god, then god will remember us.

Let’s finish by the poem of hocaefend

Don’t pause with the water hose in your hand,

But rush to attack the flames in every place

For that is your duty

Let the darkness vanish

That the clear road may apppear

Step forward and stand true to the cause of holy trust

Yo young man are the hero

The one for centuries awaited

Come now, come now fo with us is left no power to resist