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Unit 8: Summit 1 Video Script
Unit 8: Summit 1 Video Script
Jay Schadler: There are times, are there not, when Melee: There’s a guard.
punishment is absolutely called for? Marilyn McLaughlin: No. The guard is not
Dr. Kutner: Well, discipline is different from looking out for you. He doesn’t care what’s
punishment. Discipline has to do with teaching. going on.
And yes, there are times when a kid needs to Melee: He stands by the gate until, like, six o’clock
see the consequences of behavior. What I like at night.
having is natural consequences of things. Your
Marilyn McLaughlin: The whole matter . . .
child loses his baseball mitt all the time, you
don’t go out and buy another one. Erin: Also, Miss Golden’s out there watching us.
Jay Schadler: How about time outs? What do you Marilyn McLaughlin: The whole matter of fact is
think about time outs? Pretty effective? this, that I feel very uncomfortable . . .
Dr. Kutner: There are two purposes to time outs. Erin: She’s . . . she’s just in the schoolyard!
One is your child has to calm down, get back in Marilyn McLaughlin: How do I know she’s just in
control. The other is the parent has time to calm the schoolyard? I’m supposed to trust you to
down and get back into control. What we found say you’re just in the schoolyard?
with time out is that the shortest period possible Melee: Yes! You are!
is the best.
Dr. Kutner: Here we have the daughter, who is
telling her, “This is what I need. I need more
PART 2 independence.”
Jay Schadler: Of course, as children grow older, Jay Schadler: Right.
the menu of parenting problems becomes more Dr. Kutner: “I need more time.”
complex. How do you give your child a taste of Jay Schadler: Maybe we can . . .
independence without risking their safety? It’s a
Dr. Kutner: The mother is saying, “I don’t want
balancing act Marilyn McLaughlin struggles
you to spend time on the street.” They haven’t
with every day . . .
met in the middle to say, “I know you need
Marilyn McLaughlin: No, your lung sounds more independence, more autonomy. Maybe we
pretty good. can find someplace that isn’t home, but where
Jay Schadler: . . . as a single working mom with there is adult supervision. Maybe there’s an
two girls, thirteen-year-old Erin and eleven- after-school program where I, as your mother,
year-old Melee. Here’s what happens when will feel more comfortable, and you’ll get to be
Melee, her eleven-year-old, asks to have thirty with some of your friends and there are going
extra minutes after school to hang out with to be adults around.”
friends. Jay Schadler: It’s natural for kids to keep pushing
Marilyn McLaughlin: I do not approve of you the boundaries, testing the limits of their
being out on the streets without adult freedom. For Bill and Ellen Owens and their
supervision for that length of time by yourself. twelve-year-old son, Patrick, a rock concert has
Melee: I don’t hang out on the streets. drawn the borderline between them. The
argument moves to their living room, where
Marilyn McLaughlin: Melee, where do you hang
both parents and child slip into their well-worn
out and talk to your friends?
roles.
Melee: In school.
Patrick: When was the last rock concert you were
Erin: In the schoolyard. at, Dad?
Marilyn McLaughlin: No, you . . . Bill Owens: Thirty-five years ago.
Melee: There’s a lot of people play basketball and Patrick: Exactly!
we sit around and talk.
Marilyn McLaughlin: But there’s no adult
supervision over there.
Ellen Owens: But Patrick, they weren’t in the Jay Schadler: If they decide not to let him go to
papers thirty-five years ago saying that people this concert, should there be other options given
were seriously hurt at concerts. at this point?
Patrick: The Promise concert was not in the Dr. Kutner: Yes, they should let him do something
newspaper either. different; otherwise he’s going to keep on
Bill Owens: Yeah, but we’re not going to know the pushing the envelope, keep on pushing for
next one that’s going to blow up into a riot with more.
the mosh pits, people are going to get hurt and Jay Schadler: As diaper changes and midnight
killed and call the ambulances if someone’s feedings inevitably give way to first dates and
going to bring a gun. Yeah, we are scared. late night parties, the best advice may be to
You’re right. Damned right. remember that the ultimate goal is not about
Jay Schadler: This is a twelve-year-old boy. making carbon copies of ourselves, but a
healthy, happy original.
Dr. Kutner: Right.
Kerry Pollack: I’d like my kids—our kids—to feel
Jay Schadler: Is that too young to go to a concert?
really good about themselves, and I think if they
Dr. Kutner: There’s no age cutoff either way. can feel that way that they can accomplish
What’s important is that if this is such a big deal whatever they want.
for the child, how can the parents see that their
Bill Owens: I’d like my kids to grow up and move
main need, the child’s safety, is addressed? That
out.
could be with a chaperone. If they’re scared that
he’s going to get injured in moshing, how could
he avoid it? If he finds himself surrounded by
this . . . if people are grabbing at him, what does
he do?