Talk to Los Angeles Women

 
Date:

November 29, 1978

Location:

Los Angeles, CA

 
 
 
 

(Students singing song)

(Students stop singing)

Okay I am very happy that you are chanting to Guru Ram Das. I have called you
specially today. There is a very popular saying in the scripture, prostitutes do not
prosper. I learnt it when I was very young and I believe in it and I believe a woman,
which is destroyed sexually, sensually, emotionally and commotionally is not a woman
in the real sense and I believe that men of all walks do not understand the grace of the
woman. Woman has been used and misused as a sex object.

And ten years ago, when I came in America and I saw the billboards, it hurt me and it
still hurts me and it will continue to hurt me, I am never going to come back again, God
likes it or not it is His problem I know He is Almighty but I think I have done enough.
Many, many times and I cannot be rubbed back again into a Messiah role and I don't
like these roles and I am no Messiah at all. It's a very simple thing that man is born of a
woman therefore woman should have a place of respect and dignity. What we did is, we
created insecure woman because only insecure woman can be sexually exploited. Now
it's a part of the game. You have to have a insecure woman to exploit sexually, woman
who is a woman, God cannot exploit that. What to talk of a man, man is just nothing,
man is a peanut.

Now what we did it, we created a breed of, a big breed of insecure woman. 'You are
ugly, you should look sexy, you are not right, you should look sensual, you are not this,
you should look that.' It is tremendous tragedy. What we do, we exploit a woman in her
youth and in her childhood, because when she comes to the puberty and she adapts to
the being something, there is a special essence, fragrance which comes out of woman,
which men run after like mad, so that's why young girls are exploited and misused, but
after all she is a human being and she sits at one say, he said, wait, wait a minute, stop,
stop this, this is not going to go and it won't go. Now, this process in America is very
common and very culture has accepted, that's the tragedy of this country.

This country culture has accepted that woman can socialize, prostitute herself and there
is no defense, there is no help for her, nobody sympathize with the woman. Women are
going nuts and every woman has to be sexual, sensual, skinny, social and just a some,
something to provide stimulant, she is a stimulant, she is just like an upper, I mean don't
misunderstand, she is just you know, I'll like to have a intercourse, when some woman
come to me, 'oh I just had a intercourse with him because I felt very good.' What should
I call her name, I don't want to, if there is a dirtiest word in dictionary add that to my this
word, that's what she is. Her aura is punctured, she has lost her subconscious dignity,
she has lost her standardization values. Intercourse is not male organ going in a female,
don't misunderstand that. It is a whole physical, astral, subtle, mental and spiritual body
involvement.

Okay, I worked on it ten years you know I thought we will have a grace of God
movement, we will have a graceful woman and we will built it up. We give you Bana, we
give you Bani, we give you standard, I even have three years given a ladies course and
I sit two months there to do my job, what I get? So and so ran away weekend with such
and such and you are all dead. What is wrong with you? How can a Khalsa woman who
wears Bana and all that runaway and you look at it as a joke? Why didn't you go, advice
her, help her, counsel her, uplift her spirit? Why? I am asking why? Then if you can't do
this, take off your turban and take off your whites and go and just be bizarre, I don't
care, I don't want you, you don't want me, period. Let us end this, enough is enough, I
have enough, you have enough. Either live it or leave it and I know we have a past.

Somebody was you know I don't know what to do, instead of meditating we have no
meditative mind, so I will go to a club and sleep with somebody at night, I will arrange
three, some older man who can they take me to good lunch, then some young man who
can dance with me and then one bum who can just you know, I know all that, I have
lived in Hollywood, I know the life, I know what a woman go through in this country. But
that's what I am fighting. I am fighting for that woman is the grace of God, there can be
no Nation, if there is no woman, there can be no society, if there is no woman, there can
be no good children, if there is no woman, without woman there is nothing, period. Quit.
Then how come, I have a secretary of the religion, I have a secretary general, I have
this and that and I have all of you, who love me and you adore me and you tell me,
'Yogiji you are great' and how come a last weekend one woman ran away with another
man and something which she what she happens.

Suppose in Adi pose, in Adi Shakti Ashram, this ashram, that ashram and none of you

open your eyes and none of you go and talk and none of you... I mean what is, what is
this social organized pressure for that we have to live pure and we have to let our past
go and we have not to be exploited, we are grace of God, we are human, when you are
going to learn that you are a human being? Are you human being or are you not? I
honestly want to know. You know, woman is woman, woman is the base of the society,
she is a base of the creativity, she is a base of, whatever is base... Do you know when
some girl one day told me, "Yeah, I just, I didn't mind him having a intercourse with me."
I didn't think that she was talking something wrong, she was just telling a truth, because
she doesn't know what the intercourse is and she said, "I didn't mind having
intercourse," I believe that she doesn't have mind at all.

(Students' laughter)

She is spaced out bum she is out of mind totally. I don't think woman can do more than
that when she takes off her cloth, that's the end of her world, period. And when she is
naked, she has no clothes on her body what she gives, she cannot take back God,
Almighty you may do anything and there is a limit to it and that's why, I called you as
daughters, as sisters, as the Khalsa Panth, which we talk about daughters, sisters and
the Panth Khalsa, stop this and each one of you should get up and rise for the woman.
Equal right amendment is not going to give you anything, except some political things,
but what we need is first grace and each one of you. That is why we said, let us change
ourBana, let us look unique because let us believe in Guru Gobind Singh. He said,

'Jab lag Khalsa rehe niaaraa, Tab leg tej dee-o mai(n) saaraa.'

And let us become Niaarey, let us become unique, nobody is like us, then why this
hanky-panky? I tell you my heart feelings, I don't care there are two women or two
million women. I will quit the day anybody of you is caught doing this kind of weirdo
numbers. Because spirit is to go through odds and end of life, in the spirit of the Khalsa,
undefeating spirit, undying spirit and there is no compromise, there is no compromise.
There is absolutely no compromise, I know they want you to have bob hair, they want
you to have small hair, they want you to look like sensual and sexual, I know that is
America. Six million women are exploited for salesmen to be, to be provided as flesh
every night, six millions. In every job there is a exploitation of sexuality and sensuality
and it is a exploitation because you know once a while you just provide as a instrument
of pleasure and then you are adios.

You have nine holes and that damn thing is just a one hole. What about the other eight?
They all go down the tube. Your eyes are blind, your ears are blind, can't hear, your
mouth cannot speak the truth, what is gone wrong with you? And one lady in counsel
told me, "Oh I didn't do intercourseYogi?"

I said, "What you did?"

"Oh no, I didn't do anything."

"What you did?"

"I didn't do anything, I did only orally everything."

This is not, if woman want to be woman, this is not going to happen. You need a (?)
man because you need a woman and you need a woman to be a man. That is a man, a
man. Father and the Son and the Holy Ghost, a man.

(Students' laughter)

So what I, I am calling you and I am asking you is, let us stop this game what we were
doing on Sunset Strip and on this strip and that strip, let us stop this strip business. Let
us come out to be with dignity, with Divinity and with the grace. Now, why I say is, in last
ten years 3HO has not abandoned anybody. No woman can raise hand and said, she
was in genuine difficulty and we didn't come through. We did came through all the way.
That's why, we have earned this right to say to you, we want you to live in the dignity,
Divinity and the grace of a woman. Otherwise, 3HO family will be ruined, there will be
no marriages, it will be same sick process, it will be same Hollywood scene, it will be
same Las Vegas, well if you want to strip dance and you want to drink and have all this
what you want to have, then have it, then one thing leads to other, other leads to the
other and adios, go the way you want to go, I will just stop it and stop it totally and if
somebody and one thing which makes you mad is, if somebody is falling apart and
somebody is not doing this and somebody is not doing that, you don't come through at
all.
Everybody now in 3HO wants to live individual life, there is no individual life we have
very collective part of the society and we have to face the whole society as a whole and
everybody has to face everybody. I mean to say, that's the way it should be and that's
the way it should be. Everybody has neurosis, everybody is neurotic but everybody has
a spirit, everybody has a soul, everybody has a strength and everybody can be
beautiful, I don't believe that anybody can go down the tube, not a bit. If Harbhajan
Singh Puri can bug, become Harbhajan Singh Khalsa Yogiji then everybody can
become everybody. I used to crawl and I used to pee without knowing on whom I am
peeing. Right? It's a wrong? You don't want to see this truth? And now I go to bathroom.

(Students' laughter)

Right? I have learnt, right? Well, let us face the reality, I have learnt right? But can't you
learn? We have to learn to become learned and I don't want that listen, those who
wants to do their Hollywood trip, goodbye. We are not going to tolerate this, that's, that's
no way, that is no, no honorable way, it has no honorable feeling, it doesn't mean
anything and then the future of the children, which will be born out of such woman will
suffer. And I don't want people to suffer, I want people to be healthy, happy and holy. I
want people to be there, oh for God sake, give your children future, forget about your
nonsense. Your aura doesn't have power on your children. You are yelling and
screaming doesn't make any difference, because you don't have that light, you are
opaque, you are dark because you are selfishly, sensually, sexually, totally, degraded
yourself within your ownconsciousness and you got to change.

Now what is the way to change? Changing is change yourself and help somebody else
to change, each one should become a counselor of higher woman values, well you
know better woman values than me because you are all woman right? You are not?
How many of you feel you are a woman, raise your hands? Raise your hand at least if
and they should raise your both hand if nobody else is raising it. Okay, now I know you
will raise it anyway.

Student: (----)

YB: Now yeah, you know you have all charged up, fired up and it's fine. Look, I don't
care who you are and what you are, difficulties will come, difficulty is one, thus God
gave you a woman sixteen time more patience than a male. God manufactured woman
right and you got to use it and within my lifetime learn to be a woman in grace.
Otherwise, you are nobody. That's why you wear white that because you can live white,
your whole environment and structure is white and straightforward direct Khalsa
woman, that should be your attitude, you should say, 'I am, I am.' You are not a object
of sensuality and sexuality.

Now I am opened myself for questions, please feel free and ask me any question but
mind you one thing, I am very direct today, I am geared myself at category Z and I am
not going to spare you, I am going to come straight as it is. Yes, yes dear.

Student: (----)

(Students' laughter)

Student: (----)
YB: No, no, you, you have a absolutely the privilege to live, there is no big deal, this was
7:30 class and 7:30 we don't teach yoga, yoga we teach 6:30 to 7:30.

Student: (----)

YB: No, no, this, this speaker this...

(Students' laughter)

This speaker, this speaker is not speaking today to inspire anybody to speak, this
speaker today is doing its job and you, this is a hard course job and you need not take it
at all and don't worry about it.

Student: (----)

YB: And unfortunately it was your first yoga class, it was very hard for you to digest.

(Students' laughter)

They should have let you go, to begin, you know this is also wrong. Just to feel
everybody can just tolerate it, you people have worked on it for ten years and ten years
you have learnt and many of you have gone through the pain and displeasure of life and
you have adapted it and everybody can't take it right away. So just that is also not right
to shove it through anybody's throat. Take it very light. Yes?

Student: (----)

YB: Oh you should have career, there is nothing wrong in that, don't have children, don't
have. You are not a child producing machine, absolutely don't want to have child, don't
have child, have career have (?) but what I am saying is, whether you have children, or
you don't have children, you want a career, you don't want a career, but you are a
human being and don't be a exploitory sex object. That's what I am saying. Yes?

Student: (----)

YB: Yeah but some people may leave very soon don't worry. Question and answer are
going to be very blunt and open tonight you know and some of the women in America is
totally brainwashed to the extent, they said, don't (?), people are so brainwashed, they
can't even hear things. Yes?

Student: How do we teach our husbands not to treat, treat us like sex objects...

YB: Oh, how can we teach our husband not to treat us as sex objects? If you are not
sex object, husband can't do a thing, I have always said, men are bananas peel them
and eat them.

(Students' laughter)

That's what they are, God there is no, huh, huh. I tell you, I tell you when a woman
doesn't want to do something, there is no power on the Almighty God, which can make
her to do that. It's very clear. Yes?
Student: (----)

YB: No, no, I will give you personal experience, go ahead.

Student: What is this single woman, what is the best thing for single woman to do, when
she has desires (?), what kind of God she follows?

YB: Oh in other words, what she is saying folks, I can put it...

(Students' laughter)

I can put it in same words. When a single woman is horny, what she should do?

(Students' laughter)

And that's a question, let us put it straight. You know when you become horny, take
your both horn and pull them out.

(Students' laughter)

Because you don't want those horn to stick in your stomach and your growing pain may
not become labor pain and unwanted labor pain and damn it, you are going to live with
those pain up to the graveyard, period. Pull those horns with the essence of your faith
that you have a grace and one mistake on your part and that one moment can carry you
through certain things which cannot be repaired. In woman's life there is no patchwork.
Remember me, don't remember me as YogiBhajan, I will agree with you but for this
sentence in woman's career of living there is no patchwork. You cannot makeup for
your mistake. Yep?

Student: Sometimes I have trouble understanding how to communicate to a woman

when I see her messing up.

YB: Tell her hello miss, you are messing up.

(Students' laughter)

And she says, 'what, what?' You say, 'There in you are messing up. And this is how I
feel' and if she says, 'what next I can do?' You can tell her what next you can do. I mean
to say, you know people have got a great misunderstanding that I am going to be a star,
I am going to eat of garbo, I am going to that's what she died, what was her name?

Students: (----)

YB: Yeah, Melro what?

Students: (----)

YB: Something Melro something.

(Students' laughter)
So all of you are not going to Melro, Melro, whatever she was and end up taking pills
and taking their as your own life, you want to live, it's live as a noble woman. I know one
woman was so obnoxious to me, she said, "What do you mean, we should not have a
intercourse, what for God gave me that little area if I can't use it?"

I said, "Hung it in the street, so that everybody can use it."

(Students' laughter)

You know there are some people are really out of mind and out of sight, they are really
far-out, they think the God have put a little hole there and it is the only way to become
holy to use it all the time. It is not a steam piston engine, it has a lot of emotional,
commotional, philosophical, mental, whole thing.

(Students' laughter)

Don't make a dodo do of something. Yeah, Nirinjan what a question you have? It should
be Catholic question remember that.

(Students' laughter)

Nirinjan: (----)

YB: Oh no, no it is, it is a insecurity, nobody wants to be with husband and not with
husband. Some ladies, that's what I am saying, we are insecure, that, that's what I am
trying to reach everybody, the problem is that woman has been trained to be insecure.
Because if woman is not insecure she cannot be exploited. So even husbands,
husbands make woman insecure, so that she can be just a little (?) running after, you
know, they do the same thing, I am not saying that they are all perfect. So I mean to
say, don't misunderstand the husband are very genuinely saints and I have seen very
spiritual husband, Mukhia Singh Sahib and Siri Singh Sahib and super Siri Singh
Sahib's and whatever they are, they are quite jerks.

(Students' laughter)

So you know what I mean? Yes, yes, yes?

Student: (----)

YB: It is called itch of, itch of capacitated bewitchment of masturbation, it has a definite
scientific term and, it is as old as nineteen hundred BC, it existed always. All children
want to explore their organ and the urinary organ is very fancy and fascinating to them.
It's natural what I am trying to tell you natural and if you will just tell them that this organ
has this purpose and this is meant for this and don't put your hand in your mouth and
don't put your hand there because bacteria infection can happen and you tell them very,
very politely but very reasonably, don't put a threat child will immediately listen but if
you, 'don't touch it,' when you go left side, he will touch it again.

(Students' laughter)
It's a very wrong approach, some people wants to threat children and say things and
that way children sneak out to do that thing again and again and mostly parents are
responsible for that behavior. Yes dear?

Student: (----)

YB: World is doesn't matter and if you can't I will.

Student: (----)

YB: Joke.

(Students' laughter)

When you want to play tennis and you first have to have a mood to play tennis and then
you should have clothes to play tennis and you need then tennis racket and tennis ball
and tennis is a game of playing tennis ball and it is always with two partners. Anything
which is not done according to the rule of the empire they call it, or rules of the referee
ends up to be a zigzag mess. So please ask your husband to read ladies training
course one and two and three is on its way and you should read men course one and
two, it will definitely help. I am not asking miracle, yes dear?

Student: (----)

YB: Oh you can, you can, you can, I tell you why. You cannot patch up at the same
frequency ofconsciousness but if you can raise your consciousness, you can definitely
you are a new person and you don't bring past, past won't come to you, that's the only
way, you can be a new person. This guiltconsciousness is improvised instrument of the
Catholic religion, you know, once you are, you must you are a sinner, you are a sinner
but nobody is a sinner more than one day. What was Tuesday I did a sin, Wednesday it
is not Tuesday, so I am not sinner on Wednesday. I can be get caught on Wednesday, I
can be accused on Thursday, I can be arrange on Friday, I can be sentence on
Saturday but it is not Wednesday and every Wednesday in every week is a new
Wednesday. That is what Sadhana does, Sadhana builds up a new person.

All these ladies who are faltering I have checked their account one thing is they don't do
theirSadhana. So though they don't have a mental higher altitude to raise
in consciousness and therefore every person in 3HO I check, anybody who one maybe
boast, I am super Siri Singh Sahib's Singh, Singh, Singh Sahib, whatever ten times
raised to the power hundred, Sadhana isSadhana, if you don't do Sadhana forget it.

Sadhana is a mental victory, Sadhana is a constitutional victory, Sadhana is mental,

spiritual, physical, auric, subtle all bodies victory and you have lot of bodies, you are a
spiritual body, you are a mental body, you are a physical body, you are a auric body,
you are radiant arc, radiant body, you are cosmic body, you have a magnetic field of
complete body, how many you are? And to put your scene together is putting your
scene together. Therefore, there is no reason to live in guilt, the only way you can get
rid of guilt is, if you do Sadhana and do it Aradhana, Sadhana, Aradhana Prabhupati
that's the shortest path. Sadhana and do it the way you are told to do it and you will
have a mastery over God and when you have mastery over God who will write your
account. That's why, there is a redemption forgiveness and redemption for everybody
but at same level of frequency you can't.
Suppose the mountains are thirty thousand feet and if you fly twelve thousand feet,
accident is unavoidable, but if you can pull your plane at fifteen thousand feet, you will
clear it. You have to give yourself a new self I am a new woman. I am not that, I am this
and this is my start and that's what I am going to do and for that you need mental and
moral strength, which comes through Sadhana. Yeah?

Student: (----)

YB: Call immediately the nearest possible teacher, tell him, "Hello, hello, hello, flirtation
happening between so and so, so and so, take care." Call secretariat,
call Sikh Dharma secretariat, call Nirinjan, call this, call that. Give a call, Bolay
Sonihal, Sat Siri Akal, call.

(Students' laughter)

Three-fourth of the thieves do not show up when they say, police is patrolling.

(Students' laughter)

Student: (----)

YB: Oh you must be very social, very smart, very smiling, that your social life does not
get involved if your mental life is strong and you must not weaken your mental life,
because you must understand if your mental life will become weak, you socially get
involved and then you will face the consequence therefore, before you want, if there is a
single man you are a single woman, you want to marry him, it's far-out idea. Check it
out. Check out his credit as a man. Don't enter into man's credit, you will end up with
liability, then of credit. Learn the process of loan arrangement they call it, bank loan
arrangement and every bank check collateral. In every relationship must you check
collateral. You know what I mean, develop credit system. Built your credit and check up
the credit system, so that you can give some credentials to your children of future and of
tomorrow and you, you got to go, you got to grow, you got to pay the price, it's not
difficult, it is, it is what you, you think.

Everybody has to pay the price for anything what they want. I am not asking you not to
go to disco, disco-dance. Go disco-dance then eat steak, you know don't, you don't
understand, you just accuse me for nothing, go disco-dance, eat steak and take a don't
ask a whisky, ask rare (?) and have lot of martini, I mean to say, have fun and take off
your clothes and God bless you, there are two hundred fifty million Americans living,
nobody is responsible for anybody. There is no fun.

I mean to say, if you want to be a dance girl, I am not upset against it. I am not saying
that you have not to, I think you should enjoy. But when you wear white and you are
committed and you want to live as a committed woman, then it is your responsibility and
foremost responsibility to come out with your soul, heart and mind to uplift the spirit of
the Khalsa, that's what I am saying. I am not also saying, that tomorrow everybody
should start wearing white and turbans and all that, no, I am not saying that. I say, don't
do it at all. Because it's a path of the saint who walks like soldier in grace of God and it's
a grace of God and flirtatious mind is not alert mind and unalert mind cause lot of
problems, where I am not saying to you, that you become saint overnight, take your
time, think about it, there is no hurry, I have waited ten years, I will wait another ten
years.
You know one thing you do not understand, I am not asking you to convert. Neither I am
asking you to revert. Don't convert and don't revert but just decide what you want to be
and be so. So that you can experience what it means, so be it. And you got to stand out
in this wild sexual, sensual, exploited society. That is what grace of God movement is.
That woman has to recognize and experience her grace, I am not God sake, don't
misunderstand me, if you want drink whisky and don't steal money, I will give you ten
bucks, you know have fun. It won't hurt me, you don't understand I am not attached
whether you want to live a wretched life or you want to live a great life, it is my job I am
just doing my job. I am telling you the wretched life will make you wretched. It will going
to make you miserable. As a woman you have lot more chances, what do you care for
me, I don't worry about that, don't worry about me at all, I have been slandered from the
time of my birth to now. It's no big deal. Nothing matters to me, for God sake, don't
misunderstand, I am a fighter.

You know there are aeroplanes, passenger's plane, cargo planes, you know what I
mean and there are fighters plane, right? That's all, I will fight to my last breath, I believe
in the grace of woman, I believe in grace of God and I believe every woman can be so.
Well, if I fail, don't worry about me. Yes dear?

Student: (----)

YB: Oh tell them to get married. A woman came to me once, and you know she had a
problem with this kind of area and I called her and said, "Am I your teacher?"

She said, "Yes."

I said, "Did I ever lie to you?"

She said, "No."

"Did I always advice you the truth?"

She said, "Yes."

I said, "You think when I am going to say today, it's going to be all right or not?"

She said, "Yes, you will be, you always say right things, it's fine."

I said, "Then do me a favor, either marry this man or leave him."

And she said, "I am ninety-nine percent pure." That means I am going to do what I am
going to do, since that day to this day, I have never seen her, period. That's one step
everybody has to take. We need company of the holy, we don't need the hole and those
who think that, that is the only game they want to play, these are people and actually I
tell you, you don't blame them most of the people are mentally not equipped for
commitment life, they have been brought up as insecure kids who can be (?) fooled
around and played around and found up, it's a very wrong situation, it is, it is, it is very,
very sure situation and I don't say only girls do it, I have seen ladies of very higher
mature age.
There is one woman, I went to a place, where they swap woman and do all that thing, I
wanted to go there for study, I went there and I interviewed one woman and I said,
"Why you do this?"

And she said, "I am very bored with my husband."

I said, "Do, then why don't you find some other way?"

She said, "There is no other way you know, sixty, eighty thousand dollars, he gets a
year and I end up spending all and..."

Side B

"... But I don't want to live poor and I think this is the best way I can live." Some people
are trained mentally that way that they can be living just to be exploited life, yes dear
you want to ask question? Yeah?

Student: (----)

YB: Yeah, but that is, that is normal American husband do. I mean, that's, that's, that's
what I am trying to tell you, it's not the story of your husband, you are not alone in that
game. You know but fortunately you are young and you are not totally drained out and
this is a one relationship where you entered just because you thought everything is
going to be all right and that's what I came, relationship becomes liability, now this is a
one exact case which I am talking to all these people tonight and take up your strength
and built up your values and stand out and if there is any help you need, we will, we will
be willing to give you the help and stand out as a graceful woman. We will all, we, we,
we are a family, we, we have one common thing in this 3HO family, we live for each
other. That's why we look different and we live different because I cannot allow people
wear pants because pants lead to hot pants you know.

(Students' laughter)

So better stop pants, so no hot pants. So that's what I say, wear chudidar at least it
takes about ten, fifteen minutes to open it.

(Students' laughter)

And thanks to Guru Gobind Singh, you require double Kutcheras, so it is all okay, it is

within the realms of consciousness and feeling, but if you are so dumb and you can go
through all nonsense, you know this, you know what I mean to tell you, how old you
are? Oh, that, that's okay, twenty-seven people even don't born here and this is a very,
very unconscious country, it is (?), twenty-seven is nothing, you tell your husband, 'look
my dear baby boy...'

(Students' laughter)

Student: (----)

YB: Oh that's what I am trying to tell you, this is, if you know, if I tell you all the stories I
know I can tell you whole dictionary but question is, somewhere, I mean to say, you
must understand here I have seen a problem, that day I was talking to one woman, I
said, "Why you want to run away and do this thing?"

She said, "I don't know Yogiji, my mother told me, one should not live with man, more
than a year."

I said, "But how many time she got divorced?"

She said, "About seven times."

And I said, "Then what she did?"

She said, "Then she quit, she didn't want to marry, she started living with any man, she
should, is it not our right as a woman? Now this is her equal amendment right."

And that she was explaining to me, I said, "Well, I think you should do it, when you get
burnt up, then learn there is Kundalini Yoga, which can work it out." So you know I am, I
am not saying that there is a situation, here there is no image to follow. Mamma does it,
grandmamma did it and grand grandmamma did it and why the daughter should not do
it? And I mean to say, people, people do not want to understand one thing I tell you,
there is nothing, nobody wants to live wrong, I don't agree, whether a woman does
wrong, it's wrong. People have neurosis and they don't want to acknowledge, they have
neurosis and when 3HO is to help your neurosis, 3HO to it creates the social
environments to help your neurosis and people don't want to help neurosis and that's
why they can't be in 3HO. I mean 3HO doesn't mean no discipline, 3HO means only
one discipline live for each other and live socially and purify yourself, that's all is to be
healthy, be happy and be holy, there is nothing we demand.

Sikh Dharma is totally separate, Sikh Dharma is Sikh Dharma and Sikh Dharma is not

3HO, 3HO is not Sikh Dharma, don't intermix them but those who are committed
for Sikh Dharma, they have to live as Khalsa, they have to, they are the teacher, they
must go out and talk about but 3HO is live healthy, happy and holy and take care of
your neurosis but don't hang on with your neurosis and go on saying that we are going
to tolerate you know there is a time limit, within the time limit you get rid of your neurosis
and get out of it. I mean to say, I, I don't see why people don't tie turban, I don't see it.
Lot of expenses, you go to a barber, you color your hair, you put all those dyes, you do
the whole stuff, still you don't look beautiful and then they become grey, then you have
other trouble, there is a trouble after trouble, God how, who wants this thirty dollar a
month to be wasted. Take few yards of cloth, put this beautiful yamaka and just be great
and live very distinct.

Student: (----)

YB: Yeah, that is a single turban, double turban, the chunee business, I tell you what,
this hair, when they are on the solar center should be covered and there are two ways
of covering it, one is when you are working hard, then it should be first the hair should
be there and there should be covered with a cloth and then you should wear the turban,
so it is covered, that is called war turban, that's called war turban and but normally,
when you are in normal grace, you should have a very thin cloth worn a chunee and
that helps your auric line, you know what I mean? Chunee to a woman is a beard to a
man and you don't like chunee, I have seen in 3HO chunee is hanging behind legs,
queen Cleopatra is going now.
(Students' laughter)

You know it will take many, many years, they don't. Chunee means you cover this and
you put it around your neck and this neck area and this is only the face. You know this
nuns, you know these nuns?

Students: (----)

YB: All you look it with this only the face, it is called the moon area. Woman is supposed
to explode(expose) only the moon area before sun, every other thing she should cover.
This, this, this white thing what they call them?

Student: Gloves.

YB: Gloves, gloves, these women made the gloves, not because of winter, forget it, they
wanted to cover their hands, they covered their... Woman was the first person who
made socks.

(Students' laughter)

Woman is very cold individuals you must understand, she covers the whole world, she
covers the God, she covers the creation. You, you, you just underestimate woman,
woman is not this little creature running around, who can go for ten dollars worth of a
lunch and then a dinner whatever you want to call it and done away with it. Yeah, you
last?

Student: (----)

YB: Yeah, I tell you.

(Students' laughter)

Yeah, I, I, I agree, when they tell you, 'what are you doing now?'

Student: (----)

YB: Oh I, I agree with you but...

Student: (----)

YB: Oh for, for, for a woman nobody, I agree. When I came in this country, nobody
knew I am a Yogiand I didn't have a horn on my head and I didn't have a billboard on
my forehead.

Student: (----)

YB: Commitment.

(Students' laughter)

Don't make them believe, I mean she is right, don't make them believe, there is a girl
sitting here and after living here in 3HO and all that, she is very beautiful daughter of
mine and I wanted to marry her with a very beautiful son of mine and they got tingled
with each other and I said, wait a minute because this son of mine is very devoted and
she should be equally devoted and no fooling around and all that. So she ran away, she
told me, she is going North, she went out South and whatever and one fine day after
about fifteen, twenty-days, she came and there were long hairs and that old junk hippies
as common as we know everyday and I asked her, she said, "I love you, I love 3HO but
I can't tie turban."

I said, "Are you kidding? You will tie three turbans instead of one. We won't accept you."
Her neurosis went away and she is very pretty, you want to see her?

(Students' laughter)

Now everybody believes her. Nobody believes it, they told me no, no, no, she is never
going to wear this and that and she used to tie beautiful turban when she was going to
get that man and you know and she will ride a horse and she will do like this and turban
will go off and she will have floating and she thought that I am blind, I don't know what
she is doing, you know what I mean?

(Students' laughter)

But we kept, we keep our mouth shut knowing everything. But once you get committed
and after a while people start believing you, the people don't believe, people believe on
credibility, belief is credibility, belief is not what you say. I am not Yogi because I am
a Yogi. No, I have a credit as a Yogi, I have a credibility as a Yogi and that is what I am
a Yogi. You can't be what you are not but if you have a credit to that, show up your
card, it works. Yes?

Student: (----)

YB: You don't like it.

(Students' laughter)

Student: (----)

(Students' laughter)

Student: (----)

YB: Yeah wrong is, there is nothing in sex and there is nothing without sex. Sex is not a
physical action, sex is not a physical action, though performed physically. Sex is a
mental action comes from security and insecurity both. Sex is a outcome of insecurity
when done for sensual and sexual purposes, sex is which comes from security when
done for elevated higher consciousnesspurposes. There is nothing wrong in sense, I
can put it down, it's a way of life but when between the two people there is a
commotional barrier and not a devotional link, listen this, commotional barrier and not a
devotional link, sex will be miserable. Sex suffers and that's what it is. When ego
clashes intercourse never happens. Because you have a ego intercourse. Yes?

Student: (----)
YB: It can't be.

Student: (----)

YB: Oh no, I tell you one thing, men are just that's what I said, it's a wrong with men,
men want children and they do not understand, woman is not normal after child birth
and she is not normal almost a year. First she is not normal, first nine months and then
she is not normal about one year but woman who do not, that's what I am trying to tell
you, if you do not establish a very spiritual relationship between yourself, that's why I
say, you are married in presence of God, first you are married to Dharma, then to your
man. Actually that means, that you have to have those spiritual values and you have to
live, if you have sexual and physical values and they are not substituted by spiritual
values, this problem will happen. So it doesn't matter, you have with him intercourse or
you don't have with him intercourse or he doesn't, if you both have a sexual values
in Dharma, then it's all okay, then there is no problem, there is no freaking out. Yeah?

Student: (----)

YB: Ask him to paint that picture and put a matchstick to it.

(Students' laughter)

And when he talks about it, tell him it is burnt. I tell you another reply, once a husband
had a picture and he said, you should be like that, she should be like that, so one day,
he was horny and he came to her, he said, "Darling, you look very pretty."

She said, "No, I know I am not pretty, I am not that, so tonight would you please go out."
And she sent her(him) out and locked the door inside. All the cold weather outside and
little hail which came totally bring him to a normal temperature and after two hours he
was begging her, 'let me come in, I will never talk to you like that' and finally I got a
telephone call and I called her and let her(him) get in, I mean to say, he went to the
public phone and said, "Sir, I have done this mistake," told me the whole story on the
phone and I just let him in and after that no picture, no imagination, they are just glued
in. These are called childhood hallucination, inter provoked acts and it's a mental
disease of a third degree. Yeah?

Student: I have a question.

YB: Yeah?

Student: How can a woman communicate to a lustful father to lay off?

(Students' laughter)

YB: How can woman communicate to a lustful father to lay off? I tell you in a very
simple words, when a lustful father keeps coming on and on at that time woman should
say, it is only the most disgraceful human impotency that when a man cannot control
the least grace and wants to be out of all cosmic consciousness proceed towards the
daughter and if she stand up with that little beautiful sentence, it brings immediately
impulsation in pituitary and all horniness will be eliminated like, like, like it goes up right
like, like you can't believe it.
Student: (----)

YB: First, first is stand erect, stand erect that will give you about foot and a half
more aura.

(Students' laughter)

When you want to just exert yourself stand erect and then put your left hand out and
start raising your first finger.

(Students' laughter)

It works like a magic.

Student: (----)

YB: Yeah, that is why we give you that little sword so that person may know you are not
unarmed that little thing called kirpan, kirpan, kir, kir, kir pan. Kir means hand, pan
means what you wear on the hand and that is the symbol of the woman that she will not
give in, we die before we fall and when you can rise to that consciousness and you are
alert and you are graceful, I don't think anything happens to you people are just great,
people see your turbans and put a Chakar on it, they just go round another block.

(Students' laughter)

They don't want to, they don't want to meet you on that walk way. So you know what I
mean? It's okay, yeah, Googi?

Student: (----)

YB: I tell you one thing, once you are married to God Himself, always other mans, other
mans, I don't want to say that and other man, other woman's that always look better.
Neighbors cows...

Students: (----)

(YB & Students' laughter)

It is the same sick psychology. Yeah dear?

Student: (----)

YB: Oh this, it is, whether you have a anger because you have been exploited and
misused and all that I understand for that is Kundalini Yoga, it will change the glandular
system, it change the impulsation, it change your aura, it change your strength and you
can totally change. I am not saying in 3HO everybody is as pure as God is, I am not
saying that but I know they would have been worst. Because in ten years, I can tell you
anybody who has come to 3HO lived for a while, change themself and then left and
went back has fallen on their face, I have seen that. I am not, I am not exaggerating it
because that's my, when people leave 3HO it doesn't bother me, people think their
leaving 3HO bothers me, no. Coming to 3HO it doesn't make me happy, all I know is,
there I have got a one additional work to do and leaving 3HO doesn't give me relief, that
I have one liability less but what I feel this person is leaving and he is going through
the Karma instead of Dharma.

3HO is a ladder to the Dharmic path and when the people leave they fall into
their Karma and then there is nobody to take care of their neurosis and every third
American is mentally sick. So two hundred fifty million Americans you know fifty million
are mentally sick, one million are mentally distorted and rest do not know who they are.
That is our national figure. We, we have become very commotional society. We call
ourself pill society. We have no, no energy in us to control ourself and this is very, very
sad. It's very, very sad, we even do not know how sick we are. I mean to say, I tell you it
is very unfortunate, we don't have any patience, we don't have any tolerance and we do
not want to obey anything and we want the whole world to obey us. I mean to say, look
at our national record what we have done to this Earth.

You know we are mentally very polluted and that's why we are mentally very polluted
we like to look very good you know make all the hairdo and make the whole thing and
make the whole thing and you know, we, we invite exploitation, that's the way our
society is geared to. I know a girl, she came all the way to live 3HO way of life and all
that and she ran away and she found out another man, she brought him to me, I told
him this is not going to work out, it didn't work out but you know whole story was very
sad, she could have made it but she didn't. So what we mean, we can wait, we can
wait, we have a, patience pays but normally coming to normal that's why we give you
yoga classes twice a day that if one cannot come in the morning, one can come in the
evening and one has to take time but people cannot take discipline.

I know of one girl, she had a boyfriend, she has to be pulled out of that environments
but when she came on the different environment she got another boyfriend, so what
was the difference, if you come all the way from the East Coast to West Coast and you
get another boyfriend in West Coast, she was creating the same atmosphere but she
was too quick as a construction engineer, she did the whole thing. Oh I don't think
anybody can do anything except you can do prayer for such people. Such people are
afraid to come out of their neurosis because that is the only security they have.

Everybody cannot be somebody, some people are afraid to be somebody because

that's a commitment, that's a responsibility and they just want to be just, just, just
nobody. I mean to say, nobody. When you tie a turban, you walk on a street twenty
people look at you, oh that is 3HO, who wants it. People want to be crowd, not a
individual but God made you individual not crowd. That's where the conflict is, conflict is
simple.

Now this lady has told her husband is tolerating this and he is doing this, that, that and
what she should do, she should just start doing. She should start doing something the
moment she start doing either he has to stop or he knows some people think nothing is
going to happen, we can do anything, they think less a fare you know, it's all open.
That's not every cause has a effect and every effect has a cause. You got to act as a
graceful woman, you act to graceful woman, not for you, for the environment, you are
environments and environments are you. So let us support each other. Yes?

Student: (----)

YB: I can dictate the reply write to him, 'my dear so and so smile and count your teeth.'
(Students' laughter)

Till write down. 'My dear darling so and so, smile, count your teeth. One day they will fall
from their roots and you will not be in a position to stick them back. All I wanted to give
you a chance, take it or leave it, adios.'

(Students' laughter)

At least you have my name, you should have my intelligence too.

Student: (----)

YB: I am just trying to tell you, I am very good, people do not know that part of me how
good I am, they only know a naïve Yogi, who is judging everything is going to be all
right, because I am dealing with bums but when I start doing bum, bum, bum, bum I do
it, once a while you know you should just, yeah?

Student: (----)

YB: Yeah I will, I will repeat the question yeah.

Student: (----)

YB: Far-out.

Student: (----)

YB: Educate her.

Student: (----)

YB: Educate her. Educate, give anybody nothing, I don't believe giving anybody
anything, give everybody values, values and once she pick up the values, nothing can
corrupt. Build peoples base with values, I am doing nothing, I am just giving people
values and I hope and I am sure that these values will built a very beautiful new Nation
of healthy, happy, holy, graceful people who have Divinity, dignity and grace and they
may live in a tree or poverty.

(Students' laughter)

Let us sing the song of a noble woman, let us one, two, three, go.

(Students singing song)

(Students stop singing)

There is no power, more powerful than the woman. It takes one woman to destroy the
home of another woman and when she destroys, she doesn't destroy home of a
woman, she destroys her entire future home from here to Infinity. Sat Nam. Think on
this thought, work it out, we will have next year another meeting only for women and we
will discuss openly all questions and answers, our values and our virtues, our
shortcomings and our defects and we will grow and that is also one way to grow. Thank
you very much, Sat Nam.

Students: Sat Nam.

YB: Chalo Ji, yeah bring it with you. Thank you.

Student: (----)

YB: Please...

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