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At this age kids don’t have a real understanding of death and are unable to
process the permanence of it. They don’t understand that death means “forever”.
You may be answering the same questions over and over again from your child.
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4-7
What to expect in ages
Children at this age still might see death as reversible, they may try and
do things to bring them back. They may think they did something to
cause the death and might start to ask more questions about how they
died or where they are now.
What to expect in ages 7-13
At this age kids are more logical with their thinking as they have matured. They
understand that death is final but still wish for it to be reversible. They may
become more concerned with other people’s deaths. They might become
concerned with the way other people death with death and try to figure out the
“right” way to react to losing someone.
Allow children to be involved in any rituals like a viewing or funeral, they
should be given the choice to be involved but not forced. Inform your child
on what they should expect. You might need to explain what will happen
after like a burial or cremation. Share your family beliefs on what happens
after death and where they go. Giving your child a role in the services is also
a good way to help cope. Invite your child to read a poem, share a memory,
or gather photos.
Some adults might think that if a child isn’t visibly grieving, they are grieving.
According to The Social Work Today magazine, "Grief is the internal response
and mourning is the external response to loss. Kids may not be showing grief
on the outside, but they're grieving tremendously on the inside. They go into a
shocked, numblike state. It seems as if a shutter comes down in our brain,
protecting us from the intensity of the grief experience, and as the weeks and
months go on, that shutter slowly goes back up. However, with children, that
shutter seems to stay down a bit longer."
Sources
Arkusha, A. (n.d.). Portrait of a pretty liitle Studio, P. (n.d.). Schoolgirls drawing with
girls [Photograph]. colorful pencils at home [Photograph].