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It means
Treat myself with respect in all human
encounters
To live authentically
to "belong"
Belligerence
Inappropriate aggresiveness
See
Think
First and basic act of self-assertion =
The choice to
assertion of consciousness be aware
To ask questions
To challenge authority
To think for oneself, and to stand by what To default on this responsibility is to default
one thinks, is the root of self-assertion. on the self at the most basic level.
fight for it
Within an organization, self-assertiveness is
required not merely to have a good idea
work to win supporters for it
but to...
When we do not assert our being The world does not do it to us, we do it to
We inflict wounds on our sense of self
ourselves.
do not stand up for our values in contexts
where it is appropriate to do so
A well realized man or woman is one who The track of individuation Autonomy
has moved successfully along two lines of
development that serve and complement Capacity for intimacy and human
each other: The track of relationship
connectedness
If one's primary source of safety and if I express myself, I may evoke disapproval
security is through affiliation with the tribe,
because it signifies individuation (self If I love and affirm myself, I may evoke
the family, the group, the community, the
realization, the unfolding of personal resentment
company, the collective, then even self- They remain frozen in the face of such
identity), therefore separateness. Persons with an underdeveloped sense of
esteem can be perceived as threatening possibilities, and pay a terrible price in loss
identity often tell themselves... If I am too happy with myself, I may evoke
and frightening of self-esteem
jealousy.
Fear of Self-Assertiveness
If I stand out, I may be compelled to stand
alone.
wholeness
completion
A modern term, but the idea it expresses is We think of the striving of the human being
"Individuation"
at least as old as Aristotle toward This thrust is intimately associated with our
highest expressions of artistic and scientific
an internal thrust toward self-realization or genius.
self-actualization reminiscent of Aristotle's
concept of entelechy. In the modern world, it is also associated
with political freedom, with the liberation of
humankind from centuries of servitude to
one kind of tribe or another.
Courage
One of the ways we build self-esteem is by
being self-assertive when it is not easy to
do so. There are always times when self-
assertiveness calls on our courage.