Zany Rose A.

Sabado
BEED 1 - S3
VAL-ED

ASSIGNMENT

Directions: Search for Dorothy Nolte's poem entitled “Children Learn What They Live”
(1972). Make an explanation for every line.

Children Learn What They Live

By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
 If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about
them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

1) If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. How often do we hear
rhetoric on every talk show, every awards show, every newscast? When we
constantly spew the negative, we crowd any chance for not only the positive but
any balanced conversation. Are we then surprised when our young people judge
quickly? Behaviors follow that we condemn, such as body shaming or hazing.
Yet we seem surprised when children act that way.
2) If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. Witnessing social violence,
domestic violence or emotional anger will lead to inappropriate ability to deal with
conflict. Road rage and retaliatory violence, such as shootings and bullying, will
ensue. The pain of these types of interactions continues to seep through the
ranks, leading to more and more episodes of dysfunction.
3) If children live with encouragement they learn confidence. The future generation
needs to speak up to deter incivility in society. The days of passive bystanders
need to be pushed away so that cruelty, unkindness, and poor personal
comportment are called out and the demand for better human interactions is
shouted from the rooftops. Confidence is a critical element to finding ones voice
in society.
4) If children live with tolerance they learn to be patient. In a world where
information flows even faster than the mind can think, patience is a waning art.
The idea that people come from different points of view is a key to finding our
civil society once again. Understanding the views of all aids children in
developing an ever broadening lens on the world, allowing them to evolve and
actually listen others as well. If the world is to ever learn moderation, this practice
is crucial.
5) If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate. As a generation, millennials
are likely to have been praised frequently during their lives. Questions, however,
remain. Does that praise equate to seeing the accomplishments of others and
celebrating them as one's own? To learn to not take things for granted and to be
humble must go hand in hand. Humility seems to be sadly lacking in many
sectors of our society, particularly in our political arena.
6) If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. Unconditional acceptance is a
concept that's tantalizing but very rarely realized. To be consistently civil, there
must be love abounding – love for self, others and country. How often do children
hear lyrics to their favorite songs that are about misery, self-loathing or
condemnation of others? How often do they witness family strife about things
they cannot control? Certainly race relations in this country belie the limitations to
acceptance to date.
7) If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness. Every day in the news cycle,
there are more and more stories of subterfuge – if not outright untrue
accusations. Once an accusation is floated, the truth becomes secondary. Lives
and hearts are forever changed and strained.
8) If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
There has been a change in how safe our children feel – and that's true for their
caregivers, as well. School shootings and post-9/11 anxieties have changed
everything. To feel safe within those confines needs to be rooted in self-
assuredness and confidence in our ability to control those things we can.
9) If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to
live. Reaching out is the most natural activity for children. As adults, not so much.
Maybe it's secondary to the busy lives people lead. Maybe it's shyness. The
simple acts of kindness can pave the way for relationships which lead to all other
desired behaviors. Making sure children have models for friendliness as adults is
critical to forming the network of a successful society.
10)If children live with praise, they learn appreciation. Praising children for right
things and at right time can help them learn to appreciate the good deeds and
hard work of others. If they are praised for good behavior or their hard work they
will repeat the same behavior for earning your praise.
11)If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. Shower your unconditional
love on your child. Be there for him always. Celebrate his every little
achievement. Teach good values to him and accept him for however he is. Do
not compare him with other children. Let him grow in your love and care. The
above poem clearly advocates the proverb “As we sow, so shall we reap”. If we
sow goodness in our children, they will only churn-out goodness.
12)If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves. If a Child Lives with
Approval He Learns to Like Himself. Let your child follow his dreams. Do not
burden him with your expectations. Never force him to do something in life to
satisfy your own ego. Only then your child can live his life to the fullest and learn
to like himself.
13)If a children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal. If children
live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal. The deepest principle in
human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
14)If children live with sharing they learn generosity. Children learn a lot from just
watching what their parents do. When you model good sharing and turn-taking in
your family, it gives your children a great example to follow. Children also need
opportunities to learn about and practice sharing. If your child finds sharing
challenging, it’s a good idea to stay nearby when your child plays with other
children, and encourage your child so they don’t forget to share. When your child
does try to share, you can say exactly what your child did well and how proud
you are.
15)If your children live with honesty, they learn to be truthful. Every day in the news
cycle, there are more and more stories of subterfuge – if not outright untrue
accusations. Once an accusation is floated, the truth becomes secondary. Lives
and hearts are forever changed and strained.
16)If children live with fairness, they learn justice. Fairness does not mean everyone
gets the same. Fairness means everyone gets what they need.
17)If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect. Let your
home be a sanctuary of respect, love and kindness. If your home is currently
trouble, be the first to make the change toward making your home emotionally
and physically safer than the world outside your door.
18)If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those
about them. When you always standby your child, he will develop a sense of
security. In future when he has to take any important decision or if he is in
distress he will surely have faith in you. He will have faith that you have solutions
to all his problems.
19) If your children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which
to live. Shower your unconditional love on your child. Be there for him always.
Celebrate his every little achievement. Teach good values to him and accept him
for however he is. Do not compare him with other children. Let him grow in your
love and care. The above poem clearly advocates the proverb “As we sow, so
shall we reap”. If we sow goodness in our children, they will only churn-out
goodness.