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"To know another's language and not his culture is a very good
way to make a fluent fool of one's self."!
e-Reading Discussion
1. What does the above quote mean? How do you think it is related
to verbal communication?
2. What, if anything, have you observed about Americans and their
way of having conversations? Is it similar to the way people carry
on conversations in your language and culture? Explain.
3. In your native language, is it considered acceptable for people to
interrupt each other when talking? Or, do people wait for others to
finish what they are saying? What are your observations of
Americans regarding interruptions?
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Pre-Reading Vocabulary.
1. Definitions
a. heated conversation: conversation characterized by argument,
loudness, a rapid exchange of Words, and interruptions
b. hesitant conversation: conversation characterized by polite-
ness, indirectness, pauses, and a lack of interruptions
Discussion: In some cultures, heated conversations are considered
disrespectful, and more hesitant. polite styles of communication
are preferred. In other cultures, people think life is boring unless
they can get.involved in heated conversations! Can you, make any
generalizations about the preferred styles of communication in
your culture? .
2. Definitions
a. direct communication: a style of talking in which speakers do
not.avoid.issues: they "get to the point" .
b. indir-ect cnmmunicatiom a style of talking in which speakers
tend to avoid issues, hesitate, and "talkin circles"
Discussion: Can you make any generalizations about mainstream
"American-style" cmnmunicatiori? Does it seem. direct or indirect
compared to. yours?
3. Definition
a. conve~sation:structurl the Way people converse; the pattern of
their conversations
Discussion: It is said that the structure of a good American conver-
sation is like a Ping-Pong game. What do you think. this means?
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4. Definition
a. judgment: an opinion. thought, or critical conclusion
Discussion-;'Why dq people judge others. incorrectly? How do dif-
ferent culturalstyles of communication contribute to people's mis-
judgmen~s of each other?
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To find specific information inJhe reading, look for clues such as cer-
tain words an d numbers. Scan•
the readingv to find the answer to the
following: ~ :'.
.Reading Tf,3xt
.Conversational IhVol~me1)t
, [D] In her book You Just Don't Vl1del'stQll~1.the sociolinguistic researcher
Deborah. Tannen discusses the "notion that people from 'some eul-
tures value o~~higL.iIiv,olvement'J conversation patterns, while others
value ~OlthighcOD.~icIe:~a~~n~$Srt 'pattems.2* Many people from cultures
5' that prefer "high .1IlvohT£ment"- styles tend to: (lJ talk more: (2) inter-
rupt .more: (3) e>...pe,a:' to be interrupted; (4) talk more loudly at times;
and (5) talk .mo1t;i'qnickly 'than those from cultures favoring "high
considerateness'<styleaMany "high InvolYement'{spe"akers enjoy
10 arguments and might even think that othersare not interested if they
are-not ready to Cengage"in a heated discussion-
[El On the other hand, people from cultures that favor "high consid-
erateness" styles tend to: (1) speak one at a time; (2)* use polite lis-
tening sounds; (3) refrain from interrupting; and (4) give 'plenty of
positive and respectful responses to their conversation partners. Most
5 teachers of English as a, Second Language [ESL) in multicultural
"Teachers should explain that these terms are not commonly used. They are men-
tioned here because they accurately describe an important difference in communica-
tion styles across cultures.
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Cross-Cultural Imp~ications .
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Conversation Stnictate«
[01 Let's look at another example of how people'S commnnicatlonpat-
" terns differ: the way people converse ..Some foreigners have. observed
that when A~etic.cm-s hold a conversation, it seems like they are hav-
ing a Ping~Ponifgcin;J,e~,*
One personhastheballand then h~t§ it to the
5 other side. of the table. The other player hits the ball back and the
_game continues. If one pel'Son doesn't return the ball.jhen the con-
versatioa stops, Each part of the co:Q.vers;itlonfellows this pattern: the
.greetingand the opening, the discussion ofa tppic, and the closing
and farewell. If either person talks too much, the' other may become
10 ~impatiePt and feel that the other is monopolizing the conversation.
Similarly, if O~{1 person doesn't say enough or ask enough questions
, to keep the conversation moving; tae conversation stops.
[Pl .Many North Americans are impatient with culturally different
conversation styles simply because the styles are unfamiliar. For
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on purpose. The Japanese feels that the American is °pushy and over-
ly "inquisitive because of the difference in cultural conditioning.
ITJ to the American, the Japanese speaker appears passive and
uninterested in the conversation. The Iapanoss style takes too. long
for the average American. The Japanese person is not doing anything
"wrong" and is not less interested in conversation. Each person has
5 misjudged the other because neither is familiar with their culturally
different obnVersatlonal styles. (Conversely. to many people having
"high involvement" styles of communication, the American does not
seem pushy and inquisltfve. From their viewpoint, -the American
seems more passivel]
Ethnocentric Judgments
[U] The judgments that people make about each other are often "ethno-
centric. That is, they interpret, judge, and behave in a way that they
assume to be normal, correct, and, therefore, universal. However,
"normal" and "correct" often mean what is «normal" and "correct" in
5 one's own culture. When two people from different cultures commu-
nicate, they must continually ask themselves, "Do people understand
me the way someone from my 0\\111 culture would understand me?'>
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Comprehension Questions~
"The capHal letters in brackets refer to the corresponding paragraphs in the reading.
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10. The author'S say that cultural groups misjudge each other. How
does; thls happen? Ul
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16. What advice do the authors give regarding judging people more
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Discussion. Questions
Students sho1,ll9: l?IEfpa~ethese before clsssdiacirsslon.: .
'1. vVhat does' the example of the Italian and me American .given in
Paragraphs G;D.aJ1d E have. to do-with culture and its influence
on eommunieatlon?
2. Reread the list of characteristics of "high involvement" styles .in
Paragraph 11 Based on Sput experience, can you 'add anythlng to
this list?
3. Reread the list of characteristicsof "highconsiderateness'' styles
in Paragraph E. Based on yourexperience. can you add anything
to this list? '
4. IIi Paragraph G, the a'tlthQrs. S9.y that reactinns to cultural differ-
ences' in com~tc ;:ci~n,style are not usually reasonable. \iVhat
example ofareasoaable responsedo they ghT~J ~Whydon't people
usually .respond .in this way? .
5. In Paragraph, I, the authors state that the ideal form of communi-
cation in A±netic'ailcu:lttite includes being ditet!t rather thanindi-
reet. Can you think of an example of when an American was
direct or wanted-you to be direct? Describe the SitlJ.?TI on.
6. In Paragraph J~the authors say that honesty and directness in
communication are strongly related, Is this reflected in the
American conversation style? According to the authors, what is a
result of different cultural beliefs about directness and honesty' in
communication?
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VocabulalJ' Exercises
Vocabulary List
As you read the vocabulary list below, find two or three words you
already know. Give their definitions.
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habits opinion
very important chsnae
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shows disrupt
confusion forward
participate
1. The efforts that have been made toward world peace have been
significQl1t, IF}
.5-;. The· teacher triad to explain her lesson, but the noisy student
irderfered ~vithher presentation. [OJ
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B. Multiple Choice
Choose. the word that best defines the italicized word.
6, !vIy friend does not say much, $0 .peo,ple think she is passive. [Q]
a. bored c. alone
b. uninvolved d. single
7. If you ask many questions, people will think you are inquisi-
tive. IS]
a. old c. knowledgeable
b. a detective d. curious
8. Sam does his mathematics homework so he 'will get accurate-
answers. (VV}
H. correct c, Improved ""
b. good d. new
C. Matching
Match the words with their definitionsPlace the letter of the defini-
tion in the space next to the word.
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considerateness ness, and quickness
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communication d. a conversation style characterized by
--' indirect avoiding issues, hesitating, and "talking
communication hi.'fcirc1es"
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D. ''''ord Forms
Choose the correct form for each sentence.
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1. A person who beats around the bush when askinga favor: [11
a. asks directly.
b. asks indirectly.
c. doesn't ask at all.
2. Someone who says, Don't just blurt out your anSlver; think. firstl"
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Communication Functions
praise compliment evaluate
Gd1i¢tze request demand
inquire ci&rify correct
give. feedback reCeive feedback interrupt
offer refuse maintain conversation
disagree disapprove agree
express emotion~xtend invitations initiate conversations
end conversations
Conversation often begins with "small talk. " Small talk is important
because it often. helps- to maintain conversations [i.e., keep them
going), and it can lead to.interesting discussions: In an introductory
meeting, rnaintaining a conversation is easier Wheritwo people find
that they have something in common, In the following· dialogue, the
speakers use small talk (including questions) to discover what they
have in common. Notice the "Ping-Pong" structure of the conversa-
tion.
Sue: It's nice to meet you. My friend told me about you. Have you
lived in Seattle long?
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lvfa.tk\:. I went to most of tlism. I thought the one in 1980 was great.
Did you gp to that one? .
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At a f11ril: .iDo you go to see international films often?"
At a Jl.tdv~rsity lecture; "What did you think of Professor
Adelman's talk?"
Debb~fl;' T 9~.tQ.~Y'~
R1Ck.· Oh . wl\~-c.rrEryou studying;r
l)r;bl}i§:AryhiteCfure.
RiCK: ~ow:iQn~do.YQn plan to :stay 11.~teJ
Debbie: TWo y~ats~
Rick: Whetl did you come?
Debble; Three w~Bksa~o.
(Rick is already f~elb:(gfrustrated. He al;cides itis 110t worth gettii1g to
know Debbie.) .
Rick:
vVhy did you come to California?
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Debbie: To study. _
Rick:
What are you studying?
Debbie: Architecture.
Rick:
How long do you plan to stay here?
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When did you come?
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(fudi and Char have just met and have ex,changed names.)
Char; Where' do you work?
Iudi: I work at the university in San Diego, I'm a computer opera-
tor,
Ghar: How's the weather in San DiegQ? I'm from Sari Francisco,
Judi: It's warm most of the time. For the past two winters, we've'
had a lot of rain.
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1). WolmaIity(FQrIll)ty
III 'F;nglisb, as in oth¢t lrmgtiaMs, the typt:1$ofvQqabulal;y, structure,
and to~e used in cQllv.ers8.:tfou :varywiththesifttatfoll, In.eilcn of -tile
fQllowi~g examples, compare the ways that a request J,nay be: made,
and lbbk; nt ~he ~op(,lbt11a,ry 1Hm~nl1d the length of the sentence;
I'ni sotry to trCiuble. yout hilt could you please tell me where the
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VVhe.re(s:the, Hhi'iiliy? {ll1fbtirltifJ '
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2. You need some money and are considering asking either some r81-
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E. Multiple-Choice Qtl~~~ioi1naire'
The following questlons areintended to stimulate eross-eultural dis-
cussionand to help you become familial' with American customs and
responses In- the area of verbal communication, First, write an answer
that describes a likely response in your country. On the multiple-
choice questions, try to gUEiSS what an American would do. More
than ant; aIJ~wer tnay be correct.
unite d States:
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In the -,. f
a. Say, "all this cheap thing? It's not worth much."
h. Give it tel' him.
c. ~ay,
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9.. Ifsomeone offers you food that you really don't like, you might
say:
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jn your country:
In the Unite.d States:
a. "Turn the music dnwn.li-
b. t~Wuuld- y01J-ll1hid tU,IDin..g th$ lrtu§ic- down'? Till studying."
D.. "You Ml?,Very ij1:QB."l
~' "If youdon't: turn your stereo down, I'll turn mine up .'
12. -When introdueed to a mall ybur· .age or YQtlnger, what would you
si;lY? .
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"'""~\~t:L,- (Lv' discuss cross-cultural similarities and differences.
Cultural Nates
2. \t\lhen, two people ate introduced by a third person, the first and
last namesare usually given. Pot example:
Informal
Excuse me, I didn't catch your name, .
I'm sorry, what is your name again?
Could you spell your first name? That will help me pronounce
it better.
FOI'1iwl
. May I'please have your aI]i8. again'!'
Infottno!
Can you give me directions to the city library, please?
Wl1etejs the cafeteria, please?
Do you have any information on universities in northern
California?
Fosmcl
Excuse me, may I ask you a question?
Pardon me, may I interrupt you for a moment to ask you a
question?
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Informal
Cat] 1borrow ytmrpen?
WbtlJd yotl.lel1d ni!7Y9W libt{1fy card?
Do you have an.extr~ notebook that '1could use?
Do you mind HI return your book next week?,
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Maylpl(i:Q$eha,ve 'a fewextra gays t'dcornpletemy term paper?
1110uld you.mfnd givingme that fnformation?
Vel}' FdtTI)a.l
, Wo,ulg y<nr be ki:h;d f,mpu,g.lJlo"di~e.ct:~e to the university"
libraryr " ", ,
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wti~pyoW'r~tinmyb,ouilfrY?' - -" ., ' " "
11topJd.YQlJ~¢Oh$jd~taJ19wiIig:llte: tw(') W§(1J<sof vacation instead
of one,?' , .,.,' - .-'
WOUld it be ara1J"Z;ios$i91~tobQtryW your P'¥f
',JO~ Jhere are-many ways of e~dirrg conversations and leaving some-
, one before the-final good-bye, Hereare a few examples:
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Informal
Have a nice day.
Enjoy your weekend.
See ya around ..
So long.
Bye,.Bye.
Bye.
ForIl1al
Good-bye.
It was nice meeting you.
Have c,inic-e everring (day. week, etc.),
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Supplementary Vocabulary .. and Phrases
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