HOW TO TALK TO A GIRL YOU

LIKE FOR THE FIRST TIME

It can be nerve-wracking to talk to a

girl you like for the first time.
However, when you work up the
courage to speak to her, there's a
chance she could like you back! Start
by looking at her body language to
figure out when to approach her. Then,
use a question or statement to break
the ice and spark a conversation.
 CHAPTER ONE
BREAKING THE ICE
1. JUST SAY SOMETHING TO GET
THE CONVERSATION GOING.

The longer you wait to say something,

the more likely you won't do it. You
don't necessarily have to say anything
brilliant! You just need to get the
conversation going. Even a simple
"Hi!" can do it.
 You could also try saying
something playful, like "I need
help! I just can't make up mind. It's
killing me. Should I get the
chocolate chip cookie or the
brownie?"
 2, MAKE A COMMENT ABOUT
SOMETHING YOU HAVE IN
COMMON TO SPARK HER
INTEREST

Believe it or not, you have something

in common with everyone you meet!
You just have to look around you and
figure out what it is. Find something
you can use to start a conversation. It
doesn't have to be anything big.
 If you're at a coffee shop, you
might say, "There's nothing like a
warm cup of coffee on a cold day,
is there?"
 3. REQUEST SOMETHING FROM
HER TO ENCOURAGE HER TO
LIKE YOU

No, don't go up and ask her for $100.

Rather, ask her for a small favor. It
seems weird, but when you ask
someone for a favor, they want to give
it to you. In fact, it tends to make them
like you more.
 Keep it simple, like "Could you
pass the salt?" or "Would you mind
handing me that creamer?"
4. CALM YOURSELF DOWN WITH
DEEP BREATHS IF YOU'RE
FEELING A LITTLE ANXIOUS

It's natural to get butterflies before

you go and talk to someone you like!
If you're nervous, try taking deep
breaths. Close your eyes and breathe
in through your nose to the count of 4.
Hold it for 4 counts, then breathe out
to the count of 4. Make sure you're
taking deep breaths from your
abdomen area. Do this breathing
exercise a few times to help calm your
nerves.
 You can also take a few minutes to
bolster yourself. Tell yourself
you can do this! Also, put in
perspective. What's the worst that
could happen? If she doesn't want
to talk to you, it will hurt, but it
won't be the end of the world.
 5. CONTINUE THE
CONVERSATION BY RESPONDING
TO HER STATEMENTS.

You'll need to go back and forth when

talking to the girl you like! If she says
something in response to your
statement or question asking for a
favor, talk back to her. Try to keep the
topics happy and cheerful, as this is
your first meeting.
 For instance, she might say, "Yes,
coffee is the best! It warms me up
from the inside!" You could say, "I
know! What's your favorite type of
coffee drink?"
 6. STAY CONFIDENT TO SHOW
YOU'RE INTERESTED.

When you're having a conversation

with a girl for the first time, you may
start to second-guess yourself or read
things she's saying in a negative way.
If you can, try to combat these
thoughts. Keep smiling and asking
questions. Stand up tall and speak in a
clear voice.
 Most people find confidence
attractive. Even if you're not
feeling confident, faking
confidence is often enough. Plus,
faking it with body language will
make you feel more confident!
 CHAPTER TWO
PREPARING TO MAKE A MOVE
1. Smile at her and see if she
returns it

A smile is a good indication she may

want to talk to you. Flashing her a smile
indicates you're happy to see her. If
she gives you one back, you may want
to approach her.
 Look at her eyes to see if her smile
seems real. If a smile is genuine, it
will reach all the way to her eyes,
and you'll be able to tell. If she's
just being polite and smiling at
you, the smile will look a little fake
instead.

 Check to see if the smile lifts her

cheeks and crinkles her eyes,
which is a sign it's genuine.
 2. SEE IF SHE HOLDS YOUR GAZE
FOR A MOMENT.

Don't try to stare her down! However,

if you catch her gaze, hold it for a few
seconds while you smile at her. If she
holds it, too, she may be showing signs
of interest in you.
 3. WATCH FOR OTHER SIGNS OF
POSITIVE BODY LANGUAGE.

Positive body language indicates she

may be open to talking to you. You
may notice she points her body your
direction or that she uncrosses her
arms or legs. She might play with her
hair or fidget with her clothing.
 Alternatively, if you see negative
body language, you may want to
wait to approach her. Signs of
negative body language include
her crossing her limbs, turning
away from you, frowning, holding
her body stiffly, or looking off to
the side.

4. WAIT FOR ANOTHER

OPPORTUNITY IF SHE LOOKS
LIKE SHE'S HAVING A BAD DAY
If she's upset or looking sad, wait for
another day. You're trying to approach
her because you like her, but she's
probably not in the frame of mine to
reciprocate when she's in a bad mood.
 Similarly, if she looks like she's
hard at work on something, it's not
the best time to approach.
 CHAPTER THREE
MOVING FORWARD WITH THE
CONVERSATION
1. LISTEN TO WHAT SHE HAS TO
SAY. ANY CONVERSATION IS
ABOUT GIVE AND TAKE.

Make sure to focus on what the person

is actually saying so that you can
respond to her. If you're not listening
to her, the conversation will end
quickly!
 No one likes to hear someone go
on and on about themselves for 30
minutes. Encourage her to talk
about herself instead!

2. USE OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS

TO CONTINUE THE
CONVERSATION
An open-ended question is just one
that makes her give an answer besides
"yes" or "no." It lets her talk about
herself, which she'll likely be happy to
do as long as she's not too shy.
 For example, instead of asking,
"Do you like rock music?" you
could ask, "What's your favorite
kind of music?"

 If she gives a short answer, ask a

follow-up question, like "Who's
your favorite pop singer?"
3. TALK ABOUT YOURSELF SOME.
IF SHE ASKS YOU QUESTIONS,
ANSWER THEM HONESTLY.

While you don't want to drone on about

yourself, the conversation should go
back and forth. If you're not willing to
talk about yourself at all, she may
wonder what's wrong with you.
4. END THE CONVERSATION ON A
POSITIVE NOTE.

If things are going well, try to set up

something for another time. For
instance, you could ask for her number
so you could text or call, or you could
ask for her social media handles so
you can contact her that way.
 You could also open up the
possibility for hanging out some
other time. For instance, you
might say, "Hey, you feel like
getting coffee sometime?"

5. LEAVE HER ALONE IF SHE

DOESN'T WANT TO TALK
While it can make you sad or
depressed if a girl doesn't want to talk
to you, you still have to respect what
she wants. If she doesn't want to have a
conversation or doesn't want to go out
with you, say "Thanks anyway!" and
walk away.
 It can be painful, but don't take it
personally. You don't know what's
going on in her head right now.
She might just be too worried
about her grade right now to think
about going out with anyone.
 EXPERT TIP
Don't go into the conversation like a
bull in a china shop. If you come on too
strong the first time you talk, it might
be too much for her. Instead, go in soft
and without an agenda. Give her
enough space and distance so that she
doesn't feel like her body space is
invaded or that she can't easily exit the
situation.
Type of opener How to use it

A recent event It’s a beautiful day; I love this weather. I was

outside playing catch with my family’s dog
in the park by my house yesterday. Do you
like dogs?

I can’t believe they shut down the overpass

at Main St.; it took me an hour just to get
home yesterday. Do you know of any
shortcuts?

That storm last night was awful. My house

lost power; I was lying in bed and felt like a
vampire or something. You know—in a small
space, cold, in the dark. I’m surprised a bat
didn’t fly in through my window.

Comment Did you see that man fall on the sidewalk a

about minute ago? There’s a big ice patch over
something in there; 4 people have fallen so far. I almost
the immediate fell on my way over this morning.
vicinity

I didn’t know anyone still played Pokemon

Go! At least, I assume that’s why those guys
are wandering through a field. Think they’ll
find whatever they’re looking for?
Self- I really bombed that history quiz last period.
deprecation I don’t understand why Ms. Smith makes the
questions so tough. How do you think you
did?

I can’t ice skate to save my life. I’d fall

through the ice if I could, or knock out all the
other skaters like dominoes. You seem pretty
good at it though; what’s your secret?

I think I may have fallen asleep in class last

period … my friends said they heard some
snoring. It was a boring lecture though!
Maybe sleeping through it isn’t such a bad
idea; what do you think?

I’m such a klutz; I fell on my bike yesterday

and ended up needing some stitches at my
doctor’s office. Four of them on my knee.
You seem pretty coordinated though; have
you ever had stitches?
Pickup lines “Do you have a map? Because I’m getting
lost in your eyes.”

“I seem to have lost my phone number. Can

I have yours?”

“Are you a sailor? Because you’re tying my

heart in knots.”

“I hope you know CPR, because you’re

taking my breath away.”
Knock-knock “What did the girl mushroom say to the boy
jokes and mushroom? You’re a real fungi.”
puns

“Wanna know how Moses makes his tea?

Hebrews it.”

“How do you get a pig to a hospital? In a

hambulance.”

“I was wondering why the frisbee was

getting bigger, and then it hit me.”

“Did you hear about the guy who lost his

whole left side in a car accident? Yeah, he’s
all right now.”
Bring up something you have in
common.

“Could you believe how hard that test

was? I don’t think my brain will ever
recover.”

“Rachel, I heard you’re going skiing

this weekend? I’ve been wanting to go
forever. What mountain are you going
to?”

“You have to listen to this song I just

found last night. It’s going to blow your
mind.”

“Have you watched that show yet?

Well, don’t start today. Wait till the
weekend because you’re going to
binge the whole thing straight, I know
it.”
Start with an event that’s coming up,
or just happened.

“You saw the game last night, right?

I’m still trying to get over it.”

“They finally opened up that new ice

skating rink, did you see? Now I can
finally show you my skills.”

Talk about something around you.

“The cafeteria is so empty today. Did

everyone decide to go on vacation or
something?”

“Who brought in cookies today, do

you know? They’re so good.”
“The only reason it should ever be this
hot is if I’m at the beach, but I’m not at
the beach, so it’s not OK. Are you
dying as much as I am?”

Give her a teasing compliment or

challenge.

“I saw your Insta photo from surfing in

Hawaii, you probably think you’re like
a professional now, huh…”

“I know you won that flashcard review

game in statistics but I’m coming for
you on the practice test. You don’t
stand a chance of getting the high
score this time.”

“Good job planning that assembly, I

think it was the only one all year that I
didn’t fall asleep at.”
 COMMUNITY Q&A
Question
If we stare each other for a second and
she looks away after awhile and rolls
her eyes back does she not like me?
Answer
It's hard to tell just from a look. It could
mean she doesn't like you, or she
could be acting like that because she
likes you. Try talking to her and see
what kind of impression you get!

Question
I like a girl she look at me when I study
and I look at her then I move my eyes
on other side,when look again she is
looking at me.
Answer
If you notice her looking at you a lot,
she might like you too! The only way to
know for sure is to talk to her.

Question
Talking to her but she frown her face.
Answer
That might be a sign she's not
interested, but she might just not know
you well enough. Try making
conversation if she's open to it, but
otherwise, give her a little space.

Question
What I do if the girl don't likes me.?
Answer
It's really hard when someone you like
doesn't like you back, but it's best to
give her space if that's the case. Spend
time with your other friends, and give
yourself a little time to feel sad, then
try your best to move on!

Question
How do I compliment if they're ugly?
Answer
If you like her, there's obviously
something that you're attracted to.
Compliment her on whatever you like
- that way, it will be sincere and
thoughtful. If you can't find anything to
compliment her on, you might
reconsider whether you really like her
as much as you thought.

Question
What if she is your friend already and
you propose and she doesn't give you
an answer
Answer
Let her think about what you said. If
she never mentions it again, she might
not be interested, but it's okay to ask
her what she thought the next time you
get a chance. Remember to be
respectful if she says no.

Question
If she is avoiding talking to you, what
do you do?
Answer
Well, if she's going out of her way to
avoid you, she might not be interested.
If that's the case, you may want to give
her a little space and try to find
someone else to like!
Question
What are the words to use to talk to a
girl for the first time
Answer
There aren't any magic words - the
important thing is that you talk to her at
all, and be yourself! However, there
are some suggestions in the article for
how to strike up a conversation.

Question
She's not a school mate but a fellow
church member
Answer
Try talking to her about the sermon for
that week, or about any outreach
programs she's involved in.

Question
How to draw the girls attention
Answer
Try making eye contact with her and
smiling when you walk past her. That
will show her that you noticed her.

TIPS
 If you really like that girl, try
being friends with her first.

 If you're anxious at first, talk to her

around other people until you feel
comfortable talking to her by
yourself. Be confident!

WARNINGS
Remember that each girl is different;
no set of questions will work on every
girl! Just be yourself and hope she
likes you in return.
 SUMMARY
To talk to a girl, you like for the first
time, start by smiling, making eye
contact, and approaching her when
she doesn't seem busy or distracted.

Next, open with a casual, witty

comment or bring up something you
have in common, like a class, to get the
conversation started. Then, keep the
conversation going by responding to
her comments and asking open-ended
questions.

Finally, smile and end the

conversation on a positive note.

GOODLUCK!
QUEEN PRESHIII
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