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 One of the odder ____________ of relationships is the immediate certainty
that whenever things go wrong in our lives. It is first and foremost and quite
obviously, our partner's fault.
 We get furious with our partners because we assign them such a deep role in
our lives. We have faith that a person who understands obscure parts of us,
whose __________ solves so many of our problems couldn't realistically
also be someone who wouldn't be able to fix our whole lives
 We ____________ our partners' powers - an exaggeration that's an echo
heard in adult life down the decades of a child's or their parents'. The partner
inherits a little of that beautiful romantic dangerous unfair trust that we as
children once had in our parents.
 At one level the lover has learnt how to reassure the anxious child in us,
that's why we love them. But that source of strength also brings with it some
very serious problems for the ____________ part of us insists on trusting
them a little too much believing that they actually control far more of
existence than they possibly could.
 It's also to do with a permission that the partner's love gives us to moan in a
way we cannot otherwise. The world is constantly mean to us. It rejects our
creative endeavors. It ____________ us in promotions, it rewards idiots.
 But usually we can't complain. We can't get angry with the people who are
really to blame for hurting us. So we get angry with those whom we can be
sure will tolerate us for blaming them.
 We get angry with the very nicest, most sympathetic, most loyal people in
our vicinity. The ones least likely to have _________ us but most likely
to stick around while we blame them furiously for having done so.
 The mean words and mad ___________ we mutter to our lovers
undoubtedly often sound horrible, but let's at least remember that they are a
curious proof of intimacy, a symptom of love itself.
 And in their own way, oddly romantic, a detail indirectly acknowledged by
their frequently sexual conclusions. We can tell any stranger something
reasonable and polite, but only in the presence of someone we really trust
can we dare to be properly ____________ and truly unkind.
 If we think of love as being in perfect agreement all the time, we will feel
that getting into fights must mean that a relationship is __________ down or
starting to fall apart. But crazy blame games are at heart just a symptom of
an intensity of investment in another person.
 We aren't simply nice with our partners because we're so close to them. They
draw us into very private ________ of turbulence and distress from which
 absolutely everyone else is excluded. That's one of the stranger, more
unfortunate and yet from a calm angle almost flattering gifts of love.
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