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The Art of Male Masturbation (From a sex therapist)

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Three techniques for Teenager's to Octogenarians. Plus a little about

menopausal women and their men.

OVERVIEW: --------- Any male reading the above title would initially think, "what a
stupid subject, it doesn't take a
manual to know how to masturbate." They would be correct in that assumption of
course. But it takes time and
experience to receive the full joys of self manipulation.

As an example, The average boy when first discovering this new-found past time,
will jerk-off many times each day.
Just the feeling of release is enough to satisfy his needs. This state goes on for
many years. But as the boy grows
into a man and begins to have sexual relations with other human beings, the
tendency is to search for technique and
quality of experience rather than just 'getting off'.

The following are three of the most popular ways that men masturbate. Read these
techniques carefully, they can
be used in combinations that will give much plea- sure for years
to come.

------------ PREPARATION: ------------

It is suggested as a preparation for masturbation, that the participant obtain

external stimuli (ES). The most
popular form of (ES) is written pornography. The advan- tage to (ES) material is
that when reading about sexual
situations your masturbitory experience is heightened ten-fold. There are many
good authors erotic stories. They
can be readily obtained on the internet, or at any adult orientated store. (you
must be at least 18 years old to
legally obtain these materials)

Before going into manual techniques, let me say a cou- ple of things about
preparation. Take your time. To receive
full enjoyment from your experience find a time and place where you can
masturbate without fear of interruption.
Also have the materials easily at hand for clean-up afterwards. This may sound
obvious to everyone, but I mention
it, only because you need to remove any outside worry's. To fully enjoy your
coming orgasm, it is best to turn your
thoughts inward, with as little external stimuli as
possible.

Lay completely unclothed on your bed. Begin to read an erotic story. Do not touch
yourself until you feel the first
drop of pre-cum drip onto your skin. (This is important as preparation to
technique One especially) At that time you
are full prepared to begin your manual manipulation.

------------------- TECHNIQUES: -------------------

ONE: (Slip N' Slide) (SNS) Once your pre-cum has begun to flow, (Without manual
manipulation) The male should
begin to slowly spread his semen over his erect penis with thumb and fingers.
Taking the penis loosely be- tween
his fingers and thumb as if writing a letter. Let the head of the penis gently
rub against your the valley between
thumb and fore-finger. The combination between the slickness of the distributed
pre-come, and the erotic story you
are reading will give the closest experience to sex with a woman as
possible.

Again, in this technique it is important not to hurry. If the male performs the
(SNS) technique correctly, the orgasm
should 'sneak' up on him. There should be the thought in the back of the man's
mind that is something like, "Wow,
I'm going to come any second, and I could- n't stop from doing so, no matter how
hard I tried." The male should
slow his manipulation down at this time, and let the sensation build slowly. He
should have a very slick erection
fingers rubbing his shaft effortlessly.

NOTE: To increase the intensity of a (SNS) orgasm, just when the male begins to
ejaculate, he should raise his legs
from the waist, while continuing to lay flat on his back. Legs should be either
just a few inches off the bed, or
pointing toward the ceiling. (Each male will find his preferred position) The
added strain of the stomach muscles will
greatly intensify the orgasmic spasms.

TWO: (Stand N' JerK) When a man stands while mastur- bating his cardiovascular
system is at a heightened level.
This will change the overall intense feeling of his experience. Reading erotica or
visual stimuli is still recommended
for this style. The best place to perform Stand N' Jerk (SNJ) is in the
participants bathroom. The advantages are
obvious, privacy, mirrors, and easy clean up.

The average male should begin the (SNJ) technique by viewing pictures or reading
erotic stories. (Of course it's not
necessary, but it will heighten the orgasm) The same suggestions apply as to
position and style of 'hand
manipulation' as described in technique ONE. As the male reaches his orgasmic
state, (if he performed his
masturbation as out lined) will feel a tightness in his legs, most markedly in
the thighs. Just as the participant's
orgasm is almost upon him, he should stop manual manipulation, but continue to
hold his erect penis. (The right
moment for this is just as he feels the spasms being forced from the
prostate gland.)

If the participant did every step correctly, he should, at the final moment
before ejaculation, see clear sea- man
spurt out. The feeling at this moment should be extremely pleasurable. This is
called 'Pre-Orgasm'. After several
spurts of clear semen, the full orgasm should begin. At this point the 'milky'
semen will begin to spurt, bringing on
another even more powerful set of orgasmic spasms. The (SNJ) technique, if per-
formed correctly, will give the
participant a 'double' orgasm, lasting twice as long as normal
manipulation would allow.
 THREE: (Chinese Position) Called "Chinese" only because in the 19th century when
this position first became
popular in opium dens in England, the participant's would say, "Giving a little
life to China." This may sound rather
obscure, but let me explain. The Chinese Position is basically where the man
lays on his sto- mach while
masturbating. This position takes a little imagination on the man's part, because
he must find the props to allow him
to lay face down and still be able to 'jerk-off'. In the nineteenth century men
who visited the opium dens had a
choice, they could have a privet pallet to enjoy a little solo action, and when
they came their sperm would shoot
toward 'China - the other side of the world' hence the name 'Chinese Po- sition".
They also had the option of having
a Chinese woman under their specially constructed pallet, who would give them oral
stimulation. (Another and more
meaningful reason to call it the "Chinese Position")

The best way to situate ones self in this position has been to use a couple of
chairs, or if twin beds are available
(such as in a motel room) to move them close enough together to allow the man to
lay over the 'crack'. The hand
should act as a vagina (held steady while the male performs humping
motions)

The advantage to this position is that the male can 'hump' and more closely
imitate actual sex with a woman. Also,
(after placing a towel on the floor) he can reach orgasm and release without
having to worry about aim or clean up.
This position gives the male a since of freedom of release, very similar to that
of the orgasmic release he gets with
a woman.

There are another 234 known techniques and positions for male masturbation, but
the ones outlined here are by far
the most popular among men worldwide. It is a normal progression for men as they
grow older to take longer to
reach orgasm. The reason for this is both physiological and psychological. On the
one hand as the body matures
semen production slackens, also the male organ, although just as sensitive at in
the teenage years, responds
differently to external stimuli. And psychologically, a desensitizing effect
takes place with experience. Anything,
even sex can become routine.

The average American couple at age 25 will have sex 300 times a year. At 45
this same couple will only be
experiencing sexual relations 75 times a year. During the initial menopausal
years for the wife (50-55) the sexual
contact can drop to as low as 12 times a year. During this time masturbation
becomes important to males in this
category. The typical male even at 60, needs regular sexual release. It is one of
the best cardiovascular exercise
available. (recent tests show that males who have at least two orgasms a week
live 30% longer that males who
don't)

A ray of hope for those men experiencing the menopausal stage. It usually only
lasts during transitional stages.
The post menopausal woman can have a more forceful and inventive sex drive than
she did in her 20's. Be patient,
and keep in mind that, 'all good things come to those willing
to wait'.

---------------- FEMALE MENOPAUSE ----------------

"Good Sex". Anything worth doing takes effort. The same thing applies to a good
sex life. Don't treat your partner
as if she's a vestal virgin. Share your feelings, wants, and needs with her. If
you are reading sexy stories to
masturbate to, bring your woman into it with you. You just might be surprised at
her posi- tive reaction. (You will
know how fast to do this, some women will not respond, but most will surprise
you.) A suggestion. If your sex life is
non-existent, try wear- ing nothing to bed. And when you wake up with that
erection in the morning, bring your
partners hand to it. Get her used to touching it, try to make it a morning
tradition. If she loves you, she'll start
doing it more and more, you just have to get her used to the idea. This is a good
way to get her thinking about sex
during the day. Another suggestion, whenever the mood strikes (and you have an
erection) and when it seems right,
expose it. Let her see you erect. A good time is at night, when you are going to
bed. She's brushed her teeth and is
laying in bed while you're in the bathroom. Get hard, then walk to your side of
the bed sporting your lust for her to
see. At the very least you'll get a comment, and at the very best you'll get sex.
Remember, you are the one that
(during this period in her life) who must be the
instigator.

One last note: Give her an orgasm. That will do the most to get her 'back in the
saddle' again. Let her be on top, so
she can control her own manipulations.

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