MY CHARACTERISTICS OF ASSERTIVENESS IN COMMUNICATING

Communication is the process of transferring a message from one person to another. In a case
scenario, people has their own ways in conveying and to potentially express their messages which would
describe the way how they are assertive or passive. In this way, when someone communicates with
another person this leads to consciously knowing by his or her behaviour. On the other hand, in my
most times of communicating, it has been my rule to be attentive in all times when someone I am
communicating with. The reason I make this rule maintain it is because I don’t want to miss things out.
Most often times, my personality is detailed-oriented and it is hard for me to misunderstand or
misinterpret when someone’s conveying his or her messages during the conversation. Among the
characteristics of assertiveness in communicating, two of these characteristics that most of the time I
apply with such as emphasizing through eye contact and gestures.

I reminisced the moment when I am having a conversation with my close friend. We were both
classmates during tenth grade back then and we used to walk heading out from school grounds after a
very long day of class. While we were walking, we have seen a healthy mango tree and we both
astonishingly appreciate the mango fruits. In this scenario, we both pause along the street side as my
friend raising up a question, “Mary, look at that mango tree have you observe? Our school’s mango tree,
part of its branch including the mango fruits has been overlapping beyond the school’s property line?” I
truly agree with my friend’s observation but the second question is somehow making me more
interested and attentive. My friend raise the second question, “Now Mary, my concern here is, if those
overlapped mango fruits beyond the property line and fall to other’s property who can be benefited?
Our school or the owner of the other property?” Now the conversation is getting serious which I crossed
my arms while my eyes on her. At this point, I show up this kind of character of mine letting my friend
know how interested I am. I explain to her, “If the mangoes are attached on its branch then the fruits
will be benefited by our school but when the fruits have fall to other’s property then the owner of the
same property will get benefited. This issue applies when two owners live on an adjacent land.” While
explaining everything with my friend, I keep an eye to eye contact with her so that she will be attentive
and she would keep in touch. She attentively listen as how I attentively explain to her. In this kind of
maintaining the character of communicating with other side is not just expressing attentiveness but also
honouring respect.